updates

update: I think a colleague asked me out

It’s our last update of the year! It’s from the letter-writer in November who had received an ambiguous lunch invitation from a work contact and wanted to decline since she was pretty sure he was asking for a date although he hadn’t been clear about that (#3 at the link). Here’s the update: I did […]

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updates: one of our coworkers is putting nails in our car tires, employees are afraid they’ll be ostracized after they’re promoted, and more

Continuing our annual December “where are they now” series, here are four more updates from people who had their questions answered here this year. 1. I think one of our coworkers is putting nails in our car tires Long story short, nothing exciting really happened afterwards, which I suppose could be construed as a good thing. […]

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update: I’m worried my manager has lost confidence in me

Remember the letter-writer who had gone through a harder-than-normal period at work and was worried that her manager had lost confidence in her? Here’s the update. What commenters said about anxiety really resonated with me. It helped put things in perspective, and now that I’m more removed from the situation, I can recognize that I […]

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updates: I’m hearing secondhand reports of problems with an employee, coworker forces loud political rants on me, and more

Continuing our annual December “where are they now” series, here are five more updates from people who had their questions answered here this year. 1. I’m hearing secondhand reports of problems with an employee but she denies them I really appreciated the advice of all the commentors, as well as your response. When you published my […]

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update: employee didn’t check email for 60 days

Remember the manager at a dysfunctional public agency who discovered that an employee two levels below him hadn’t checked email for a full two months? Here’s the update. First, thank you to Alison and everyone else for your comments, suggestions, and even the government employee snark. I appreciate it all. I sat down with Fergus and […]

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updates: how can I get my staff to sign up to work after-hours events, my mom wants to write to the newspaper about my “tragic story of shattered dreams,” and more

Continuing our annual December “where are they now” series, here are five more updates from people who had their questions answered here this year. 1. How can I get my staff to sign up to work after-hours events? Initially I came away from your blog with the takeaway that I needed to set clearer expectations for […]

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update: my coworker keeps hijacking team meetings

Remember the letter-writer whose coworker kept disrupting her meetings? Here’s the update. I took a few different approaches to reigning in the boorish and disruptive behavior that was plaguing our team meetings. At our next meeting I took your advice and (in a very upbeat way, I think) reviewed meeting expectations for everyone. These meetings […]

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