being the boss

is it OK to be Facebook friends with people I manage?

A reader writes: I’m the manager of a team where everyone gets along well and works effectively with one another. I’ve known most of the people on the team since before they worked for me, as professional contacts in other contexts. One of the people had friended me on Facebook before we worked together. Now […]

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I feel guilty about leaving the team I manage

A reader writes: I’ve been at my company eight years now and have seriously loved working here, working my way up to the manager of my location in that time. I am in my early 30s, and this is my first job with direct reports. Due to a variety of corporate-level decisions, my job has […]

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my employee wants to be micromanaged

A reader writes: I have an employee who wants to be micromanaged. She seems to be paralyzed unless I explicitly give direction to get something done. If I don’t respond in what she deems a timely manner, she will text me while I’m in meetings or on phone calls, looking for direction. I’ve tried everything. […]

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how to handle an employee’s complaints about a coworker

A reader writes: One of my employees has made many complaints against another employee. She claims that our clients have felt written off or discouraged by this person but the clients do not want to come forward. The employee who’s being accused doesn’t seem to be doing these things, but I am not fully sure […]

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my employee resigned but now wants to stay

A reader writes: We hired Jane four months ago to take over a management position, and I was to partially oversee her, along with my boss, Lucinda. There were some issues on both sides (she had issues with Lucinda and vice versa), and about a month ago Jane told me she was considering giving notice. […]

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am I a bad manager?

A reader writes: I’m a newish manager, and I have one direct report. My new employee, “Susan,” quit this week. Her old employer had reached out to her and made her a dream offer. I spent five months training Susan. She had learned a lot and was starting to work well independently. The thought of […]

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my employee has a crush on me

A reader writes: I am a female manager at a small, mostly male company, and directly manage several people (all male). One of the six has worked for me for multiple years. Since he began his employment, I always felt he had a “crush” on me and kept my distance (as much as I could […]

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am I going overboard with praise for my team?

A reader writes: One of my struggles in managing my team is with recognition – but oddly, not the usual problems of under-recognizing effort. I’m afraid I may occasionally get too effusive with my thanks for my team’s comfort, or thank someone one time too many. Additionally, I find that I occasionally stun some of […]

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