family, spouses & significant others

my career hit a dead end when we moved to a small town

It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: I feel that I have reached a dead-end professionally and could really use some advice. I used to be the breadwinner for my family. I had a compliance role in the legal department of a Fortune 500 investment company. I loved my job and was […]

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I’m furious that my boss refused to interview my partner

A reader writes: My company encourages candidate referrals. I referred my domestic partner to a full-time, permanent position on my team. There wouldn’t be a conflict of interest since i would not be his supervisor. We would have the same supervisor. His skills and experience were a great match and he was contacted by a […]

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my dad is giving me weird and sexist career advice

A reader writes: I am a woman working in the predominantly male industry of commercial real estate. I have experienced some sexism at work, but nothing I can’t handle on my own. What I do have trouble handling is the sexism that comes from my parents, specifically my dad. I’ve been working in commercial real […]

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my well-meaning family keeps sending me terrible job leads

A reader writes: Because of the COVID-19 crisis, my job has temporarily furloughed me, and I’m not sure when (if?) it will ever come back to its normal capacity. So, I’ve been job hunting (actually, I was doing this even before the coronavirus crisis, but that’s another letter), and told my parents and sister that […]

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what to do when an employee’s spouse calls you

A reader writes: I had to reject an employee’s request for specific dates for vacation leave. Then her husband phoned me to tell me that she will not be at work and she will take the leave! What can I do from here to prevent her husband from doing the negotiations on her behalf? I […]

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my husband is my boss — and we’re getting divorced

A reader writes: I am asking for advice about how to handle my impending divorce at work. I work at a large nonprofit in a specialist capacity that is a recognized priority for the company, but organizationally belongs to one of five departments. I’ve worked here for 10 years. I was headhunted by the executive […]

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