A reader writes:
I’ve had two phone interviews with a company, then went in for an interview loop and interviewed with five different people. I heard from my recruiter today, and the fifth person I met with, the hiring manager, wants me to come in to meet with her again (we were a little rushed the first time), as well as meet with someone else on the team.
Would it be appropriate for me to contact the fourth interviewer from my first loop, to give me some pointers on what I can do better this time around? While she was taking me to meet with the hiring manager, she stopped me and told me how much she liked me, and gave me a couple tips, so I feel like it wouldn’t be completely weird to ask her for help.
What do you think? Would this be wildly inappropriate?
I don’t think you should contact her for “help” or pointers — she’s presumably interested in hiring the best person for the job, rather helping one particular candidate. It’s one thing for her to have said to you, “By the way, Joe really loves X, so you might make sure he knows the extent of your experience in that” or whatever type of spur of the moment tips she offered you in your interview, but you seeking her out to ask for pointers for the next round is a bit different. It potentially feels a little icky; you risk coming across as trying to sell your way into the job (rather than earning it on the merits of being the best candidate) and/or making her feel you’ve put her in an awkward position.
However, you could definitely email her to thank her for her time, reiterate your interest in the job, and tell her that you’d love any feedback she’s able to offer. You never know — she might take you up on that. Or she might not — but you won’t be taking as much of a risk by wording it this way. Good luck!