the person who’s supposed to train me belittles me when I have questions by Alison Green on July 24, 2024 A reader writes: I’m learning the ropes in a new job, and there are lots of things that are very difficult to figure out by yourself. That’s expected though, and I am supposed to ask Lawrence for help. Lawrence has been with the company for several years now, but we hold the same job title […] Read the full article →
how to tell coworkers, “that’s not my job” by Alison Green on July 22, 2024 A reader writes: I have been employed with my agency for five years. Six months ago, I was promoted, but no one was hired to take over my old job. Some duties have remained with me and others were transferred to other people, primarily a great support person named Robin. We has communicated with the […] Read the full article →
I’m attending a conference with a dude who won’t talk to me by Alison Green on July 17, 2024 A reader writes: I work in a niche role in a slightly less niche industry. At the beginning of the year, my boss (Jules) informed us that a new role was opening up on the team — team coordinator. The new role would be responsible for managing the day-to-day workload for the team, freeing Jules […] Read the full article →
I took a job with less responsibility — and my coworkers treat me like I have no experience by Alison Green on July 16, 2024 A reader writes: I was a stay-at-home-mom for a good 10 years, and have recently started working for other people again. I have been taking entry-level positions, because I’ve been out of the workforce for a decade and also because my kids are still kind of young and I can’t handle the additional responsibility. I’m […] Read the full article →
my coworker with OCD wants to control how I do everything by Alison Green on July 16, 2024 A reader writes: I have a coworker — let’s call him Sergeant Duke — who is a pretty nice guy. We’re in the military, are the same rank, and have a similar level of experience. Aside from a personality clash with one other coworker, Sergeant Duke gets along with everyone, is good at his job, […] Read the full article →
an industry colleague is lying to me about a dispute we had years ago by Alison Green on July 10, 2024 A reader writes: Six years ago, I was vice president of the board of a national advocacy body (Org A) that had a long-standing, mostly good, relationship with another national advocacy body (Org B). The two organizations had some commonalities but also quite well defined swim lanes. While I was VP for Org A, Elsa […] Read the full article →
my coworker won’t speak to female customers if they’re with a man by Alison Green on July 9, 2024 A reader writes: I work in retail currently, after decades of doing something else. I’ve been doing this for about a year, and I’m finally becoming comfortable in the role. We have a lot of regulars, and some of them are couples or families who always come in together as a group. I’ve noticed that […] Read the full article →
my coworker REALLY doesn’t like me by Alison Green on July 8, 2024 A reader writes: I work in a small office (less than 15 of us). There’s pretty low turnover so most of us have been around for at least a year, most of us more. I have one coworker, Paige, who is great at her job and really personable around everyone … except me. She was […] Read the full article →
my coworker disrupts meetings and explodes or freezes us out if she’s angry by Alison Green on July 2, 2024 A reader writes: I work on a four-person core team, and we have a standing weekly meeting that is required of every team in our organization. We are all of equal standing and all have at least a decade of experience in our field. Occasionally a supervisor will come to these meetings, but often it’s […] Read the full article →
my coworker asked out a coworker, got turned down, and now won’t stop badmouthing her by Alison Green on July 2, 2024 A reader writes: I have a group of coworkers who I am rather friendly with. About a year ago, one of the members of this group (Josh) developed a crush on another employee who is not part of our social circle (Tiffany). Eventually he asked her out, but she declined. Josh was outwardly calm and […] Read the full article →