media appearances

what is going on with hugging at work?

You’re greeting a colleague who you haven’t seen in a while – and suddenly, without warning, they’re enthusiastically opening their arms and going in for a hug. Whatever happened to the simple handshake at work? Hugging used to be reserved for close family and friends, but it’s been infiltrating professional contexts for a while now, […]

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team-building events are weird and not very useful

I recorded a piece for the BBC about team-building events: how bizarre and ineffective they can be, and why employers often schedule them without putting real thought into how they’ll produce better results … or even use them as a substitute for more meaningful work on communication or cooperation issues. (And it includes some of the […]

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your workplace isn’t your family — and that’s OK

“We’re like family here.” Not words you should want to hear from an employer. I did a Q&A with the New York Times about why that phrase tends to pop up at dysfunctional workplaces — and tends to breed more dysfunction too — as well as how you can navigate that kind of culture and a healthier way […]

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are work parties really just … work?

I recorded a piece for the BBC about work parties: Why do some people dread them? Are they mandatory, even when no one says that? And if they are mandatory, are they really just … work? It’s three minutes long and you can listen here (my segment is toward the end, starting at 49:27).

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Ask a Manager in the media

Here’s some coverage of Ask a Manager in the media recently: The New York Times did a big profile of Ask a Manager earlier this week! (Written by the wonderful Jolie Kerr.) Separately, I also talked to the New York Times about what to do when a coworker is driving you crazy. I talked to Self […]

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you don’t need to follow your dreams

I recorded a piece for the BBC about the problems with the career advice to “follow your passion” — including that it’s not highly actionable for most people and sets people up to feel like failures if they don’t end up in jobs they’re passionate about. I argue that it’s okay for work to be […]

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Ask a Manager in the media

Here’s a round-up of Ask a Manager in the media recently, in case you’re interested in checking any of this out: * I talked to the New York Times about why office friendships can feel so awkward (this piece was written by Melissa Dahl, author of the wonderful Cringeworthy) * Fast Company listed the new […]

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office kitchen wars, finding a good internship, and more

I recorded a piece for the BBC about office kitchen wars — why office kitchens are always so filthy, and the scourge of people stealing their coworkers’ food. It’s three minutes long and you can listen here. Also, I was on Marketplace this weekend, talking about summer internships, including what to do if you have an absentee manager […]

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