advice about your boss

my boss is pressuring me to get pregnant

A reader writes: I was hired into my current job about nine months ago. Good job, great fit, clear-cut responsibilities, all the good things. People are personable and chatty without generally being too pushy or intrusive, which I love. About six months ago, we hired someone I’ll call Fergus — an older gentleman of the […]

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my manager cleans and reorganizes our desks every day

A reader writes: I work in an office that has staggered work times in order to serve customers for a longer than an eight-hour day, so the manager in our office arrives before some of us and/or leaves after some of us. I recently moved into a position in this space from one across campus. […]

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my manager wants me to lie to my new coworker

A reader writes: Last week, I gave my two weeks’ notice to my company. At the same time as I gave my resignation, they were preparing to bring a new hire into our department. I realize that my resignation might be badly timed for them, but I’ve held firm even when presented with a counter-offer. […]

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my employee is snippy with people and dramatic about stress

A reader writes: I am a first-time manager to a small team consisting of a few departments in a service-based industry. A woman I manage, “Lucinda,” appears to thrive on manufactured stress. I like Lucinda and she garners positive feedback from clients, but it is common for her to come off as exasperated or overwhelmed […]

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my boss borrows money from me and doesn’t pay me back

A reader writes: I lent $220 to my manager a few months ago. She promised to pay me within weeks, but has not mentioned anything about it til now. How can I ask for the money in a polite and professional way so as not to ruin our working relationship? Also, please give me more […]

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my boss is questioning the need for my child’s medical care

A reader writes: Recently my seven-year-old son’s pediatrician has recommended that he be evaluated by a psychologist for ADHD and giftedness. He has had some behavior challenges at home and at school. We live in a small town an hour’s drive away from any larger town or city, and the options for psychological care nearby […]

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my manager accused me of making up numbers

A reader writes: Long story short, my manager has accused me of making up numbers twice. The first time, I knew I had not made up a number but I had always been told not to be defensive about feedback so I said, “I’m sorry, it must have been a calculation error.” The second time, […]

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my boss wants me to collaborate with my awful coworker

A reader writes: I have a coworker who started a few months ago. He and I are responsible for similar types of projects, but we rarely collaborate because the projects don’t readily lend themselves to teamwork. Occasionally, we may consult each other if we hit a technical snag with the software. For some reason, my […]

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