update: should I take off my engagement ring for job interviews?

Remember the letter-writer who had been advised to take off her engagement ring for job interviews (first published in 2012 and then reprinted for Inc. in October of this year)? Here’s the update.

I am the person who asked this question a few years ago and I know I’m long overdue for an update!

First, thank you, Alison, for your fantastic advice and thank you to all of the commenters for sharing your perspectives! It gave me much needed sanity during my year long job search. At the time, I was just beginning my career and going through quite a few life changes (clearly). Of course, well-meaning relatives gave me a lot of advice, most of it from a good place but either out of date, biased, or both, and I was trying to sift through it all. It did not help that most of the women within my own family hadn’t worked in awhile and at the time, I was sorely in need of good mentors.

As it turned out, I wore my ring to every interview and ended up getting a job within my field, where I am still working today. No one seemed to notice or care about the ring and, when they brought me on board as a permanent hire, I was able to get time off for my wedding and honeymoon, in addition to a great salary and benefits package, as well as opportunities to grow. I’m very happy that I took your advice!

Thanks again, everyone!

{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

  1. Jill of All Trades

    I’m so glad things worked out for you OP! There’s such a mixed bag of advice when you’re job searching on top of the stress of it, and it can be hard to tell the wheat from the chaff. Thanks for writing in and sharing what worked.

  2. Observer

    I went back to re-read the original thread, and I was thrown for a loop all over again.

    Some of the things people posted then are still jaw dropping.


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