networking

Ugh, networking. It’s actually not as terrible as you think. Mostly.

the problem with “can I pick your brain?”

I was on Marketplace Morning this week talking about the problems with asking someone if you can “pick their brain.” (The short version: It’s vague and doesn’t explain what you’re really looking for, and the people you want to ask are often inundated with similar requests.) We talked why people ask this, better ways to […]

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I don’t want to help horrible networkers

A reader writes: I’ve been in my industry for eight years now. From the outside, it’s a very cool area to work in (and mostly it is…) and it’s definitely more on the map as a career path than it was when I started. Lots of grads are very interested in a job like mine, […]

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what conversation starters can I use at industry events?

It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: My industry requires me to go to a lot of events, especially when travelling. I work in sales so it is expected that I’ll use my time to mingle with people and build relationships. The trouble is that I have NO IDEA TO WHAT TO […]

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do I have to help someone I can’t stand?

A reader writes: “Monica” is a few years younger than me and is a friend of my parents through a church community. Smply put, she irks the heck out of me. There are a number of little things that she does that get under my skin, so I just try to avoid her in my […]

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should I pay a fee for a networking meeting?

A reader writes: Is it normal for someone to charge a client for a networking meeting? I’m in the process of looking for a new job and setting up informational interviews with professionals in my field. I emailed back and forth with one woman trying to set a time to meet, but kept getting responses […]

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can I turn down a networking request?

A reader writes: I am three months into a great job at a huge organization in my field. A friend and former manager who helped me get the job (my first out of college) just reached out to me with a friend of hers who is trying to set up informational interviews for when she’s […]

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we have a plague of overly aggressive networkers

There are people who get legitimately excited about the prospect of broadening their professional circle—and then there are the rest of us, who shudder and blanche when we contemplate “networking.” Part of the reason for this visceral unease is the scourge of overly aggressive networkers: those people who, once encountered, loom large in our memories […]

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