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interview with an office admin in the adult industry

I recently started talking with someone on Twitter who sent me an amusing story about her work in the adult industry, and I of course had more questions I wanted answered so she kindly agreed to let me interview her, and here’s our conversation. (She also comments here as Carrie Oakie.) Tell us a little […]

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where are you now? (a call for updates)

At the end of each year, I publish a slew of “where are they now” updates from people whose questions I answered here in the past. In past years we’ve had several hundred each December and it was amazing (and has let me take most of the month off, so thank you). If you’ve had your […]

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my employee accused me of favoring her coworker

A reader writes: I recently expanded my team from one direct report to two. “Tammy,” my original staffer, is proficient but not great and can get confused by complicated projects. “Carrie,” the new hire, is still learning but is a superstar. She picks up on nuances of projects that Tammy misses, even though Tammy has […]

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how do I know when it’s time to give up on a promotion?

A reader writes: I work as an analyst in a highly technical field and have been at my place of employment for six years, with three different internal jobs that have been escalating in terms of responsibility, technical difficulty, and pay. Last year, there was an opening for a team lead that has responsibility for […]

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my employee is needy and gossipy

A reader writes: I work for a small company that’s very fast-paced. I have two reports in admin roles, Amelia and Molly. They were hired at the same time about five months ago and work in the same office (literally one room — we’re looking for a bigger space) in a different state from me […]

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