advice about your coworkers

I’m distracted by my coworker’s very visible cleavage

A reader writes: I am a straight, married, mid-thirties male. I work in a small company with a super-casual dress code — shorts and flip flops are regular wear during the summers for a lot of people. I interact on a daily basis with a married female coworker who semi-regularly wears shirts that go beyond […]

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I don’t want to fist-bump my coworker multiple times a day

A reader writes: This seems so petty and insignificant in the grand scheme of things but it’s bugging me and I’m not sure how to handle it. Fergus is my peer and we have the same title and work in the same department. Broadly speaking, we’re supervisors in customer service. Part of our job involves […]

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my coworker writes a mean blog about me

A reader writes: I have a work colleague we’ll call J. We I sit next to each other and have been friendly the entire time we worked together. She has told me about things in her personal life and I’ve shared the same type of stuff with her. A couple days ago, J showed me […]

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my coworker is always dieting — do we have to accommodate her?

A reader writes: I have seen you suggest responses for accommodating coworkers with dietary restrictions due to health or religious needs, but what about coworkers who CHOOSE to go on diets? I have a coworker that has been willingly doing the Keto diet for the last year, and she still is insufferable about it. Anytime […]

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I joked about a coworker’s slowness — and he overheard

A reader writes: I am the first-level manager of a small group of about half a dozen people. I sometimes work with non-management-level staff outside my group, one of whom is an exceedingly capable, but highly idiosyncratic, person, “Karl.” He is very focused on any work that he does, and will go far above and […]

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my coworkers love talking about murder

A reader writes: I have a weird problem and I don’t know what to do. A group of my coworkers loves discussing murder. Like, they love it. True crime is their favorite form of entertainment. They spend long periods talking about the gruesome details of their “favorite” crimes. (Yes, they have referred to certain rapes, […]

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