Ask a Manager

Remember the letter-writer who’s a member of The Satanic Temple and got outed at work and her boss had become hostile to her? Here’s the update. So my update is better but a bit of a bummer. My manager got suspended pending an investigation. Not because of me directly, but this was I guess a cherry […]

Here are three updates from past letter-writers. 1. How to ask my company to pay me more if they want me to stay I was the reader wondering how to ask for a raise as a coworker was leaving, I was taking on more work, and I was being approached for jobs that pay more […]

Here are three updates from past letter-writers. 1. My coworker tried to film her pregnancy announcement and now there is chaos I have a kind of wonderful update. Abby knew I wrote in, so she feels very supported and extends thanks to you all for having her back. For some clarity: all our management team/onsite […]

Remember the letter-writer whose employee didn’t want to use a name for themselves? Here’s the update. Thank you to Alison and to all of the commenters. I read every comment and learned a lot. (One thing I learned was that you all have excellent literary and pop culture taste!) I took a lot of what […]

Here are four updates from past letter-writers. 1. My coworker won’t take corrections and blames his mental health I have an update! Thank you and the commenters so much for the advice on the previous question! When I went to my manager with the actual data on the amount of time lost on his quality […]

Here are four updates from past letter-writers. 1. Pumping breast milk during a virtual training (#4 at the link) Thanks so much for publishing my question! There were many helpful (and funny) suggestions and I thought I would provide an update. The short version: turning off my camera to pump worked out fine; I was […]

Here are three updates from past letter-writers. 1. Our new team lead is horrible and keeps sharing private details about us with our colleagues This has been the most chaotic 6 weeks of my life but I followed the readers advice and got a new job! The day my letter was posted I was invited […]

Remember the letter-writer wondering if it was weird to incorporate martial arts at his job? Here’s the update. I clearly could have written that better, since when I explained to my wife why I was asking who Dwight Shrute was she laughed at how far the character is from a match to my personality. I […]

Remember the letter-writer wondering how soon was too soon to leave a panic job? Here’s the update. Thank you so much Alison for your wise and compassionate advice and to all the commenters who made me realize that a) I wasn’t alone in my dilemma and b) I didn’t have to condemn myself to misery […]