advice about your boss

my boss talks about her kids non-stop

A reader writes: I love my boss, Lizzie; she’s creative, cheerful, smart and a good manager. She helps me develop (I’m one of two second-in-commands) and manages problem staff effectively. She’s also very self-aware and always open to feedback. She has one tiny thing that I think holds her back: she talks about her children […]

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my boss is having sex in the office

A reader writes: My first job out of college started as a dream: a hip tech startup in Los Angeles with a majority female team and an express mission of empowering women on social media. Now that I’ve been here almost a year, the cracks are starting to show, specifically with my boss. She’s C-level, […]

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is it OK to take vacations and share clothes with your boss?

At Slate today, I wrote about managers who try to be BFFs with their employees … raising concerns about favoritism and objectivity, sometimes pushing for more intimacy than their employees want, and generally overstepping boundaries. There are stories about a manager who took expensive spa vacations with an employee, a boss who regularly broke into tears while […]

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can I ask my boss to calm down?

A reader writes: Is it ever okay to ask your boss to calm down? Recently I made a medium-sized, careless error at work. When my boss’s boss confronted me about it, I owned up to my mistake and apologized, but she proceeded to pull me into her office and — no exaggeration — literally scream […]

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is it better to love my job or love the money?

Per Thursday tradition, I’m throwing this letter out to readers to weigh in on: I’m a writer, and I like what I do. I know how lucky I am to be in a job that many others would kill for. And I’m alright at it, I guess. I’ve written for some good UK publications. But […]

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my boss yells and is abusive

A reader writes: My boss is brilliant at most parts of her job. She’s climbed the ladder in a very male-dominated industry and is a strategic thinker. However, I’ve been in my job for a year and a half, and her aggressive attitude is taking a toll on me. Often she shouts at me (and […]

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how can I avoid my boss on social media?

A reader writes: My manager has added/requested to follow me on nearly every social media channel on which she can find me, including Instagram and Snapchat. It just irks me to be constantly “in her presence” when not at work. She is a micromanager and requires lots of check-ins as it is, and I need […]

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is it weird to start dressing like my boss?

A reader writes: Tl;dr – Is it weird to want to dress more like my boss (and do you think she’ll notice if I do?) Okay, basically I’m so lucky in my current job. I’m a quality manager at the lowest level of management in my organization, but I love my job, I love my […]

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