media appearances

your bad boss can haunt you even after you leave

Have you ever worked for a terrible manager, and been relieved to move on to a new and better job? I recorded a piece for the BBC arguing that you might not be fully leaving that bad boss behind as much as you think you are — because you might be taking bad habits and dysfunctional […]

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Ask a Manager in the media

Here’s some coverage of Ask a Manager in the media recently: I’m in Parade Magazine talking about the best way to ask for a raise. I’m in the Oprah Magazine talking about what to do if you hate your boss. I did a Q&A with the New York Times about crying at work. I talked to […]

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passive-aggressive notes at work

Take a look around any office, and you’re likely to find at least one passive-aggressive note. It might be the note someone taped above the kitchen sink, reminding you not to leave dirty dishes around, or it might be  the exasperated note on the copier, sternly reminding you to refill the paper tray rather than […]

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the weird world of writing an advice column

Over at Buzzfeed today, I joined Daniel Ortberg of Dear Prudence, Jolie Kerr of Ask a Clean Person, Jennifer Peepas of Captain Awkward, Nicole Cliffe of Care and Feeding, and Harris O’Malley of Dr. Nerdlove in a roundtable about writing advice columns. We talked about weird letters, whether we give advice to family/friends, how to get […]

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me, talking about burn-out

I’m on the Stuff Mom Never Told You podcast this week, talking about burn-out — how to recognize burn-out, what to do if you’re burned out, my own experiences with burn-out, why it might be different for women, and more. The episode is 52 minutes long and you can listen here.

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why don’t companies give managers more training?

Would you ever hire an accountant with no bookkeeping training? How about a doctor who hadn’t been to medical school? We tend to agree that most skilled jobs require some amount of formal training – and yet for one of the jobs that is most key to companies’ success, we frequently throw people in with […]

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you need to ask for more money

When’s the last time you asked for a raise at your job, or negotiated a higher salary when taking a new job? If you’re like a surprising number of people, the answer is never. I’m frequently startled by how many people confess to me that they’ve never asked an employer for more money. They just […]

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what is going on with hugging at work?

You’re greeting a colleague who you haven’t seen in a while – and suddenly, without warning, they’re enthusiastically opening their arms and going in for a hug. Whatever happened to the simple handshake at work? Hugging used to be reserved for close family and friends, but it’s been infiltrating professional contexts for a while now, […]

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team-building events are weird and not very useful

I recorded a piece for the BBC about team-building events: how bizarre and ineffective they can be, and why employers often schedule them without putting real thought into how they’ll produce better results … or even use them as a substitute for more meaningful work on communication or cooperation issues. (And it includes some of the […]

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