being the boss

my team doesn’t ask managers to hang out with them

A reader writes: I have a small tight-knit team of eight people. The people that I’ve hired in the last two years socialize together quite a bit, which is great. The downside is they don’t invite me or the other managers; the junior members will hang out together and not invite the managers. The disappointing […]

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my employee is chronically late to work

A reader writes: My employee has had an attendance issue off and on for the past six months. I called her attention to it and it improved marginally, but then she told me that she gets a ride to work from her mom and her family is large and there is only one bathroom so […]

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my former employee is badmouthing me to my staff

A reader writes: To summarize the below story, I had an employee leave the company due to a bad interaction with me, and I’m not sure how to move forward with him or the rest of the remaining staff. I’m a midlevel manager and I work for a small entertainment company. I recently had an […]

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how can I help an employee who has no attention to detail?

A reader writes: I am an attorney and have recently been promoted to the point where I am supervising junior attorneys’ work. One of the juniors who works with (and for) me, let’s call her Jessie, and I are pretty friendly. She’s a genuinely lovely person — friendly, kind, and we have a good working […]

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beware of bosses handing out “crap sandwiches”

If you’ve ever taken a management class — or been managed — you’ve probably come across the “feedback sandwich.” Known more colloquially as the “crap sandwich,” the idea is that when giving criticism, managers should sandwich it between two pieces of positive feedback: open with some praise, then offer the criticism, then close with some […]

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is it OK to take vacations and share clothes with your boss?

At Slate today, I wrote about managers who try to be BFFs with their employees … raising concerns about favoritism and objectivity, sometimes pushing for more intimacy than their employees want, and generally overstepping boundaries. There are stories about a manager who took expensive spa vacations with an employee, a boss who regularly broke into tears while […]

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