September 2009

A reader writes:

Last week, I did a complete overhaul of my resume, specifically to cut it down from 2 pages to 1, because I keep hearing (from friends who work in HR, as well as in articles on the subject) that now more than ever, employers want a really clear, concise snapshot of each candidate with as little “fluff” as possible.

I decided to use a functional/chronological combo in order to highlight very specific areas of expertise, but to still lend a sense of when and where these skills were obtained.

I sent it to my father in law who has worked in HR for nearly 40 years for some feedback, and he in turn sent it to nine of his friends and colleagues (also in HR). The feedback has started coming in and it’s SO MADDENING! Not because I don’t appreciate their constructive criticism, but because so much of it is conflicting.

One person will say “great idea to cut it down to one page” while another says “don’t be afraid to use two.”

One will say “I love that she started off with a clear, concise profile highlighting her experience,” while another says “skip it.”

One will say “I love functional resumes because they really give me a sense of what the candidate’s greatest strengths and best developed skills are” while another says “I hate functional resumes because I feel like the candidate is trying to camouflage gaps in their employment.” (Which, by the way, is not at all the case here, since my resume does include a chronological component outlining my employment history.)

One will say “use a sans serif font,” while another says “garamond is a great font choice.”

It’s been maddening to read this feedback, because it often feels very “damned if you do, damned if you don’t,” and also highlights how much we as applicants are at the mercy of the readers’ whims. Clearly, much of writing a “great” resume – one that will capture the attention of the very first person looking at it and pique their interest in meeting with you – is subjective.

What advice do you have for navigating the various personal preferences and pet peeves of HR professionals and hiring managers? There doesn’t seem to be any hard and fast “rules” when it comes writing a great resume that is going to get you a call back, but what – if anything – would you characterize as best practices or safest bets?

You are living out exactly what I tell friends about their resumes: You can give your resume to 10 different people who know what they’re doing, and you’ll get 10 different sets of advice.

There are no hard and fast universal rules aside from the obvious (no typos, no illegible fonts, no 10-page monstrosities, no inappropriate sharing).

What there are instead are preferences. Often deeply held preferences.

But the reality is that when it comes to actually reviewing a candidate’s resume, a reasonable hiring manager isn’t going to reject a candidate because she used a san serif font even though the manager personally thinks a serif font is the smarter bet and recommends serif fonts to her job-hunting friends. For instance, I hate resume objectives — hate them, preach against them, want to rid the world of them — but am I going to reject a candidate simply for having one? Of course not. Because everyone knows that there’s a huge variety of accepted practices in how you do your resume.

So what does this mean for you, as a candidate seeking advice on her resume? First, don’t take any of it as absolute dogma (unless there’s something that the 10 people are all in agreement on). Second, ask your resume reviewers why they’re giving a particular piece of advice. It’s much more helpful to hear their thought process than to just get random, conflicting rules thrown at you. From there, make your own decisions. None of it is gospel, and any hiring manager who rejects a resume for not conforming precisely to her preferences is someone you don’t want to work for anyway. (It’s also not a mindset you’re likely to see much, or no one would ever get hired.)

That said, there are trends, conventions that are starting to gain majority support (although fewer of them than you’d think). For instance, in my experience, more hiring managers than not do think functional resumes are frustrating and possibly hiding something. And two pages has grown a lot more acceptable than it used to be, to the point that it’s really not an issue unless you’re dealing with someone very old-school.

But again, even these trends aren’t hard and fast rules.

The best you can do is get a feel for the types of things people care about and why and make choices that feel reasonable to you. Good luck!

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A reader writes:

I just made the worst mistake ever and I feel so sick about it. I found a job that I really want. I spent two days drafting my cover letter and adjusting my resume for this position. The directions on the job posting were the send your resume directly to the president (its a small non-profit) so I wrote a short little email attached my letter and resume and then hit send.

Once I hit that send button, I saw a typo. I guess in my excitement to get my resume sent, I re-read the email too fast. So unlike me. When I saw the typo it seriously took my breath away. I frantically looked for a cancel button, but there isn’t one. So I fixed the typo and re-sent the email a minute later. If someone sent you an email with a typo, and then re-sent it with the typos fixed, what would you do?

I know I just wrote about how little things matter in job searching, but honestly, do not feel sick over this!

Everyone makes a typo now and then. Your letter wasn’t littered with them; it was one typo — and then you corrected it. Now, some may say that the correction is overkill, but I would actually be a little bit charmed by your instant correction: Hiring managers are human, and we’ve all had that sickening feeling of realizing one second too late that we made a mistake on something. You spotted it, and you corrected it. Good — that’s what we want employees to do. (Personally, I don’t mind a little proofreading neurosis. Okay, I love it.)

And what you did is also exactly what I recommended in the post on why little things matter: acknowledging the error, showing that you care, and indicating that it’s out of character for you.

You’re fine.

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A reader writes:

I’m 35 years old and have been self-employed for the past five years as a sole proprietor. My business entails providing career and educational counseling to students and immigrants. I have a true “brick and mortar,” not a virtual office. Though I have enjoyed the challenges that come with running a business, I’m ready to close up shop and work for a traditional employer.

This job market is particularly tough and I am wondering whether there is a bias against hiring those formerly self-employed. My colleagues have stated that the self-employed are deemed to be too independent to work with co-workers and the perception is that those who now want to work for someone else do so because they have failed in running a business. What is your take on this and what’s the best way to sell myself as a team-player in an interview?

I think this is one of those areas where different hiring managers have different opinions. Personally, I see self-employment as often being a plus: People who have run their own business tend to have strong work ethics, get what it takes to make an operation run well, often empathize with those aspects of management that can irritate other employees because they know all too well the reasons behind them, and so forth. So I like it.

If I’m interviewing someone who’s been self-employed, I want to know things like: Why are they moving out of self-employment? Have they thought about how they’ll adjust to having a boss again, and how do they feel about that? What did they learn from running their own business?

There are good answers and bad answers to these questions, of course, but assuming their answers don’t raise red flags, I lean toward seeing self-employment as impressive.

But as with anything, some others feel differently. But your colleagues claiming that you’ll be branded with a scarlet E (for entepreneur, get it?) that all or even most hiring managers will run from are wrong.

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I’ve been thinking lately about the nature of candidate mistakes in the hiring process. The fact is, everyone makes mistakes. A single mistake generally says very little about you. It’s patterns of mistakes that matter. But when you’re on a job search, a small blunder can take on far greater importance than it would in most contexts. This is hard on job seekers, who can’t possibly attain a superhuman level of perfection. It can seem unfair to be judged so harshly for mistakes everyone makes–typos, stupid comments, the occasional late arrival.

Over at U.S. News & World Report today, I talk about why these little things matter so much. Please check it out and leave your own thoughts over there!

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A reader writes:

I recently had a very strange situation at our office. Could I ask how you might handle the following situation?

Let’s say you call a co-worker on his/her extension during office hours. You think you are talking with someone who is a friend, and you whisper something about another co-worker. Your comments are, at best, not uplifting. You mention the person by name.

The person you have called informs you that you have called the person that you have just said something ugly about. So, you deny that you said what you said.

More specifically, I received the call. The woman on the other end said, “Her very existence annoys the *#!$ out of me.” I said “Who?” She said, “Did you not see your e-mail?” I said, “Whose?” She said, “Jane’s!” I said, “This IS Jane.” She said, “Oh, I thought you were [name].” I said, “Obviously. If I have offended you in some way, I hope we can discuss it at some point.” She said, “Oh, no. I was talking about something else.”

We have a small team, and I don’t want to make a big fuss, but there is obviously a problem of which I’m not aware.

Ugh, that had to be upsetting.

I’m a big believer in being straightforward. I’d just talk to her — in person — and say, “Hey, I know that was really awkward and you hadn’t intended to call me. But since now it’s out there, can we talk about what I’m doing to piss you off? If it’s something I can change, I’d like to. I figure we all annoy people at times without realizing it, and I’d appreciate the chance to see if there’s something I could do differently.”

If she lies again and denies saying what she clearly said, then I’d say, “Look, I understand feeling awkward about this, but if you do ever want to talk to me, I’m open to hearing it.”

Then you drop it. That’s all you can really do. You’ll have taken the high road and acted like an adult, and if she doesn’t want to join you there, well, so be it. Either way, she’s probably mortified, and not everyone has it in them to be straightforward about this stuff, especially when you throw in the added challenge of her mortification on top of it.

But as for you, here’s the thing: We’re all annoying other people in some way, especially in the workplace. We often don’t know precisely how, but it’s a safe bet that every single one of us does things that irritate others. You just got a glimpse of it that you normally wouldn’t get (and from someone particularly catty).

If you feel like it, you can take this opportunity to look at your relations with your coworkers, particularly this one. Are there things you’re doing that might be legitimately annoying that you could/should change? Or is this woman just catty/petty/a fountain of negativity? Use what you know about her and what you know about yourself to draw your own conclusions, if she won’t talk to you about it. (The email you’d just sent her — the one she referred to on the call — probably provides some clues, as it seems to have triggered the call.)

Maybe you’ll ultimately determine that she’s just an ass. (So far, it sounds like it.) Or maybe you’ll spot things that coworkers might have legitimate reasons to want you to do differently. Either way, you can use this as a chance to get a bit more insight into workplace dynamics that all of you play a role in.

Plus, you now have a really good story to tell people in the future.

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does this seem weird?

September 24, 2009

A reader writes:

Recently I applied online for a job as a librarian at a local career college. The college is part of a chain and this is a new local branch that just recently opened. I got a call today from the dean asking me to come in for an interview and something about the whole situation just does not feel right.

When I spoke to him, he stressed that they need someone ASAP and wanted me to interview today! I told him that was impossible and agreed to come in tomorrow after work. He then kept saying how much I would love it there, as if I had already been hired. He also asked me to bring my drivers license, social security card and college transcripts for the interview. I have never been asked this before.

I’m interested in the job but this whole thing seems incredibly rushed and weird. What do you think?

I’m a big believer in trusting your gut, at least if your gut has a good track record. So I’d go into this with some healthy skepticism.

Let’s break this down:

* Same-day interview request: Unusual but not totally unheard of. Being a jerk about you not being able to come in that same day would have been over the line, but it doesn’t sound like he was. (Hopefully he also gave some acknowledgment that he knew this was very last minute and appreciated that you made tomorrow work.)

* Constantly saying how much you would love it there: Odd. Yes, you want to woo the candidate a bit, but this sounds over the top for someone he hasn’t even interviewed yet. Plus, what does he know about you that makes him so sure you’d love it? This would rub me the wrong way too. He’s either desperate or inept at hiring, or both. I’m guessing both.

* Asking you to bring your driver’s license, social security card, and college transcripts: Driver’s license and social security card — premature, and you should avoid giving out your social security number until you’re actually hired, because of identity theft. It sounds like he’s hoping to hire you on the spot and have you start filling out new employee paperwork right then and there. But your college transcripts? Who keeps copies of those lying around? You have to order them. This makes me think he doesn’t know what he’s doing and just assumes it’s a normal thing to ask people to bring to their last-minute interview. I’d recommend handling that by saying, “I’ve never been asked for that before and don’t have any copies on hand.” Maybe he’ll get the hint that it’s not typical.

So, so far we’ve diagnosed him as desperate and inexperienced/inept. Those things aren’t necessarily the kiss of death in this situation, but they’re definitely signs that you need to do a lot of probing. At your interview, ask about the rush. (“It sounds like you’re in a real hurry to fill the position. What caused the rush?”) You should also find out why the last person left. And you should absolutely find out if you’ll be reporting to this guy or to someone else. If someone else, this guy’s oddities may be a non-issue. If he’s the manager, ask a ton about his management style, expectations, how your performance will be evaluated, etc.

Please write back and let us know how the interview goes. I have a feeling it’s going to be an interesting story no matter how it plays out. Good luck!

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A reader writes:

A new employee (I’ll call her Dana) has just been added to our department this year. This person has worked in the company for almost two decades but wanted to transfer to our department before retiring. The “word” is that she had completely alienated all of her previous coworkers and was miserable, but of course she claims a totally different reason for wanting the change. After one week around her, I have absolutely no doubts that alienation was probably the case. (She has now been working with us for about a month.)

Although she was new to our department (several other people have decision-making but not hiring/firing authority over her), Dana immediately criticized and questioned all of our stated objectives without ever asking for our rationale. She brought up these topics in a completely defensive manner behind our department leader’s back, with a highly angry tone, and then started questioning the objectives of other departments as well, without having any authority on the matter. In other words, she consistently acted as if she had the only right answers and everyone else was flat-out wrong, repeatedly ignoring information we gave her that would have cleared up her uninformed concerns.

On top of this, every time you talk to her, Dana drops something subtly insulting into the conversation. For example, on a non-work related topic, but with co-workers, she was talking about her first child. Another co-worker mentioned that when she had her first child, she had to keep working for financial reasons. Dana replied that she “stayed home and made it work”, with a tone that practically implied the other woman had been a bad mother. A work related example sounds more like this: “The work you do in your department is mostly busy work compared to the challenging things I used to do in my old department.” (Sorry, but it’s not busy work!)

Add on the fact that she loves to name drop about how important her spouse is in the company, or what her former job was and how important it was, and you combine foot-in-mouth conversation skills with monumental arrogance. The “best” part is that she is personal friends with our boss.

While all of us tried to be cordial, patient, inviting, and understanding, conversations like this are an every time occurrence. It quite literally started her first day on the job, and hasn’t let up since. She does this so frequently, that it sometimes feels like living in a sitcom. I never knew people could be this rude, but be so completely oblivious to their actions. At this point, I’ve ceased initiating conversation with her because it’s just too aggravating. When she speaks to me, she still manages to be highly condescending, but I do my very best to make the conversation as short as possible without to any retaliatory comments. I know the rest of my department feels the same way.

Is there any way to discuss this increasingly miserable/hostile situation with our boss, even though Dana has been in the company for so long (and is slated to retire in about a year) and is personal buddies with the boss?

This woman is miserable. Happy people don’t behave that way.

Remembering that might make dealing with her somewhat easier.

If at all possible, I recommend trying to be entertained by having an office curmudgeon. She sounds like a caricature of an office grump, and there can be real entertainment value in that if you keep it in perspective.

But when that fails, keep in mind that this woman doesn’t seem to have any power over any of you. So when she says something personally insulting, respond calmly, “Wow, that came out sounding rude.” (You can also just try, “Wow.” Nothing else. Try it — it gets interesting results.) When she complains about all your objectives without knowing anything about them, laugh and say, “I guess it’s good that you have all the answers.” When she brags about how important her husband is, say, “He sounds extremely important.” You might throw her off her game.

You don’t have to convince her to come around. She’s not going to come around. You just need coping strategies that help you feel not so much at her mercy.

As for talking to your boss, who’s friends with her — enh. (Is that a word? That’s the noise I made in my head. ) I doubt it’ll get you anywhere, unless your boss has a track record of being objective about her friends. If she does, sure, raise it with her. You can say Dana seems really unhappy and that she chronically takes it out on others, to the point that people avoid her now. You can even throw in, “I know you have a good relationship with her, so I thought maybe you could help.” But otherwise, I’d stick to what I laid out above. The exception to that is if Dana crosses the line from grumpy to actually disruptive, in which case you can go to your boss with specific examples of how she’s disrupting the workplace.

But really — your best bet is to think of her as your very own Eeyore/Angela Martin and enjoy the show.

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A reader writes:

I’ve been fully self-employed as a freelancer for about three and a half years. Over the last year, however, my income has dropped by a good bit (thanks to moving and to the economy). I’m doing fine with what I’m making, but it feels like that could change any time. In a perfect world, my freelance business would be predictable enough that I’d never consider another salary, but it’s a far from perfect world so I do think about returning to the salaried world some times.

When we moved to our new city, I signed up with a couple of creative placement agencies. I’ve never used that kind of agency before because they mostly place people in full-time and on-site temporary jobs and I’m usually able to fill my calendar with higher paying projects that I can do from my home office. I signed up when work was slow and I would have been able to do something on-site and full-time. They call me with various projects from time to time, but I’ve usually passed on the their opportunities because I’m busy enough not to have to take them. They also charge pretty high commissions, so the pay to me ends up being lower than I’m used to even when the client is paying my usual rates.

A few months ago, they called with an opportunity to do some freelance work for a big local company. I could do the work from my home office and it was a dream client that I’d love to work for and had no other access to. I agreed to the interview and was very excited. When I got there, it seemed clear that a) the client wanted someone with a much more extensive science background that I had and b) the “freelance” opportunity was really just an audition project for a full-time position. It was a waste of my time and theirs for me to go there. And, even worse, it made it impossible for me to approach that client about any other business because the placement agency would want a huge chunk of any fees I’d ever earn from them.

I haven’t agreed to meet anyone they’ve wanted to introduce me to since, but they called me yesterday to ask if I’d be willing to talk about something full-time. I said yes, if it was the right fit. They told me about a position that sounded like a good (but not great) match for my skills with a “medium-sized company.” I specifically asked about the client and they said “medium-sized.” They asked for a specific kind of writing sample, which I provided. They schedule a phone interview for me this morning, which I did. The phone interview went well, but it turned out that the “medium-sized company” was actually another recruiter who is trying to find someone to hire for a HUGE local company (Fortune 500 public corporation). The recruiter didn’t even have my resume when we talked, but she did have my writing sample. We talked for about 30 minutes and she asked if I could come meet with her boss for an interview TODAY. I tried to put her off but she pushed hard and I agreed to meet this afternoon.

Then, I thought about the HUGE company, the hour it would take me to get there and back, the client deadlines I need to meet this week, the fact that she didn’t even have my resume, and I started to have big doubts. I think if I put in the time to get over there today, there’s a good chance that a) she’ll be wasting my time because she doesn’t really know enough about me to know if I’m a good candidate and b) this isn’t really the job for me even if she’s right that I’m who they might want–the HUGE company isn’t where I’d been thinking my next move would be.

I called the placement agency and explained what was happening. They pressured me and pressured me, they told me what “great opportunity” this would be (even while saying they didn’t know it was for HUGE company when they told me about it, so I doubt that they have any idea if this is a good opportunity or not). I told them that I’d be willing to meet with this other recruiter tomorrow but that I cannot make the appointment today.

I’m feeling guilty for backing out after I agreed, but I’m also getting really frustrated with these recruiters. I think they’re all pressuring me to spend hours on this interview without having any idea if I’m the right fit for this position. They just want to be able to say they found a candidate, any candidate, and they don’t care if they’re wasting my time or not. And I don’t want to potentially sour a relationship with a huge local company by showing up to interview for something I’m not the right fit for because the recruiters aren’t paying enough attention to me or what I’m telling them.

What responsibility should recruiters have to respecting the time of the candidates they send for interviews? Is this kind of lackadaisical “just do the interview” attitude the best I can expect from these kinds of placement agencies?

Well, like most industries, it depends on who you’re working with. There are terrible, lazy, incompetent recruiters out there. And there are fantastic ones. It sounds like you’ve hooked yourself up with a bad one, and I’d recommend unhooking yourself.

Do keep in mind that recruiters ultimately don’t work for you. They work for the employer, because that’s who pays them. So their goal isn’t so much to work to find you a great fit at a job you’ll love as it is to find the employer someone they’ll love. Now, there’s a lot of overlap between those things — a good recruiter will be open and honest with you about the jobs they talk to you about, because doing that is part of doing a good job for the employer. But when you encounter an incompetent recruiter, they don’t get that. Instead, they see their business as presenting the employer with any reasonably qualified candidate they can find, and if that means fudging the details a bit, they may.

You’ve had enough experience with this agency know to know that you can’t trust them. They’re not competent or ethical. End your relationship with them. If you want to work with a recruiter, ask around to people you know about who they recommend for your field. Get online and see what recruiters are writing good stuff on blogs and Twitter. Ask them for recommendations. There are great recruiters out there, if you look — but you don’t want to work with just anyone. Good luck!

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A reader writes:

I’m in a bit of a post-interview limbo. After a month had passed on submitting an application, I received an out-of-the-blue phone interview (with HR) and an immediate scheduling for 5 hours (with 10 people!!) in-house interview.

I was sick the day of the in-house, but I medicated and prepared to try my best (I also, respectfully, declined hand-shakes). They all seemed nice, but it was quickly revealed that I was their first interview for this position. Furthermore, it was a technology position they had never done in-house before, and it appeared that they had little idea how to choose a good candidate.

Since some of the prospective tasks they mentioned for this position were, quite honestly, incomprehensibly large for a one-person job–I took a rather honest approach in my interview. I mentioned that, if I was hired, it would require some significant setup to get going. I also mentioned that the position sounded much higher level then what the ad suggested (I went in thinking it was a middle management position in an existing division, and it turned out it was a non-existent division which they were looking for a new hire to create). Frankly, I’m just out of grad school, and it would be shocking to have to put together an entire division with my limited experience (and a bit mind-boggling that they thought I could). I like challenges, really, but knowing the scope of technological expertise it takes to pull something like that off…I think I would be sorely short-handed.

There was also a weird moment in the interview when I was directly asked to reveal who I was interviewing for (note: I declined to respond with names, just made an ambiguous statement: “some other local industries and non-profits”).

Other then these rather large points of concern, I felt that I reasonably communicated my abilities and how I could be useful to the company. I also tried to show them what could be done with the talents I had. Furthermore, I really liked the fit of the people I would be working with, and see a lot of interesting learning opportunities for me. After the interview, the HR person left me with a serious impression that I’d get a hiring notice the following week.

However, that didn’t happened.

I was contacted post-interview, and the HR representative informed me that I was “still in the running” but they were looking at “other candidates.” Since, I was the first that they interviewed, they wanted to try a few more and see how I “measured up.” She emphasized that she’d like to be updated if any other companies made me an offer, and…that was it.

So, yeah. Very weird response, I thought. I’m use to a straight “yes” or “no”…not a “maybe.” I really have no idea how to respond to this, or if I should even bother calling them back (my friends say this was a very unprofessional interview, since they clearly didn’t know what they were hiring for, and they asked me to reveal my interviewing companies).

Any thoughts?

Yes. You don’t want this job. You may not know it, but you don’t. Although actually it sounds like you do know it.

They don’t really know what they want. You think you’d be in over your head. They don’t sound like they’re equipped to make a sound decision on whether you’re right for the job or not. And it sounds like they wouldn’t give you the resources you’d need to do the job well.

This has all the makings for a disaster, and the last thing you need in your first job right out of a school is a disaster. If you’re set up to fail, it can still look a lot like your fault to outside observers. You don’t need that.

Regarding the HR person’s response that they’re looking for other candidates but want to know if you get any other offers — each of those things are fine on their own, but I’m not crazy about combining them. So they’re looking at other candidates; that’s fine. People look at other candidates. They should give you some idea of their timeline for making a decision about you, but okay, not completely weird. But then you throw in “let us know if you get another offer,” and the picture becomes murkier. That’s what you ask a candidate to do when you’re really interested in them and want to have a chance to make them an offer yourself before another company snatches them up. They’re mixing their signals a bit, and I suspect it’s because they don’t know what they’re doing.

I’d run.

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A reader writes:

Earlier this year, I was interviewing for IT internships, and got into the final stages for a large international document handling company. I was one of six people, out of over 3000 applicants. I did thoroughly well throughout the day, but a few days later found that I did not in fact get the job.

Cue several weeks later, a Friday lunchtime; I get a phone call from my contact there; their first choice had rejected the offer and they wanted to offer the position to me instead. I asked for a week to think it over, which I believed to be reasonable, considering that it would be affecting where I would be working for the next year. I was told that they needed an answer by the end of the working day – four hours away. I told them that I would call them back; I took some time, spoke to my placement advisor, and ended up reluctantly calling them and verbally accepting.

I called another potential employer (another multinational in another, more stable market) I had previously scheduled an interview with to let them know that I had accepted another job; they asked if I had signed anything yet, and I confirmed that I had not. They offered to move my interview forward as they were keen to see me. I decided to attend, if only for interviewing experience, and it also went very well.

That Friday, I decided that the second company was a far better fit for myself, and sent a professional email to the first one stating that I had felt pressured into giving a response due to the incredibly limited time constraints set for a response, and that I would have to politely turn down their kind offer. It took them 2 weeks to respond with a standard ‘We are sorry to hear…’ reply.

I am sure that it caused them a considerable amount of hassle, seeing as the first candidate had also declined, however I feel justified in my actions due to the pressure placed on me for an answer. It does worry me, however, that I have potentially soured my professional relationship with this company, and may cause issues should I decide to apply for any positions there in the future, post-graduation.

What is your opinion regarding this? What’s done is done, but any advice on how to handle similar situations in the future would be appreciated!

(As a side note, I was only just beaten at the interview stage for the second company by another student, which was a shame, but it was a gamble I was willing to take. I was however offered positions at two other companies soon afterwards in the same week; one of which I accepted and thoroughly enjoy!)

I’m looking forward to your take on this matter, and thanks for running an excellent and incredibly useful blog!

Well, yeah, you’ve probably burned their bridges with them as far as future opportunities go. But at the same time, giving you four hours to make a decision was unreasonable of them, and if they’re going to pressure people to give them an answer that fast, they’re pretty much setting themselves up to have this happen.

You originally asked for a week, and a week can often be too long, especially for junior-level positions. (They have other candidates they need to get back to, candidates with timelines of their own, or they may need to know that they’re going to need to re-advertise or whatever the case may be.) But a few days is completely reasonable, even standard.

Insisting that you give them an answer in four hours (especially when they must have known that you’d already mentally moved on from the job after being rejected earlier) is unfair. Ideally, you would have said to them, “I’m very interested, but I need at least a day or two to think this over, and I wouldn’t feel right giving you an answer I hadn’t had time to think about.” It’s hard to imagine why they would have been unable to do that, but let’s say for the sake of argument that their next choice after you had a timeline of her own and was accepting another job at 6 p.m. that night, so they really did have no choice but to push for an immediate answer from you — if that were the case, they owed you an explanation, at least. But I suspect that they had no such time constraints and just wanted to be able to wrap the whole thing up.

In any case, if you’d made that request and they’d refused you (with or without explaining why), at that point you would have had to decide whether or not you could make that kind of major commitment in such a short time. I preach all the time about why you shouldn’t renege on your acceptance of a job offer, but in this case, with this kind of pressure, it’s very hard to fault you for later backing out. Again, they kind of set themselves up for it.

(They’ve also demonstrated that they’re not great at managing this kind of thing by the fact that they rejected you before their first choice accepted the offer. This is why you wait to send out rejections to second and third choices until you have a firm acceptance in hand from your first choice.)

So the upshot: Yes, you probably won’t be well-received there in the future, but you can at least take some solace in knowing that the whole situation is at least partly of their own creation.

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