I’m worried a colleague will burn herself out, coworkers are hassling me about using disposable containers, and more by Alison Green on September 25, 2023 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. I’m worried my care manager will burn herself out I am very lucky to live in a place where I get a lot of help from various places and people for my significant disabilities. For years, I managed it all myself, but about 18 months […] Read the full article →
manager only invited half of us to a party, telling a sick employee to find their own coverage, and more by Alison Green on September 22, 2023 It’s four answers to four questions. Here we go… 1. Can I tell an employee who calls in sick at the last minute to find their own coverage? I know that you always advocate for the employer to find coverage when an employee is sick. But what about when it’s always at the last second? […] Read the full article →
our building is full of bats and sewer smells, company requires us to notify HR when we go to urgent care, and more by Alison Green on September 21, 2023 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. Our building is full of bats, sewer smells, moths, and more Do you have advice on how to get upper management to take concerns about our facilities seriously? My coworkers and I haven’t been successful in communicating what seem like very obvious, major problems. For […] Read the full article →
coworker ruined my white sweater, the person who confirms my employment dates gets it wrong, and more by Alison Green on September 20, 2023 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. Senior coworker ruined my white sweater I am writing you at 2:30 am about an incident that happened a few years ago and occasionally gets replayed in my head on sleepless nights like this one. I was a new addition to a tight-knit team of […] Read the full article →
my boss saw me sneaking out early, coworker insists he’s “crystal clear” when he’s not, and more by Alison Green on September 19, 2023 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. My boss saw me sneaking out early After a week of absolute hell (I seriously damaged my brand new car, my home was burgled and my babysitter quit all in the same week) and work has been the busiest it has ever been with little […] Read the full article →
training an insecure coworker, our pumping room is being taken over for chair massages, and more by Alison Green on September 18, 2023 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. Training a fragile, insecure coworker has become Too Much I have been trying to train a new(ish) coworker, Perdita, for just over a year, but she seems to be languishing and getting unhappier all the time. I have no authority over Perdita, don’t work directly […] Read the full article →
coworker wants me to lock up my dogs so he can come to parties at my house, explaining a medical accommodation, and more by Alison Green on September 15, 2023 It’s four answers to four questions. Here we go… 1. My coworker wants me to lock up my dogs so he can come to parties at my house I’m a university professor, and I have a problem with a member of my department, Paul. I realized that a lot of my friends with young children […] Read the full article →
husband’s coworker is horrible to me, how do I tell my boss I can’t afford to live in our town, and more by Alison Green on September 14, 2023 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. My husband’s coworker is a jerk to me At my husband’s company party, a colleague of his got quite drunk and started asking me really demeaning questions. I shut it down politely and quickly, and chalked it up to a one-off irritation. Yet every time […] Read the full article →
coworker keeps sending out questionable Covid advice, a director’s out-of-tune guitar, and more by Alison Green on September 13, 2023 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. My coworker keeps sending out questionable Covid advice I work for a completely remote team but we have our annual all-staff retreat coming up next month, and with Covid cases rising again, it’s been coming up in conversation. For context, we are not in the […] Read the full article →
saying I won’t give rides to work, coworker complains about her family non-stop, and more by Alison Green on September 12, 2023 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. How to tell a coworker I won’t give her rides to work How do I politely tell a coworker I don’t give anyone rides? I work in a cafeteria in a factory, it’s not on a bus route and I’m not even sure you can […] Read the full article →