miscellaneous

how to ask for more vacation time

It will come as a surprise to exactly no one that Americans don’t get enough vacation time from their employers. The average American worker in private industry gets only 11 paid vacation days after a year of employment (plus, generally, federal holidays and paid sick leave). That’s awfully stingy compared to how much leave workers […]

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am I just a sympathy hire with no real skills?

A reader writes: I am in my late 20’s and have had what some may consider a “tough” life. I’ve overcome a few obstacles (think addiction, gang violence, prison, broken family, homelessness, etc.). A big part of my personal life involves using public platforms to share my story. Before I turned my life around, I […]

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my favorite posts of 2023

Here are my favorite posts of 2023, in no particular order: 1. My employee doesn’t think we’re doing enough about bears at work Because of bears. 2. Someone or something is deleting our work emails Because of the mystery. 3. My coworker and I attend the same sex club Because I adore this sort of […]

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most popular posts of 2023

Here are the posts that interested people the most in 2023, via two lists: the most viewed posts and the most commented on posts. Most viewed posts of 2023: 10. I supervise a manager who falsified an employee write-up … but I don’t think she should be fired 9. I resent my employee for being […]

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the best office holiday party date story of all time

There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back throughout the day. A couple of years ago, someone shared what I consider to be the best holiday date story of all time, and it must be shared here again. Enjoy: When I was fresh out of college, a dude in my […]

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all of my 2023 book recommendations

All year long, I’ve made a weekly book recommendation when kicking off the weekend open thread. These aren’t work-related books; they’re just books I like, mostly fiction. Sometimes they’re books that I’m in the middle of reading, and other times they’re just long-standing favorites. Here’s the complete list of what I’ve recommended this year (maybe […]

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“I will confront you by Wednesday of this week”

There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back throughout the day. Several years ago, a reader shared with us this epic email that was sent by their company’s boss after a holiday party gone terribly awry, and as we enter the holiday season we remember its glory. “This happened about […]

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the schedule for updates this year

Welcome to “where are you now?” season at Ask a Manager! Between now and the end of the year, I’ll be running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. A heads-up about update season: for the next few weeks I’ll be posting at midnight, 11 am, 12:30 pm, 2 pm, […]

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