Comments on: open thread https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html Thu, 17 Oct 2019 04:59:20 +0000 hourly 1 By: Verde https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-778805 Mon, 15 Jun 2015 20:09:45 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-778805 In reply to Qwerty.

Look into non-profit audits – non-profits that make over a certain number of $ in revenue annually have to have an audit by an outside CPA every year.

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By: Lyta https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-316196 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 22:40:09 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-316196 In reply to Jamie.

I’m a bit late on this, but I like InoReader — like feedly, but with free search.

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By: Rana https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-315264 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 22:43:04 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-315264 In reply to ejam.

Thanks!

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By: ejam https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-314879 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 15:56:01 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-314879 In reply to Rana.

http://www.google.com/doodles/doctor-whos-50th-anniversary

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By: Anonymous https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-314728 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 07:28:11 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-314728 In reply to Ask a Manager.

What a great picture of both of you!

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By: Random https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-314485 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 16:52:11 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-314485 In reply to no longer temp?.

Tell me them now/asap! :)

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By: no longer temp? https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-314251 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 01:20:14 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-314251 I have a complicated “starting a new job” situation.
I was working part-time job A since september. Around the same time I interviewed for job A, I also interviewed for temp job B. So after working job A for about 2 months, I got a call from temp job B, asking if I was still interested. I went in for more information, and paperwork, and finally formally offered the job (a slightly higher pay rate, and 40 hours a week). In the mean time, I also interviewed for “dream job” C. After interviewing for job C, I got a start date for job B and put in my notice and completed my final 2 weeks for job A. Then I got the word from job C that I got the job, and they would like me to start about a week and a half after temp job B’s start date.

I am unsure when/how to notify temp job B that I won’t continue with them. Should I start job B, work there for a week and then quit? Job B, during paperwork/orientation, made it clear that it’s a temp position, and while they usually last 6 months, it may be only a month or two. Or should I let them know before I start that I have found a permanent position that is going to start in a couple weeks, and while I’d be happy to work up until that point, I understand if they want to put someone else on that assignment? The temp job is at an organization that I may someday want to work for, but I’m hoping that permanent/dream job C works out for 3-5+ years.

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By: Diane https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-314245 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 01:01:44 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-314245 In reply to Jen in RO.

Yay American Gods reference!

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By: Diane https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-314243 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 00:54:02 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-314243 In reply to Elizabeth West.

A little late to the party, but I’m going to see it in a real theater tonight!

p.s. I met Peter Davison once. He fixed my camera for me. Sigh.

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By: Diane https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-314236 Tue, 26 Nov 2013 00:27:46 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-314236 In reply to khilde.

I had a kitty who, over the course of several months, went from occasional hairballs to barfing a few times a day. It turned out to be a tumor pressing on his stomach. So, if it’s new, sudden behavior, get to a vet.

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By: AmyNYC https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-314186 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 22:07:25 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-314186 In reply to Iain Clarke.

Ha! that would have required too much work… I did more of an “everyday” Amy

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By: TLT https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313870 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 18:01:56 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313870 In reply to Elizabeth West.

Thanks, me too!

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By: TLT https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313869 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 18:01:37 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313869 In reply to Jen M..

Thanks! It got even better (*not*) today. I almost quit!

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By: Anonymous https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313868 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 18:01:10 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313868 I dont really care for my boss and the holiday part is coming up. do i have to go to the party? is it frowned upon for people not to go holiday parties?

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By: Colette https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313705 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 13:57:26 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313705 In reply to hope i’m not too late.

You’re overthinking it. :) Try to relax, and wait to see what they come back with (if anything).

As far as whether it would be an insult, it’s not. The salary they offer depends on what the position is and what the market rate is i your area, as well as how cheap the company is – but it’s not personal and, if it is, you don’t want to work there, right?

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By: Anne 3 https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313702 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 13:45:57 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313702 In reply to TL.

Did you have a combination oven and use the microwave setting? That’s how I made a burned/raw cake once.

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By: j_e_tothedouble_n https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313695 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 13:19:26 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313695 In reply to Elizabeth West.

Elizabeth,

I got it at Universal Studios in Florida. They have them for sale on their website also.

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By: Rana https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313659 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 04:31:18 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313659 In reply to JessA.

It’s really cool – I just wish I could download it so I could play it at a later time.

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By: Rana https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313657 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 03:58:03 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313657 In reply to EngineerGirl.

That’s a very good point. Even something as small as working from the couch instead of your bed can be helpful.

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By: hope i'm not too late https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313646 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 23:50:21 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313646 I’m interviewing for jobs and Im not sure how to explain this–there’s a good chance I may get an offer from one of the places I interviewed, but the main thing I’m worried about is salary.
When I applied, I was asked my salary range and gave it…..but I honestly have no idea if they will hire me and if so, at the desired salary. I would accept a lower salary, lower than my lowest end, but I’m not sure how low I should go….I guess I’m being paranoid that they’ll offer minimum wage or somewhere in the $8-12 range (which is still pathetically low). Would that be an insult? I guess i’m just babbling and thinking out loud.

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By: Kimberlee, Esq. https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313644 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 22:51:58 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313644 In reply to The IT Manager.

I feel that gifts of alcohol and baked goods are the general exception to the ‘no gifting up’ rule. Not always, of course, but if you’re gonna do it, do it with one of those two things.

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By: Rana https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313637 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 22:12:16 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313637 In reply to Lillie Lane.

On the flip side, do what you can to make it easier to go to bed earlier (that’s the hardest part for me) so you’re at least well-rested when the alarm goes off.

Things like turning down the lights, using f.lux if you’re on the computer, putting on your pajamas early, etc. can help with this.

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By: Rana https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313632 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 21:20:56 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313632 In reply to Ask a Manager.

Wonderful!

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By: Kimberlee, Esq. https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313630 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 20:47:49 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313630 In reply to Ruffingit.

There are also a million reasons why they really could have planned to keep OP at the higher rate, and then budgetary issues ended up preventing it.

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By: Jessica (the celt) https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313629 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 20:40:10 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313629 In reply to Amber.

I don’t work in engineering, but I do work in a college counseling office at a high school, so I’m currently working with seniors to help them get into colleges, from small locals to the Ivies. (We have a wide range of skill levels, which is part of the fun of my job! :) ) While I’m not the resident expert in my office (our Director definitely is!), we try to impress upon students that their grades, activities, and community involvement are definitely important to help determine which college you get into (in the United States). Several years ago, the tides turned, and every year it’s more and more competitive to get into colleges. Most colleges will allow you to write a statement of explanation for your grades, if there are extenuating circumstances for a reason your grades slipped (they really want to see stability or, preferably, improvement from ninth to twelfth grade), but saying that your mom’s nagging you made you procrastinate to the point of not doing it is not going to garner much sympathy. I am not being rude in this statement, simply straight forward, so you know what is “out there” right now. Although they do understand that students face challenges that sometimes make getting things done difficult (parents’ divorcing, death in the family, etc.), which is why they will take an explanation of grades and actually encourage such a statement when needed, colleges are looking for mature students who will work hard to apply themselves.

Depending on the college you’re looking at, the engineering school may be very competitive. We have one state university within a few hours that is highly competitive for the engineering school. A lot of students try to get in, but are denied admission to the engineering school. They are often admitted to the liberal arts school instead and invited to reapply to the engineering school at a later date, but it is still highly difficult to transfer into it. Because of this, even the local school’s engineering program is competitive. A lot of the people who are denied first- or second-round into the engineering school at the larger university end up taking up spots at the local one, sometimes pushing out local students who want an engineering degree.

Just last year, we had one student who had some turmoil in the family. This student wrote an explanation for some low grades, including at least one F, on the transcript and ended up getting into an Ivy. They get it: life happens. We also had a student who just didn’t want to apply him/herself and was bucking against parental involvement. While trying to gain individual responsibility is important and I know some parents can be over-involved, trying to show that you deserve to be responsible for yourself by slacking off and not doing anything doesn’t really help the student at all. While trying to write his/her statement of explanation, s/he had a very difficult time explaining the reason for the low grades to his/her first-choice school and was denied admission. S/he ended up going to a local university and was able to improve his/her grades before being accepted to and transferring to the first-choice school for the second year.

In the end, your parents do get to choose how to spend their money and can put whatever strings on it that they want (as long as they are up-front about it). Even if your grades were stellar, they could say that they’d only pay for a local school (which has happened to students I’ve worked with). I’d suggest looking around for scholarships to see if you can offset the gap of what you are expecting your parents to help with, which will help you better decide where you yourself can afford to go.

So, no, your high school grades will not follow you around for the rest of your life, but they can and often do dictate the next two to four years (depending on if you transfer later or not) of it. Start now, today, to work hard to get those grades up, particularly your math and science grades. Engineering is competitive and requires grit, so they want to see that you can persevere even in the face of setbacks. Show them that you can! Don’t shoot yourself in the foot just to show someone that you don’t have to do what they expect of you. That’s not independence or maturity talking. Because you read here and are writing in, I know you care about this, so prove to yourself that you can do it (and just ignore the nagging as background static). You’re doing this for yourself, not your mom. :)

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By: Ask a Manager https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313624 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 19:31:26 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313624 In reply to Felicia.

No one will care about your high school grades once you’re in college. But your high school grades will impact what colleges you can get into. And the college that you go to will matter in some fields and not at all in others. I don’t know about engineering at all (hopefully someone in engineering can weigh in), but the school you go to does matter great for fields like law and consulting.

Basically, your high school grades do matter if you care about where you go to college.

More here:
https://www.askamanager.org/2012/06/do-employers-really-care-where-you-went-to-school.html

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By: Anony https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313598 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 15:33:45 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313598 In reply to Felicia.

I agree with Felicia. During your college years, you will have other work experiences ie internships, club activities that you will emphasize more on your resume. High school won’t matter much IF you attend college.

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By: Felicia https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313594 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 15:06:59 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313594 In reply to Amber.

It is not at all true, not even a little bit. Once you graduate from university, what you did in highschool won’t matter. In fact, after your second years of university or so,, you don’t need to include jobs you had in highschool on your resume. I’m a little embarassed about how much I worried about grades in highschool, because it really doesn’t matter at all for your future. No one like to tell you this, but the grades you get in university also don’t really matter in terms of getting a job. I got good grades in university,, but employers only care I got the degree…this is slightly less true in engineering, but they’ll still care more about coop/internship experience than your grades.

I have no idea where your parents got this from (maybe they’re old and/or from another country) but it’s not true in Canada. Your highschool grades only determine what university you get into, but honestly that doesn’t matter all that much either in Canada – our universities aren’t ranked all that differently from each other no matter what anyone might tell you, which is a way Canada is different than the US, where IIRC schools are ranked differently. Some universities for engineering you won’t get into with your current grades, but some you will, and it doesn’t matter which one you go to. Nothing wrong with taking as much OSAP as youre given to help pay for it yourself! Wow that was long haha but i just find it weird that your parents believe that when it’s not even kind of true. .Once you get into university you don’t even need to thin about anything from highschool, because that’s when it all tops mattering. Do they seriously think in 40 years anyone will care or even ask how you did in highschool? they won’t even ask how you did in university.

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By: Amber https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313578 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 13:24:37 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313578 This is a late post, but I’m just wondering about this since I’m kinda freaked out.

I’m in Grade 12, and in my first semester. I’d ideally like to go into engineering, with a university degree. However, my parents won’t pay for my education unless I go to this one university (or the college in my town) for one year, and then they can see if “I can handle it”.

Which brings me to the reason: my grades. I hate my mom nagging me about it so I constantly put off my homework, which leads to it not getting done. My grades are all low 80’s and high 70’s, which I can bring up by the end of the semester, but my parents keep telling me that high school will dictate the rest of my life and that in like 40 years I’ll totally regret not having done better in high school.

Is this true? I don’t know how much I can save my grades now, but I certainly don’t want something I did when I was 17 screwing up my future career.

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By: nicolefromqueens https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313542 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 06:03:13 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313542 I’m about to interview for an entry-level data entry position. The reason I’m looking for a data entry position 11 years out of high school is mainly because of a back injury I’ve been dealing with for five years now. I was a self-employed house cleaner while I was in college and I also held down other part time jobs (the house cleaning offered a lot of flexibility.) Because of my back, I had to stop house cleaning, go on SSI, and a lack of money kept me out of school so I abandoned my education three courses short of my degree. In the past 2+ years since I stopped cleaning I have been to work a collective 8 weeks.

I’m doing a lot better with pain management so as long as I’m not doing anything strenuous, I’ll be okay for the foreseeable future. But this back injury has me reconsidering my plans for the future, especially as it had very bad timing: right as the recession hit.

I’m really thinking about what to say when the dreaded ”why do you want this position”, ”where do you see yourself in five years”, etc., etc. questions arise.Should I discuss my back injury at the interview, even if it doesn’t interfere with the duties of my prospective job?

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By: Ali https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313528 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 04:42:56 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313528 In reply to Not So NewReader.

My mom knows I want to work in sports and sees some of the women (not all) who work for teams and how pretty they are. Most of these women she is referring to work in sales or have more client-facing jobs, whether with season tickets or with sponsorships. The media people spend a lot of time in the press box during the game itself, and like I said, a lot of PR people in sports are men. Most of their job deals with working with…well, media, and not all of them go on TV/otherwise on camera. So I highly doubt she is seeing the PR people walking around the arena/stadium during games. Therefore, she sees the women who work in sales and assumes I will have to look like them to get the job.

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By: Ruffingit https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313516 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 02:29:40 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313516 In reply to Not So NewReader.

NSNR, if we lived near each other, I’d totally be your friend! :) We seem to have a lot in common with the way we think about things. “And that helps you solve your problem, HOW?” is a very useful statement for a lot of things. So many people want to give themselves excuses for why they can’t solve the problems when in fact, they can, it’s just not an easy road. They don’t want to do the hard things they know they need to do to move past it. So the convenient excuses come to the surface.

Also, “expect less out of life???” OH HELL NO! That is horrible and I’m really glad you were there to tell your relative to get a new doctor. It’s horrifying to think someone would say something like that to a diabetic. That is one disease that a lot of things can help change such as diet, exercise, and careful monitoring of insulin, etc. Unreal that someone would say something so crass and harmful to a patient.

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By: Sophia https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313507 Sun, 24 Nov 2013 00:59:31 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313507 In reply to Amanda.

I hate shopping at department stores for suit jackets. Sizes are all over the place and I feel like those are too trendy. I like JCrew schoolboy blazers, Loft (pants), Ann Taylor. Obviously YMMV!

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By: Ruffingit https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313501 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 23:46:27 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313501 In reply to Elizabeth West.

Doesn’t matter if you’re good at it or not, you still do it and that still makes you awesome in my book! I pretty much glide about five inches before falling down on skates. That’s the extent of my ability. :)

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By: Elizabeth West https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313498 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 23:00:10 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313498 In reply to Ruffingit.

LOL
I’m not very good but I like it.

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By: Jessica (the celt) https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313496 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 22:52:03 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313496 In reply to Jamie.

I’m a huge Netvibes fan. I moved over years ago when Google Reader started marking old things as “read” when I hadn’t actually read them. I went through at least five others before hitting on this one. I’m slowly converting all my coworkers and friends to it as well, especially the ones who moved to Feedly after they left Google. ;)

(Not related to Netvibes in any way. It’s just a good reader that I like, especially since I can have different “tabs” with other feeds, so I have a “daily” reads and a “non-daily” reads feed. This is actually the best thing for my productivity, because now I don’t look at the thousands of posts I haven’t read and feel like I need to read all of the posts right now, now, now!)

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By: Not So NewReader https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313493 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 22:44:04 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313493 In reply to Ali.

WTH.
Uh. I know she is your mom and all that, so due respect there.
But does she talk this way often????

I have done a little PR type stuff for the groups I belong to. Not once has a reporter asked me about my hair and nails. Working in these groups I have learned that getting a message out to the public is all about creativity, resources, connections to other people, etc.

Maybe your mom is banking off of what she sees on TV- where everyone is so pretty. You could try asking her where she gets this idea from. Then listen carefully.
Or you could just try closing down the conversation entirely and looking for different sources of inputs.

Even if she were right, which I don’t believe, beauty might get a person a job, but it will not help them keep the job AT ALL. They have to have skills, good attitude, and knowledge. Bosses don’t give raises based on manicures.

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By: Colette https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313491 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 22:36:53 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313491 In reply to Elizabeth West.

Can you decide to either do it for its own sake (even though it may never pay off) or make peace with not wanting it enough to do it?

I feel lik you’re rushing into making a decision because you don’t see any other options and time is passing, so you just want to figure it out, but life is a journey, not a destination. Either decision could work out wonderfully, or terribly. No one gets to see the future.

I mean, that’s all very normal, but it’s ok to admit (to yourself) that you don’t know the answers, and you’re doing the best you can. I suspect you’re your biggest critic, and it’s ok to give yourself a break.

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By: AVP https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313488 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 22:02:20 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313488 In reply to Anony.

This is the second year in a row that I planned to take it as a vacation day and a big project popped up that will necessitate at least some amount of working.

Last year, I was just at my parent’s house and my mom was very impressed with my business demeanor. This year, I’ll be laptopping from an apartment share in Edinburgh. That’s a step up, at least.

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By: MaryTerry https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313483 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 21:11:55 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313483 In reply to j_e_tothe_double_n.

I’ve frequently considered framing my certificates of completion and hanging them on the wall with my high school and college diplomas. I could cover an entire wall with all my training certificates.

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By: Not So NewReader https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313475 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 20:01:33 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313475 In reply to Cassie.

In situation #1: “You need to talk this over with this person, directly.” (I do make exceptions if I think the person is asking me for help with word choice. If I sense that the person asking is not telling ten other people, then yes, I will help them with finding words.)

In situation #2: That is tough. I have tried things like “Gee, I am sorry to hear Jane feels that way. Please encourage her to come talk to me. I would like to smooth this situation out.” (The bonus here is that the third party quits telling me what everyone is saying. That is because the third party does not have the spine to say this to the original complainer.)

Yeah, it does feel like middle school all over again. Sometimes the best you can do is just keep the gossip away from you.

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By: Not So NewReader https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313472 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 19:51:05 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313472 In reply to Ruffingit.

OH boy. You nailed this one, too.
Yes, something like (insert group name) Guilt is a real handy crutch. It prevents us from learning new skills, taking chances, etc. We don’t stretch ourselves.
My rebuttal to this statement includes:
“And that helps you solve your problem, HOW?”
Or
“We were not created to become doormats for other people.”

The moral of the story here is be careful of anyone who tells you that you are “less than” or that you “need to expect less”.
A family member went to the doctor for her diabetes. He point blank said “Expect less out of life.”
I said, “Get a new doctor, this guy can’t help you.”

We don’t help people by disabling them.

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By: Not So NewReader https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313465 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 19:37:19 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313465 In reply to Elizabeth West.

A wise person told me that when we can’t see the future that is because we need to concentrate on what is right in front of us.
Once we take care of what is in front of us, then we will begin to see more in the future.
Take a second look around you. Put on fresh eyes as best you can. In the course of looking around you, do you see something you had not noticed before?
I love the story about the mountain climber. (Will try to be brief…) The guy climbs up the mountain. On his way down, a terrible storm kicks up. He cannot see his hand in front of his face- the weather is so intense. He clings to his rope, in total fear. He has lost all is reference points- he does not know how close he is to the the ground and safety. He cries. A voice says to him… “Let go of the rope.” So he clings even tighter. “Let go of the rope.”
Rescue crews found him the next day. Frozen solid and still holding the rope.
He was six feet from the ground.

Sometimes when I get stuck in life it is because the very thing I am clinging to is the very thing I need to let go of. This is what I call cruel irony. Real cruel.
I find that most of the time, making the decision to let go of my rope is way harder than what happens after I let go of the rope. The decision making process is that difficult.

But it letting go of my rope, I find something. I find my self-respect.
Any time in life when I have realized that I need to make a move right now or never do it- it has played out just that way. If I had not made the move that opportunity would have been lost forever.
Remember the old person in the nursing home? His one regret was that he did not take more risks, take more chances. He realized, too late in life that he took things way to seriously and always took the most cautious, careful road. I will never be a big risk taker but I try to take a few more logically thought-out chances. I don’t wanna be that old person loaded up with regrets.
Long read. sorry.

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By: Amy https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313453 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 19:04:08 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313453 In reply to Anony.

Always. If the courts are open, I go to work.

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By: Amy https://www.askamanager.org/2013/11/open-thread-16.html#comment-313452 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 19:02:43 +0000 https://www.askamanager.org/?p=7048#comment-313452 In reply to Anonymous.

It might still be worth a call to OSHA, just to check. While they don’t have specific temperature standards, they do require that the indoor temperature not present health hazards, and depending on exactly how cold it is, you may have a legitimate complaint.

https://www.osha.gov/pls/oshaweb/owadisp.show_document?p_table=INTERPRETATIONS&p_id=24602

But yes, look for a new job.

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