family, spouses & significant others

I ghosted my ex, and she’s about to be my new boss

A reader writes: I was hoping you would be able to help me with a conundrum I got myself into. I have been an expat since graduating and have been moving a lot. More than a decade ago, when I was still young, I was in a relationship with a woman, Sylvia, in a country […]

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my employee insinuated I was having an affair … with my husband

A reader writes: My husband and I work for the same mid-size government agency as senior level managers. We are in different departments, our job duties and direct colleagues/reports do not intersect, and our offices are not near each other. We have worked in the same building, and in fact on the same teams, several […]

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my mom is pressuring me to apply for jobs I don’t want

A reader writes: I am a mid-20s-something with a master’s degree in international affairs interning at a nonprofit that focuses on serving ethnic minorities of the region I studied in college and graduate school. My internship ends in June (six-month internship), so I started looking and applying for jobs in March. However, my mom is […]

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I was rejected for a job because of my romantic history

A reader writes: I work in a fairly insular field in a small geographic region, where people in the trade tend to know each other from the workplace and socially. Normally this is a dynamic that facilitates freer sharing of information and resources, which is great. However, sometimes it can get incestuous and go sour. […]

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