February 2018

my coworker wants me to give him a fake reference

A reader writes: I have a coworker who I hit it off with from day one, and we trust and help each other. Last week, this coworker took me out to lunch and told me he was planning to start interviewing, because he found that he is being severely underpaid. I am in a similar […]

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hair extensions at work, can I ask for my old desk back, and more

It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. Hair extensions at work I was asked not to wear hair extensions at work, in an casual office setting. My hair extensions are clip-in, but they’re real human hair, they’re professionally dyed to match my own hair color (natural color, no unnatural colors), and they […]

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my boss loves me but hates my coworker

A reader writes: I started a new job six months ago and it has been really amazing. I report directly to the head of our small department, Jamie. My relationship with Jamie is pretty great. I feel incredibly supported, and she goes out of her way to sing my praises to others. I get to […]

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how to speak up as a group at work

I sometimes suggest that letter-writers who are concerned about a problem at work get a group of coworkers to all speak up about it together — because there’s strength in numbers and it can be harder to blow off a group than a single person. But I want to talk more about what that looks […]

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I don’t want to do Toastmasters with my boss!

A reader writes: My boss would like me to work on speaking up more in meetings. I am by nature shy, and this is something I have always struggled with. I have a particularly hard time speaking up around authority figures. However, I am actively working on improving in this area and I’ve joined our […]

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