A reader writes:
I try not to read too much into people’s individual quirks but I need an objective party to assess this for me. I was invited to participate in a phone interview for a job that I am interested in. The hiring manager and I confirmed the date and time of the interview about a week before it is scheduled to happen. A few days before the phone interview, I sent her a calendar invite. She declined it. I emailed her to ask if she wanted to reschedule the phone interview for a different date and time. She replied that she does “not need an invite” and that we are all set for our interview. I find this pretty bizarre. Was she offended? How is this offensive? I couldn’t help but laugh at her response. It’s definitely turned me off a little bit from the company.
Any assessment would be greatly appreciated.
Whoa, you are reading way too much into this.
Not everyone uses electronic meeting invitations to schedule things. She turned down the electronic invite because she already has your interview scheduled on whatever calendar or list she uses to keep track of her appointments (which could be on paper, for all we know).
I ignore electronic meeting invites all the time, because I don’t use them to add things to my calendar — I add them manually, because I prefer my own systems to the ones built into my software, and if I click “accept” on an invite, it adds something to my calendar in a way that I don’t want. Instead, I accept the old-fashioned way — by telling the person yes (over the phone, in email, or however we’re talking). I figure that they’re welcome to use whatever system they want to track their appointments, but they don’t get to dictate mine.
It sounds like she’s doing the same thing.
She had already confirmed the meeting. You didn’t need to send an additional invitation (it wasn’t a grievous error, but it was a bit of overkill, especially since she’s the “host” rather than you), and you definitely shouldn’t be offended that she explained that she doesn’t need one.