how can I tell my relative her career advice is out-of-touch? by Alison Green on November 22, 2011 A reader writes: I have recently found your blog and really appreciate the advice that you offer. You have written many times that the job search/hiring process has changed in the past times and to generally ignore the out-of-touch advice parents are offering. As a recent grad, one of my relatives offered to help me with my job search, write my resume and even assist in writing cover letters. My relative is a former and very successful hiring manager… from about ten years ago. Since they left the workforce to raise their children, they have been doing freelance resume writing and job-finding services from home. I was very grateful that they were willing to help and offer their services, until I started reading your advice. I think my relative may be slightly misguided or of touch with current resume trends, etc. I fear the resume they crafted for me may be hurting my applications, not helping. While I can certainly edit my resume with your advice and write my own stellar cover letters, I’m concerned for my relative’s clients. What is the best way (or is there even a way) to address this topic? I really don’t want to stir up family conflict, but this is bad advice. Oh, gosh. I mean, I obviously think my advice is right on target, and I get enough letters from people who report that it worked for them when nothing else did that I feel confident that I’m not delusional about that, but it’s tough for me to say that you should create awkwardness with your relative over this. The one thing I think you could do is to start a conversation with her about some of the advice you’ve found that differs from hers and ask her opinion. For instance, if she’s telling you to use a resume objective, send her a link to an article explaining why they suck, and say something like, “I found this article and was wondering what you think about it.” But of course, you can only do this a couple of times before it becomes obnoxious, so I’d pick your battles. What do other people think? You may also like:government-run career centers are terribleyes, you can use Times New Roman on your resumedo “pain letters” really work?