work habits

can I read erotica on work breaks?

A reader writes: I came across the discussions of porn at work earlier this year, which got me questioning something I do. I tend to read romance novels and explicit stories from online repositories on my personal phone when I have spare moments, such as on a scheduled break. Other than AAM, this is my […]

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how to be successful without hurting men’s feelings

The following is an excerpt from Sarah Cooper’s brand new book, How to Be Successful Without Hurting Men’s Feelings: Non-threatening Leadership Strategies for Women, which is hilarious and wonderful and will make you laugh while also making you dig your fingernails into yourself painfully because of how true it is. You should buy this book. (Text […]

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how much grooming do I really need to do?

A reader writes; I am a 30-year-old feminist raised by hippies. I’m in a reasonably mainstream field that is fairly male-dominated. With lots of work over many years, I am now competent at basic hygiene and professional dress, mostly. I can do business clothes of any level. I shave my pits and any leg anyone […]

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I’m the smelly coworker

A reader writes: You’ve had several letters about how to tell a coworker or subordinate that they have noticeable odor. Well, yesterday I was on the receiving end of that conversation. My manager told me that multiple people have mentioned it to her, and she has noticed it as well. I’m mortified. I shower every […]

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how do I get over losing out on a promotion?

A reader writes: I’m struggling to deal with my emotions after my teammate was chosen for a promotion ahead of me, and I was given vague feedback. I’ve worked for my company for two years. I’m on a team of two, and recently we both interviewed to become the lead of our team, because our […]

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how can I brace myself for my toxic new job?

A reader writes: After searching for over three months, I finally received a job offer. I accepted and will start in a week. While I am happy to have the offer and will take the job, I am a little wary. Since accepting the offer and letting a few friends and family members know I […]

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