advice about your coworkers

how to deal with a loud coworker

A reader writes: I have been at my job for a month and a half. My coworker plays music at her desk, and I find it to be very annoying. I really wish she’d use headphones, or better yet, turn off the music, but I’m not sure how to ask her to do so. A […]

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my boss and my coworker have heated arguments with F-bombs

A reader writes: I have an accounting/finance background, and I started a position about three months ago at a tech start-up with less than 50 people. Because it’s a small start-up, I am currently the only accounting and HR person. On top of that, I’m the only woman in the office and the rest are male. […]

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my coworker tickled another coworker, and now there is chaos

A reader writes: My company has had a relatively informal, somewhat relaxed working environment in the past, where colleagues generally got along well and we had a decent time together, even while working hard. Unfortunately, that balance has recently been upended in department I work in. Two weeks ago, my coworker, Rachel, kicked the power […]

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the etiquette of weddings and work

Wedding season is upon us, which means that offices around the country are going to be filled with wedding talk, etiquette dilemmas about gift-giving and invitations, and other wedding-related quandaries. At U.S. News & World Report today, I answer some of the most common questions about weddings and work like these: Can I invite some of my […]

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my coworker won’t stop telling me that I smell

A reader writes: I enjoy wearing perfume, but tend to stick to indie oil scents, since the smell tends to stick closer to my skin (so, in theory, I don’t bother my coworkers) and also because I seem to be sensitive to the alcohol that a lot of spray perfumes use. I also tend to […]

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I don’t like to share my personal life with my coworkers

A reader writes: Early on in my career, I had a couple of very bad experiences with forming friendships with coworkers. After those experiences, I decided that I wouldn’t befriend my coworkers anymore. I consider myself friendly and outgoing, and I have a lot of friends outside of work, but am starting to feel that […]

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my colleague is allergic to me because of my cats

A reader writes: I’m a brand new manager in a public services environment. I have two cats, who are not particularly hairy, and I wash my clothes – and myself – in the usual customary manner for our Western culture. I also use a lint roller and vacuum my home thoroughly, but pet hair is […]

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my coworker won’t stop talking

A reader writes: Let me start with a bit of background: I work in an open office environment, which is less than desirable for a host of additional reasons, but today I am writing to you about something very specific. Three of us sit together in a “pod” comprised of three work stations. The half-walls […]

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