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some things about my mom

A few years ago, I wrote up some things about my dad, on what would have been his 71st birthday. My other parent is still here, thankfully, and so for Mother’s Day, here are some things about my mom: * She is an extrovert’s extrovert, but somehow ended up with two introverted daughters. She makes up for this by talking […]

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here’s me talking about the ghosting ex

I went on the Pop Tea podcast to talk about the ghosting ex, the guy who pooped in the potted plant, phone anxiety, and much more. It’s episode 10 here. My segment starts at 46:35 and lasts for about 40 minutes. (The hosts of this are really funny!) I also discussed the ghosting ex on the Why […]

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I answered more questions on the radio this weekend

I was on public radio’s Marketplace Weekend again this weekend, taking more questions from listeners about job searching. (This was a bonus round because we got so many questions from people the week before!) We talked about: what to do if you’re overqualified advice to someone who’s applied for 700 jobs and isn’t having any luck […]

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the Ask a Manager book is coming

Y’all, I wrote a book. ASK A MANAGER: Ask a Manager: How to Navigate Clueless Colleagues, Lunch-Stealing Bosses, and the Rest of Your Life at Work will be published by Random House/Ballantine next spring. The book — which is nearly all new content that you haven’t read here — takes on more than 200 difficult conversations […]

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me, talking about hugging at work (Wall St. Journal) and job interviews (Marketplace)

I’m quoted in this Wall St. Journal piece, talking about hugging at work. My advice: “Huggers feel they’re really good at judging when someone wants a hug, but based on what the nonhuggers are saying, they’re wrong about that.” And this weekend, I was on public radio’s Marketplace, talking about job interviews. My segment starts at 6:11.

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me, talking about favorite past letters and more

If you like advice columns, I think you will like Hannah and Matt Know It All, a very fun podcast where Hannah and Matt re-answer questions from other advice columns and field new questions too. I joined them for this week’s episode, where we talked about: some of my favorite Ask a Manager letters, including the person […]

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things I like

Years ago, I used to do occasional round-ups of things I like. It’s been ages since the last one, so here we go. 1. This blanket. This is like fur, except it’s not actual fur. It’s ridiculously soft and cozy, and when you bundle up in it, you will immediately feel a profound inner peace descend upon […]

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