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You can find posts from 2018 below, or find earlier years here: 2017 2016 2015 2014 2013 2012 2011 2010 2009 2008 2007 2018 January February March April May June July July 2018 I’m being thanked way too much, I get mis-gendered on the phone, and more my coworker keeps interrupting me in person rather than emailing, despite my many requests will my employee be demoralized by a coworker’s promotion? ask the readers: how do I get people to remember me? organizing an all-men beach weekend for coworkers, is gossip beneficial at work, and more my employee works late every night, but it seems to be her fault how to manage an overly talkative intern update: my intern is refusing assignments because of her politics is it okay to write someone’s cover letter for them, a mysterious fragrance, and more how much do I need to alter my own schedule for a job interview? should I use a job offer to get a raise at my current job? my child-free coworkers constantly complain about people with children coworker wants a bigger retirement party than we want to fund, really intense job listings, and more can I nap on my break? should I go around HR and contact the hiring manager directly? my coworker dumps emotions all over us and wants to be coddled my boss wants a team outing to a gun range, employer wants to discuss my “hot mess” cover letter, and more weekend free-for-all – July 14-15, 2018 record a question for the Ask a Manager podcast open thread – July 13-14, 2018 how confidential are job searches, I’m the office nail trimmer, and more interviewer wants me to write a fake performance review for my future self my employee says her errors are just “enthusiasm” is it better to love my job or love the money? employee is pushing for a job she’s not qualified for, my boss sent me a job posting from another organization, and more I don’t have enough work for my employees and it’s stressing me out the lazy coworker — with Han and Matt Know It All my coworker rejects any ideas that aren’t her own, then suggests them herself asking to work from home when it’s really hot out, happy hour hurt feelings, and more you don’t need to follow your dreams how to quit your job my intern is refusing assignments because of her politics asking for a chance to process things before responding, taking a two-month vacation at a new job, and more how can I dress professionally in horrible summer heat? is it okay to say “no” at work? my boss kept calling my wife to find me .. and now he won’t stop texting her apologies for all the calls how can I get my coworkers to chip in for snacks, everyone but me is going on a business trip, and more weekend free-for-all – July 7-8, 2018 open thread – July 6-7, 2018 how can I give back work I regret taking on, coming to work while recovering from a chemical peel, and more my coworker was a jerk to me and now I want to stop being friendly at work what should your tone sound like when you’re the boss? ask the readers: my husband is awful at job searching – and gets cranky when he needs to my vendor laid off my mom, leaving early every day in an internship, and more 4th of July open thread everyone in my office works while they’re on vacation my boss yells and is abusive my coworker tries to guilt-trip people should I give my boss a heads-up about my half-sleeve tattoo, I cried on a client call, and more how to tell an assistant “don’t tell me the process — just fix it!” negotiating more time off, sharing trip photos, and other questions about vacation my coworkers won’t speak up about problems did this goodbye email overstep, problematic volunteer events, and more June 2018 weekend free-for-all – June 30-July 1, 2018 Ask a Manager in the media open thread – June 29-30, 2018 should HR reveal an employee is planning to quit, boss lets us leave early but it’s a secret, and more our summer intern won’t use first names I got embarrassingly drunk at a work event ask the readers: what have you seen go wrong while living or traveling with coworkers? my manager bombards me with email, coworker takes too much food at meetings, and more should I be this emotionally drained by managing? how to deal with an angry, disruptive coworker my employees eavesdropped on my private conversation and gossiped about it my mom is my HR manager and it’s not good, I walked in on my boss crying, and more I like talking crap about my coworkers on chat at work — will my manager find out? how to write a thank-you note after a job interview how can I stop my office’s “I’m sorry” culture? coworker is picky about restaurants when we eat out, can I bring coffee to a job interview, and more my mom wants to come with me to a professional conference and isn’t taking no for an answer why do so many adults want to leave anonymous notes for their coworkers? my employee gets stressed and frustrated and snaps at me I’ve found your new personal shopper problem employee or youthful hijinks, music in a shared hotel room, and more weekend free-for-all – June 23-24, 2018 I want my coworkers to stop venting to me open thread – June 22-23, 2018 our remote staff want the same perks we have at the office, crappy LinkedIn tips, and more can I go barefoot at work? updates: the soda policer, the person who slept through a day of work, and more how do you deal with freelancer terror? my friend might get fired, coworker spoke for the group without checking with us, and more when I asked for a raise, my boss said I was ungrateful and threw a tantrum the clingy coworker — and the return of the Ask a Manager podcast my employee isn’t respected by his coworkers — what can I do? I was rejected for a job I was qualified for, a coworker in a beach cover-up, and more how do I handle changing my name and job because of a stalker? how can I avoid my boss on social media? my coworker never stops talking — and I mean NEVER my boss reminds me to do basic tasks, should I stand up when my manager comes to my desk, and more people keep sending me job postings that are way below my skill level I showed up for an interview on the wrong day my boss wants us to all share our mental health needs – at every meeting employer will only reimburse travel if I accept their offer, tired of covering for a slacking coworker, and more weekend free-for-all – June 16-17, 2018 open thread – June 15-16, 2018 my boss won’t let me give my staff feedback in case it hurts their feelings, and more an employer told me I was their back-up candidate in case their first choice didn’t work out my coworker keeps pushing junk food on me ask the readers: should I talk to my employee about her sex offender boyfriend? hiring a candidate with controversial political views, my boss doesn’t like it when women curse, and more how can I hire good candidates to work in a dysfunctional environment? it is okay to clip your nails at work? I’m ashamed of my past behavior at work — do I need to change fields? my coworker owes me money and won’t pay it back, my coworker’s panic attacks are affecting my work, and more I google my coworkers — is that weird? how to write a resume that doesn’t suck is it weird to start dressing like my boss? calling out offensive comments about mental health, coworker asks me to do her admin work, and more my coworker interrupts my work to ask why I look so serious how bad jobs warp your sense of what’s normal our coworker has filled the office fridge with old, moldy food and refuses to toss it intern candidate told me I’m “not with the times,” senior managers are unprepared for meetings, and more weekend free-for-all – June 9-10, 2018 open thread – June 8-9, 2018 I resent my coworkers for having full-time work, rejecting a job applicant for being rude, and more what’s up with job ads that include “sense of humor”? the new Ask a Manager book is an audiobook too! ask the readers: should I date my boss’s daughter? the “office couple” decided to swap jobs, declining the lunch portion of an interview, and more I don’t want to tell my boundary-violating boss I’m pregnant my top employee constantly texts and surfs the web my coworkers keep trying to find out what my chronic illness is my boss keeps rotting food in our shared office, my performance review mentioned that I pee a lot, and more someone spends an hour a day putting on makeup in our shared bathroom my coworker’s kid disrupts our office every day why do managers say they want feedback and then get annoyed when they get it? coworker is secretly taking photos of dress code violations, manager misses early-morning meetings, and more update: my boss wants to give me his kidney — but I don’t want it office kitchen wars, finding a good internship, and more my coworker follows up on projects way too much having a coworker walk my dog, interviewer asked what I’ve handled poorly in my personal life, and more weekend free-for-all – June 2-3, 2018 open thread – June 1-2, 2018 my boss uses a human skeleton as office decor, declining an awards dinner, and more May 2018 can I wear a backpack with a suit? update: my boss is being a jerk about my gym time my coworker keeps demanding I say “please” I had a fling with my boss’s son; pink, scented resumes; and more my coworker has started faking a British accent can I ask if a coworker will be fired? can I tell a recruiter how rude it was to ghost me after my interview? an affair is causing drama at work, video thank-you notes, and more when I tried to negotiate, employer told me to decline the offer first how to write a great cover letter why do so many parents give terrible work advice to their kids? how to convince my boss I need an assistant, mozzarella mayhem, and more how to take feedback gracefully, without getting defensive questioning an employee about how sick they really are, a sugar-stealing coworker, and more weekend free-for-all – May 26-27, 2018 Ask a Manager in the media open thread – May 25-26, 2018 can I ask my company to pay for a cat sitter when I travel, my coworker calls me “honey bunny,” and more update: my mother is a destructive force in my professional life updates: the website delusions of grandeur, the pushy gym trainer, and more do I need to have a better sense of humor at work? I’ve been crying in front of my boss, are phone rejections more respectful, and more can you contact a hiring manager with questions before applying for a job? what’s the best day of the week to apply for a job? what to say if an interviewer asks about your favorite books or movies can I ask a new hire to use a nickname, manager asks for money for food and gas, and more update: I’m about to go on medical leave, but I’m also hoping to take my long-delayed honeymoon how does your job interviewer find out what you’re really like? my boss wants to give me his kidney — but I don’t want it coworker uses icebreakers in every meeting, is it wrong to fake enthusiasm in a job interview, and more what to do if you hate your job come see me in NYC on Tuesday night my boss’s dog keeps attacking my coworkers I’m sick of being the office printer lady new hire wants to print everything, how can I make myself look less qualified, and more weekend free-for-all – May 19-20, 2018 open thread – May 18-19, 2018 sharing an office when people are fasting, IT remotely accessed my laptop when I asked them not to, and more my contact won’t stop pressuring me to volunteer while I’m on medical leave 13 actually effective ways to handle difficult/awful/frustrating coworkers the 18-month coffee debate, and other stories of office coffee wars my noisy coworker won’t mute himself on conference calls, checking references after someone’s hired, and more my boss has delusions of grandeur about our website — do I have to burst his bubble? when the job you’re interviewing for keeps changing how can I stop panicking every day that I might get fired? Blue Apron got me to eat raisins in pasta coworker interrupts conversations, accepting a beverage at a meeting if no one else does, and more my daughter refuses to tell interviewers why she left her last job my boss got fired and won’t leave me alone I’m about to go on medical leave, but I’m also hoping to take my long-delayed honeymoon my boss gave all the women flowers for Mother’s Day, I was demoted because of a horrific act by my employee, and more I won money on a work trip to Vegas – do I have to donate it to my employer? is it normal to get incredibly nervous about telling your boss you’re quitting? should I take more maternity leave than I want to “set a good example” for other women in my organization? I’m supposed to do a 90-minute presentation at an interview, no one at work acknowledges my life events, and more some things about my mom weekend free-for-all – May 12-13, 2018 open thread – May 11-12, 2018 vendor hugs everyone, sharing interview questions ahead of time, and more do I really need to stay at work late to “show dedication”? update: my position is being renewed, but my manager isn’t considering me for it love letters as writing samples, the candidate who spoke Pirate, and other tales of amazing resumes husband wants me to travel on his work trips for support, withdrawing an application over low salary, and more a consultant complains about our off-site meetings but doesn’t want to skip them buy the new Ask a Manager book for your team my dad is dating my boss, and they want me to go to couples therapy with them my boss thinks my salary is too high, bringing a boyfriend to the company picnic, and more is it rude to write “ASAP” in an email? everything you need to know about maternity leave in the U.S. what happens if I get hired at a dog-friendly company when I’m allergic to dogs? unlimited time off, I don’t want to talk about my vacation, and more when writing to a hiring manager, should I mention a shared hobby? I gossiped and now my coworker doesn’t trust me my boss is being a jerk about my gym time my boss doesn’t want my husband to visit on a work trip, employee is too rushed in the morning, and more weekend free-for-all – May 5-6, 2018 open thread – May 4-5, 2018 employer would require us to live in their city, when an ex harasses you at work, and more can I ask my manager to coach me on being more professional? update: I don’t want to eat or travel alone with people of the opposite sex ask the readers: do I tell my oblivious colleague why he’s not working as much as he’d like? my mentor keeps delaying our meetings, can I ask coworkers to use deodorant, and more Ask a Manager on Buzzfeed, Ask a Clean Person, and more my boss keeps assigning my work to other people my boss follows me into the bathroom to talk about work my boss killed my plant, CEO wants everyone to donate their pay back to the organization, and more how can I stop showing off at work? exactly what to say in 10 tricky job interview conversations the Ask a Manager book is now on sale — let’s discuss it! coworkers use me as tech support, coworker is demanding thank-you rewards, and more April 2018 me talking about my new book, recent letters, children’s books, and more we have a plague of overly aggressive networkers my boss discourages us from using our health insurance a client is trying to rope me into a MLM, receptionist says we can’t email her during her vacation, and more weekend free-for-all – April 28-29, 2018 open thread – April 27-28, 2018 my coworker has a podcast about sex, I declined a promotion then changed my mind, and more how to deal with a client who’s always late or no-shows update: I’m competing for a promotion against a coworker who outdoes me how quickly should I respond to interview invitations? candidate said she’d relocate but then backtracked, employee plays with her hair in meetings, and more we need to end Secretaries Day what your tone should sound like in tricky work conversations is it okay to blindside your boss when quitting? who pays for coffee, combining an interview and a trip, and more get your signed copy of the new Ask a Manager book now my coworker won’t stop complaining about work my boss pressures me to take sick leave, but I can’t afford to my boss is super excited about The Voice, coworkers are late with edits every week, and more my coworker abuses our office IM program I don’t want to spend a week in a remote cabin with coworkers while I’m pregnant I don’t want to have a boss I don’t want to take 2 weeks off, coworker has a “food emergency” every other day, and more weekend free-for-all – April 21-22, 2018 open thread – April 20-21, 2018 should I create an Instagram for my dog to make me stand out to interviewers, and more company offered me a job, then yanked the offer, then re-listed the position my employee is snarky and rude bitterly fought office coffee wars: share your stories I branched out at work and was criticized for it, boss wants me to follow up on everything with emails, and more my employee helped a fired coworker get a job with her fiance and lied to me about it what should a salary negotiation sound like? can I show armpit hair at work? employee overstepped with a coworker’s tragedy, boss told me to change my ringtone, and more can I show annoyance with a terrible job offer that I don’t plan to take? am I being ageist toward my older employee? my boss won’t stop posting fake news and false memes on our company Facebook my boss keeps trying to use my car, coworker says I need a makeover, and more get a signed copy of the new Ask a Manager book the power dynamics in job interviews will mess you up how can I stop people from stealing my food in the office fridge? misbehaving coworker doesn’t know I’m about to be his boss, communal microwave is on my desk, and more weekend free-for-all – April 14-15, 2018 open thread – April 13-14, 2018 do good jobs ever leave room for outside artistic pursuits, coffee wars, and more my boss approved a long vacation for me — but we can’t agree on the dates where’s the promotion I was promised months ago? are two-hour commutes normal? I got in trouble because my coworker saw maxi pads in my car, and more can I ask for a higher salary if I agreed to a lower range at the start of the interview process? am I a mansplainer? I shared a room with a coworker on a work trip, and their respirator kept me awake all week a 3-day camping trip for work, taking time off after a break-up, and more are senior execs too busy for spelling and grammar? how to ask for a raise my brother broke up with our coworker, it’s causing drama, and I want to intervene my coworker’s constant emergencies mess up my work, office weight loss competition, and more do I have an obligation to tell my bosses about my substance abuse problem? my employee keeps calling in sick right before and after the weekend I’m frustrated that my employee didn’t want the post-baby flexibility I arranged for her my boss is super peppy, HR told me to do less for our charity event, and more weekend free-for-all – April 7-8, 2018 open thread – April 6-7, 2018 the new Ask a Manager book… work retreats over the weekend, my secretary stopped talking to me after she found out I’m queer, and more what to say when employees ask “am I in trouble?” 4 updates from letter-writers (the parking pass, the acne, and more) when attempts to recognize employees go horribly wrong: stuffed bears, birthday snubs, and more some podcast bonus content intervening with a bullying coworker, my colleague runs a snack shop from her desk, and more my employee is combative and rude — how could I have prevented this? I talked with Captain Awkward on the Ask a Manager podcast our new hire was secretly working another full-time job and lying to us sharing “emotional scars” as an icebreaker, I broke a desk and injured a coworker, and more why do offices say they’re “fast-paced” when they’re not? a coworker left me an anonymous note … and a pacifier managing an employee with “pregnancy brain” my coworker put pins on my chair, new assistant makes mistakes I have to fix, and more accidentally ending a work call with “love you, bye” and other work questions everyone interrupts me — am I somehow causing this? my coworkers at my toxic former job still vent to me about how bad things are there — and it’s draining my coworker closed her trunk on my arm and didn’t apologize, hiring family, and more March 2018 weekend free-for-all – March 31-April 1, 2018 open thread – March 30-31, 2018 my boss found out I’m living with my parents, required to shave a beard, and more my colleagues and I disagree on whether to hire someone who works for a competitor 4 updates from letter-writers (the personal crisis, the coworker frame-up, and more) what are the strangest things you’ve ever seen on a resume? employee can’t afford our team lunches, a frequently pregnant senior leadership team, and more is it more effective to introduce myself to a company with a cold email rather than apply for a specific opening? do I like bad bosses? my boss keeps doing my job, and I’m worried I’m the problem an affair is causing work drama, I feel slighted by my work anniversary gift, and more how to answer job candidates’ questions about salary when I don’t have a range to provide I’m afraid to show any weakness at work how can I stop resenting my friend who doesn’t have to work? coworker’s expensive wedding registry, how can I help my heartbroken boss, and more can I be paid in comp time instead of overtime pay? I overheard my boss complaining about me I’m being mentored against my will by a dude who’s my peer my coworker keeps cooking for me, colleague tried to steal from a bereavement fund, and more weekend free-for-all – March 24-25, 2018 open thread – March 23-24, 2018 I’m supposed to hide that I was a stay-at-home mom, rude receptionist, and more am I sabotaging my former intern’s job prospects? my office is moving … to my boss’s house knowledge swap! share your expertise with people here coworker calls me his “work wife,” error in my offer letter, and more someone I’ve known for years lied to get me to hire someone terrible she wanted to get rid of I interviewed Gretchen Rubin about happiness and work what to say when your boss is rude to a coworker in front of you boss said she’d give me a great reference but she didn’t, jobs advertised for less than minimum wage, and more I slept through an entire day of work should I point out job applicants’ mistakes to them? my coworker thinks it’s funny to try to scare me client pressured me into buying lingerie, employee thinks “thanks” is positive feedback, and more listing an unfinished novel as a work accomplishment on your resume my coworker is getting credit for my work we give our interns free housing — and there are problems coworker is too aggressive about enforcing rules, colleague selling free stuff from work, and more weekend free-for-all – March 17-18, 2018 open thread – March 16-17, 2018 my old boss still assigns me work, coworker doesn’t wash her hands when leaving the bathroom, and more do I need to give interviewers a great reason for why I’m looking to leave my current job? my boss told me to quit or be fired interview with a nanny for a famous psychic my beloved boss was fired, is curly hair unprofessional, and more will it hurt me to apply for multiple jobs at the same company? my employee works from home too much our employee is taking nude photos in our office and posting them to Facebook my ex won’t leave our company after our break-up, I cried in front of my boss, and more should I work for a tiny organization? I hate the idea of networking — it feels slimy is “secretary” a demeaning title? coworkers talk about childbirth over lunch, employee is abusing candidate referrals, and more what can I say to job candidates who are stalking me outside of work? win a copy of the new Ask a Manager book should being on reality TV disqualify a job candidate? employee insists on leaving at 5 on the dot every day, interviewing with braces, and more weekend free-for-all – March 10-11, 2018 open thread – March 9-10, 2018 whispering coworker, entry-level relocation assistance, and more I turned down a job, and now people are devastated update: my employee accidentally sent a rude message about me … to me my boss told me to be more assertive with difficult customers new coworker thinks she’s my manager, being honest in an exit interview, and more dealing with a horrible, lying director and management that won’t act my coworker leans on us for help way too much how can I get my coworker to stop talking about God? screaming toddler on work calls, telling references their recommended candidate was horrible, and more my boss is annoyed by the flexible schedule she already agreed to I work from home and my mom won’t stop talking to me I’m supposed to sleep in the office when I travel for work free food at work, weird phone call from a recruiter, and more I got a text from my boss during a funeral how can I get out of eating lunch with coworkers? I recommended my sister for a job — and it was a disaster my coworker cries over tiny things, using a nickname at work, and more weekend free-for-all – March 3-4, 2018 can I ask people to put requests in writing, boss asked me not to wear leggings, and more how can you tell if an overqualified applicant is right for the job? my manager is never at work ask the readers: makeup and work letting a former thief make amends, the ego blow of not being interviewed, and more February 2018 is it okay to turn down a job in the middle of the interview? podcast: I’m still training my replacement three months after I left I can’t go on vacation because no temp can meet my boss’s demanding expectations talking to a coworker about a negative colleague, manager was annoyed that I didn’t come in during an ice storm, and more how do I follow up with people who are bad at responding to work emails? my boss is a jerk — how do I deal with her? I’m hypersensitive to criticism — how do I fix this? my coworker writes fanfic in meetings, telling a friend I don’t want to work for her, and more the Ask a Manager guide to asking for a raise let us discuss past letters my coworker with imposter syndrome actually does suck at her job don’t put “sexual purity” on your resume, boss left a private email open during a screenshare, and more weekend free-for-all – February 24-25, 2018 open thread – February 23-24, 2018 I said something profane to my boss, should I tell my manager my coworker is in jail, and more how many times can I ask a networking contact for help? my boss refused to call an ambulance for an injured coworker listen to episode 1 of the Ask a Manager podcast I don’t want to be friends with my coworker, surprise phone interviews, and more my coworkers think I’m an intern … but I’m not my coworker wants me to give him a fake reference my employee uses a wheelchair … but I found out he doesn’t really need one hair extensions at work, can I ask for my old desk back, and more my boss said I have “disconcerting heart-to-hearts” with my coworkers my boss loves me but hates my coworker I share an office with a smoker, and the smell is making me sick coworker gave my presentation without my okay, acupuncture as team-building, and more how to speak up as a group at work I don’t want to do Toastmasters with my boss! what’s up with candidates turning down our job offers after we pay to fly them out? my boss suggests hiring her boyfriend for everything, someone threw out my boots, and more weekend free-for-all — February 17-18, 2018 open thread – February 16-17, 2018 talking about “adult” experience in an interview, rejected candidate’s parent called us, and more is it reasonable to expect to be thanked when I go out of my way for a coworker? my employee argues when I correct her work yes, you are awkward … and yes, it’s okay coworker bogarts all the food at work events, asking for a bonus when resigning, and more how can we convince our employer to allow nose rings at work? the vanishing microwave and other stories of workplace romance, gone both wrong and right how can I explain why I went to a for-profit school? women-only Valentine’s Day gestures, employee is having affair with client’s spouse, and more how long should it take to hear back after you apply for a job? how can I explain why I’m leaving my new job after only three months? my employee sent a memo to management about ghosts in the building returning to an old company where I was a jerk, coworker wants to take over my job, and more a job application asked me to rank if torturing a person was worse than prostitution when your coworker is driving you nuts what if I can’t succeed in the world of work? I want to break up with my boyfriend but I work for his parents, office flatulence, and more weekend free-for-all – February 10-11, 2018 open thread – February 9-10, 2018 coworker dumped a ton of work on us, my new coworker is about to be fired, and more I have a job offer — but it’s been weeks and there’s no start date in sight update: my boss planned team-building activities that I couldn’t fully participate in how can I avoid taking a job in an open-plan office? our coworker is cheating on our friend, boycotting staff picture day, and more should employees have to ask for a raise? how to fire a long-time client I bring my dog to work — but an anonymous note asked me not to want to discuss your work question on an Ask a Manager podcast? my husband’s boss accused me of trash-talking my mother-in-law, coworker is bad at taking feedback, and more how to answer when an interviewer asks “what do you do outside of work?” my boss expects me to work too much we’ve heard rumors that our incoming new boss is a nightmare I’m getting a smaller raise because I negotiated when I was hired, talking publicly about career struggles, and more I’m supposed to write 23 mini-essays in 24 hours before an employer will even interview me my employee keeps cc’ing my manager on everything my coworker is crowdfunding for IVF and keeps asking everyone for money my boss does “talk to the hand,” interviewing across the street from my office, and more weekend free-for-all – February 3-4, 2018 open thread – February 2-3, 2018 my whole team brings their spouses on business trips, turning in work too quickly, and more do employers care about college extracurriculars? here are animals taking over home offices let’s talk about differences in office culture by country and region a coworker is using Google Translate to cheat, sheet masks at work, and more January 2018 what does “hiring manager” mean and other work terms you might not know I worked from home on a snow day and then was told to use vacation time for it men compliment my handshake asking interns to stop greeting everyone individually, coworker used a racist word, and more my coworker responds to all problems with “at least you don’t have cancer or an eating disorder” why won’t my company fire my terrible coworker? I can hear everything my staff says — should I pretend I don’t? should I stop bringing coffee to my boyfriend/coworker, I don’t want to show up for my last day of work, and more I need to gain skills overnight for an interview for a stretch job updates: my coworker is rude to Uber drivers and more how much detail do you have to share when you call in sick? Blue Apron: when you want someone else to figure out dinner I paid for fake references, is it rude to shush someone, and more weekend free-for-all – January 27-28, 2018 open thread – January 26-27, 2018 candidates get snippy when I won’t talk to them before they apply, I found out my employee is job searching, and more these are bad ways to start your cover letter update: my mom keeps sending me job postings even though I’m happily employed I hate working from home — how can I make this better? waiting to see if I’ll be laid off, moving for a significant other, and more employee’s dad called to see if we had “properly briefed him” on his travel my employee acts like he’s the boss my coworker had an affair with a colleague’s husband, and now is treating her badly at work employee is flippant when I correct her mistakes, interrupting someone who’s wearing headphones, and more I’m competing for a promotion against a coworker who outdoes me my employee accidentally sent a rude message about me … to me my coworker keeps criticizing the way I talk to male colleagues my employee uses constant jargon, unpleasant coworker wants to have lunch together, and more are my mentors taking advantage of me? can I ask my employees to be nicer? handling the government shutdown: an open thread for federal employees and contractors here’s the secret to a professional wardrobe that won’t drain your bank account my team is flipping out over a thank-you lunch, my new job told me they hired someone else instead, and more weekend free-for-all – January 20-21, 2018 open thread – January 19-20, 2018 employee doesn’t want to work when it snows, interview expense shenanigans, and more is there a best time to send rejection letters? I don’t think I’d be good at the job I’m interviewing for what items have made your life at work easier or more pleasant? coworker was fired for a Facebook post, restricting access to a kosher kitchen, and more I don’t have enough work and my boss is too busy to give me more my employee melts down when work is stressful is my employee lying about using sick time for the Super Bowl? should I tell my boss her photo is terrible, my boss calls me a “baby,” and more my boss is a notorious liar, and he yells too I don’t want to share my personal life with nosy coworkers why didn’t I get a full-time offer after my internship? telling a rude candidate we’ll never interview him, someone is going through my trash, and more update: my employee lies and says other people’s work is her own how to quit your job without burning bridges rejection turned into an ad for a resume-writing company my boss keeps telling me “you have a year,” dressing one step up from the job you’re interviewing for, and more weekend free-for-all – January 13-14, 2018 open thread – January 12-13, 2018 my coworker screamed at me for calling my cat “my baby,” checking in about a job post-holidays, and more how to thank a new boss who’s been super understanding of a hard time in my life update: should I put fanfiction on my resume? how to talk about your job when you’re embarrassed by it how can I get a coworker to take computer classes, new desks don’t work with skirts, and more my boss is the department joke — and I don’t want to be in on it am I too generous with my employees? my coworker got drunk on a business trip and his hangover was a problem the next day my employees keep taking the same days off, I don’t want to sit next to my wife at work, and more my coworkers scoff and roll their eyes when I question decisions in meetings what are the best questions to ask in a job interview? I don’t want to use Airbnb for business travel — am I out of touch? drama after breaking up with a coworker, the best time of day to submit a job application, and more the person who used to do my job won’t go away my coworker keeps doing my work for me I delay writing back to people and then never do it — can I fix this? can I take birth control pills at my desk, paying more than my share for gifts coworkers, and more weekend free-for-all – January 6-7, 2018 update: our CEO won’t let go of a retired employee open thread – January 5-6, 2018 an extortionist might send my coworkers a private video, coworker won’t expense business travel, and more my employee keeps complaining to me about a coworker — but won’t let me step in updates: the flaky interviewer, the coworkers who stopped going to lunch, and more ask the readers: weird job advice your parents gave you employee is angry I’m using the baby name she wanted, office heat is broken, and more how to say “stop following me” at an event is it wrong to expect employees to work on snow days? employee sent out photos of a coworker’s stoma bag — what should I do? my reference lied to make me look better, coworker sent me an alarming Christmas video, and more my coworker is rude to Uber drivers update: should I tell my boss I know I’ve been a jerk and I’m getting therapy? my company reads every email we send and put cameras in our offices coworker hasn’t touched his work in months, dealing with an obnoxious book club member, and more can’t take more than a week of vacation at a time, leaving work after dark, and more