being the boss

is it OK to take vacations and share clothes with your boss?

At Slate today, I wrote about managers who try to be BFFs with their employees … raising concerns about favoritism and objectivity, sometimes pushing for more intimacy than their employees want, and generally overstepping boundaries. There are stories about a manager who took expensive spa vacations with an employee, a boss who regularly broke into tears while […]

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will my employee be demoralized by a coworker’s promotion?

A reader writes: I’m newly the manager of a small group of three people. One of my first acts will be to promote someone in our group-let’s call her Sarah- who is overdue for recognition of the truly outstanding work she does for our organization. One of my other reports, Dian, currently shares the same […]

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my employee works late every night, but it seems to be her fault

A reader writes: Recently I’ve encountered a tricky work issue, and I’m struggling to come up with a solution. I’m a new manager with one direct report. I’m also a recent addition to this team, which I’ve since learned has had a lot of turnover and inconsistent leadership in the past year. My direct report […]

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my employee says her errors are just “enthusiasm”

A reader writes: I have a new employee who just finished grad school but is not new to work because she worked a few years between college and grad school. Some of the people we work with have been put off by her behavior. She is asking a lot of questions in meetings and making […]

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what should your tone sound like when you’re the boss?

Earlier this year, I did an episode of the Ask a Manager podcast about what kind of tone to use in tricky conversations at work. That episode was one of the reasons I was excited about launching a podcast in the first place, because while I talk a lot about tone here, it’s hard to demonstrate […]

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