advice about your boss

Need advice about your boss? Here are answers to all the questions you have about your manager, from how to deal with a boss who yells, to how to tell your manager you’re allergic to her perfume.

my boss keeps asking if I’m OK

A reader writes: My manager is overall a decent boss, and is reasonable and kind. However she has this one habit that has started to eat away at me. She constantly asks if I am okay. Even typing this, it seems so inane/nice, but it is a pattern that is wearing me down. A couple […]

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my boss renegotiated my new job’s start date behind my back

A reader writes: I’ve just given notice to leave a job that I love because my manager has become intolerable. I’ll spare you the details, but for context, this manager (let’s call them B) has a negative reputation in the company and the two previous departures from my team have cited abuse from B as […]

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my boss wants a “guide to getting the best out of me”

A reader writes: My boss, the head of a foundation with 10-15 employees, switches up annual review questions each year. The past three years, the questions have been reflective and mostly for staff’s benefit, according to him, and which I mostly experience as true. This year, there were three short reflective questions and then a […]

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how can I get what I need from my flaky boss?

A reader writes: I graduated from college last year and since then I’ve been working at my first full-time job. I am in a client-facing role at a small-ish nonprofit, and mostly I love it. Lately, though, I’ve been having some issues with my boss, Gillian. She has always been kind, open, and accommodating; in […]

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my boss is trying to “quiet fire” me — can I just ignore it?

A reader writes: I have worked for a tiny company in a managerial position for close to 15 years. Over the past few years, the owner/boss has made a consistent series of stunningly bad business decisions that has led from an environment of “high achieving lunacy” to “wow, quite dysfunctional” to “flaming dumpster fire of […]

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