update: my coworker screamed at me and HR hasn’t done anything by Alison Green on February 6, 2025 Remember the letter-writer whose coworker screamed at them and HR hadn’t done anything? Here’s the update. I wrote to you back in 2020 about an incident from 2019 where a coworker had a screaming tantrum. I very much appreciated your input, and that of your commentariat. Nothing much happened regarding HR and my yelling coworker, […] Read the full article →
update: I don’t want to babysit my brother in my office by Alison Green on February 3, 2025 Remember the letter-writer whose mother was pressuring her to babysit their brother in their office after school? Here’s the update — and some more advice from me. Thank you for answering my letter! It was too late to reply to the comments after work, but I’ll address some of them here: For those asking if […] Read the full article →
updates: the musician with a day job, the required email greetings, and more by Alison Green on January 23, 2025 Here are three updates from past letter-writers. 1. How do I manage a “regular” job with a parallel career as a musician? I asked about career advice for musicians a long time ago, and I’ve waited a long time to have an update I felt like sending. Unfortunately, the last few years have just been […] Read the full article →
update: my new boss treats me like his assistant … which isn’t what I was hired for by Alison Green on January 9, 2025 Remember the letter-writer whose new boss treated her like his assistant … which isn’t what she was hired for? Here’s the update. I did follow your advice and speak with HR. They listened to my concerns and to their credit they launched an “investigation.” I know that at some point they found my claims credible […] Read the full article →
updates: martial arts at work, coworker hates me, and more by Alison Green on January 2, 2025 Here are five updates from past letter-writers. 1. Is it weird to incorporate martial arts at my job? (first update) I’ve got one more update for you. You know how I mentioned contamination risks? We ended up having a contamination issue (unrelated to the question I asked) that took over a year to recover from. […] Read the full article →
updates: telling my boss I want his job, coworkers ask about my weight loss, and more by Alison Green on December 31, 2024 It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are five updates from past letter-writers. 1. Should I tell my boss I want his job? (#5 at the link) I did take your advice and tell […] Read the full article →
updates: my coworker says he’s my boss but he’s not, and more by Alison Green on December 31, 2024 It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are five updates from past letter-writers. 1. How do I reject a qualified former coworker? (#4 at the link) I have a brief update with a bit […] Read the full article →
update: my awful coworker’s employees want me to help them by Alison Green on December 31, 2024 Remember the letter-writer whose awful coworker’s employees wanted her to help them? Here’s the update. First, I decided to back down for a while. Soon after “the flop,” one of John’s better employees cut his losses, left a scathing exit interview, and took a job hundreds of miles away. An even more experienced employee — […] Read the full article →
update: is it my job to manage a coworker’s feelings? by Alison Green on December 30, 2024 It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Remember the letter-writer asking if it was her job to manage a coworker’s feelings (#2 at the link)? Here’s the update. I took your advice to disengage from […] Read the full article →
update: my manager says my shyness is seen as rudeness by Alison Green on December 30, 2024 It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Remember the letter-writer whose manager said her shyness was seen as rudeness? The first update was here, and here’s the latest. I have quite the update and many […] Read the full article →