my boss said I looked “unprofessional” when I wore a binder to work by Alison Green on October 22, 2024 A reader writes: I have a question about a point that is now, thankfully, moot. My previous manager, Rufus, wasn’t an especially ethical individual and failed to fulfill many of his expected duties. He was also kind of a creep. We all just put up with his unsavory and unprofessional comments, and occasionally pushed back […] Read the full article →
the company I want to work for employs a guy who’s abusive to women on dating apps by Alison Green on October 16, 2024 A reader writes: I have a tricky situation involving prior sexual harassment/creepy behavior by a potential future coworker at a job I’m applying for. A year ago, I matched with a man on a dating app who works in my (very small) field. The conversation was pleasant but we never met up and eventually lost […] Read the full article →
new manager is angry that I’m pregnant by Alison Green on October 15, 2024 A reader writes: I’ve just gone through a long interview process for a job I was referred to a while back. I have not been actively applying for jobs because I am pregnant but this one came to me. During the process, I realized this is the best job I’ve ever been considered for — […] Read the full article →
my dad is dating my boss, and they want me to go to couples therapy with them by Alison Green on September 30, 2024 I’m off for a few days, so here’s an older post from the archives. This was originally published in 2018. A reader writes: My dad started dating this woman (Jill) about two years ago, after he and my stepmom amicably divorced. As this was going on, I graduated from grad school, ended my student internship, […] Read the full article →
LinkedIn is sharing your data with AI — unless you tell it not to by Alison Green on September 25, 2024 LinkedIn has a new practice of sharing your personal data to train AI — unless you specifically opt out. That includes your profile, your posts, and your videos. Without announcing it, LinkedIn apparently added a new data privacy setting last week that covers this, and they turned it on for everyone. If you want to […] Read the full article →
my coworker asked out a coworker, got turned down, and now won’t stop badmouthing her by Alison Green on July 2, 2024 A reader writes: I have a group of coworkers who I am rather friendly with. About a year ago, one of the members of this group (Josh) developed a crush on another employee who is not part of our social circle (Tiffany). Eventually he asked her out, but she declined. Josh was outwardly calm and […] Read the full article →
my coworker is spreading a rumor that I have bulimia by Alison Green on March 27, 2024 A reader writes: I really need some unbiased advice here as I am really struggling with a situation at my job but at the same time love my position and don’t want to leave. I’ve been at my current job for just over two years. Initially, I really enjoyed my job and my coworkers, but […] Read the full article →
a coworker is harassing my neighbor (who is having chemo) by Alison Green on February 12, 2024 A reader writes: I live in a high-rise condo complex and work for a prominent and large (10,000+ employee) healthcare system. My condo complex has a listserv that gets sent to the 1,000 or so residents — unfortunately with very little moderation. Over the past few months, but particularly today, somebody who works at my […] Read the full article →
an employee is out to get my star performer, and no one else cares by Alison Green on February 6, 2024 A reader writes: I manage Tina, who is a genius. She’s fresh from school but has already saved our department tens of thousands. We acquired a few failed companies and Tina dove in, learned all their systems, and automated the pulling of data in a week. This saved us hundreds of hours in training and […] Read the full article →
men are hitting on my scheduling bot because it has a woman’s name by Alison Green on January 8, 2024 A reader writes: I have sort of a strange situation. I provide consulting services for (mostly) small business owners. This generally involves scheduling some meetings, and I have an email “Personal Assistant” bot that does this for me. It has a female name (which was the default), and does not announce that it is a […] Read the full article →