September 2021

is it unprofessional to use fidget toys at work?

A reader writes: I’m a young woman in my first post-college position, working for a public institution known for being quirky. My desk is in a large shared office with seven other fairly low-key coworkers, including my boss. I recently acquired a fidget toy and to my surprise found fiddling with it really helps with […]

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updates: the 3-year probation, the furlough, and more

Here are three updates from past letter-writers. 1. I’ve been on probation for three years (#4 at the link) I’m the person who emailed you last year about my supervisor keeping me on probation for over three years and I wondered if I should tell him it was my mental health issues that were causing […]

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let’s talk about drama over office supplies

One of my favorite types of office drama is drama over really small things — like the 18-month coffee debate or people who get really territorial about office supplies. Some of what we’ve heard about the latter over the years: “I have to order three different kinds of paper towels because people prefer certain ones […]

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my employee wants flexible hours in a job that doesn’t allow it

A reader writes: I manage an employee who is a hard worker and great with our patrons. She is also a single mom, so I worked with her to create a customized schedule that would accommodate her parental responsibilities. However, she has interpreted my initial flexibility as flex scheduling and now she comes and goes […]

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our white manager centers herself in conversations about racism — and other questions with Michelle Silverthorn

Today Michelle Silverthorn, founder and CEO of Inclusion Nation, returns to Ask A Manager! Michelle is the author of the best-selling book Authentic Diversity: How to Change the Workplace for Good (read an excerpt here) and talked with us earlier this year about the work she does to help build more equitable companies. Now she’s back to take […]

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are unlimited vacation days really unlimited?

A reader writes: I have a friend who started a new job recently. She had been laid off during Covid when her company had to eliminate about half of its staff. Given what she had told me about how she acted at work – routinely leaving early without making up the hours elsewhere, refusing to […]

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