your employer sucks and isn’t going to change by Alison Green on August 12, 2012 Three letters, one answer. 1. Abusive, lying boss I have been with my current employer for 11 years, working as a practice manager for a dentist. Everything has been fantastic until the last year. The dentist hired a friend of hers to be a receptionist, and gradually I became the enemy. In the last 6 months, things have become so terrible that I drive home crying. I have been looking for another job, but haven’t had any luck finding anything comparable. My boss has recently demoted me, and constantly screams and humiliates me in front of the entire office. She doesn’t even give me things that I can improve on. The things that she says I am doing are completely untrue. I am unsure if her friend is lying to her or they are coming up with the lies together to make me look bad. The accusations are so crazy that they have gone as far as accuse me of hiding the mail! She hasn’t ever fired anyone before; she always gets them to quit, because she doesn’t want to have to pay unemployment. What do you recommend I do? Your employer sucks and isn’t going to change. It’s time to look for another job. I’m sorry. 2. New boss sucks, board doesn’t care I work for a nonprofit that, like many others, is finding it difficult to make ends meet. There’s a paid staff of about 4, with additional 30 volunteer staff. The board decided to appoint a businesswoman with no experience of charities as the director, and on a massively inflated salary. This woman only comes to the office twice a week, and leaves by 2 pm on those days. Despite claiming to be working remotely, she refuses to take phone calls or emails when away from the office. Little work seems to come from her, and her only contribution seems to be aggressively barking orders at staff and volunteers alike when she’s around. She has ignored any attempts to talk about the behavior/position. Some staff have approached the board to air concerns. Rather than listen, the chairman has dubbed them unprofessional meddlers, and threatened to fire them for being so disloyal to a woman they should be respecting. All staff and volunteers are now very concerned, and are only staying because of their commitment to the work. If you have any wisdom to add, we’d all be very grateful. Your employer sucks and isn’t going to change. It’s time to look for another job. I’m sorry. 3. Employer promoted the office slacker Recently, I was overlooked for a promotion in the most blatant, demoralizing way. I have been with this company for a number of years and my responsibilities have been steadily increasing. I readily take on new challenges, including training new hires. Several years ago, we offered a full-time position to a young man named “Ben,” who I had trained. This was despite my recommendation that Ben was not a good fit for our company due to his poor attitude and even poorer work habits. Last year, during our busiest season, we were already understaffed. Ben periodically came to work hung over, or called in sick following a bender, forcing the rest of us to pick up the slack. In addition, Ben has never stepped in to train interns or new hires, something that is generally expected of all of the higher level staff. His work frequently needs to be reviewed by other associates to correct his mistakes. Most of us work 80+ hour weeks during our busy period. Ben can barely be counted on to complete a basic 40. In addition, last year I was the only full-time associate assigned to one of our most complicated clients. Usually, three associates at my level are assigned. I recently learned that Ben had been selected over me and over several other associates for a middle-management position. Of the five people eligible for this job, three of us are women with more experience, and better work habits and output than Ben. When I asked my manager about this situation, I was informed that they had promoted Ben as a way to force him to “sink or swim.” I am both disheartened and angry by this. Your employer sucks and isn’t going to change. It’s time to look for another job. I’m sorry. Overall: Some things are not solvable. An owner who screams at you and makes up false accusations, a board that clearly tells you that they don’t want feedback about a boss who you’re confident is awful, a company that can’t figure out how to fire a horrible worker and instead promotes him — these are all cases where you can’t use reason and logic to solve a problem. All you can do is get yourself out. You may also like:your manager sucks and isn’t going to changeupdate: our museum volunteer is out of controlupdate: what’s the best way to resign when your boss will explode?