advice about your coworkers

a coworker left me an anonymous note … and a pacifier

A reader writes: About two weeks ago, I came in to work and found a manila envelope on my desk. It had my name written on the front. I opened it up and was stunned to find a typed note that read “Dear Loud Talker, I know more about your TV-watching habits than anyone sitting […]

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everyone interrupts me — am I somehow causing this?

A reader writes: I’ve been dealing with a weird problem in my work relationships for a long time, and it’s happening again in my new job. I was really hoping you’d have some advice on how to make it stop. The gist of it is, people occasionally talk right over me, in the middle of […]

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my coworker thinks it’s funny to try to scare me

A reader writes: I have been having a mild problem with a coworker since I started at this new company a little over a year ago. He tends to like to sneak up and scare us while we are working. We both wear earbuds while we work so it’s easy for us to not hear […]

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my coworker is getting credit for my work

A reader writes: I work for a medium sized company on a very small team. For all intents and purposes, it is just me and my colleague, “Joe.” Joe and I both started at the same time and work on the same types of projects. The similarities end there, as Joe is the type to take […]

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my coworker leans on us for help way too much

This week on the Ask a Manager podcast, I talk with a caller whose coworker won’t stop asking for help with her job — help that she shouldn’t need. Here’s the letter she sent to me, and you can listen to our discussion about it on Apple Podcasts, Google Play, Spotify, or Anchor (or here’s the direct […]

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how can I get my coworker to stop talking about God?

A reader writes: I have a coworker, let’s call her Cersei, who constantly talks about God and religion. Every day, at least twice, the conversation turns to God. From the casual (“I have plans with my church group tonight”) to the strange (I told her how my cat woke me up at 3 a.m. and […]

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how can I get out of eating lunch with coworkers?

A reader writes: How can I successfully get out of lunches with coworkers? When I say no, they try for another date. And another and another. How can I politely say, “I’m not interested in spending my one work-free hour in the day with coworkers?” I don’t like spending the money and I don’t like […]

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my coworker with imposter syndrome actually does suck at her job

A reader writes: I am a woman and have a female coworker who, like most of us (myself included), struggles with impostor syndrome. Here’s the thing, Alison. She is LEGITIMATELY TERRIBLE at her job. She’ll bungle something up and someone will need to go bail her out. Projects that should take two weeks take a […]

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my coworkers think I’m an intern … but I’m not

A reader writes: I’m in my first post-college job, at a large publishing company in a major city. My position is tailored for recent college graduates, with free workshops, the chance to sit in on exec-level meetings, and opportunities to do work in multiple different departments. It’s a great gig! However, because of the unique […]

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