will I be fired if I refuse a Covid test, I didn’t get a thank-you after helping someone, and more by Alison Green on September 3, 2021 It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. Will my employer fire me on the spot if I refuse to get a Covid test? On September 13, the healthcare company I work for will begin requiring unvaccinated employees to get weekly Covid testing, at employee expense, with results to be submitted to your manager. I have submitted a vaccination exemption, which they have accepted, but I have no desire to test and also pay for it. If I give two weeks notice on September 13 and don’t have the required test results, is it likely that they will terminate me on the spot? Or let me work out the two weeks? I’d hope they’d terminate on the spot anyone who’s unvaccinated who also refuses to get tested, since you’d be explicitly saying that you’re not willing to take even minor steps to avoid infecting and potentially killing other people in your workplace. What a very odd stance for you to take. Keep in mind that you’re likely to run into similar requirements to vaccinate or test at other employers, and rightly so. 2. Am I being petty about not getting a thank-you note after helping someone? I recently had an informal informational interview with a young man who was referred to me by a colleague. The colleague in question is pretty big in our field and I was flattered that he thought of me as a resource for his student. The interview was a very pleasant hour, I liked the young man, and as we were wrapping up I offered to connect him with a few potential contacts/opportunities. I’ll have to spend a little social capital for a few of the things I was thinking about, but not much, and our field is almost entirely relationship driven so I tend to view this as investing in a potential up and coming contact. Basically, I am happy to do it and have done similar things in the past. The problem is that I haven’t gotten a thank-you note from him and am feeling a little miffed about it. I’m trying to figure out if I should let it go and still go the full mile out of respect for my colleague, or if I should do the bare minimum and not expend the capital I normally would (which feels a bit petty but also if he does the same to people I connect him to it might ding my reputation a little). Complicating this is that he’s a person of color and the field, like so many others, has been facing a real reckoning in the past year or so about how exclusionary it is, so I feel an ethical obligation to help him be successful. At the end of our meeting, he asked me a quick question about the professionalism of some casual language he used in our email exchange, so the door might be open to me giving him a little professional advice, but I can’t figure out how to phrase “you should really be sending thank-yous” in a diplomatic and kind way. Any ideas about how I should move forward? A lot of people were never taught they should send thank-you’s after this sort of meeting, especially if they’re newer to the world work. Don’t penalize him for not following every guideline in a playbook that he may not have been given. Do the same follow-up you’d already been planning to do, as a step toward leveling the playing field. You have an easy opportunity to give him some guidance on thank-you notes though! When you contact him to connect him with others, you can say, “People early in their careers don’t always realize this so I wanted to mention it: Most people taking the time to meet with you will expect a thank-you note afterwards, and not sending them can make them think you didn’t appreciate their time. Let me know if you want any advice on writing them to Bob and Lucinda after you meet with them — I’d be happy help you figure out what to include if you want.” 3. My new hire is starting on my last day of work I’m preparing to resign my position (for many reasons) and accept a great opportunity, thanks in large part to all your wonderful advice! However, we hired a new person who is supposed to report to me. The way things are shaking out, their first day will probably be my last day. I don’t have anyone else reporting to me. I know it’s my manager’s responsibility to make formal arrangements, but what do you think are my informal (like, just human) obligations? I want to be honest with the new person but not give them the list of grievances of why I’m leaving. And I want to set them up for success. How do you think I should break the news and what should I do in the interim? If at all possible, tell the person now so they don’t get blindsided by the news on their first day. Contact them before they start, explain you’ve accepted another job and will be leaving, and let them know who’ll they be reporting to until your replacement is hired. Don’t get into your reasons for leaving. That’s not really appropriate; just let them know you accepted a great job somewhere else. And work closely with your boss to figure out how to ensure the new person’s first few weeks go smoothly; with you gone, there’s a risk they’ll be left to flounder unless some clear planning is done now to make sure that doesn’t happen. 4. Should I leave a religious mission off my resume? I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. I served a volunteer “mission” for my church for 18 months between 2016-17. Without being overly religious, I have put this on my resume in a separate section (volunteer work) than my work experience to explain the gap in employment. I am trying to relocate to another state which is located in the Bible Belt, which is notoriously rather hostile towards my religion. If I apply for jobs locally, I get a lot of callbacks and interviews but have had absolutely no luck with the jobs I’m applying for in the state I’m trying to move to. Is it possible that they see I’m a member of my church and immediately pass me over (it is on the bottom of my resume)? Would it be better to take it off now that it’s been a few years and my relevant work experience has happened after that anyway? To be honest, I would rather leave it off but I worry people would wonder why I have an 18-month gap in employment. It’s possible. It’s more likely, though, that this is just about you not being a local candidate. In most fields (unless your work is very in-demand), it’s much harder to get interviews for jobs when you’re out-of-state, for all the reasons here. There are things you can do to help, like making the move sound like a done deal as much as possible (for example, naming a specific time frame by which you hope to be living there), putting your new location on your resume (like writing “relocating to Boston” directly below your address, or not including an address at all), and some of the other advice here. But out-of-state searches take longer. That said, you could try experimenting with leaving your mission off your resume altogether and seeing if it changes anything. I know you want to explain the gap, but at least some people will think you’re touting it as work-like experience (which, given that missions are intended to proselytize, will be problematic). Read an update to this letter here. 5. Withdrawing from an interview process after getting promoted In the middle of my job search, I received a promotion at work. The promotion, of course, came with a salary raise. For one job in particular, for which I’m halfway through the interviewing process, this raise puts me at the midpoint of the salary range they advertised. I love my job and the people I work with, so I’m in no hurry to leave. I was only searching for more responsibility and more money. Given that, the top of this job’s range is now my new floor to leave my job. What do you think is the right thing to do here? Should I remove myself from consideration (since it’s not likely any job would offer the tippity top of their range)? And if so, do I tell them it’s really all about money and I just got a raise? Do you want to remove yourself from consideration? If you’re now happy with your job and not interested in leaving for the money you think you’d be offered, it’s fine to just email and say, “I wanted to let you know that I’ve been promoted at my current company to a more senior role and am no longer searching for a new position, so I’m withdrawing from consideration for the X job. Thanks for your time in talking with me, and best of luck in making a hire.” That said, if you’d still be open to leaving for the top of their range, there’s an argument for staying in the process and seeing it through. In that case, it could still make sense to update them so you’re not wasting your or their time — “I’ve just been promoted and my salary raised at my current company. I’m still interested in the X role, but I want to be transparent that I’d be looking at the top of your range in order to make a move. Is that prohibitive on your end or should we keep talking?” You may also like:a coworker stole my spicy food, got sick, and is blaming memy new office has a no-humor policycan my company require employees to get the Covid vaccine? { 1,275 comments }
Ask a Manager* Post authorSeptember 1, 2021 at 12:01 am Pinning this up top: In case anyone had any doubt where LW #1 stood, the hate-filled email he just sent me claiming Covid is not real and hardly kills anyone should put that to rest.
ChemistryChick* September 3, 2021 at 11:39 am Good grief. I wish I had something more than that, but at this point, these people leave me speechless and dumbfounded.
jane's nemesis* September 3, 2021 at 11:42 am Can you pin this to the top? There’s so much arguing upthread about how the LW must have a medical exemption, etc. Also, PS, what blog did he THINK he was asking that question on?
Autumnheart* September 3, 2021 at 12:03 pm The blog where he thought he could walk in and be like “checkmate libs!”, like people who deliberately go into a store without a mask and then throw a tantrum for Tiktok. To paraphrase Inigo, I do not think it means what he thinks it means.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 12:28 pm He probably thought he’d get a response he could post all over (insert social media) as a ‘see how oppressed I am!’ thing. What an absolute bellend.
Stitch* September 3, 2021 at 1:34 pm There have been.something 4 like prominent covid denier radio hosts who have died of COVID in just the last month.
LITJess* September 3, 2021 at 2:10 pm No. Great. Loss. Sorry not sorry, but I am a full year beyond being kind to these people.
My Boss is Dumber than Yours* September 3, 2021 at 10:25 pm It’s not just not a loss, addition by subtraction for society.
ICan't* September 5, 2021 at 3:14 pm I have two patients today that aren’t just unvaccinated but are actively in the conspiracy camp (both would like to have ivermectin or hydroxychloroquine and don’t like Dr. Fauci). I have never been as resentful about taking care of patients as I am now. Unvaccinated is frustrating but this? I have to go into their active Covid rooms to take care of them. Put my health at risk for them. I honestly think there should only be so many beds allocated for people like this and when it is full of their cohort who think the same then they should have to stay home until a bed opens up. I have read too many articles about people dying from something they NEVER should have died for because these people are taking all the hospital beds.
Josie* September 6, 2021 at 9:08 am TONS of those stories here in South Florida. There is a cop who needs a lung transplant from COVID and all I could think about was someone who has CF or something who REALLY needs a lung and now they will be competing with someone who should not even be there in the first place, had he gotten the vaccine. HUGS TO YOU and thank you for all that you do – it must be outrageously frustrating!
Ugh* September 4, 2021 at 9:24 am This. I can’t stand to be around people like this (thankfully I live outside the US, so most staunch anti-vaxxers around here keep it to themselves and I have no problem shutting down anyone who doesn’t). And this person works in HEALTH. CARE. Ugh. I have a close friend who is vaccine hesitant (she’s had past medical issues, hence the fear, but I am certain she has not talked to her doctor and also that the doctor would definitely say the risk of the complications she fears is exponentially higher if she stays unvaccinated and contracts COVID. She also won’t get any vaccine even though the complications she is trying to avoid are specific to Astra-Zeneca, which is no longer available where we live anyway). She was one of the few people I saw outdoors during the first year of the pandemic, and now I just can’t. All these people think they have the right to their own choice, without realizing they are taking away the choice of anyone who can’t get vaccinated (and leaving the rest of us to have to choose between the mental health impacts of keeping our kids home for another year – over a third of my 5yo’s life – or sending them to school where the risk of COVID is getting increasing and we have no way of knowing what the long-term impacts to them may be). Ughhhhh. Ughhhh!! I have both vaccines and will still put on a mask (or offer to if we’re outdoors and it’s a brief interaction) because it’s the decent thing to do – not everyone can choose to not be around you, LW. Your choice doesn’t just affect you. Your employer has given you two reasonable options; you don’t just get to decide you’d like to do neither.
ADHSquirrelWhat* September 4, 2021 at 4:00 pm I feel it’s simple – people have the choice to ignore public health, yes – IF they also STAY OUT OF PUBLIC. If you’re going to be part of society, you have to DO YOUR PART to protect society! Otherwise, go live in the woods in a home you built yourself or something. There is a choice – but it isn’t “how do I get everything I want without any cost to me”.
JelloStapler* September 7, 2021 at 11:13 am I agree but these people are usually ones who have also shown that their freedom to do whatever they want supersedes other people’s freedom, and will even try to restrict other’s freedom with issues they themselves don’tagree with. “I want people to have the freedom to do what I think they should” essesntially.
Your Local Password Resetter* September 3, 2021 at 4:05 pm Excuse me while I grab my shocked pikachu mask.
Teddyduchampssleepingbag* September 3, 2021 at 8:01 pm Sometimes I really wish this site had like buttons lol and reading your comment is one of those times.
Tilly* September 3, 2021 at 8:48 pm I read the comment, and immediately thought “oh I wish this blog had like buttons…”
Kuddel Daddeldu* September 5, 2021 at 2:08 am Not really. I think that having to write out a response reduces clutter. But that’s me; I’m not on social media except (mostly passively) on LinkedIn either. I’ll go back to my cave now.
ceiswyn* September 5, 2021 at 5:14 am Actually, Kuddal Daddeldu, if you had more experience of social media you’d be aware that like buttons and upvotes tend to REDUCE clutter. Because if you like or agree with a post, you can just like it instead of having to write an unnecessary comment just to say ‘I agree’.
Endorable* September 4, 2021 at 7:05 am oh geez I didn’t want to sign up for another username but I guess I have to if I want to upvote… GIVE US UPVOTES ALREADY!
wittyrepartee* September 3, 2021 at 4:33 pm I feel sorry for them and their families- but I hope that maybe in death they’re able to undo some of the harm they did in their last year of life.
T2* September 3, 2021 at 4:45 pm I care as much about politics as the virus itself does. But, yeah I would have fired him on the spot without a moments hesitation. Get the shot or wear the mask, or be like me and do both. But stop whining about how a virus, which doesn’t care about your politics or who it hurts has inconvenienced you. It is people with that attitude who make this worse. I got a 5 year old niece, who if she gets sick with this will certainly die. Her condition is that serious. Poor thing has been isolated for 17 months, and will remain so until there is NO chance she gets the virus. Maybe she gets sick anyways. But at least it wont be because the rest of us were crying infants about it.
I could never get the hang of Thursdays* September 3, 2021 at 9:29 pm +1. Obviously not a regular reader of AAM
Anonymous mouse* September 5, 2021 at 4:08 am Was going to say, I was about to say something along the lines of “I understand that some people cannot have the vaccine and they shouldn’t be forced to pay themselves for the tests in lieu, but if they’re a Covid denier I have zero sympathy
Ellie* September 5, 2021 at 10:59 pm Me too… but I do hope that’s the reason they won’t pay for it, and they wouldn’t fire someone who did have a medical exemption. My cousin’s in that boat – I’m not actually sure if they’ve been advised not to have the vaccination, or that it would just be useless since their cancer treatment would destroy any antibodies, but I immediately thought of them when I read this. It’s pretty hard to survive cancer, only to be denied employment as a result.
yala* September 7, 2021 at 1:43 pm Honestly, I wouldn’t be surprised if he made the whole thing up to “make a point”
WFH with Cat* September 3, 2021 at 11:46 am Wow. I wish I could say I am surprised. So sorry you were the recipient of that abuse. Unfortunately, willful ignorance and hateful discourse are just about the only things these days more contagious than COVID.
Bee Eye Ill* September 3, 2021 at 11:54 am I have two high school friends who’d beg to differ but they are 6 feet under right now.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 12:37 pm 3 loved ones I’ll never see again definitely disagree as well. Side note: love and virtual hugs to anyone who has lost someone to this. Despite what the people crying ‘fake’ say our and your pain is real. Grieve however you like and I hope the painful memories are replaced with ones of happier times soon.
Blue* September 3, 2021 at 4:06 pm Nothing more hateful than mocking and gas lighting people who are grieving and frightened. Both my cousin’s husband’s parents are in ICU right now with it – and they live in Texas and are constantly bombarded by this hateful shit. It’s horrifying. I’m so sorry about your friends, Keymaster.
Bee Eye Ill* September 3, 2021 at 4:45 pm I have friends who claim to be Christian and routinely post anti-vax propaganda calling people “sheep” and the like. It’s quite aggravating.
Sheep* September 3, 2021 at 4:56 pm My response to being called a sheep is Thank you! As a Christian, Jesus is my shepherd, I’m impressed you could recognize I am a member of his flock by just looking at me. Love everyone, and don’t judge anyone. Do everything you can to protect your neighbor. THAT is the Christian thing to do. — Sheep
Despachito* September 4, 2021 at 3:09 am Awesome response! I can see it is the same all around the globe – America or Europe, everywhere there are people using the same antivaxx and Anticovid “arguments”. COVID has been a major pain in the butt but on the other hand, in many countries we were quite privileged in the way it could be handled – the technology is so advanced many of us were able to WFH, kids could be schooled online, purchasing could be done online… it was tough but manageable, and I frankly do not understand those constantly whining about “lost generation” (of kids who did not go through war or a similar catastrophe, just had to study from their homes, warm and well fed), or about the awful inconvenience – gasp – that they had to WEAR A MASK, and blaming it all on governments, as if the virus was somehow invented by them. I was lucky enough my closest environment was reasonable in that, and it makes me simply mad that some people are not willing to take even the simplest measures to protect themselves and their environment, and instead are whining how THEY are forced to suffer. I find this extremely selfish, childish and stupid.
Ugh* September 4, 2021 at 9:30 am SO true! Sometimes I think about what all this would have looked like in the 80s or 90s and… it would have been brutal. So many people out of work, so much difficulty getting groceries and the like, kids just home with minimal school (at least fewer families had dual incomes..?). The only thing it would have going for it is that the anti-vaccine movement would potentially be less prevalent without the internet to coordinate conspiracy theories and protests.
Despachito* September 4, 2021 at 10:43 am Exactly. If I think twice about it ,there would have been possibly less opportunities for the disease to spread though – I’d say to travel by air and frequent traveling in general over the globe was much less available than it is now. However, if it had happened in the eighties, I’d be most likely sitting behind the iron curtain, “protected” by the overall ban on traveling to the other side and by the very unfavourable exchange rate, and possibly by the overall imposition of the Government to get vaccinated under the threat of going to jail if you didn’t. Could have been a bit more efficient than our system now when you are free not to get the jab and to voice stupid and selfish rants freely with no repercussions … but I somehow still prefer the relatively more dangerous freedom of today to the safer prison of then :-)
Solana* September 5, 2021 at 12:04 pm Obviously your actions paint you so. Love others as I have loved you. signed, a fellow Christian who is masked and vaccinated and also loves sheep.
Windchime* September 4, 2021 at 4:30 am My loved one just passed away last weekend while in the ICU on a ventilator. She was (of course) unvaccinated. It was a senseless death; she was in her mid-60’s and had a lot of life left to live, grandchildren, etc. Senseless, and even though I’m angry that she was unvaccinated I am also devastated that she is gone.
Carol the happy elf* September 3, 2021 at 2:28 pm OH, YES. Huge healthcare family here, we lost six before the vaccine came available, though one was Deaf in a care center and I swear she died of loneliness. My best friend’s brother died of septic pneumonia, secondary to Covid, which he got at work because his office-mate came in coughing last summer. (2020) She says that when she (health care herself) was allowed to go into his room to be with his body, they hadn’t completely prepped the room (They cleaned him up, and extubated him, but she had already been waiting in the parking lot; he coded 4 times!) she noticed the suction tanks on the wall behind him hadn’t been removed. She told the charge nurse that his wife and sons were coming asap, and pointed to the tanks. The nurse quickly covered them, then took them out of the room, but he told her that he wished the deniers could be forced to see the horrible contents that were suctioned out of the lungs of every Covid patient. So as someone in healthcare myself, and a cancer survivor, I spent last year terrified, and I don’t even work on the wards. I let my car sit in the sun with the windows closed, hoping the interior temp would get hot enough to kill things, and wishing I’d gone for a black leather interior. I parked as far from my entrance as possible, so as not to be in a crowd, and took the far stairwells. I bagged my own lunch, used a personal cooler, refused to use anything from the fridge, used metal straws (they can be flamed) and entered my home from the back mudroom instead of the regular door. Came in, stripped directly into the washer and dragged the mop with disinfectant behind me to the shower. Then dragged the mop back into the laundry room for my husband, who had been working in a hazmat suit with an air tank, but who did the same exact routine. Covid doesn’t scare me. It terrifies and enrages me. I would pay $100 a pop, and take the test daily if it could protect even the meanest drunk on the street. I am fully vaccinated, and we’re still tested regularly, because of my lab-rat husband’s work. At the start of this whole nightmare, he said it was going to be bigger than people can imagine, but that worldwide quarantining for a month could stop it in its tracks. OP, the copays for ONE WEEK’S hospitalization and medication will be more expensive than your cost for testing, and if you survive it and become a Long-hauler, you will have legions of problems, possibly for life. Imagine having a body too ravaged to support a pregnancy, or needing a lung transplant. Waiting for a new kidney, or just living on the edge of the cutoff. Or if you’re lucky, just brain fog and crushing exhaustion. Those cost, too. My husband’s coworker is early thirties, survived it, but is too exhausted for sex with his wife. He can’t even pick up their 25-lb toddler. Their cost for lawn mowing this year cost more than testing, because his wife had it, too, and she gets tired microwaving soup and making salad. Sorry this is so long, but since it’s not possible for you to have the vaccine – AND THERE ARE MANY, MANY VALID REASONS SOME PEOPLE CANNOT, BTW– take the tests, keep your job with every precaution, and let the price shake out. Good luck in good choices, always.
tinybutfierce* September 3, 2021 at 4:56 pm I’m so incredibly sorry for your losses. Thank you and all your healthcare family so much for the work you’re doing.
lailaaaaah* September 6, 2021 at 12:22 pm Sending so many hugs. A coworker of mine literally just got in today from a funeral for one of his friends, who died of COVID last week. The guy was in his fifties; a mutual friend of theirs is also in hospital, had to have an emergency caesarean and is now in an induced coma to try and keep her alive. But sure, it’s just the flu.
Pam Poovey* September 7, 2021 at 12:46 pm I have a classmate who would beg to differ if he hadn’t died over a year ago
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 11:55 am Sigh. Not surprised, though. It was pretty clear that this was not a medical exemption with affordability issues at play.
Aerin* September 3, 2021 at 12:15 pm I feel like people who have legitimate medical exemptions, if they have any self-awareness, would be up front with “Yes, it’s an actual medical exemption from a real doctor.” (Although I haven’t heard of any actual contraindications for this vaccine other than a very small number of allergic reactions during trials. Even things that are normal vaccination hurdles like an egg allergy don’t apply with this one. There are some conditions/medications that make it ineffective, but they can still get the shot.)
This one.* September 3, 2021 at 1:50 pm My Dr does not recommend that I get the vaccination so I am listening to her.
Theo* September 3, 2021 at 2:34 pm You are the person this kind of idiots don’t want to protect — I’m so sorry!
Frank Doyle* September 3, 2021 at 2:37 pm And that’s fine! But then presumably you’re masking and distancing when around other people, and are okay with getting tested regularly.
Covid is real* September 3, 2021 at 3:52 pm But I doubt (or hope) you aren’t sending out hate-filled emails saying Covid isn’t real. And want everyone else who can to get vaxxed to protect. If you are doing 1 and don’t support 2, then I would question the word “doctor”.
o rly* September 7, 2021 at 12:48 pm Is she telling you that you should NOT get vaccinated, or simply not telling you that you should? Is it possible that she assumes you’ll get vaccinated without her telling you to? And are you absolutely certain that she’s right? Have you asked her why you should not get vaccinated? Does her answer hold up? One of the people I work with didn’t bother to get vaccinated for the exact same reason that you’ve given — their doctor hadn’t told them to. (I live in a part of the country where there’s an incredible level of incompetence in the health care industry.) This co-worker then caught Covid Delta and exposed everyone in the office, including several immunocompromised people.
SuperBB* September 3, 2021 at 2:41 pm There is a risk of anaphylaxis for people with a shellfish allergy. I know someone who had the reaction to the first dose, but had discussed the risk with her doctor and went prepared. But obviously. she can’t get a second dose. However, that means she is super extra cautious and doesn’t scream exemption or refuse to be tested.
Gumby* September 3, 2021 at 3:03 pm I know someone who is allergic to something in the vaccines. His doctor is now considering whether to recommend that he get the vaccine in a hospital setting and just… deal with the reaction in order to be vaccinated. I have no idea how you weigh those two risks (nor “how” allergic he is, I don’t know that it is guaranteed anaphylaxis).
Fact & Fiction* September 3, 2021 at 4:22 pm Yeah. It can be a hard calculation in that event. I nearly died twice to anaphylaxis years ago and carry epi-pens around because they ultimately diagnosed it as “idiopathic.” It’s hard to avoid something you don’t know to avoid! I don’t envy them having to decide which is the lesser of two evils for them.
LDN Layabout* September 3, 2021 at 4:27 pm My friend’s colleague is a nurse with other health concerns, who had an allergic reaction to the first. Catching covid would be worse than anaphylaxis. So she had her second jab with a crash cart on hand.
Lizard* September 3, 2021 at 6:32 pm I had a friend like this, but she was also allergic to one of the inactive ingredients in epi pens, so it was like, doubly exciting.
Tilly* September 3, 2021 at 8:56 pm “also allergic to one of the inactive ingredients in epi pens” Some people get all the luck.
Blackcat* September 3, 2021 at 8:18 pm “His doctor is now considering whether to recommend that he get the vaccine in a hospital setting and just… deal with the reaction in order to be vaccinated. I have no idea how you weigh those two risks (nor “how” allergic he is, I don’t know that it is guaranteed anaphylaxis).” That was how my doctor handled it. I got my COVID shot in the same room they use for allergy challenge tests. Those are rooms with all the stuff prepped for someone to go into anaphylaxis! It’s what they’re made for! And most hospitals have them. Having had COVID badly (but still not to the point of hospitalization) and having had multiple episodes of anaphylaxis, I chose potential anaphylaxis. Maybe I’ve just been lucky with my anaphylactic reactions, but I’ve never had one that wasn’t under control in an ER pretty quick. It feels AWFUL, don’t get me wrong. But the meds for it work well and quickly, and I’ve generally been back to myself within 48 hours once the epinephrine/steroid/benedryl combo hangover wears off. COVID debilitated me for 10 days, and left me with heart damage to boot. I didn’t have a reaction to the COVID shot, though.
Splendid Colors* September 5, 2021 at 6:00 am I know an ER doctor who supervised a COVID shot for someone in your situation.
DarnTheMan* September 3, 2021 at 7:06 pm I had a family member who was one of the first people in our province to have an allergic reaction to the vaccine; her logic was she would rather find out she was allergic by getting vaccinated than risk dying of COVID because she didn’t.
Mahkara* September 3, 2021 at 4:27 pm I’ve heard the same as well, which makes me pretty hesitant to buy any “oh, but I can’t get vaccinated” excuses. If you’re under 12, clearly you can’t be vaccinated. And the same goes if you had a severe allergic reaction to the 1st shot. But I haven’t heard of *any* other circumstances in which people aren’t being urged to vaccinated. (And this includes people like me who’ve had severe anaphalactic reactions to vaccines in the past.)
?* September 3, 2021 at 6:16 pm I was told that for people undergoing chemo it can be a problem, but I don’t know that for sure.
fish* September 3, 2021 at 6:33 pm People on chemo fall squarely within the group of immuno-compromised people who are urged to get MORE vaccine (i.e. a booster shot)
ShanShan* September 3, 2021 at 6:46 pm The issue is more that the vaccine not work when they get it. You need an immune system to get any benefit from a vaccine.
Pennyworth* September 3, 2021 at 9:49 pm My friend who was undergoing chemo was advised by her cancer doctor to get vaccinated as soon as possible and bring forward her second shot. The only caveat was to get vaccinated during the breaks in her chem routine.
WS* September 4, 2021 at 1:33 am While you’re actively having chemo, you can’t have the shot (I have a relative in this position currently). You need to wait for a break in the chemo. Same goes for some people getting transplants or just recovering from transplants. But those reasons are time-limited.
Kuddel Daddeldu* September 5, 2021 at 2:29 am The consensus in the virology community here now seems to be that vaccinating school age kids with at least the Pfizer-BioNTech vaccine is, while off-label, reasonably safe and that the formal approval should happen fairly soon. A relative of a coworker just died of Covid. Less than 30 years old, healthy but unvaccinated (not by any fault of his; the vaccine is still not widely available in their country). Left a spouse and two young kids.
Duckles* September 7, 2021 at 1:01 pm Adverse reactions aren’t that rare. I had a unexpected and unusual reaction to the first dose and had to go to four specialists for testing to try to figure out what had happened and if I had should get the second dose. I don’t think you can assume everyone who can’t get fully vaccinated is lying.
desdemona* September 3, 2021 at 5:28 pm The one person I know who was eligible for a real medical exemption elected to get vaccinated to protect their immunocompromised child, after much discussion with their doctor. They DID deal with an adverse reaction (again due to their medical issues; the vaccine is very safe!), but said it was worth it for their child’s protection.
Mike S* September 3, 2021 at 7:14 pm I know someone who can’t get intramuscular vaccines. He’s SOL until there’s a nasal vaccine. He also regularly posts rants on Facebook for people to get vaccinated, since he can’t.
Endorable* September 4, 2021 at 7:39 am I have to agree with you! I’m not an expert… just an avid reader… but from everything I’ve gathered immunocompromised people should be at the top of the list for the vaccines and boosters too! And the suggestion that anyone that is known for allergic reactions to any of the components should take the shot under medical supervision makes total sense. OK maybe you have to go to the hospital for the shot and not at the drive through clinic, but tough beans… go to the hospital! YOU are the most likely to die! Life has risks… getting out of bed is risky… staying in bed is risky… a plane might crash on you! Look at the facts… crunch the numbers… get the shot!
The Rules are Made Up* September 3, 2021 at 2:51 pm Very clear. The options were get vaxxed or get tested routinely. A person who doesn’t want to/has an exception of doing the former, fine. A person who doesn’t want to do the former and also refuses to do the latter? Clear covid denier red flag and no longer gets the benefit of the doubt.
Llama face!* September 3, 2021 at 11:55 am Ohhhhhh. Well that settles it. Sorry you got that vitriol sent your way, Alison! And glad you’re not giving their crap the time of day.
ceiswyn* September 3, 2021 at 12:09 pm This is not my surprised face. I guess… at least it’s satisfying to know your instincts were accurate? I’m sorry you had to receive that kind of mail, though :(
mcfizzle* September 3, 2021 at 12:09 pm Good to know our instincts were spot-on. People with genuine medical exemptions do not have this guy’s attitude nor wording at all. I must say I am *really* wondering what exactly was in his email.
sarahbear* September 3, 2021 at 12:09 pm I hope these unvaccinated folks realize that it’s highly unlikely they will qualify for unemployment when they get fired from a mandatory vaccination company…….
Mannequin* September 7, 2021 at 11:54 pm +1 Unforgivable for someone working in healthcare to have this attitude.
tinybutfierce* September 3, 2021 at 12:24 pm Well. Good thing he’s leaving that healthcare company, then.
tinybutfierce* September 3, 2021 at 12:32 pm Also, love his logic that covid is both not real, yet somehow real enough to kill ~some~ folks.
mcfizzle* September 3, 2021 at 1:07 pm The problem is: it’s not logic at all. It’s emotion-based. Still, your sentiment is spot-on!
Mannequin* September 7, 2021 at 11:54 pm Yes, I caught that too. Must be like being “a little bit pregnant”.
bureaucratte* September 3, 2021 at 12:24 pm :-O I was wondering if you were going to get hate mail, but I didn’t think it’d be from the LW himself, given that you’ve written about COVID plenty before… I wonder what he was hoping for? A note from AAM to show to his boss saying he shouldn’t be fired?
mcfizzle* September 3, 2021 at 1:08 pm I was thinking of the manager who wrote in and was shocked (SHOCKED!) because s/he thought Alison would just agree with *any* manager on whatever topic. That one was a hum-dinger.
Teapot, Groomer of Llamas* September 3, 2021 at 2:35 pm There was also that great one where a manager was angry that their best employee quit on the spot because she couldn’t take a couple of hours (not even a whole day) off for her college graduation. The manager wanted Alison’s affirmation that the employee was unprofessional.
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 2:56 pm The one who forced out a good employee because she “didn’t fit”. As in was “Older” (30s), was married with kid and was REALLY good at her job and very focused ON THE WORK.
TrackingCookieMonster* September 3, 2021 at 5:44 pm Here’s the initial letter: https://www.askamanager.org/2017/07/is-the-work-environment-ive-created-on-my-team-too-exclusive.html Here’s the first update that has what mcfizzle was mentioning: https://www.askamanager.org/2017/08/update-is-the-work-environment-ive-created-on-my-team-too-exclusive.html Whenever you can pick your jaw up out of the basement from the first update, here’s the conclusion: https://www.askamanager.org/2017/10/update-is-the-work-environment-ive-created-on-my-team-too-exclusive-2.html
EchoGirl* September 4, 2021 at 7:47 pm At least that OP turned out to really be just exceptionally clueless (as shown by the updates). This one though…I doubt they’ll ever get to a point of rethinking like that OP did.
A Genuine Scientician* September 3, 2021 at 2:26 pm I’m reminded of the bizarre person who just assumed that *of course* we would all agree with their company’s idiotic stance that the employee born on Feb 29 only has a birthday every 4 years, and therefore it’s perfectly reasonable that they not get the paid day off for their birthday and gift certificate that literally every other employee gets at that company. And that the employee was somehow being unprofessional for disagreeing.
Lance* September 3, 2021 at 5:44 pm Not only that, insisting that the employee wasn’t losing anything under this absurd policy. Because actual material benefits (gift card and day off) are apparently ‘nothing’.
Storm in a teacup* September 3, 2021 at 7:37 pm Omg I remember they replied in the comments (maybe even sent an update) and would not budge on their view. Such a num-nut
Stitch* September 3, 2021 at 1:36 pm Given Alison has written on COVID before and been very clear she’s no COVID denier, I dunno what she suspected.
pope suburban* September 3, 2021 at 2:22 pm That type of person always seems to think that they are special, and will be magically granted any and every exception to any rule.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 12:26 pm What a thoroughly revolting person. I sincerely hope they isolate themselves from society until they get some sense.
quill* September 3, 2021 at 12:29 pm Best case scenario for everyone in terms of transmission as well.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 12:32 pm Yup. If you think this is all a fraud and people aren’t actually dying and don’t want to take any measures against spreading disease to others you’re effectively saying you don’t want anything to do with society. Therefore please avoid society. Cabin in the woods, top of a mountain somewhere, whatever works for you.
ceiswyn* September 5, 2021 at 5:20 am Or just Slough… (Worked there for 18 months, 20 years ago. Still traumatised.)
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 5, 2021 at 7:51 am ceiswyn: used to work just up the road from Slough, can confirm. Although I’ve also worked in Swindon and Coventry and Crewe so kinda torn on which is the worst :p
Amazed* September 3, 2021 at 12:56 pm That sounds great in theory, and I’ve run into a couple folks who say things like “but muh medical freedom etc! but if it means I have to go off grid, so be it”, but isn’t that how we get mutations and variants?
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 1:00 pm If they stay away from the rest of humanity for the rest of their lives then it doesn’t matter how many variants they generate. Trees can’t catch human viruses :p
JESUS IS THE MAN!* September 3, 2021 at 10:05 pm Your username has me thinking about how many people in the DA universe are like “we don’t need Grey Wardens” …except there’s like, 80,000 hurlocks on your doorstep. And we thought fantasy was unrealistic.
Jesse* September 3, 2021 at 1:26 pm If they actually went off-grid, with no contact with the rest of society, I think that would be nearly as responsible as following the other public-health protocols like vaccination. It would potentially be an issue if they, say, needed medical care and had to be brought to a hospital, but even then, they would only be able to spread covid to themselves and other isolates in their off-grid settlement once they got back there.
Beth* September 3, 2021 at 1:43 pm There was a news story about a hermit in the Czech republic who came OUT of the mountains to get vaccinated.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 12:33 pm I was wondering when they were going to show up here spouting gibberish. I’m actually rather sad that Alison had to bear the brunt of their hate though – that can’t be pleasant.
Lizzo* September 3, 2021 at 4:43 pm Would have much preferred that they show themselves in the comments so the rest of us can share in the fun of…dispensing a reality check?
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 4, 2021 at 6:54 am Cathartic yeah, but I think that might have had the potential to show a truly dark side of some of us so I’m actually kinda glad they didn’t. I might have said something that would end up getting me legitimately blocked from here.
Ms.Vader* September 3, 2021 at 12:28 pm I feel that in this case a name and shame would be worth it :)
SheLooksFamiliar* September 3, 2021 at 12:30 pm Covid’s not real, and yet it hardly kills anyone…what a rational line of thought, OP, assuming you even gave actual thought to your stance.
tinybutfierce* September 3, 2021 at 12:34 pm I thought the same thing. I can’t imagine the OP’s thinking went beyond “well, I don’t want to, so NAH”.
Donkey Hotey* September 3, 2021 at 12:32 pm GAH. I am so sorry, Alison. I thought your response was quite well-mannered and even-handed. If dude wants to smack your good will, that shows his mettle, not yours.
Pay No Attention To The Man Behind The Curtain* September 3, 2021 at 12:38 pm You should ask him which is it…not real or barely kills? Because I can’t argue unicorns aren’t real AND they only kill 2-3 people per year. I’m glad the health care field is self-purging dangerous people; it’s long past due.
Doug Judy* September 3, 2021 at 1:51 pm Or the “it’s not real” but simultaneously “the government created it in a lab for mass extinction/population control” So…which is it? They are mutually exclusive.
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 3:00 pm Reading this just made me realize why the someone had to come up with the theory that what’s really in the vaccine is radios that the government can use to track you.
Pointy's in the North Tower* September 3, 2021 at 5:18 pm Yet they get so angry when you point out that their Facebook post says they’re at Chili’s in Boomtown and posting with an iPhone, so why would Bill Gates need to stab them with a needle to track them.
DarnTheMan* September 3, 2021 at 7:08 pm I follow a military veteran on Tiktok who served several tours in Afghanistan; he’s mentioned several times in his videos that they were all chipped up the wazoo with tracking devices and base still routinely managed to lose them in the field, so the idea of someone being able to develop a microchip small enough to fit in an injection, but strong enough to report your every location is laughable.
Splendid Colors* September 5, 2021 at 6:07 am People who read Nextdoor can’t avoid seeing posts about “take the lost pet you found to the vet to have its microchip scanned and find their owner” yet will still post that the vaccine contains a tracking microchip. I guess Bill Gates is going to take us to the microchip scanning lab to verify who we are if he sees us around Seattle or something?
lailaaaaah* September 6, 2021 at 12:25 pm I know a guy who was teetering on the edge of that ‘great reset’ vaccine nonsense, except that he works in IT and the idea that anyone could create tech that good, that specific and that straightforward to implement was what convinced him it was a load of garbage.
Jennifer Strange* September 3, 2021 at 3:16 pm My husband’s uncle is a conspiracy theorist and once quit a job because he was required to get a flu shot and he believes those are used to weaken and kill poor people so the rich can reign supreme. First, I think the multitude of deaths of those who get the flu shot each year would raise suspicions. Second, as my husband likes to point out, how does it benefit the rich to kill the poor? Those are the people who do the jobs rich people don’t want to do.
Velawciraptor* September 3, 2021 at 5:00 pm Not to mention, the rich don’t need to kill the poor to “reign supreme.” *gestures vaguely at the world around us*
Pennyworth* September 3, 2021 at 10:02 pm I always giggle at the rich ‘killing off the poor’ and ‘depopulating the world’ – just how do they think the rich got to be (and stay) that way? Most of us are essential nutrients for the rich.
Fact & Fiction* September 3, 2021 at 4:27 pm One of my favorite parts is where they never look at the statistic of politicians and government officials who they revere who have, you know, 100% vaccination rates. Just run around saying, “But they told me NOT to get vaccinated because REASONS!” Yeah…And yet they are themselves vaccinated because…SCIENCE! I was vaccinated against whooping cough as a child and yet…I GOT IT. It sucked so much. Yet I don’t run around saying “Vaccines don’t work!” because…SCIENCE! I researched how that stuff actually works and you better believe when I was up for a booster shot years later I got it.
PersonPerson* September 3, 2021 at 12:40 pm I was going to say something about how if the OP is required to come into an office it would be somewhat reasonable for the employer to help pay for tests but… nevermind.
ele4phant* September 3, 2021 at 12:43 pm I’m going to imagine even if the COVID tests were freely provided by his employer, he would still balk. Because it’s not cost that’s the issue here, tbh…
Girasol* September 3, 2021 at 12:49 pm OP1’s stance is indeed odd but all too common, at least in the US. All the good arguments for masking, vaccinating, and distance go out the window if one assumes that covid is not real. The idea that a vax exemption exempts one from taking any steps at all for the welfare of those around them makes perfect sense if one assumes there never was any covid to begin with. There’s a pretty elaborate conspiracy theory to explain away news from the CDC (it’s fake) and hospitals (doctors pad their paychecks by diagnosing people with a fake disease). There’s a whole big tale about how the government made up the covid story to soften us up before taking our guns, bibles, wives, children, and “freedom.” That’s obviously ridiculous to me but surprisingly many people think that my view of reality is stupid. How can HR, hospitals, customer facing businesses, and local governments deal with protecting their people from believers in the “alternative reality” who are both outside and inside their organizations?
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 12:56 pm Also the whole ‘fake’ thing would entail every country on the globe all deciding to go along with this. Countries can’t decide on anything aside from maybe battery sizes.
Stitch* September 3, 2021 at 1:44 pm Or people like my Dad, who is a physician, to be in on it. My Dad’s the kind of doctor who wears stethoscopes and scrubs with cartoon characters on then to calm the kids down. He recites silly poems to kids while checking them out so they don’t freak out. Mind you, pediatricians like my Dad make almost all their money off of well visits and routine procedures. My Dad’s billings, as are most billings of hospitals and doctors, are way way down. Putting someone on a vent for two weeks might cost millions of dollars but no one actually pays it. My Dad was actually due to retire but he stayed on because he actually has special outbreak control training from his time as a Navy doctor.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 3:56 pm Your dad? Is a wonderful person. Please tell him we said so :)
tinybutfierce* September 3, 2021 at 5:00 pm Your dad is an actual hero and I’m so thankful for folks like him.
Elizabeth West* September 3, 2021 at 7:17 pm Big thanks to your dad. My friend who is a nursing instructor had to go help out at the hospital because cases were so high in OldCity. I assumed they put her doing something away from the COVID ward since her husband is medically vulnerable.
alienor* September 3, 2021 at 2:00 pm I’ve suggested that logic to people, and apparently the answer is that all the global elites are in on it together because something something Bill Gates. It’s exhausting.
Becca Rosselin-Metadi* September 3, 2021 at 3:54 pm No, the Bilderburg Group. Or the Tri-Lateral Commission. Or the Council on Foreign Relation. One of them or maybe all of them.
Splendid Colors* September 5, 2021 at 6:17 am Our county government made the rather stubborn and foolish decision to bring everyone back to the office at the beginning of August. Despite mask rules, testing, and fairly high vaccination rates, they’re having outbreaks (particularly in departments where families have to bring children to appointments) thanks to the high transmission rates of Delta variant. The Board of Supervisors considered a vaccine mandate. So of course everyone who doesn’t want to be vaccinated insists they belong to a religion that forbids vaccination and mandating that they get vaccinated (or be tested weekly) violates their freedom of religion. (I call BS on this because the religions that don’t want people to be vaccinated would also not want them to work for secular government offices.) And several departments have Change.org petitions demanding to have teleworking reinstated for any employee who was able to telework earlier in the pandemic. I don’t have an answer to the dilemma, but clearly it was too soon to bring everyone back and start seeing the public in person again.
JelloStapler* September 7, 2021 at 11:21 am And if it was bioterrorism, well we are just showing the world that it will … work… for a significant part of our population.
Heffalump* September 3, 2021 at 1:28 pm “Stupidity is an elemental force for which no earthquake is a match.” –Karl Kraus
Susana* September 3, 2021 at 1:39 pm Oh, Alison, I’m so sorry you were subject to that. I was actually just about to write a fan-note comment here. It’s natural to sympathize a bit with people who take the time to write in and ask for advice. But this LW really needed to be told the hard, life-or-death truth. Thank you for doing that.
Speaks to Dragonflies* September 3, 2021 at 1:50 pm Well shoot…Now I want to read what this now confirmed dipwad wrote. Is it posted somewhere?
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 2:05 pm I think we can probably guess the highlights of the email: Starter: ‘how dare you speak to me like that’ Main course: ‘blah blah you’re all sheep, nobody has died from it they were just fat or old’ with a side dish of ‘I have a right to a paid job I guess you want my family to starve for your scam’ Dessert: ‘free speech’ Recommend: a hefty dose of antacids if you try to swallow that :p
spek* September 3, 2021 at 1:56 pm Hard to believe that people working in HEALTHCARE can be so oblivious
Old Woman in Purple* September 3, 2021 at 2:27 pm Possibly akin to medical/health-field workers who use tobacco-products, when they more than average folks should know how bad it is for a body.
Chickaletta* September 3, 2021 at 3:03 pm Yeah….I work for a healthcare organization that just instituted a vaccine mandate last week and we lost a few employees over it including nurses. Thankfully it’s a small amount so hasn’t impacted our operations, and we never want to lose employees (especially now), but… we’re in healthcare. We need people on board with health, science, and doing the right thing to protect the community. If someone chooses to believe conspiracy theories over science, then this is probably the time for them to seek employment in other industries that suit them better. Perhaps they can become a psychic or join an MLM.
Llama face!* September 3, 2021 at 11:16 pm Psychic MLM? Does that exist yet? ;) So glad your organization did that. Thank you for caring for the safety of your staff and your community as you serve them. In my city today the antivaxxers- including some people claiming to be nurses and medical techs (but who refused to give their names to the reporter)- were protesting outside a hospital that is currently overwhelmed and desperately trying to save the lives of COVID patients inside that very building. And the protestors were blocking the way in and spitting on medical staff as they came out and vandalizing their vehicles. Because “mandatory vaccines”. Except we don’t even have mandatory vaccines or basically any government restrictions in our province despite being second or third highest new cases in the country and second lowest vaccination rate. Frankly I hope those protesting supposed medical workers get fired so hard it launches them into space.
Windchime* September 4, 2021 at 4:45 am My state (Washington) has a rule that all healthcare workers have to either be vaccinated or show medical exemption by the middle of October; anyone who is non-compliant will no longer be allowed to work in health care. Which makes sense to me as I work for a big hospital system. But an acquaintance who works for a dentist is preparing for mid-October when she will lose her job. She sees it as something unavoidable, since she isn’t going to get the shot and doesn’t qualify for an exemption. It doesn’t occur to her to just get the shot; she feels she shouldn’t have to if she doesn’t want to and that she will be unfairly out of work when that date arrives. It’s like she truly doesn’t understand that she can just get the vaccination. (She believes that everyone who got it will die from it within 5 years).
Becca Rosselin-Metadi* September 3, 2021 at 2:13 pm I would have thought that anyone would read this site regularly would be well aware of your stance on Covid and protecting not only your own health but that of colleagues-but I guess not.
TrackingCookieMonster* September 3, 2021 at 2:33 pm LW1: *Works in healthcare* *Gets told he should be fired from a healthcare job if he won’t participate in basic healthcare* LW1″ *Shocked Pikachu face*
Sola Lingua Bona Lingua Mortua Est* September 3, 2021 at 2:44 pm Well, sometimes the recipient of the doubt doesn’t deserve it. =(
Sola Lingua Bona Lingua Mortua Est* September 3, 2021 at 2:53 pm The recipient of the benefit of the doubt …
wittyrepartee* September 3, 2021 at 2:45 pm Ooo! Exciting update! Why did this person write to you? I’m so confused. What did they expect?
Ex-Teacher* September 3, 2021 at 4:33 pm Clearly they wanted to have someone who carries authority validate their viewpoint. Of course, they didn’t count on Alison being a smart person who suffers no fools.
I'm just here for the cats!* September 3, 2021 at 3:13 pm URRGG! This makes me so mad because I was thinking that his exemption was legit (like he’s allergic to the vaccine). No this guy is just huge asshat and doesn’t care about anyone else. BOO to him.! Boo to all people like him!
Some dude* September 3, 2021 at 3:31 pm What bums me out about this, and the whole situation in this country is that he holds a position which is in opposition to reality, and anyone or anything that contradicts that position is immediately rejected as “Not True.” And fact that the majority of sources claim that COVID is real is just proof to them that there is a big conspiracy. I don’t understand how to crack that nut.
ADHSquirrelWhat* September 4, 2021 at 4:20 pm That’s the problem with a closed worldview – everything fits the story, because the story has a nice big “all evidence to the contrary is a lie” hole to shove the ENTIRE WORLD into. There’s no room for science or reality when someone already “Knows the Truth” – doesn’t matter how far down the rabbit hole is.
DJ* September 3, 2021 at 4:18 pm I must say that I really wish you’d touch on how requiring the waivered, unvaccinated to pay for testing would interplay with things like the ADA and religious civil rights policy/laws. I mean this guy may be a nut job but I’m sure there are others who are wondering such things. Not everyone can be vaccinated and it doesn’t seem fair to me to put the cost burden on them. Especially those with existing medical issues.
annonie* September 3, 2021 at 4:23 pm I’m sure someone who has that question can submit it. These are short answers, she answered the question she was asked.
T2* September 3, 2021 at 4:48 pm Yeah. I would like to tell 6 of my friends that COVID hardly kills anyone. I would like too, but I can’t, because all I can visit now is their very cold headstones. Screw him.
DonnaNoblehasbeensaved* September 3, 2021 at 4:53 pm Figures, probably just made up the post to get a reaction and start a fight in the comments.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 4, 2021 at 6:58 am A noted hotbed of Covid deniers just got banned off Reddit so maybe this guy decided to go find another forum to go stir up crud. Obviously didn’t read the page, Alison is never gonna allow antivaxx stuff here :)
Akcipitrokulo* September 4, 2021 at 8:45 pm Picked wrong page on at least two counts then! This is very well moderated for antivax nonsense.
PurpleHeartRed* September 3, 2021 at 5:03 pm How does something that isn’t real kill, even if it’s hardly anyone?
Phoenix Wright* September 3, 2021 at 5:34 pm I know you don’t want us to say anything unkind about LWs, but everything I can think about #1 is unkind. Although not as unkind as their mindset and actions, that’s for sure. It’s sad how much damage people like LW1 have caused, and will continue to cause. OP, you not only deserved to be fired for this, but you also deserve to not get any other job. No one should be put at risk because of your horrible and criminally negligent behavior.
Elizabeth West* September 3, 2021 at 6:49 pm And to think I had a kind response all formulated about how OP 1’s coworkers probably don’t want to potentially see one of their colleagues come in at death’s door. But yeah, tossed that right out the window onto the highway in front of a semi-truck. :P
LGC* September 3, 2021 at 7:22 pm …you do not get paid enough for this. You could not get paid enough for this.
Trixie, the Great and Pedantic* September 3, 2021 at 7:34 pm Good grief. I was ready to give them at least some benefit of the doubt and suggest they try to push for reimbursement from their employer, but now all I want their employer to give them is a boot out the door.
Essential Worker* September 4, 2021 at 1:35 am I work in health care and vaccination is mandatory, if you aren’t vaccinated then it’s out of pocket cost weekly testing. IDK if they will make an exception of the out of pocket costs for medical exemptions. The emails are getting increasingly specific and have moved from vague language to specific and threatening phrases like “up to and including termination.” It will be interesting to see what happens in October when we hit eight weeks past full federal approval, which is now the hard deadline. I got vaxxed in January as soon as I qualified to get in line and I submitted every form and all documentation when requested. This isn’t the hill I want to die on literally or metaphorically.
Despachito* September 4, 2021 at 3:43 am In my country, COVID tests were covered by your insurance – you could get up to 2 PCR tests and 4 antigen tests a month for free. That was before the vaccines were available to anybody. Now, when most people have the opportunity to be vaccinated, the insurance companies stopped paying for that, and limited payments only to kids below 12 who cannot be vaccinated, and those who had their first jab or had the second before less than 14 days. I think it is fair – if the state requires tests AND you were unable to get the jab because there was none/not enough vaccines were available/you were not eligible, it is only fair that the state pays for it. If you had the possibility and opportunity to get vaccinated, but chose not to – it is up to you to cough up the money, and very rightly so. The free testing for everyone is extremely costly, and while it is perfectly justifiable to pay for it when it is the only means to protect the entire population, it is no more so when it boils down to your personal preferences. “Not being a sheep” has its costs, and the rebels should willingly bear them. At least they do not get burned at a stake as in the past :-)
Windchime* September 4, 2021 at 4:26 am My cousin will be glad to hear that Covid is not real. Oh, wait–no, she won’t. She passed away last weekend in the ICU with Covid.
Elizabeth S.* September 4, 2021 at 4:40 pm Well that sucks. I will say, I had to wait a bit to get my poke because of health issues, and in the midst of that I caught a cold and was required to pay for my own rapid test, which cost more than $30 dollars in my area. It was all good and I didn’t have COVID, but at the time I did feel bad for people who are being required to do this weekly at their own expense in situations where the vaccine is not an option for them. It’s a tough situation to be in and for many underpaid people in service work the costs of tests really are a burden.
TexasTeacher* September 5, 2021 at 9:16 pm He needs to lose all medical licenses as well as his job. He should also be banned from any position of responsibility for vulnerable people.
Ella* September 7, 2021 at 9:16 am Not real, and yet “hardly” kills anyone. So admitting it does kill people, and is therefore real? God, pigs aren’t as ignorant.
JelloStapler* September 7, 2021 at 11:07 am I am happy to have him talk to two of my best friends who are Nurses and SEE how it kills people. I would also be happy not to have him as a colleague in a healthcare setting.
Elm* September 7, 2021 at 12:35 pm Yikes. I was giving them the benefit of the doubt with the exemption as someone who has had to have medical exemptions for a required vaccine in the past (thankfully no longer!). I was even peeved that someone with a medical exemption might be required to pay! (I forgot that some places are doing “I don’t wanna” exemptions.) But…I have a feeling their termination may be less about the vaccine itself and more about professionalism based on the follow-up.
Elle* September 7, 2021 at 8:28 pm Thank you for being blunt and clear that public health and not putting others at risk is important! Hopefully LW1 will make their stance clear to potential employers so that they know what to expect/don’t hire just to fire.
Ellis Hubris* September 3, 2021 at 12:09 am LW1: this is the compromise. Vaccination or testing. It will be everywhere you go.
Tim Tam Girl* September 3, 2021 at 12:19 am It sounds to me like LW1 has a formal, approved exemption but don’t want to have to (or may not be able to afford to) pay for testing, especially if it has to happen frequently. I would appreciate Alison’s input on that possibility, given that medical exemptions from vaccinations often arise from other ongoing – and expensive – medical issues. In that case, I believe that the company should waive the testing fee; but it sounds like Alison disagrees and I don’t understand why.
Where’s the Orchestra?* September 3, 2021 at 12:24 am My job has this same requirement of anyone submitting for an exemption. The difference is that you are able to do the testing through employee health – just not while you are on shift. You can go before or after your shift (if those times line up with employee health’s hours), or during your unpaid lunch break. You can also come in on a day your are off work. Being honest, OP1 if you are in the medical field or even just medical adjacent this testing requirement is going to be extremely common. How the testing is being paid for is probably the only part that will vary.
lazuli* September 3, 2021 at 12:24 am My company is paying for testing fees, which I appreciate (I’m vaccinated but think we should accommodate medical issues), but I also think there’s a limit to “reasonable accommodations” at some point. I mean, if the company were the one pocketing the money for the tests, then yes, but presumably they’re paying for them. It’s also really not clear that the LW has a medical accommodation.
wayward* September 3, 2021 at 10:40 am One very good reason for the company to pay for testing is that they can be sure it actually gets done. An employee who’s willing to submit a sketchy exemption or one who’s financially strapped might try to submit fake results.
Amethystmoon* September 3, 2021 at 11:46 am That and people may just get fake Covid vaccine cards. Not that I agree with that practice, but it’s already happening.
Susana* September 3, 2021 at 1:48 pm And some of them have been arrested, facing jail time and a $5K fine: https://www.nbcchicago.com/news/local/suburban-woman-charged-with-using-fake-covid-vaccine-card-in-hawaii-complaint/2603396/
LunaLena* September 3, 2021 at 7:19 pm Yeah there’s been memes for a few days now of people pointing out that anti-vaxxers and COVID deniers are paying hundreds of dollars for fake cards, when they could just get a real one for free.
lemon meringue* September 3, 2021 at 11:00 am I would hope that the company would consider any accommodation they can make if the exemption is for medical reasons–letting the person work from home if possible, or paying for the tests themselves. But I’m guessing in some cases neither of these would be feasible.
R* September 3, 2021 at 12:25 am I think the wording the letter writer uses, when they say they have ‘no desire’ to pay for testing, gives the impression that they just can’t be bothered/have contempt towards the idea more than can’t afford it. Obviously we don’t know, but that’s definitely the vibe I got.
Sue* September 3, 2021 at 12:35 am My take is that if they had a legitimate medical reason, they would have said so. Much more likely to be a “religious” or “philosophical” exemption.
Where’s the Orchestra?* September 3, 2021 at 12:57 am Yeah – I have all the sympathy in the world for someone who can’t get vaccinated either for medical reasons or because they do not yet qualify. I have family members that can’t get their jabs yet – we are all still in masks to protect them. If testing isn’t free in your area and you medically can’t get the shots at this time – yes, I think something needs to be worked out. However, like Alison below, the wording in that letter just doesn’t sound like a medical exemption.
Falling Diphthong* September 3, 2021 at 8:21 am Also, the virus doesn’t care what your reason for not getting a shot is. You can be sympathetic as all heck or spouting your lizard people theories at anyone who doesn’t sprint away fast enough–the rules for testing should be the same. It would be nice if an employer provided the tests for someone who was sympathetic as all heck…. but I understand their not wanting to wade into that ruling. And I think, public healthwise, we’ve tried the carrot, now it’s time for “No one cares about your conspiracy theory du jour, these are the rules if you want to breathe on us. No, we’re not paying extra to cover you.”
Cait* September 3, 2021 at 9:24 am “No one cares about your conspiracy theory du jour, these are the rules if you want to breathe on us. No, we’re not paying extra to cover you.” Oh if only. I wish companies would adopt this way of thinking faster and ubiquitously. I think that’s the only way everyone who can be vaccinated will be. Not out of personal responsibility but personal inconvenience.
quill* September 3, 2021 at 10:30 am I presumed that there were tangents or identifying details stripped out that informed Allison’s response. I can still draw my own conclusions based on the tone, of course, and I think if there had been “I have a medical exemption because XYZ” Allison would have added a parenthetical about [LW states that they have medical reasons to remain unvaccinated.]
Cranky lady* September 3, 2021 at 3:39 am This was my assumption. Everyone I know with medical exemptions wishes they could get vaccinated and would willingly get tested. (Might not love paying for it but they already know that disabilities are expensive.)
NotRealAnonForThis* September 3, 2021 at 7:37 am Bingo. Very Limited Example: I’m used to having to shell out for a fairly benign medical condition for one of my small humans (Epi-pens and special foods are not cheap, much less specialist visits, etc.) and I don’t think twice about sending enough safe food for a class party for EVERYONE on my dime. I’m used to having to pitch in for things that include group food that my child cannot safely consume, and where I’ll have to send safe food for my child, and I don’t b!tch or refuse to pay. I’m used to having to be a decent human and pitching in for the benefit of all.
Pants* September 3, 2021 at 9:19 am I’m interested to know if OP1 wears a mask. I’m pretty sure we all know the answer.
Aquawoman* September 3, 2021 at 10:03 am I think if someone has a disability/medical reason not to get vaccinated, their employer should pay for the covid testing. “Disabilities are expensive” is a reason NOT to add another $1000/year to their tab, not a justification to add yet another disability-related expense. I know this probably doesn’t apply to this LW but I’m not down with dismissing the truly disabled because they happen to be in a Venn diagram with jerks that they’d rather not be in. It’s sort of like denying people pain management because other people abuse opioids. Not fair to punish someone for other people’s behavior.
Spicy Tuna* September 3, 2021 at 10:21 am 100% this… my brother lives in an area with an out of control opioid epidemic. He was passing a kidney stone and couldn’t get an appointment with the ultrasound machine to break it up for 10 days. His doctor refused to write him a scrip for pain relief because he thought my brother would sell the pills, despite the fact that my brother was legitimately in agony and had no history of opioid abuse (no history of any medical issues at all in fact). My brother was in agony for nearly a week until the ultrasound center fortunately had a cancellation and could take him.
Jesse* September 3, 2021 at 1:29 pm That is horrible, and I wish that doctor would realize that their job is to treat patients, not prevent pill-selling and opioid abuse. We have at least three other parties who are supposed to prevent that – let them handle it.
raintree* September 3, 2021 at 7:01 pm That is substantiated medical neglect, and your brother should see a lawyer.
Michelle* September 3, 2021 at 10:28 am I’m sure you didn’t mean it this way, but your comment about opioids comes off as sort of victim-blaming. The problem is less “some people abuse them,” and more “they’re so addictive that people who are prescribed opioids for legitimate reasons sometimes have a difficult time stopping when they should.” It still sucks when you have real pain and doctors are hesitant to prescribe a medication that would help, but that’s because there is a legitimate concern that doing so could have serious consequences for you, not because of “other people’s bad behavior.”
JB* September 3, 2021 at 11:01 am If opiates were restricted for the reason you describe, then people who are on end-of-life care or who have life-long disabilities that require pain management wouldn’t have trouble getting them, since potential addiction wouldn’t be a problem. But they have just as much difficulty getting pain medication as the rest of the population – sometimes more. The issue is not genuine concern for the person taking the opiates. It’s also not ‘other people’s bad behavior’. It’s the stigma that’s been assigned to opiates and people who use them, the moral panic that leads to people describing an area as having an ‘opiate epidemic’ or describing people struggling with addiction as exhibiting ‘bad behavior’ (or being ‘drug seekers’ – love that one). For anyone reading this comment and thinking ‘but opiates are bad. Opiate addiction is on the rise, and people are suffering from overdoses. How is it not an epidemic?’ – I suggest you read up on the history of opiate use and treatment in the US. People have always used opiates in this country, they didn’t start dying from it until we started treating them like criminals for having an addiction.
Aquawoman* September 3, 2021 at 11:58 am I appreciate the comment. I’m not sure about your characterization about the genesis of opioid addiction, but I also don’t think it’s bad behavior (and did not say “bad”). But there probably was some bias/privilege in my statement. I do, however, think that people who need pain relief are to some extent being denied pain relief because people are trying to solve a problem that is unrelated to them individually.
Risha* September 3, 2021 at 12:30 pm The last studies I saw (and it’s been a while, so no links) said that abuse and addiction to opioids by those who are genuinely in enough pain to warrant their usage is almost non-existent. I’m not going to say that no one who gets a short term rx because of some dental surgery has ever ended up with a problem, but it’s generally treated these days as something very likely to happen rather than something very unlikely to happen. That’s the moral panic part.
Jesse* September 3, 2021 at 1:31 pm That is a legitimate concern, but it’s one that can be handled when the immediate problem of extreme, terrible pain is no longer at hand. And patients have agency – they can weigh the risk of potential addiction versus what they’re experiencing in the moment. And, as the other commenters said, accidental addictions are a rare occurrence that should never stand in the way of adequate pain management.
usually anon* September 3, 2021 at 2:27 pm My partner waited in the ER for 6 hours with a stab wound from an oyster knife entirely through her hand. We were read the riot act (and treated like scum) about pain meds and not given anything, even while they forced ‘cleaning fluids’ through the wound for 30 minutes.
EchoGirl* September 3, 2021 at 4:23 pm I agree with this. I think in the event of a legitimate medical exception, part of a reasonable accommodation would be the employer paying the costs for the person to get tested, in the same way that they’d be expected to pay for things like an ergonomic chair or wheelchair-friendly desk or what have you. If it’s a person who’s just refusing to get vaccinated, then I think it’s completely fair for employers to make the employee pay for it. Based on Alison’s pinned comment, though, it seems pretty clear that OP is the latter, so I think it is fair in that case for OP to shoulder the cost.
Edwina* September 3, 2021 at 4:28 am Right, I thought the same thing. I have a good friend with serious allergies and her doctor advised her to hold off on the vaccine; so she masks up, tests constantly, and is super aware of the risks to herself and to others. If you ask her about the vaccine, she is extremely apologetic and explains exactly why she can’t get the vaccine. Instead, LW made vague reference to an “exception” and then is complaining about having to get tested. I REALLY liked Alison’s brisk answer.
Richard Hershberger* September 3, 2021 at 6:24 am Yup. I would expect anyone with a real medical reason would be eager to make clear that they aren’t a petulant toddler.
JB* September 3, 2021 at 11:05 am And eager to support testing mandates – since they’d be one of the most at-risk if someone came in sick. It would be one thing if they said they can’t afford to pay and asked about how to address that. They just don’t want to be tested at all, which sounds like they don’t see a reason for it.
Researcher* September 3, 2021 at 11:49 am EXACTLY THIS. Those with legitimate contraindications for vaccination are typically the ones taking the most precautions.
Web of Pies* September 3, 2021 at 12:26 pm But I mean HOW is he supposed to know which Real Medical Reason to choo…oh what’s that? He works in healthcare? Cool cool cool.
Anonomatopoeia* September 3, 2021 at 4:25 pm So, okay, this individual letter writer is a jerk and should be shunned (well under way; good.). However, I also think that it is none of my business exactly why random person I interact with can’t get the shot. I know a person for whom there was a weird and extremely frightening medical event in the days following childhood vaccines which didn’t resolve for months, and which happened on two different occasions. It wasn’t an allergy in the sense of anaphylaxis, and in fact it’s hard to prove it was a vaccine reaction at all because it was merely, this bad bad thing happened in the subsequent few days, twice, and we don’t know why. This person does not do vaccines. I understand why. I do not thing this person should have to describe this series of events to all and sundry. So. If someone says they cannot get the shot for medical reasons, I’m inclined to respect their privacy on the topic. I also do want them to test often; I also think that social responsibility means we all pay for everyone’s tests and shots (tax dollars), regardless of how many, how often, or why. But I mean, I also don’t care if someone is a petulant toddler about the shots or the tests, either. They can whine and require a cookie and a nap and a sticker, and I am okay with that as long as they do the thing. I will buy the cookies.
teapot analytics manager* September 7, 2021 at 8:54 am I can tell who has a legitimate reason not to be vaccinated very easily without asking any direct questions: – Everyone I know who can’t get the shot for legitimate reasons is being extremely careful. – Everyone I know who is making up culture war reasons not to get the shot are out running around with their nose and mouth breathing fumes all over everyone.
EZ Like Sunday Morning* September 3, 2021 at 7:59 am Agreed- This one seems to be all about the wording, so based on the words and term the LW used it doesn’t look great. The “I have submitted a vaccination exemption” is not “I am medically exempt”. Combined with R’s point above you about the wording, it doesn’t paint a great picture unfortunately. “No desire to” is very different than “Can’t afford”.
Zennish* September 3, 2021 at 10:38 am Yep, this. I keep wondering why my philosophical opposition to breathing other’s Covid tainted exhaust doesn’t seem to carry as much weight.
Ask a Manager* Post authorSeptember 3, 2021 at 12:37 am Yeah, this is very much the wording of someone who doesn’t want to get vaccinated, and I would bet a lot of money that that exemption is based on bullshit. If I’m wrong, I apologize, but really … a lot of money.
Emily* September 3, 2021 at 12:52 am “I would bet a lot of money that that exemption is based on bullshit.” Ding, ding, ding, we have a winner! I agree that if OP # 1 had an actual legitimate medical exemption they would have said so. The wording of OP 1’s letter strikes me very much as “I found a shady way to get an exemption, but now I don’t want to get tested either.” Frankly it seems like OP thinks the rules shouldn’t have to apply to them. Hats off to OP’s employer for making sure everyone is held accountable.
Heffalump* September 3, 2021 at 3:38 pm Sounds like they got huffy (or worse) with their employer and Alison.
Aphrodite* September 3, 2021 at 1:18 am I agree. I’ll toss my first million into that same bet. I turned in a co-worker yesterday for violating our safety regulations. And I’d do it again.
Emily* September 3, 2021 at 1:46 am Good for you! My friend’s employer just fired someone who came into work after testing positive for COVID (the employer is fully supporting working ftom home, so the person could have just worked from home, it’s not excusable either way but still.) Employers need to take a zero tolerance stance when dealing with this kind of thing.
tangerineRose* September 3, 2021 at 1:54 am “My friend’s employer just fired someone who came into work after testing positive for COVID (the employer is fully supporting working from home, so the person could have just worked from home” Good. I like that employer. I don’t understand why someone who tested positive for COVID and can work from home would come into work. Maybe a COVID denier?
Richard Hershberger* September 3, 2021 at 6:28 am A denier or simply a sociopath who prefers coming into the office. Then again, the Venn diagram of deniers and sociopaths have so much overlap that the distinction is not all that meaningful.
Liz* September 3, 2021 at 7:41 am I agree. Good for the employer. And probably a denier. I don’t get it either. I am slowly transitioning back to the office but if i had ANY symptoms of anything, i’d stay home, monitor, and get tested if I thought i needed to.
KRM* September 3, 2021 at 8:53 am We just had someone COVID + come into the office one day but 1-they were asyptomatic, 2-they hadn’t gotten their test results yet (we test weekly for everyone, even though 100% of the office is vaccinated), and once they got the results, they informed HR and left. So it can happen, although I’m guessing this scenario is pretty rare overall.
Green Beans* September 3, 2021 at 9:56 am We’ve had a handful of those at my workplace (people coming in before they know they’re positive.) But there’s been no community spread, because we have good COVID-19 prevention measures in place and enforced.
It's Growing!* September 3, 2021 at 11:32 am You’ve read about the teacher at a Catholic school in CA who came to school not feeling well, eventually had a test, but still came to school while awaiting results? Then more than half her 2nd grade class got sick, plus relatives and friends of the children, adding up to 27 people sick because of her. Tell me why the school allowed her on campus without a vaccine, especially since there was no reason for her not to have been vaccinated at least two months before. She wasn’t fired, she’s still there. Parents are unhappy to say the least. I have zero sympathy for those who show such disregard for others.
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 12:47 pm Tell me why the school allowed her on campus without a vaccine If my experience is anything to go by, the school makes it extremely difficult for teachers to take off. And even if the OFFICIAL policy is to stay home, in real life what happens when a teacher call sin sick is “Are you SURE?” and “Well, either you come in or find a substitute yourself”. Not excusing the teacher – she should have been vaccinated. But I’m betting that her coming in was in full compliance with the school’s ACTUAL vs written policies.
Kit* September 3, 2021 at 2:28 pm > But I’m betting that her coming in was in full compliance with the school’s ACTUAL vs written policies. Her reading aloud to the class without wearing a mask wasn’t, and that’s how it started. Every child in the front row tested positive, because their plague vector of a teacher was talking at them while taking no precautions to protect her students (who were too young to be vaccinated). I’m sympathetic to the demands placed on teachers, but this was a case of such wilful disregard for the students’ well-being that I don’t have it in me to muster excuses.
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 3:21 pm I don’t have it in me to muster excuses. I wasn’t excusing it – she should have been vaccinated. And failing that, she should have put on a mask. But I don’t believe that the school has been requiring masks, regardless of what the actual written policies are. That’s why she hasn’t bee fired.
albe* September 3, 2021 at 2:11 am Good! Now that whole workplace has to test and isolate for 14 days, their families have to test and isolate for 14 days, the kids can’t go to school, anyone that lives in an apartment with shared lifts etc can’t even take the rubbish out for 14 days. And anyone the workmates or their family came into contact with has to go test and isolate until it’s negative, too. That’s incredibly expensive and dangerous and just plain annoying. That should be a fireable offence.
Cheesesteak in Paradise* September 3, 2021 at 7:37 am The CDC is currently only recommending masking indoors and testing after 3-5 days for vaccinated people with a high risk COVID exposure. Nothing for secondary contacts (kids in their household) unless the exposed person becomes positive. It’s still sucky but your scenario is out of date and more extreme than current guidelines.
Hazel* September 3, 2021 at 9:37 am Reply to Cheesecake in Paradise: I think albe is not in the U.S., and I assume that, unfortunately, the 14 day restrictions are still needed in other parts of the world. Wait, or are you saying that the CDC has found that 14 days isn’t (and wasn’t) necessary due to how COVID spreads in all situations?
Albe* September 3, 2021 at 9:55 am Ahhh, different countries. I’m Australian. Here, even one minute in a shop at the same time as someone who subsequently tests positive must test and isolate, plus all household contacts, plus THEIR household and work contacts. And the army checks up to make sure you’re isolating. Entire apartment blocks get locked down for one case, because there’s a chance you’ll have crossed paths in a foyer or something.
Albe* September 3, 2021 at 9:58 am (I mean, the shop example is pretty theoretical – the only retail open are supermarkets but you get the vibe)
COBOL Dinosaur* September 3, 2021 at 11:16 am At my workplace they don’t even notify you that you were exposed to someone unless you ‘worked with that person in close contact for 10 minutes’ I believe it is! We do have a mask mandate for everyone regardless of vaccination status though.
anonymath* September 3, 2021 at 12:00 pm Cheesesteak in Paradise, I’m betting that albe (who used the word “lifts” and “rubbish”) is not following CDC guidelines, given that the CDC is not a worldwide organization. It’s great to remember that different localities have different approaches and different laws and regulations.
Speaks to Dragonflies* September 3, 2021 at 2:20 am It seems that it comes down the reason for the exemption. Unless OP 1 comes in and explains the reason, we can only guess. I dont know how much a test costs, but I just went through this. Job called Monday night saying I’ve been exposed and need to be tested. Tuesday, got tested, and got the results Thursday. It took a total of 4 hours just to get tested, then 3 days for results. If I had to do this on a weekly basis, it wouldnt be sustainable. This is just what my place of workship requires. Others may be more or less stringent. Anyway, until we know for sure the reason for the exemption, may be better to hold back the torches and pitchforks?
Paul Pearson* September 3, 2021 at 5:48 am In the UK we have PCF tests which you have to send off, but we also have lateral flow tests which are being used in schools and work places when you need repeat testing. They’re less accurate but you can do them yourself and they take about 30 mins
CJ* September 3, 2021 at 9:27 am The rapid tests have an accuracy rate of just 58% in asymptomatic people. If you have symptoms, the accuracy goes up to 80% but that’s still pretty dismal. I have a friend who directs an infectious disease lab and she and her colleagues are begging people to stop using the rapid tests.
MsSolo (UK)* September 3, 2021 at 9:49 am It’s about getting at least some of the infectious people out of circulation as quickly as possible – if at least 58% of infectious people aren’t unknowingly infecting people, that pulls the R0 down regardless of the ones who are missed. You can’t use lateral flow for holidays or events, because they’re not reliable enough, but everyone who works in a public facing role or is attending school/college is encouraged to take a lateral flow twice a week to get the asymptotic carriers out circulation as quickly as possible. Lateral flow are also free – PCR is free if you’re symptomatic, but if you’re testing to prove you’re negative you have to pay (and prices vary wildly).
Astor* September 3, 2021 at 10:36 am Yeah, the rapid tests are useful, but a negative doesn’t tell you anything! If it does tell you that you’re positive, 99% of the time it’s right. But a negative doesn’t mean you’re negative!!! I wish they instead called the results “positive” and “inconclusive”. It can also be useful for watching outbreaks. If you catch people with a covid result in your workplace or event, you should assume there are more people that you didn’t catch and close up and/or increase your protections accordingly.
madge* September 3, 2021 at 12:39 pm I had to get a rapid test this week (thanks, unvaccinated and unmasked coworkers). They were very clear that the first test result could be a false negative and I was not cleared until result #2 came back 24 hours later (both negative). I actually didn’t realize that people were using result #1 alone – frightening!
Mina, the Company Prom Queen* September 3, 2021 at 6:59 am So it’s okay for someone to not get vaccinated from a deadly, very contagious disease and also refuse to get tested as a precaution not to spread said deadly, very contagious disease because it would be too inconvenient for them? Ummmmm….
Justme, The OG* September 3, 2021 at 7:38 am Agree. Their issue is with being vaccinated. They need to be tested regularly.
MandyDan* September 3, 2021 at 8:59 am Agreed. The reason for getting the vaccine is so you hopefully don’t get sick. If you can’t (or won’t) get it, you’ve now got a greater chance of getting sick with COVID-19 so requiring testing makes complete sense.
Speaks to Dragonflies* September 3, 2021 at 7:55 am Ummmmm…. If they have a valid reason for the exemption and the cost of the test is going to a hardship, then the employer requiring it should be paying for it. On other posts, I’ve seen others mention the price of tests being between $12 to $150. Some areas are free. As far as I know, OP has not been on to comment on what the exemption is nor what the out of pocket for them will be. I have no problem with vaccine or testing mandates from employers, but don’t put the cost on someone who can’t take the vaccine. Also, if they are like my employer, if you know you’ve been exposed, you must get the PNR( I think…None of the rapid result tests are acceptable) test and have negative results before returning to work,vaccine or not. The time away is taken from your PTO.
RabbitRabbit* September 3, 2021 at 8:05 am They might well be paying for it. I know we’re supposed to take the LW’s word on things but other people in this thread have mentioned employees at their own companies not understanding that testing is paid for. Similarly, LW1 needs to ask their own company about their policy on firing for non-compliance. Only their bosses would know if they would be allowed to be in non-compliance and working (or at least paid) for another two weeks – and generally, actual firings for most any reason do not allow for a grace period of work to continue.
Me* September 3, 2021 at 9:01 am They have “no desire” to test. As in they just can’t be bothered. Not that it’s expensive. Not that it’s a huge hours long ordeal. The pitchforks are out for a reason. The OP’s chosen language says a lot.
Mina, The Company Prom Queen* September 3, 2021 at 10:41 am Ummmmm…It doesn’t matter why someone is unvaccinated and won’t get tested for a potentially deadly and very contagious virus. I don’t want those people anywhere near me. People who truly have a good reason not to get vaccinated will take responsibility to wear a mask, social distance, and find a way to get tested on a regular basis is asked to. They would also make arrangements to work from home or find a way to keep any potential exposure to others to a minimum.
Donkey Hotey* September 3, 2021 at 11:51 am Let’s define “valid reason.” – I will die if I get the shot. Valid. – My invisible friend in the sky will keep me safe. Not valid. This letter has the air of “I can’t be bothered, so I’m taking the only loophole they’ll allow.”
Autumn* September 3, 2021 at 1:57 pm The LW indicated that they were expected to pay for the test. That’s the only sympathy I have. All other things seem to be pointing at a covidiot.
Speaks to Dragonflies* September 3, 2021 at 2:28 pm To Mina… This all a moot point now that it has been confirmed that the O.P is a dumbarse, but making someone pay out of pocket every week for a test when they can’t get the vaccine because they have a valid ( and that would be defined in some law book somewhere.) is punitive. I never said they shouldn’t wear a mask. Never said they shouldn’t isolate or better yet work from home.If they can work from home, that solves the problem all together. I had to take several vaccines to work where I do, but I didn’t have to pay out of pocket for it. That’s the point I’ve been trying to make.If the employer mandates it, they should pay for it if there’s no other workaround, be it work from home, a vaccine, isolation or whatever.
Akcipitrokulo* September 3, 2021 at 9:11 am I don’t think the reason mattera in respect of whether compny should pay. Company accepted exemption reason as valid. So they should pay for test. If they don’t think it’s valid, they shouldn’t accept the exemption.
It's Growing!* September 3, 2021 at 11:59 am Unfortunately, I don’t think that the reason can matter. An employer is diving into shark infested waters if she says, “Since you have an allergy to polyethylene glycol (a component of the vaccine), we’ll pay for your testing. We won’t pay for Bob who has a hokey letter from Pastor Jim saying it’s against their religion. We know Pastor Bob got his divinity certificate on the internet for $25 and that you paid him $50 for this letter, so we declare your religious exemption invalid for the purpose of us paying for your testing.” Can you imagine the lawsuits? An employer can’t even make a judgement on which medical exemptions are valid and which are fraudulent. Some doctors with strong political feelings have been caught having a stack of exemptions ready to go on the front counter, just come by and pick one up.
Lady Meyneth* September 3, 2021 at 12:49 pm I very strongly disagree. In my country, there are a lot of BS reasons to get exempt, and each one is clearly listed on the exemption. Most companies I’m aware of are paying for and covering PTO for people with medical exemptions get tested. They are absolutely not doing so for any other reason, since their strong preferance is for people to get freaking vaxxed. Most insurances here are also doing the same. If your doctor signs off that you can’t get a jab, they’ll cover COVID related stuff, but if you are eligible and have a BS exemption, your copay goes straight through the roof. And I say good job!
quill* September 3, 2021 at 10:35 am When I tested at work it was the rapid test. Company paid for, on site, paid time for 15 minute appointment, learned about the results the same day. Of course, we were healthcare adjacent and NOT playing around in any way.
Lego Leia* September 3, 2021 at 10:47 am If this person didn’t work in ~healthcare~, I don’t think that there would be as many pitchforks. Working in healthcare, and not vaccinated AND refusing the work policy of weekly testing?!?!!? Yes, you are going to be fired, and have a hard time finding a new job.
Velawciraptor* September 3, 2021 at 11:48 am Totally missed that they work in HEALTHCARE. Yeah, that makes it worse. Not that I had sympathy before, but this makes the attitude unforgivable.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 2:46 am Reading your reply to this letter, your comments, how you’ve been a stalwart in these very difficult times… …put it this way, if you ever want a donation given to a charity of your choice, or a patreon amount or similar let me know. Because I’m in tears of gratitude that you exist.
Fieldpoppy* September 3, 2021 at 6:34 am Yup. I’d be happy to contribute to a patreon. I get so much from this blog.
Keymaster of Gozer* September 3, 2021 at 8:49 am sanity saving No word of a lie – this site has helped me enormously in getting back to a mental level of operation after losing my sanity last year. It’s just…validating to be somewhere where I’m not going to get bombarded with covidiot stuff.
quill* September 3, 2021 at 11:13 am It is so helpful to have someplace on the internet where people who are at least reality-adjacent about the state of the world can gather without being under siege every minute. +100 to Allison’s moderation.
Blue* September 3, 2021 at 4:16 pm Yeah, it’s so nice not to have to brace yourself for the comments.
Caroline Bowman* September 3, 2021 at 2:57 am Yes, this. I am a hardline atheist and pro-vaxxer (for anyone who can safely do so), and I’m aware I need to maintain respect and understanding for religious views specifically, without reservation. However, when someone says ”I can’t” do X or Y (that affects others in some way), my immediate thought is ”no, you *can*, but you have made a conscious decision not to. That’s not the same thing.”. That aside – and of course this may not be remotely a religious exemption at all – if there were a specific medical exemption, I’d have thought OP1 would have spoken to whoever is most appropriate and made some fair, equitable arrangement around testing and so on.
Richard Hershberger* September 3, 2021 at 6:34 am The thing to keep in mind about religious objections is that while there are some sects that genuinely oppose vaccination on principle, these are mostly pretty marginal in American culture. Think Christian Scientist. The politicization of vaccines we are seeing now comes from Evangelical Protestantism, which only discovered a sincere and deeply held opposition to vaccines the day that Biden was inaugurated. Any claim otherwise is gaslighting. They did the same thing with opposition to abortion. Recall that the President of the Southern Baptist Convention praised Roe v. Wade as a win for religious freedom. It was only about 1980 that they discovered their sincere and deeply held belief that the Bible clearly tells us abortion is murder.
NotRealAnonForThis* September 3, 2021 at 7:48 am Its snarkily amusing when a few Catholics I know claim its against their religion. The Pope himself says otherwise.
Sola Lingua Bona Lingua Mortua Est* September 3, 2021 at 7:56 am That’s the same kind of ugly prejudice that leads people to question whether Catholics like John Kerry and John Kennedy are fit to be president. The Catholic rank and file get to think for themselves and disagree with leadership as much as any other group of people–that’s part of how the Orthodox and Protestant branches of Christianity exist.
Mary* September 3, 2021 at 9:06 am Ah but then you have the TradCaths who don’t like this Pope and won’t listen to him.
EPLawyer* September 3, 2021 at 9:11 am Yep. The Pope decides what religious doctrine is. He said getting vaccinated is very much in line with the teachings of Jesus Christ. Other than Christian Scientists I am not sure of ANY religion that is really anti-vaxx. Heavens knows they all probably have their measles, mumps and rubella shots. Probably get a flu shot once a year too.
Elizabeth I* September 3, 2021 at 9:34 am Yeah, the official Catholic stance is that vaccination is for the common good, and therefore recommended for those that are medically able to be vaccinated – but also that it must be someone’s free choice to be vaccinated (i.e. not forced). So it’s an approach that is trying to balance promoting what’s good for all while also preserving each individual’s ability to freely choose that good. Also, my understanding (from reading this site!) is that the way that religious exemptions/accommodations typically work in the workplace (whether vaccine related or something else) is that you don’t need to prove that a particular thing goes against your religion’s officially held doctrines/dogmas, you just need to show that it’s against your own personal “sincerely held religious belief”. I guess that makes sense given that there is a plurality of beliefs within any religious sect.
SimonTheGreyWarden* September 3, 2021 at 3:06 pm EP Lawyer – maybe the Amish? I’m am not certain how much inroads are made with vaccinations there.
Rainy* September 3, 2021 at 5:30 pm @EPLawyer, I grew up in a cult that discouraged medical care in favour of faith-healing. I got my vaccinations (my dad was a microbiologist) but many of the kids I knew did not have any shots at all unless they left the cult.
Katke* September 3, 2021 at 9:37 am Not even the Christian Scientists and Jehovah’s Witnesses anymore. The CS view compliance with public health measures as part of loving one’s neighbor.
Richard Hershberger* September 3, 2021 at 10:12 am Really? I did not know that. Their theology is sound. I am Christian, but not Evangelical. Within my church the loving your neighbor argument is regarded as immediately obvious.
The Leirum* September 3, 2021 at 1:02 pm Yep. This comes up here a lot and I feel like I need to come out of the lurking and say “Hi, fully vaccinated Cristian Scientist here” Katke has it right.
Mallory Janis Ian* September 3, 2021 at 11:40 am The religion of evangelical protestantism, these days, is anything by which they can maintain their slipping cultural dominance in the U.S.
Donkey Hotey* September 3, 2021 at 11:57 am It doesn’t help that there are conspiracy theories suggesting that the vaccine is made … (I’ll leave out the BS) … in a manner that would make anti-abortion advocates refuse the vaccine on principle.
Aerin* September 3, 2021 at 12:29 pm In some of the discussions I’ve seen about granting exemptions, they’ve talked about specifically investigating whether the person has demonstrated a history of holding this belief. (So if you’ve gotten other vaccines without complaint, no dice.) I’ve also seen compelling arguments that organizations are possibly on safer legal ground if they refuse all non-medical exemption requests rather than adjudicating which ones are sincerely held.
Mahkara* September 3, 2021 at 4:39 pm Even the Christian Scientists are okay with vaccination (https://www.christianscience.com/press-room/a-christian-science-perspective-on-vaccination-and-public-health) (although, they’re also okay with not being vaccinated). I feel like the religious exemption angle is pretty hard to work on this one…
GlitsyGus* September 3, 2021 at 2:58 am Agreed. The only caveat I may have added is that if you cannot get the vaccine for a medical reason, bring that up with your HR department. There may be a way for them to help out or get it covered by your insurance or something. Given the way the letter was worded, though, it really did sound like thy just didn’t want to bother or look into options; not that they were actually worried about the financial burden of it.
AnonymousAndroid* September 3, 2021 at 6:16 am Yeah, I have a lot more sympathy if someone *can’t* get vaccinated rather than chooses not to. I’d hope something could be done to help out with costs if needed for those with genuine medical exemptions.
Lego Leia* September 3, 2021 at 11:09 am I have started calling people who medically can’t get it “unvaccinatable” instead of “unvaccinated”.
nothing rhymes with purple* September 3, 2021 at 11:25 am This is an excellent term and I will adopt it too.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 11:54 am You’re a flipping genius. That’s brilliant!
Artemesia* September 3, 2021 at 11:15 am There are virtually no religious bars to vaccination — these deeply held religious or philosophical beliefs are just tarting up ‘I don’t wanna’. ‘I don’t wanna’ is no reason to endanger other people in a public health emergency. Typhoid Mary sincerely wanted to be a cook.
Yvette* September 3, 2021 at 3:02 am OK I agree with the whiff of BS. That being said, presumably the company is having everyone, even those with genuine, valid medical exemptions, pay for their testing. I think I would be safe in saying that most here would agree that companies requiring ongoing drug testing should pay for it. Why is this different? And I say this as someone who not only had Covid but was also vaccinated.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 3:11 am Because you can’t infect another person with drugs just by sitting near them.
Yvette* September 3, 2021 at 4:04 am Drug testing is usually done for safety reasons, such as operating heavy machinery. The point is it is generally been accepted that if the company requires something the company pays for it.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 4:18 am Society and frankly the entire human race requires people to either vaccinate or do their utmost best to avoid spreading this deadly disease by testing and isolating if it’s positive – it’s not just a workplace safety thing. Also, the OP didn’t ask for help on the costs, just how to refuse and keep a job. Which they can’t.
PollyQ* September 3, 2021 at 4:35 am Sometimes, but not always. Companies may require a certain style of attire, but they don’t pay for it. Even specific uniforms are generally bought & owned by the workers. Many jobs require a current driver’s license, and it’s generally up to the employee to pay for that. And then there are all the jobs that require higher education. Yes, some offer tuition reimbursement, but by and large, employees are responsible for covering their own education costs.
Stop whining* September 3, 2021 at 7:44 am The idea that if a company requires something, the company pays for it is very much not a universal truth. Steel toed work boots, for example, are often required but not reimbursed, as are tools for some jobs. I had to have a computer at home long before the company started issuing laptops, and an internet connection before that was a standard household item. The company didn’t provide either or reimburse me fir the cost. Beyond that, though, this is not like a drug test required of everyone whether there’s a reason to suspect drug use or not. It’s an exception for those who refuse to (plus a tiny fraction who can’t) take a small step to protect themselves and others during a pandemic. The cost is not forced on anyone who could get the vaccination; it’s their choice. Good for that company for making it the more expensive choice. I do feel for those who truly can’t get the shot, but I would be utterly shocked if lw1 falls into that category, given the tone of the letter.
iliketoknit* September 3, 2021 at 8:21 am I’ve hit the nesting limit, so this is really intended as a reply to Keymaster above, but the point about the OP not asking for help with payment is a really good one. If they wanted to comply but couldn’t afford to, the letter would likely have asked something like “of course I’m willing to test, but can’t afford the long-term cost – how can I talk to my workplace about whether they can pay or reducing the expense?” (All that said, TBF to the LW, they are willing to quit over the requirement – they’re just trying to figure out when that will kick in – so it’s not like they’re saying “how DARE they require me to test!!!!” or trying to stay in the job but get out of testing. I don’t agree with their stance at all, but it could be worse.)
LTL* September 3, 2021 at 11:34 am Regarding the point that companies don’t often pay for things required for the job, such as specific uniforms. Perhaps they don’t but they definitely should.
Bamcakes* September 3, 2021 at 6:10 am If this is “pay for testing” in a “buy LFD tests for a few quid each”, fair enough. But if they’re asking everyone to get PCR tests for £75 each, that’s really not an expense individual employees should be required to bear.
Mina, the Company Prom Queen* September 3, 2021 at 7:02 am Then they should get the vaccine or stay home.
Me* September 3, 2021 at 9:32 am I quite imagine the company is doing it for a reason. By making it unpleasant to not be vaxxed they’re making a pretty clear statement their policy is that their preference is that you are vaxxed.
Green great dragon* September 3, 2021 at 3:33 am I don’t think there’s a one true answer about who should pay – we expect to buy our own work-appropriate clothes but we expect the company to provide equipment – and it may come down to the details. Do local regulations say people should be testing anyway? Are there any people with genuine medical exemptions (they seem pretty rare) or is it personal choice? Is it actually a high cost when considering salaries? But this LW didn’t ask about pushing back on costs.
Nelliebelle1197* September 3, 2021 at 6:56 am The medical exemptions are minuscule and basically boil down to an anaphylactic reaction to ingredients and chronic fatigue syndrome. I doubt this is medical.
Interview Coming Up* September 3, 2021 at 9:59 am There are medical and philosophical exemptions *for a reason as well*. You might not agree with the reason, but it’s there. But testing is what a person would gladly do if they cared about the safety of those around them.
Ms JT* September 3, 2021 at 10:35 am There are more exemptions than that people who are fighting cancer cannot get any vaccines. My roommate is in the final stages of chemo (she is now cancer free – YAY) she cannot get the coved vaccine. She also cant get tetanus or any other vaccine until she is well clear of chemo/radiation treatments
fhqwhgads* September 3, 2021 at 10:58 am This is not universal. I know at least three people who have cancer and are very much in the process of getting vaccinated. They have to schedule it around chemo – I don’t recall the exact timing but there had to be a certain distance between shot and treatment. Depending on one’s treatment plan it’s very possible to get vaccinated for COVID-19 while in the middle of cancer treatments. Not to say your scenario isn’t sometimes true, but “some cancer patients” is different than anyone fighting cancer.
quill* September 3, 2021 at 11:18 am Yeah, every medical exemption is going to be extremely individual. I don’t think it’s going to help us to generalize to “everyone except patients with X can be vaccinated!” when the reality is that even if any of us were doctors, we would have to be evaluating patients individually. Also, time to remind the commentariat that there are more people with medical conditions and disabilities out there than you probably think.
Gipsy Danger* September 3, 2021 at 11:31 am That is 100% not true. I work in a cancer clinic and for the most part, people with cancer can absolutely get the vaccine. There are some patients that can’t get the vaccine, but the vast majority can.
KoiFeeder* September 3, 2021 at 11:38 am Adding on to quill’s comment, but there’s also medical issues that can hinder the vaccine without qualifying as an exemption. Mine didn’t take, and while my immune system is poor enough that I’ve been staying in full quarantine, I’d probably have to (and want to!) get tested on a regular basis if that wasn’t the case.
Not a cat* September 3, 2021 at 12:11 pm I had cancer last year. The tumor was excised and I received a stem cell injection. About a month later I was vaccinated.
Black Horse Dancing* September 3, 2021 at 12:42 pm My spouse got the vaccine while on chemo. this must vary. She is getting the third shot (US) next week.
M / P* September 3, 2021 at 2:52 pm This is emphatically not true. In fact, in my country people on chemo were prioritized for vaccination when vaccines were still in short supply.
Theo* September 3, 2021 at 10:40 am This isn’t entirely true. People with things like MCAS are also being advised not to be vaccinated, and there’s a small handful of other things. But those people as a general rule DESPERATELY want to be vaccinated, get tested often, and would not talk like the OP.
EPLawyer* September 3, 2021 at 9:14 am I agree if they want to require vaxx (which if FREAKING FREE BTW) or testing which might not be free in a specific area, the company should pay for it. However, the company can do all the carrots and sticks they want and some glassbowls are STILL going to refuse to get vaxxed OR get tested regularly. Because glassbowls gonna glassbowl.
Aquawoman* September 3, 2021 at 10:11 am Yvette, I agree with you. Someone with a legit medical exemption should have their test paid for or be allowed to work from home or have some other accommodation. Workplaces are supposed to provide and pay for accommodations for disabled people. I understand that the extremists have made the rest of us pretty ticked off by their callous disregard for public health and safety. But penalizing people who probably would LOVE to be vaccinated and can’t is not okay.
Anonys* September 3, 2021 at 3:47 am It would still be interesting to know what your answer would be for someone with a genuine medical exemption! Imo employers should do their utmost to protect those employees since they are usually at high risk for complications as well. This pandemic is already so hard for people who know they are vulnerable and cant do anything about it through vaccination and I would hate to see an additional financial burden placed on them. But could a company even (legally) decide to pay for testing only for those wiht medical exeptions? though in that case I think those who have “philosophical or religious” exemptions due to being anti vaxxers might try very hard to get a BS medical doctors note as well?
Keymaster of Gozer* September 3, 2021 at 8:54 am If, like my member of staff, they absolutely cannot get a vaccination because of very good medical reasons they should act like she does: mask up everywhere, get regular tests, ask the workplace to enforce social distancing and masking and vaccination and if they need help with the costs of testing (she doesn’t) then ask for help. I’ll move heaven and earth to keep her on my team. If she’d strolled in and just said ‘I’m not getting tested and you can’t force me’ then I’d….be far less inclined to help.
Amy the Rev* September 3, 2021 at 9:24 am Agreed- I’d love to talk about how employees who medically cannot get the covid vaccine, and who cannot work from home, could advocate for themselves and how to go about asking employers to pay for testing. In my area, we have an indoor mask mandate, and clergy are allowed to take their masks off to preach (since we have hard-of-hearing and neurodivergent folks who rely on reading lips/faces for comprehension) but only if we get a negative test result that morning. They are requiring a very specific rapid test, which is about $50 per test in my area. Thankfully, my church is covering the cost, but if they weren’t, how might I go about asking them to?
Amy the Rev* September 3, 2021 at 9:31 am Yes! I think it’d be good to think about how employees with medical exemptions could ask for help paying. My area has an indoor mask mandate and vaccinated clergy (like myself) are allowed to take off their masks to preach (which is good because we have hard-of-hearing and neurodivergent folks who rely on lip/face reading for comprehension), as long as we’ve tested negative that morning, from a very specific test that costs about $50 per test in my area. Thankfully my church covers the cost but if they didn’t how might someone go about asking their employer to cover the cost? This to me feels similar to a medical exemption in that the testing mandate is even for vaccinated people, not just unvaccinated.
Sharon* September 3, 2021 at 3:20 pm I wonder if the employee’s health insurance might cover the cost of testing ? In any case, any accommodation for a disability just needs to result in the employee being able to perform the essential functions of their job, and the employer does not need to offer the accommodation preferred by the employee. If you are a surgeon with an allergy to scrub soap, you don’t get to just not wash your hands. Accommodations could include changing soap brands, sanitizing your hands some other way, wearing gloves (if that provides an equal amount of protection), using a robot to operate while separated from the patient, consulting on cases without actually operating, etc.
Kal* September 3, 2021 at 7:02 am I tend to agree with this read of the letter, but I wonder if it would be a good idea to add a “if it were to be due to a medical issue…” type addition to the advice of what might actually be different in that scenario (if anything), in case someone with a medical cause to be unable to be vaccinated and unable to afford weekly testing happens to be searching for help and finds this answer?
Turtles All The Way Down* September 3, 2021 at 7:45 am Yes, it’s phrased as “I have an EXEMPTION” rather than “I have a medical condition that necessitated me getting an exemption.”
Rusty Shackelford* September 3, 2021 at 8:48 am +1000 People who want the vaccine but can’t get it tend to make that pretty clear. People who have chosen not to get the vaccine tend to use weasel words.
Aunt Vixen* September 3, 2021 at 8:52 am I don’t know how many people realize how carefully neutral our host remains on so many issues so much of the time. I entirely concur with this comment and I am boggling at how big a deal it is for Alison to have made it.
Isabel Archer* September 3, 2021 at 12:28 pm And the Award for Admirable Restraint goes to…Alison Green!!
Sherri* September 3, 2021 at 8:59 am Just curious, have you ever had this reaction to any other claim of medical exemption? I don’t remember one and I read your blog religiously!
anone* September 3, 2021 at 9:10 am It’s not a claim of medical exemption though. No qualification of the type of exemption was given and Alison made it clear in the comments above that her take on this letter is that this is likely to not be a medical exemption scenario, so this isn’t a reflection of her reaction to that circumstance.
ceiswyn* September 3, 2021 at 9:42 am Can you point out where there is a claim of *medical* exemption?
Artemesia* September 3, 2021 at 11:20 am And if I am a typhoid carrier I can’t work in kitchens. Restrictions on people who can’t be vaccinated are not punishments; they are public health measures.
ThatGirl* September 3, 2021 at 9:03 am I have a neighbor two doors down who I’ve been casually friendly with since they moved in – we talk about our dogs and wave hello. She’s a high school language teacher. She very casually mentioned a few weeks ago that they were thinking about moving to another state in part because she’s “probably gonna get fired”. I asked why and she said the school district was imposing a vaccine mandate* and she just wasn’t gonna get vaccinated, because she “never gets sick” and she visited her grandma in Europe in January and that went fine so she doesn’t see what all the fuss is about. At which point I didn’t wish to argue with a neighbor out on the street so I made vague sympathetic noises and brought the dog inside. *now the state has imposed one as well, with twice-weekly testing required if you have an exemption; she made no mention of testing so I don’t know if she’ll go that route or not
Justme, The OG* September 3, 2021 at 9:30 am I know of two students not old enough to be vaccinated whose families moved schools so they wouldn’t have to wear masks.
Flower necklace* September 3, 2021 at 10:30 am As a high school teacher, this makes no sense to me. Not only does vaccination protect vulnerable students and society at large, but we’re so short on subs that we’ve been warned that we can be pulled for coverage between departments. In the past few weeks, I’ve spoken with two different teachers that still managed to come in after having car trouble. Because they needed to be there that much.
Avi* September 3, 2021 at 2:21 pm Yeesh. My dad legitimately ‘never gets sick’. In his seventy years he’s only been ill a handful of times, and most of those were when he was very young. I’ve personally never even seen him with so much as a cold. It’s honestly kind of impressive. He got the vaccine as soon as he could because he wants to keep never getting sick.
KayDeeAye* September 3, 2021 at 9:52 am I just checked the website for the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, and it says “COVID-19 tests are available at no cost nationwide at health centers and select pharmacies.” Of course, if the OP lives somewhere besides the U.S., it might be a different story, but I find it kind of hard to believe that Canadians, for instance, have to pay when U.S. citizens do not.
Astor* September 3, 2021 at 10:57 am Canadians do have to pay for private testing which covers some cases that the free public testing doesn’t. If you’re asymptomatic, for example, or if you need it specifically for travel/work. I personally hope that the government, individual workplaces, and schools that require people to attend in person do pay for it, and require testing of vaccinated folks too. It’s about to get bad and while folks who haven’t been vaccinated are putting the most strain on our system, we need to watch this closely and we can’t do that when we treat testing as punitive. I’ll put a link for BC in a reply.
Astor* September 3, 2021 at 10:59 am Bottom of http://www.bccdc.ca/health-info/diseases-conditions/covid-19/testing/when-to-get-a-covid-19-test
Little My* September 3, 2021 at 11:14 am I’m also pretty curious about this! I’ve gotten quite a few Covid tests and never paid for one. I live in a major Northeast American city so I know my experience is not universal, but there are many free testing clinics here.
Ismonie* September 3, 2021 at 12:17 pm While this is true, it can be hard to find testing centers that will take you, or to tell from county websites which ones are free and which ones will charge extra. We really need to fix our testing infrastructure. I had a hell of a time getting a Covid test when I visited my parents away from my home county. My provider didn’t have any relationships with local healthcare providers, and ultimately, the only way for me to access testing was to say (truthfully) that I had a sore throat. The other testing providers were often urgent care centers that wouldn’t charge for the test, but would require me to come indoors, sit in a waiting room, and have and pay for an entire visit with an urgent care doctor. And it was possible at that point they would order an influenza test! Drive-through testing my ass. I told them I thought it was false and deceptive advertising.
KayDeeAye* September 3, 2021 at 1:55 pm I’ve had two, I didn’t have to pay for either one, and I was able to get an appointment for the next day each time. My boss just had to get tested last week and got it the same day she started asking. I’m sure it varies a lot depending on exactly where you are, of course.
Interview Coming Up* September 3, 2021 at 9:56 am I think anyone with a religious or philosophical exemption that was not “based on bullshit” would gladly get tested regularly. I’d like to note that it’s not just medical exemption vs bullshit. People can have non-bullshit beliefs. But they should still care about other humans’ safety. You might think they should care about it more than the average person but…meh.
Recruited Recruiter* September 3, 2021 at 10:05 am That was my first thought when I read the letter. I live in a very conservative city, and we have protests going about the hospital’s decision to mandate either a vaccine or constant testing. We also have doctors who are known to be willing to give bogus mask exemptions.
commonsensesometimesmakessense* September 3, 2021 at 11:44 am Ok, Alison, do you really think anyone here is going to take you up on that bet? We like our money where it is!
Beany* September 3, 2021 at 6:35 am Working on the standard AAM principle of taking the LW’s submitted information at face value, I’d prefer we *didn’t* assume the exemption is BS just yet. (Yeah, their “no desire” wording is a bit off-putting, but I don’t find that conclusive.) Can we suspend disbelief long enough to answer the question they ask? Should employees with a bona fide medical exemption to vaccination have to pay out of pocket for repeated COVID testing?
Colette* September 3, 2021 at 6:58 am That’s not the question they asked. My answer: it depends on the cost of the test, and the impact on their finances. Personally, if I couldn’t be vaccinated, I would want to be confident I wasn’t spreading disease and would be willing to pay some amount towards the test.
Richard Hershberger* September 3, 2021 at 7:48 am The principle is to accept the LW’s fact set. It isn’t that we can’t reach negative conclusions based on that fact set. Remember the LW who complained that their best employee quit to attend their college graduation? Neither Alison nor the commentariat responded positively. So what, in the present case, do we know about the exemption? The LW does not explain. Here we come to the Argument from Silence. This is an argument for a conclusion based on something that is missing. This is a tricky logical path to take, because it relies on our expectations for what should be there. Many bad applications come from erroneous expectations. But this does not invalidate the type of argument. It simply is a pitfall to be aware of. In the present case, I would expect someone with a genuine medical exemption would be eager to make this clear, especially in a forum such as this one where Covid is taken very seriously. Making the nature of the exemption clear is a basic first step to establish that the LW is not a crank. Is it possible that the LW simply didn’t work through the logic of the situation this far? Yes it is. But is it more likely than not that the exemption is bogus? Yes it is. Sadly, in the real world we must deal with probabilities, certainties being in short supply. Fortunately, the LW has ample opportunity to clarify here in the comments, should they be so moved.
Keymaster of Gozer* September 3, 2021 at 8:55 am Can I just say I’m in love with your logic explanations?
Richard Hershberger* September 3, 2021 at 9:44 am Thank you. I live to serve mankind. With a nice chianti.
quill* September 3, 2021 at 11:24 am Thank you for doing the work of verbalizing all our thought processes today.
Brooks Brothers Stan* September 3, 2021 at 7:49 am An employee with a bona fide medical exemption likely would already know how to work with their employer on ways to mitigate this issue as this wouldn’t be the first time in their life that a rule that fits 99% of the population impacted them. My employer didn’t blast out the exemptions and such when they told us about their vaccine mandate, but they provided what to do for the very small percentage of people that qualified for them to managers. Sometimes, the exemptions and workarounds aren’t published simply because people with no reason to need them will take advantage of them.
ecnaseener* September 3, 2021 at 8:14 am That’s very much not what they asked. What they asked is whether their employer will let them work out their two weeks notice. But your question is a good one, and I do think testing should be provided free of charge whenever possible. I value protection of life over fairness in this case. (“If possible” is doing a lot of work here of course…employers might not be able to afford it if they have a bunch of anti-vax workers.)
KRM* September 3, 2021 at 9:06 am I’m guessing “you pay for the weekly testing” is intended to push non-vaxxed people to getting the vax rather than pay out of pocket every week. Having said that, if you have a legitimate medical exemption, I’d expect the company to pay up at least half of the costs (preferably all) for ONLY those exemptions.
It's Growing!* September 3, 2021 at 12:42 pm Except that I doubt that an employer can legally make a yes and no pile for all submitted exemptions. “Hm…Paul is allergic to an ingredient in the vaccine, so we’ll pay for his tests. Sally is claiming a bogus philosophical exemption, so no.” Even if they only accept medical exemptions, they can’t sort through the pile to validate or repudiate what some doctor signs off on. A possible exception to that might be to toss the all letters from Dr. Feelgood, who has signed 500 letters so far (for a fee) and is speaking to the local medical or legal authority about that conduct. It’s all or none. The only way to cut that down is to accept only medical exemptions.
Employee of the Bearimy* September 3, 2021 at 6:09 pm My company is only accepting medical exemptions for exactly this reason. If your doctor signed the form, you do weekly testing. Otherwise get your shot(s) or expect to be terminated.
Kate* September 3, 2021 at 8:29 pm The thing is that there is an extraordinarily tiny amount of people who “can not” get vaccinated due to “medical reasons” but there are an extraordinarily high number of people who *claim* they can not due to “medical reasons.” There is an ND at my kid’s school who has sadly gone down the conspiracy rabbit hole of facebook disinformation this past year, and thinks it’s all an elaborate CIA hoax, etc, etc. And yet in our state he’s a doctor who can write prescriptions and exemptions and hoo boy…is he writing them. And telling everyone to contact him for exemption signatures and “don’t be a sheep.” I live in Portland, Oregon and there are a *lot* of “wellness” people and essential oil folks and yoga people who have gone full conspiracy theory about this and decry masks and vaccines vociferously. They are lining up to get their “medical exemptions” signed. :(
Tupac Coachella* September 3, 2021 at 9:41 am Agree, with a “but.” My employer requires weekly testing for the unvaccinated and provides it…but due to the nature of my particular job, I’m aware of all of the red tape it took to make that happen, and it was a LOT. You can’t just set up a table and start testing people, and unless the employer controls the testing, they can’t control the cost. IMHO: Best option is employer requires and provides, monitors, and pays for testing for all unvaccinated and symptomatic employees. Less perfect but still very good option is employer requires testing for same group and reimburses out of pocket cost. Addendum that makes it slightly less perfect but still very good: employer provides a mechanism to request financial hardship assistance to pay for testing, or gives the option for unvaccinated and symptomatic employees work from home if they can’t afford testing (which would probably further protect many people with legitimate medical exemptions-just because their coworkers are vaccinated doesn’t mean they can’t carry it, and if the vaccine isn’t safe for them, neither is the disease). But even though I agree it would be ideal for employers to work with people on this, as a vaccinated person with people who can’t be vaccinated in my life that I’m desperate to protect, I’m ok with OP’s company’s policy. I don’t think it’s out of line for an employer to say that the safety rules they’ve put in place will be enforced and if you want an exception you still have to take steps to maintain that safety. OP, sorry, you’re in the wrong here. Your reason for not vaccinating doesn’t matter, regardless of whether you or other people would find it legitimate, because you put other people at risk, and refusing to test means you also refuse to mitigate that risk. You don’t get to do that to your coworkers. Not for two weeks, not for one minute. If you’re willing to quit over it, ok. But don’t feel cheated because you don’t get the social convention of a notice period when it literally endangers your coworkers’ health.
Littorally* September 3, 2021 at 11:30 am Yep. My employer jumped through all the hoops and we have a testing center set up in one of our conference rooms. Anyone who is onsite but not vaccinated must get tested at a minimum weekly, as well as any time they come back from going out of state or being out, and everyone vaxxed or no can choose to go take a test whenever they want. I appreciate it took a ton of work on my employer’s part to set it up, and I’m real glad to have it there.
Interview Coming Up* September 3, 2021 at 10:03 am Right. And no way should they be working without testing. So, I sure hope they don’t get to work their two weeks.
Beany* September 3, 2021 at 12:51 pm Thanks; you’re right that it wasn’t their ultimate question for Alison. I should have gone upthread to re-read the post before commenting.
Lego Leia* September 3, 2021 at 11:17 am If it is an accomodation for a diasbility that does not cause undue hardship for the company, then the person shouldn’t pay. My son is in social work, and pays out of pocket for TB testing, so I would expect him to pay for COVID testing outside of work exposure.
Donkey Hotey* September 3, 2021 at 12:01 pm After 18 months of listing to BS excuse after BS rationalization after BS conspiracy theory, I’m a little tired of giving deniers the benefit of the doubt. Makes me a crappy buddhist for not having compassion, but I’m ok with that.
The Rafters* September 3, 2021 at 12:49 pm I’m thinking that the company is making people who do not have a legitimate medical reason to pay for testing? That would make more sense to me.
NamelessOne* September 3, 2021 at 12:26 am There is a very good chance that this person is writing from British columbia, as we have a covid related mandate going into effect on that date. If that is the case, then I don’t believe there is any cost related to being tested.
Hmmmmm* September 3, 2021 at 12:57 am Oregon has one too. I imagine a lot of States are heading this way (blue ones).
NeutralJanet* September 3, 2021 at 1:40 am This person did say that they would have to pay for testing, though, and it’s fair to assume that they have more knowledge of their circumstances than anyone else.
ms_cannoteven* September 3, 2021 at 7:56 am I’m hard-pressed to credit LW with “more knowledge” of anything.
quill* September 3, 2021 at 11:27 am I believe that the LW *thinks* that there will be a cost associated. I can’t say if that’s accurate or if they’ve bothered to check.
ThatGirl* September 3, 2021 at 9:08 am Illinois has a mandate going into effect for a great deal of workers including anyone who works in education (through college). This could be a lot of places. AFAIK there is still free testing available around here (I see billboards for it!) but that may not last forever.
Ms.Vader* September 3, 2021 at 10:14 am I am also from BC. There is a cost to testing if you are being tested for work or travel – you have to go to a clinic. That being said, that’s the reality. A disease isn’t discriminatory- it’s not going to just pass you by – “ope this one can’t pay or won’t pay for testing and they can’t or won’t get vaccinated, better not infect them” and if you end up getting others sick because of your refusal to be tested, what’s your justification?
Artemesia* September 3, 2021 at 12:47 am It is very unlikely this is a medical exemption; probably would have said so if it were.
Hmmmmm* September 3, 2021 at 12:55 am My issue is that most healthcare roles already require you to have vaccines. I had to have my TB for example. It’s no different in my opinion. If LW1 wants to have a job in this field the its part of the requirements. Also as for medical exemption, I would way more forgiving if there wasn’t so many fakes out there.
Ana Gram* September 3, 2021 at 6:31 am You were vaccinated for TB? That’s fairly uncommon in the US, at least. I’ve been tested for it tons of times to work as an EMT. EMS requires a few vaccinations and I have to think most healthcare jobs do. It’s very bizarre to me that providers are presumably willing to get other vaccines but this is the hill they’re willing to die on.
Stacy* September 3, 2021 at 6:45 am I work in education in the US, and I’m required to have a TB vaccination. It’s a statewide requirement, along with a slew of other vaccines.
Ana Gram* September 3, 2021 at 6:49 am Interesting! I’ve never heard of a TB vaccination being required in the US. Fortunately, we moved to quantiferon testing years ago. Those old skin bubble tests were such a pain.
RabbitRabbit* September 3, 2021 at 7:01 am That’s wild, I haven’t heard of the BCG vaccine being used in the US. I work in healthcare and needed to get a Mantoux test/PPD test yearly for quite a while, and that’s delivered under the skin of the forearm with a small needle. Is that what you mean? It’s definitely not a vaccine, just a test for reactivity that they check 2 days later.
BookishMiss* September 3, 2021 at 7:46 am Nah, i have family who are educators and they were required to get the TB vaccine.
Boof* September 3, 2021 at 7:27 am Are you sure it’s not tb testing? Bcg vaccine isn’t very effective AND makes it harder to test for tb; i’ve worked in health care in several states and don’t need that vaccine, just annual testing; can’t seem to find a state listed as requiring it either
Stacy* September 3, 2021 at 7:45 am Ah you’re right. Hadn’t had my coffee yet. We are required to have our MMR, Tdap, tetanus and diphtheria. So my coworkers who suddenly oppose mandatory vaccinations are confusing to me since it’s been a requirement for employment for years.
Rusty Shackelford* September 3, 2021 at 8:49 am Just as the parents who are up in arms about required vaccinations didn’t seem to have a problem when their kids needed all of those vaccines to start school…
ScruffyInternHerder* September 3, 2021 at 7:56 am I’m actually glad to hear this. My parochial elementary school principal had TB (early 1980s in the USA). Active case. We were all tested at school by the local health department every three months. I remember it being absolutely excruciating because it wasn’t the easy four-prong test, it was the one where they doodled around in your elbow with a single needle trying to get a bubble or something. Our local public schools were so poorly funded due to mileage failures at this point in time that everyone was on half-days, in case you were wondering why on earth parents tolerated this crap.
Marillenbaum* September 3, 2021 at 10:02 am I did not learn that there was a TB vaccine until I tested positive for latent TB, and let me tell you–if I’d known that before going to work in a country with high levels of TB, I would have been running into my doctor’s office with my sleeves ripped off.
Kevin Sours* September 3, 2021 at 12:44 pm The vaccine for TB is not especially effective and has a side effect that means you will always test positive for TB after taking it. It’s generally not recommended for most people because of that. Though it is sometimes used in populations where there are serious recurring outbreaks.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 4, 2021 at 7:06 am I’ve still got the scar from my BCG vaccination- but we got a lot of TB in our wildlife here in the UK. No rabies though so never had one of those vaccinations – I hear they hurt?
anonymous 5* September 5, 2021 at 7:35 pm Not sure if you’ll see this, but not the modern ones. The immunoglobulin shots aren’t the most pleasant (at least if they’re giving them by a specific bite site) but I think they might skip them if you’re taking the sequence in advance of, say, a trip to an area with high incidence, rather than as post-exposure prophylaxis. The vaccine itself is pretty garden-variety IM delivery. It’s a sequence of 3 IIRC, but definitely not the terrifying prospect that they used to be.
Midwest Teacher* September 3, 2021 at 11:19 am I’m a teacher in the US and we don’t need to have it or be tested for TB in Iowa. I can’t think of any vaccinations that I was required to get before accepting my job 10 years ago.
Watry* September 3, 2021 at 6:54 am It’s pretty much entirely political. As someone above said, many of these people discovered their deep-seated antagonism to vaccines on inauguration day. Semi-related: I am also vaxxed for TB, but as a military kid I have some uncommon vaccinations. AFAIK the vax requirements for all schools, both on and off base, was “get vaxxed, show us a medical exemption, or don’t come”.
Ana Gram* September 3, 2021 at 7:16 am Military is a whole different ballgame! I asked my Marine husband what vaccines he got and he has no idea. He just looked at me weirdly when I said he should’ve asked…
AthenaC* September 3, 2021 at 8:15 am Yup! You just roll up your sleeves and walk through like an assembly line. You come out on the other end with a filled out immunization card.
Keymaster of Gozer* September 3, 2021 at 8:57 am Oh the fun of the ‘peanut butter shot’ – where it honestly feels like you’ve had a glob of peanut butter injected into you (I think that’s one of the gamma globulin ones). According to my RAF mate.
Tessie Mae* September 3, 2021 at 9:33 am Yup, my son was in the Navy, and yes, they just lined up, stuck out their arms, and got jabbed for all kinds of stuff. I’ll have to ask him, but he’s probably not sure which vaxxes he’s gotten (he’d have to check his vax card). He also mentioned the “peanut butter” shot.
Girl Alex PR* September 3, 2021 at 10:31 am As a Navy vet, confirm. You don’t ask in boot camp because they’re numerous, required, and given by people who outrank you.
Donkey Hotey* September 3, 2021 at 12:05 pm Another Navy vet to confirm (although I’ll quibble and say that when I went through the assembly line, I technically wasn’t jabbed – they used high pressure air injectors so they didn’t have to go through so many needles. See also the ex-Marine who just learned the hard way that the highest ranking officer in the Marine Corps is a Navy doctor. General discharge, which means she is ineligible for GI Bill benefits (college, mortgage help, etc)
Ms JT* September 3, 2021 at 10:40 am I remember when my mom had heart surgery a few years ago during flu season – there were signs saying any employee who wont get the flu vaccine must wear a mask at all times I liked it :-)
capedaisy127* September 3, 2021 at 4:25 am The letter writer needs to make it clearer if they don’t want to test at all or object to their employer’s rule that they have to pay. It reads like they don’t want to be tested
Harper the Other One* September 3, 2021 at 5:51 am That was my thought as well. If OP’s exemption is medical (and yes, there are a few people who are advised not to take it) I think the company should cover the tests – the employee didn’t choose not to be vaccinated, they’re unable to. But if the exemption is by choice, I agree with Ellis Hubris that this is the trade-off for not vaccinating.
Harper the Other One* September 3, 2021 at 6:21 am And I just read a very good point below that we wanted unvaccinated people to be tested, exemption or not, so we can catch cases ASAP. So I think I’m changing my stance to say that I think companies should cover the costs of tests (if there is one and it’s not covered by insurance in the US) because the social good is sufficient to justify that, even if someone is choosing not to get the vaccine.
Green great dragon* September 3, 2021 at 7:23 am I think this is a tricky one. It feels like a company should cover test costs, especially for those with a medical exemption – but then a small company with several vax refusers could end up paying $100s a week. And a company can’t really be the one judging whether an exemption is justified.
fhqwhgads* September 3, 2021 at 8:52 am It doesn’t matter whether it’s “justified”. The options are: be vaccinated so it’s very unlikely you’ll become infected and spread to others or be tested regularly to prove you aren’t infected and spreading it to others. Cost of doing neither = shut downs, quarantines, widespread illness and possibly death. Cost of tests is almost certainly less money. But I also don’t have a problem with an employer saying “you pay for it or don’t be here”. It’s basically saying we want a safe workplace and if you can’t or won’t test to prove it’s safe for you to be here, don’t be here.
Aquawoman* September 3, 2021 at 12:03 pm This is sort of peak capitalism–companies shouldn’t pay costs, individuals should. That’s why we can’t have nice things.
AndersonDarling* September 3, 2021 at 8:52 am And I wonder if the OP really has to pay for the test or if they are referring to the cost of taking the time to get tested and the cost of fuel to get there.
CR* September 3, 2021 at 6:42 am I was thinking this as well. There are legitimate medical reasons why people can’t get vaccinated sometimes — we don’t know if that’s the case here, but it seems unfair to require an employee to pay out of pocket for continued testing if they literally can’t get vaccinated. I know vaccines are really politicized in America, but I think the contempt people have for vaccine refusers is coloring the response. The fact that the OP doesn’t sound bummed out about not being able to get the vaccine doesn’t really have anything to do with it. The organization she works for should be willing to work with her to find a solution where she doesn’t have to keep paying for tests for an indefinite period of time.
Colette* September 3, 2021 at 7:01 am If money were the issue – which it doesn’t seem to be, based on her question – it would be worth asking the company to cover it.
Persephone Mongoose* September 3, 2021 at 8:57 am The LW plans to give notice the day the policy goes into effect, presumably without another job lined up (otherwise their resignation date would coincide with that of their new job offer), and by resigning would be ineligible for unemployment. I’m guessing that money is not the issue as they are willing to be unemployed in a pandemic.
Blackcat* September 3, 2021 at 9:04 am Exactly. Then the letter would be something like “My company has instituted a policy that you either have to be vaccinated or get (and pay for) weekly COVID testing. I’m unable to be vaccinated for medical reasons, and the costs of weekly testing are prohibitive for me. How can I get the company to cover the costs of testing for me?”
Stop whining* September 3, 2021 at 8:27 am The solution to not having to keep paying is to get vaccinated. There is very little doubt they have that option, given the minuscule percentage of people with genuine medical issues and tone of the letter.
DataSci* September 3, 2021 at 9:37 am There is a solution where the OP can avoid paying for tests for an indefinite period of time! They can get vaccinated. I agree with the vast majority that anyone with a legitimate exemption, rather than “don’t wanna”, would have made that clear.
Dark Macadamia* September 3, 2021 at 11:16 am “The organization she works for should be willing to work with her to find a solution” Is there any indication that they’re not? LW is the one who decided to quit (in a way that maximizes how long they can get paid while disregarding health measures)
M2* September 3, 2021 at 8:31 am #1 Then don’t work in healthcare. Shame on you! Unless you have a real medical condition (which doesn’t sound like it) you are putting peoples lives at risk. My GPS assistant told me she refused to get the shot “because vaccines are bad” and she received an exemption from a different doctor. She also told me Covid only makes you sick for 4 days. There are plenty of shady people out there offering medical exemptions. I don’t want to be 30 feet from my GPS assistant and think it’s so unsafe she is seeing patients and unvaccinated. So I wrote a letter. Unless you are allergic to one of the ingredients in the vaccine (and there are 3 to choose from so it’s very unlikely) you should be mandated to take it. I know people who had GB syndrome with the flu shot and who have lupus who get impacts from shots— they both got the Covid vaccine. We are in Delta hell because people like Lw1 refuse to take the shot and are also refusing to get tested.
AndersonDarling* September 3, 2021 at 9:09 am It blows my mind that healthcare workers are questioning getting vaccinated. I work in healthcare offices and I’ve had to get vaccinations for everything. I don’t even work in the same building as patients. When I change jobs, I have to bring all my documentation for vaccinations and everything has to be reviewed before I start working. It’s never been optional. I 100% understand that being vaccinated is part of my employment agreement. It’s the same as nurses, doctors, and techs maintaining their professional licenses. It would be like saying, “I didn’t complete my education credits this year so I didn’t renew my nursing license. But I can keep my job right? No one really cares if I am licensed, right?”
quill* September 3, 2021 at 11:32 am It doesn’t blow my mind because unfortunately, no matter how educated or intelligent someone is, there is a specific brand of politics that only works if you reject reality and substitute your own, and we’ve been incubating it in america for at least a decade at this point. The extra education just makes you better at buying into your own bullshit: see Dr. Oz.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 2:11 pm Ain’t just America sadly. I mean the Andrew Wakefield twit practically started this whole modern antivaxx thing and he’s British. So, errr, sorry rest of the world for inflicting that on you…
quill* September 3, 2021 at 3:04 pm I just know more about america because, you know, I live here. Been busily studying my history for a few years in order to understand how… all of this occurs and it’s a trip.
Sorrischian* September 3, 2021 at 8:40 pm You also get a lot of people in ancillary health care roles (I work with a lot of MLTs and MLSs) who have enough scientific and medical education to know their narrow specialty and know the terminology of research, but never really got any grounding in how to judge the validity of claims or any of that, and they end up sort of paradoxically even more susceptible to “scientific sounding” scams and fear-mongering
Windchime* September 4, 2021 at 5:22 am Yeah, this gets me too. I’ve worked in IT for healthcare orgs for over 20 years and we have to have proof of vaccinations or immunity from a bunch of stuff; TB, MMR, influenza, and be current on tetanus. It’s not optional; it’s proof I have to provide along with all my other paperwork, ID, etc.
Anna* September 3, 2021 at 10:56 am “We are in Delta hell because people like Lw1 refuse to take the shot and are also refusing to get tested” And because countries that have more than enough vaccines are doing a bad job of sharing vaccines with countries that don’t have enough vaccines.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 12:03 pm I asked about this on our work manager’s forum today – what’s the most ridiculous excuse they’ve heard for someone claiming to not need masks/vaccines/testing. It wasn’t that long ago but I think I have a winner: Staff member 30 male. Claimed that only unholy sinful people get Covid and then any demand to mask or vaccinate was saying they were sinful and testing treated them like filthy animals. Also claimed vaccines are made from unborn children. Staff member told to stfu, follow the rules or gtfo off the work site
Lenora Rose* September 3, 2021 at 2:03 pm That’s a winner! Worst contest ever, but a winner. The “vaccines are made from unborn children” has to be a wilful misunderstanding of the cell culture used for vaccines, not an accidental one, but at least it has a tiny tenuous connection to reality. The rest sounds like the anti-vaxxer HPV vaccine attacks repurposed to where it makes even less sense, when it was already nonsense there.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 2:09 pm Wrote asking the manager: apparently no, this guy honestly believed they used millions of actual children as an ingredient for the jabs. Apparently said guy is still at work, masking up and testing, but on a very stern ‘literally one more word out of you on this matter that isn’t an apology and you get fired’ warning from HR. I love this firm.
quill* September 3, 2021 at 4:35 pm “Staff member told to STFU” an acronym that should not work as well in a business setting as it does.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 4, 2021 at 7:09 am There’s a lot of downsides in working in such a blunt heavily male dominated industry as heavy engineering – but the way they’ll just outright call people out for being muppets is lovely :)
LabTechNoMore* September 3, 2021 at 3:56 pm Then don’t work in healthcare. Shame on you! This is where I land too. If you don’t “believe in” modern medicine, you’re in the wrong career. (And to preempt any “no sandwiches” type arguments – I realize there are plenty of valid critiques over modern day healthcare, but the propaganda-laden antivaxx movement isn’t one of them.)
Bella* September 3, 2021 at 8:36 am Yes agree with this. Vaccination is an extremely tense topic but I felt Alison’s resonse was loaded. There are reasons that people cannot get vaccinated, and it seems unreasonable that they should be out of pocket due to employer’s testing policies as a result.
Lenora Rose* September 3, 2021 at 2:03 pm See her new pinned comment. This is a full on anti-vaxxer Covid conspiracy theorist.
HalloweenCat* September 3, 2021 at 8:47 am A faith-based wellness chiropractor near me has been very publically saying they will provide vaccine exemption doctors’ notes for anyone who “needs” one. They were even on the local news for offering this “Service.” You don’t even have to be an existing patient iirc. Now, I am not a doctor and I’ve never even played one on TV but I think if someone legitimately needed a vaccine exemption they could get it from their actual doctor…. I only bring this up because the LW doesn’t say they have X medical issue that makes vaccination dangerous, they say they have an EXEMPTION CARD. So. Make of that what you will.
fhqwhgads* September 3, 2021 at 8:55 am Chiropractors are not doctors. Unless this chiropractor happens to also have an MD, he went on television and announced he’d falsify a doctor’s note for whoever wants it?
Tree* September 3, 2021 at 9:23 am chiropractors are not medical doctors but they have a doctorate degree, they are doctors of chiropractic.
ceiswyn* September 3, 2021 at 9:44 am Sure, but I’m pretty confident that only medical doctors can provide vaccination exemption certificates. Not, say, physics PhDs.
Shad* September 3, 2021 at 10:07 am There are several types of doctorates that typically “count” for providing doctor’s notes besides MDs, including doctors of osteopathy and psychology (though hopefully the latter would only provide notes based on psychological conditions). And for better or for worse, chiropractors are also on that list, since they provide some form of patient care.
Idril Celebrindal* September 3, 2021 at 12:34 pm @ceiswyn Yeah, chiropractors are really good at what they do, but having worked for a chiropractic school, I am aware of what they are trained in, and virology isn’t part of it
LANbeforetime* September 3, 2021 at 2:40 pm Right but I doubt I can write exemptions despite my juris doctorate
Anne Elliot* September 3, 2021 at 9:42 am My agency will not accept a doctor’s note from a chiropractor as being sufficient for this issue. It doesn’t have anything to do with “are chiropractors doctors?”, it has to do with whether the provider’s treatment specialty, and level of expertise, has anything to do with the issue under review.
anonymath* September 3, 2021 at 8:58 am Agree with others that if there is a medical reason not to be vaccinated, then the question would be “how can I get my employer to pay for the testing given that this is a reasonable accommodation and of course I want to work with them to not put anyone at risk for infection via the possible disease vector of me.”
Anne Elliot* September 3, 2021 at 9:39 am Yet another way the politicizers of this public health issue are screwing people over: If there was a high likelihood that many or more of the people seeking medical exemptions actually, truly, legitimately needed them — which would be a relatively small number of people — then I think companies and agencies would be much more receptive to covering the costs of routine testing. But so long as people suspect or know that many of the people seeking exemptions are doing so for fraudulent reasons, and that the cost of necessary routine testing is likely to be much higher because far more people will be demanding it, companies and agencies are not going to be willing to assume responsibility for the cost.
EmbracesTrees* September 3, 2021 at 9:40 am I have a sincere question for readers regarding many of the responses to LW1 (for the record, I agree that the way they have phrased their post sounds like they don’t *want* to be vaccinated and don’t *want* to pay for testing, not that they *can’t* do either. Question (this is all just my curiosity, nothing nefarious=)): I live in a relatively rural area in NY state and testing here is free at the local pharmacy. Is this not the case in most places? Is this a state-by-state thing? (if so, do refuse-nik/denier-led states (looking at you, FL, my former home) make people pay?) Where do you live and what are the standards there? How much are people having to pay for these life-saving tests? Thanks, folks!
Shad* September 3, 2021 at 10:18 am In North Carolina, some providers advertise free tests (with fine print about qualifying reasons), while others do not. And since my job doesn’t require routine testing, I haven’t done any investigation to find out if it would be a qualifying reason. And, actually, thinking about the providers I’ve looked at, the fully national chain advertises it as free, while the state-limited one (which is here, FL, TX, and one or two other states I’m forgetting) is the one that doesn’t.
KittyCardigans* September 3, 2021 at 11:06 am I’m in NC, and at least in my town, CVS and Walgreens both have drive-through testing. It’s free if you have insurance. I think you have to pay for the ones that get sent to your house, which makes sense to me (more packaging, more postage, more bother).
Keanu Reeves's Patchy Beard* September 3, 2021 at 10:33 am I live in a red state, and our health department is shipping out Vault saliva tests for free. It’s not well-publicized, but if we’re providing free testing, I find it highly unlikely that there is no place to find free testing in LW1’s area.
ThisIsTheHill* September 3, 2021 at 10:34 am I live in MI & we have free testing – the State’s main COVID page links to a locator. Even if they didn’t, I’d assume insurance (which you’d most likely have as an FTE in healthcare) would pick up most/all of the cost.
Loredena Frisealach* September 3, 2021 at 10:49 am It’s definitely free in my local rural area of NY – but I was tested before moving here from GA, and that hit me for over 100 per person! I think it’s really variable depending upon where you live and work (for instance my nieces have been regularly getting tested for free in NC at college). So I absolutely sympathize with anyone who can’t be vaccinated and needs regular testing, and think provision needs to be made. But I have zero sympathy for someone who just chooses not to, which makes the entire thing harder because policies need to be global.
Chris too* September 3, 2021 at 10:52 am If we need a test because we have symptoms, or because we are going in for an operation or medical procedure, tests are free, and done at government run testing centres. If we just want a test for travel purposes, they’re done at private clinics and we have to pay. This is the province of B.C.
Little My* September 3, 2021 at 11:27 am I live in Boston, and have gotten some tests that are free with insurance and more that are completely free walk-ins with no questions about your reason for testing.
Jules of the River* September 3, 2021 at 12:25 pm I live in CA and have had three tests – all were walk-in, completely free, and not linked to health insurance at all.
Sparkles McFadden* September 3, 2021 at 12:29 pm Some places are starting to make categorical distinctions in testing: – If you are showing symptoms or have been exposed to covid, the test is free. – If you require a test before you are allowed to be admitted into a locale/event, you are responsible for payment. This really needs to be the model everywhere as the rest of us should not have to foot the bill for people who just don’t want to get a vaccine. There need to be consequences for people who are ignoring a major public health crisis. Free vaccine vs. paying for covid tests in perpetuity might push some people to do the right thing…or get them to leave the workplace and keep everyone else safe.
Gothic Bee* September 3, 2021 at 2:06 pm I live in VA and testing is free here. Where I am the question is whether you can get an appointment, at least I know most of the CVS/Walgreens drive through testing appointments are booked up quickly. And most of the walk-in doctor offices around here have crazy long wait times.
Temperance* September 3, 2021 at 10:04 am No, anyone who is refusing a vaccine should pay for weekly tests. If you want to be around other people, you need to be considerate. If you’re an anti-vaxxer, you don’t deserve consideration or free benefits for putting others at risk.
a tester, not a developer* September 3, 2021 at 10:08 am LW1 doesn’t specify that it’s a medical exemption though – can’t you also get them for religious/other objections?
Midwest Teacher* September 3, 2021 at 11:22 am Yep. And I can almost guarantee that if it were a medical exemption, OP would have specified that because they would have absolutely anticipated the direction the comments are going.
quill* September 3, 2021 at 10:26 am Many companies are paying, wholly or partially for the tests themselves, though obviously there are so many different employers to consider that if OP is looking for a new job, they should probably get information on if covid tests are covered. A fund for ongoing testing would be helpful at most employers if they want to be fair to employees with medical exemptions. But it’s also possible there were identifying features, or tangents, in the original letter that Allison cropped out but which are influencing her response.
wittyrepartee* September 3, 2021 at 10:26 am Even if they have a medical exemption from being vaccinated, they need to be tested. The testing is to keep other people safe, not a punishment. That’s doubly true for people in a medical field. Having the exemption doesn’t mean you can’t contract or spread the virus.
Momma Bear* September 3, 2021 at 11:08 am LW 1 should look for community resources that provide free testing. This is the either/or choice a lot of businesses are going to – opt out (for whatever reason) but mask up and get tested regularly. IMO that is a reasonable request in these times. LW does not indicate here that there is a medical reason to not be vaccinated, so this comes down to personal preference. I could refuse drug screening for my job, but that is a requirement of employment so refusal is then also the choice to no longer work there. You are free to choose. You are not free from the consequences of your choices.
The Other Katie* September 3, 2021 at 2:03 pm LW1 doesn’t seem to have cost issues with affording tests. They just don’t want to get them.
Cringing 24/7* September 3, 2021 at 11:15 am I think that if it was a medical exemption, OP likely would have mentioned it, and their question would have been, “Why am I being forced to pay for this on top of having my medical issue and is that an ADA violation?”
Meep* September 3, 2021 at 11:26 am Any reason that makes you medically exempt is the best reason why you should be getting tested frequently. Because if you don’t get the vaccine and you end up in the hospital with COVID, your insurance will most likely not foot the bill for you. Especially if you haven’t been taking the necessary precautions to get tested. Also, it is my understanding, COVID testing is still free with most insurance. As someone who works in healthcare, LW1 should know all of this better than anyone and has absolutely 0 excess to be this ignorant about why it might be important for their health if they are medically exempt.
Abernathy Z.* September 3, 2021 at 11:46 am Given that LW#1 is planning to resign rather than get tested (perhaps without other work lined up?) I’m thinking the cost may not be the issue here.
Llama face!* September 3, 2021 at 11:52 am I was coming to ask the same question but perhaps more as a hypothetical. OP #1 does have the tone of an antivaxxer to me as well but if this was someone who had one of the very rare serious medical reasons why they couldn’t receive the vaccine (like a life threatening allergy) then wouldn’t the onus be on the employer to pay for the tests since it is more in the nature of a medical accommodation? But I also see that they work in healthcare and so I think the fact that their employer is offering to let unvaxxed people keep working at all is already pretty generous on their part. Possibly too generous since that may increase patient risk depending on exactly what part of healthcare it is.
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 11:53 am given that medical exemptions from vaccinations often arise from other ongoing – and expensive – medical issues Except that there is no reason to believe that it’s an actual medical issue here. Also, the OP doesn’t actually want to do the testing altogether. (They say “but I have no desire to test and also pay for it” I see no reason why the company should pay the cost of testing under such circumstances.
Brandy* September 3, 2021 at 12:11 pm I agree. If you want employees tested, that’s a cost of doing business. Weekly Covid tests? That can get expensive. “Vaccination or mask” is reasonable. “Vaccination or get weekly tests at your expense” is not reasonable. That’s pushing someone out. In that case, be upfront about it.
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 12:52 pm Why? Employees have a valid alternative. It’s one thing if someone CAN’T get the shot (or their doctor has valid concerns.) It’s another if it’s just “I don’t wana”, which is what we’re dealing with here. See Alison’s pinned comment (which was already there before you posted this.)
It's Growing!* September 3, 2021 at 1:30 pm That’s pushing someone out. I would say that’s an employee choosing not to work there. If I’m on the receiving end of the healthcare in question, I don’t really care why someone doesn’t want to vaccinated/tested/masked. I care that they’re not going to make me sicker than whatever brought me in. For the one person on staff with a legit medical reason, I could accept it if they wore an N95 mask. And it’s not “Vaccination or mask,” it’s both.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 1:49 pm Nahh, it’s not pushing someone out, it’s making it clear where the lines on ‘reasonable accommodation’ are. Don’t wanna test or get vaccinated but still want to come into work and get paid? Sorry, I can’t accommodate that request without putting the lives of your coworkers at risk. Can’t get vaccinated because of medical reasons? Sure, let’s have a chat about how we’re going to do the masking/testing thing and also how I can protect you from others. Won’t get vaccinated because you think the virus is fake/the vaccines don’t work or are experimental/you think it’s gene therapy/you reckon they’ll make you die in 2 years etc and you refuse to get tested and wear a mask? There’s your P45 and the box of your things.
Mu* September 3, 2021 at 12:24 am This. People might not like either option but that’s how life is in so many ways and circumstances. You decide what you think is best for you. And if you don’t want to protect yourself, you don’t get to refuse to protect others.
Elmyra Duff* September 3, 2021 at 4:24 pm The choice is still there. Choose to get vaccinated or not. If you don’t, you have to deal with the consequences. Same thing if you choose not to get vaccinated before you go overseas. You can choose not to and stay home, or get the required vaccines and go on your trip.
ExecAsst* September 3, 2021 at 12:37 am Agreed. My employer is starting testing requirements next week after pushing vaccinations for months and being extremely generous on all COVID-related benefits over the last 18+ months; the company is paying for the tests, but I know a few employees were concerned about how the testing would work and privacy concerns particularly for an employee with a medical waiver. She was afraid of having to be tested publicly, etc. (She can do it privately at her desk, once a week.) I agree with Alison though – the tone of this letter isn’t one of someone with a medical waiver or a legitimate religious exemption… they just sound like someone who won’t get the vaccine and won’t comply with testing. And for that, most employers will terminate because it is noncompliance with a requirement for employment. Why would you get to give 2 weeks notice for that?
JM60* September 3, 2021 at 6:22 am or a legitimate religious exemption IMO, religious exemptions for something like this are illegitimate. One person’s religious rights ends where they would jeopardize the health of others.
EmbracesTrees* September 3, 2021 at 9:42 am Yep, I agree. It’s like religious beliefs that exclude women, for example. Your right to your beliefs ends where it hurts others.
mreasy* September 3, 2021 at 11:20 am Agreed. Also, just as an employer wouldn’t pay for your church tithing or your kid’s Bar Mitzvah, they shouldn’t be required to pay for something that enables you to practice religion – in this case, covid testing if you have a “religious exemption”.
albe* September 3, 2021 at 12:52 am Look, in some parts of the world, there’s already mandatory testing for health workers. Either get vaccinated, accept the testing or quit. It’s not very complicated.
BubbleTea* September 3, 2021 at 1:27 am My mum works for the NHS. She is fully vaccinated AND must test twice a week. Everyone in the UK is advised/asked to test twice a week but healthcare workers are required to do so. Now tests are free (not the kind you need for international travel, but these ones are) so that is a difference, but not a compelling one given that that’s a general difference between our healthcare systems anyway.
Agent Diane* September 3, 2021 at 3:47 am Child starts school next week here in the UK. Rapid tests twice a week (LFD test that checks if they are asymptomatic). Kids can opt out (or parents can opt them out) but they all talk about it like it’s just part of going to secondary school. It’s free. I work from home, but always do a rapid test before getting the train in to my office so I know I’m not shedding that damn stuff. We always have a pack of the tests in the house, picked up for free from the local pharmacy. I agree that where tests need to be paid for then the employer should be paying. That includes if work travel here in the UK takes you overseas. If it’s the costs, discuss that with the employer. I think anyone working in the healthcare sector who isn’t willing to stick a wand up their nose once a week during a pandemic is probably best off leaving that sector.
londonedit* September 3, 2021 at 5:41 am I’ve been doing twice-weekly lateral flow tests since they became available through the NHS and I’m not even really going anywhere – I just feel like I should take advantage of the fact that we do have free and simple testing now (a year or so ago I never would have thought I’d have a free pack of Covid tests in my bathroom to use whenever I want) and use that opportunity to carry on making sure that I’m not an asymptomatic carrier. If I’m meeting friends or going to visit people it really isn’t a hardship to do a test beforehand just to make sure. The test kits we have now are even easier than the original ones – it’s just a nose swab, you don’t even need to swab your throat anymore. It takes seconds.
Paul Pearson* September 3, 2021 at 5:53 am UK health worker here – they got us vaccinated early and expected us two. we take weekly lateral flow tests. Someone can claim not to want the vaccine… in which case all of us will gather to mock them cruelly for gratuitous stupidity.
Keymaster of Gozer* September 3, 2021 at 9:01 am Was up at my local hospital today and about half a mile down the road there was someone dressed in a nurse’s uniform holding up some sign regarding how unfair it was that they had to get vaccinated to keep their jobs. By the time I got to the hospital though I’d forgotten – is it worth me calling them or another branch of the NHS to warn them about the protestor? If they’re going to get mocked by their coworkers though I’m happy :)
Anon Mouse* September 3, 2021 at 12:59 am If LW is writing from the US most insurance will cover testing and most cities offer free testing somewhere (you might have to find it). So if you’re willing to test if the money isn’t a factor I would look around. I kinda get the sense that you aren’t from your letter though to be honest.
Bayta Darrell* September 3, 2021 at 2:01 am I got tested in the drive thru of a local pharmacy recently, and it was free and very easy. Made my appointment online for later that same day, pulled up, swabbed myself, and was gone in 5 minutes. It was free, and not an inconvenience at all. This person is saying that a trip through the drive thru and five minutes of their time is just too high a price to pay for protecting the lives of their co-workers. How selfish.
MissM* September 3, 2021 at 5:38 am My area (US) has National Guard run testing in addition to all the pharmacies, where they don’t even ask for insurance information so anyone can be tested for free because of how important testing is in preventing the spread of this stupid thing. I was able to get an appointment there quicker than in a privately run option, and got my PCR test results back sooner than my friend who went with a clinic based test. Only thing was that I had to swab myself which frankly I find easier. How selfish is my interpretation too.
M2* September 3, 2021 at 8:33 am My guess is Lws employer makes them do it on site to make sure that it’s done and that they don’t fake a negative test which I am sure people do. I wish insurance companies would force anyone who refuses the vaccine to pay for any and all covid testing! Only free for kids and those who have received the vaccine.
Rusty Shackelford* September 3, 2021 at 9:11 am My child had to get tested and it was actually a pretty big deal. There are no drive-through tests in my area, and at 9:00 am she managed to nab the last same-day appointment at the only clinic that actually had appointments that weren’t a week away. I’m still very much in favor of this LW being tested, but it’s not that easy everywhere.
TiffIf* September 3, 2021 at 4:02 am Some insurance companies will only cover testing if you have been exposed-not for travel or work requirements.
TiffIf* September 3, 2021 at 4:55 am Some US insurances companies will cover Covid testing if you have known exposure, but won’t if you need it for work or travel.
RegBarclay* September 3, 2021 at 10:25 am Yep, I’ve been looking into it as I want to go to Canada this fall (I’m vaccinated but they still require a test). There are ads for free testing all over my area, but it’s only really free if you’re symptomatic or exposed. You have to dig really far down to find that fact, and dig even further to find the actual cost if you want to pay up front (if they even list it, many won’t give you an up front price at all!).
WellRed* September 3, 2021 at 8:21 am It really depends where you are. I was told $175 unless I had exposure to Covid.
AndersonDarling* September 3, 2021 at 9:14 am I came down with a sore throat and cough and went to a clinic to get tested. I was surprised that it was $75. They didn’t ask if I was vaccinated (I was). They made it sound like it was my health insurance that was charging it, and it would have been free if I had another carrier. Luckily, I just had a cold. A $75 cold.
Sylvan* September 3, 2021 at 8:43 am +1 I have the impression that the OP just doesn’t want to test. You basically stick a Q-tip up your nose for several seconds. Then you wait a couple of days to get told you do or don’t have covid. It’s fucking fine. Easier than being unvaccinated and not knowing.
quill* September 3, 2021 at 12:11 pm I called it donating snot to science in front of my former boss once… she was not impressed, but also a little amused?
allathian* September 3, 2021 at 1:01 am I think that people who don’t get vaccinated have no business working in the medical field at all, certainly not with vulnerable patients. I don’t really care if they refuse the vaccine for medical reasons or any other reasons. The virus doesn’t care why you haven’t been vaccinated. That said, I do think that in some cases it might be warranted for the employer to pay for the test, if the employee hasn’t been vaccinated for medical reasons. For any other reasons, including “religious” accommodation, the employee should pay. That might persuade some to either get vaccinated in spite of their beliefs, or to switch careers to do something where they’re less likely to be a danger to others through their stupidity. I also think that given that Covid, like every other disease, has an incubation period, people who refuse the vaccine for any reason and insist on working in the medical field should be required to get a PCR test before every single shift (you get the result in 15 minutes). Germans get one free test every day so they can go to restaurants, etc.
New Jack Karyn* September 3, 2021 at 1:12 am Here’s something I don’t have much knowledge of: If a person cannot get vaccinated for medical reasons, is it likely they would/are able to pursue a career in the medical field? Lots of vaccines are required to work as a doctor, nurse, nursing aide, medical assistant, etc., and if a person can’t get those jabs, can they get work at all?
Midwestern Scientist* September 3, 2021 at 2:09 am Different vaccines have different ingredients and some have alternatives (see flu shot vs nasal spray). It’s super variable by vaccine and medical condition. In either scenario the patient should be working this out with their doctor. And having required testing is not an undue hardship as an accommodation.
Harper the Other One* September 3, 2021 at 5:59 am Yep, my boss gets flu shots every year, has a full complement of vaccines for travel, etc., but has a rare autoimmune disorder – her doctors only okayed mRNA vaccines, including the Covid one, last month after seeing further studies on how specific elements of the immune system respond to it.
KateM* September 3, 2021 at 2:11 am Even if they CAN work, SHOULD they? If they can’t get vaccines, especially if it’s because of their own medical issues, should they risk themselves daily like that?
Midwestern Scientist* September 3, 2021 at 2:28 am Many (in the hospital system I work in) wear PPE if they are in a clinical situation that is risky to their health. Presumably they have chatted with their doctor(s) and have made their choices re: potential medical issues.
Bamcakes* September 3, 2021 at 7:36 am This is getting weird. There are established practices and processes for people with chronic health conditions and disabilities which might have an impact on whether and how they can work in healthcare, and it’s something that medical employers and unions take very seriously. A random speculative discussion on whether people should be excluded from certain jobs “for their own good” is likely to get extremely ableist.
PollyQ* September 3, 2021 at 2:36 am LW says she works for a “healthcare organization”, which may not mean that she’s interacting with patients directly, interacting with medical providers, or even working in a location where patients are treated. There’s plenty of back-office, white-collar work in large medical organizations. That said, I expect many of those will also require vaccinations or tests, as will more and more employers in all fields.
Anon Today* September 3, 2021 at 9:08 am In my experience they do! I work in a medical practice in a private office with no patient contact and am still required to be vaccinated. So are those who are still working from home! This is the case for all of the healthcare workers I talk to, even in different systems. Personally, I’m glad! It keeps us all safer.
ecnaseener* September 3, 2021 at 4:23 pm Yes, I work for a hospital and even those of us who are 100% WFH are being required to vaccinate (with some exemptions considered). They haven’t really explained why, but I guess it’s because they reserve the right to revoke WFH privileges.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 3:08 am Can’t speak for hospitals et al but when I worked in virology you absolutely had to have the vaccines or, for some viruses, show significant antibody response indicating a prior infection. The second one didn’t apply to viruses with a high rate of mutation – flu vaccines were mandatory for instance. If, for whatever reason you couldn’t be vaccinated at all it would be unlikely you’d have got through your virology degree in the first place. I had to leave the virology field for a number of reasons but the main one was becoming disabled. I couldn’t sit on the lab stools or work on my feet.
Cranky lady* September 3, 2021 at 3:37 am Removed. I have no way to verify these anecdotes and there was a recent flood of them obviously being used to stir up anti-vaccine sentiment, so at this point I’m just not hosting them here. – Alison
A-RN* September 3, 2021 at 4:19 am A coworker has anaphylactic reactions to the flu vaccine, so the COVID one is contraindicated. Flu vaccines were not always required, so she would have gone to school, been licensed and working for several years before finding out. Yes, it’s possible to work in the medical field and have legit medical reasons to not be vaccinated. The idea that experienced medical staff should lose employment over a vaccine in the middle of a time when they are desperately needed is wild. Over refusing testing though? Yea, that’s straight selfish.
Harper the Other One* September 3, 2021 at 6:01 am Yes, saying people who can’t be vaccinated shouldn’t be allowed in health care essentially means people with specific disorders and allergies can’t work in the field, when there are many ways they can contribute! There are lots of ways health care professionals could work around an inability to vaccinate, including testing and working in wards/departments that are less likely to see Covid patients (which incidentally also helps ensure patients with other concerns don’t have medical treatment delayed more than necessary.)
Paul Pearson* September 3, 2021 at 6:03 am Obviously variations apply depending on exact role – but yes some people may not be able to work in certain fields and roles. If they can’t be vaccinated and there’s no alternative to that that will render them safe for working alongside clinically vulnerable people then maybe this is just a role they can’t do
Harper the Other One* September 3, 2021 at 6:29 am Certain roles, sure. But the whole field of front line medicine, which covered everything from significant hands-on patient care to a five minute interaction for a blood draw? I’m very pro-vaccine, don’t get me wrong – I think everyone who can have it should. But we shouldn’t lose talent in the field because they legitimately can’t get a vaccine when there are so many places they can do good.
Paul Pearson* September 3, 2021 at 6:46 am No I wouldn’t want them for Phlebotomy either. I’d expect staff who are not vaccinated to have no – or at least very very very very little – patient contact at all. Their exemption certificates won’t stop them killing patients
Harper the Other One* September 3, 2021 at 7:41 am @Paul Pearson – sorry, ran out of nesting! I’ll admit I’m a little concerned about this attitude. Not being able to serve patients in a timely manner can also kill when people delay getting critical information; in my area, there’s a real worry that we will see an increase in poor outcomes due to delayed delayed diagnosis/treatment because staff was already short before we had health care professionals having to quarantine etc. The number of people with genuine medical exemptions is low, and they are usually people who are already facing a lot of obstacles. A phlebotomist who isn’t going to be allowed to interact with patients at all has just lost their whole career over something they can’t control. And of course, we’re seeing breakthrough cases among vaccinated people and there’s still research being done on how transmissible a breakthrough case is – so what do we do about that? I’m on board with systems to protect vulnerable patients – assigning them to vaccinated care providers, extra PPE, etc. But I worry that we’re starting to treat people who CAN’T get the vaccine the same as people who WON’T. It’s getting to the point where it feels almost like a purity test – you’re “unclean” or “dangerous” if you aren’t vaccinated, even if it wasn’t by your choice.
Rusty Shackelford* September 3, 2021 at 9:26 am @ Harper the Other One We have medical standards for a lot of occupations. A truck driver who suddenly finds they need narcotic pain relief, or a pilot whose sight deteriorates to the point that it can’t be corrected to a reasonable standard, will find they’re no longer qualified to do those jobs. Why should a health care worker be any different?
Harper the Other One* September 3, 2021 at 9:44 am @Rusty – because there’s a difference between the two scenarios, and we shouldn’t equate them. I would consider this more like a long-haul truck driver who develops seizures – they can continue their career as long as they are appropriately treated/medicated and stop driving if they have symptoms. Similarly, a nearsighted pilot that CAN be corrected to the standard is still allowed to fly. Again, I think anyone who can be vaccinated should – everyone in my family is except the ineligible 10-year-old. But there are people who genuinely can’t and increasingly I see comment sections like this treat them as if they are disease-infested plague carriers, which isn’t compassionate or fair.
Temperance* September 3, 2021 at 10:10 am The thing is, anyone doing any sort of hands-on personal care puts their patient or client at risk by not getting vaccinated. The number of people who truly *can’t* get the shot is extremely low as compared to the number who just won’t. The patients and clients matter more. My grandfather, who was in a nursing home due to memory issues, died last December because a CNA or other aide brought COVID to the home. He, and like a dozen other residents, died because someone exposed them.
YetAnotherAnalyst* September 3, 2021 at 11:12 am @HarperTheOtherOne In my state at least, developing seizures means you lose your license and can’t have it back until you’ve been seizure-free for a year – and if you have another seizure at that point you lose it again. So the vaccine equivalent seems to be that if a health care worker can’t be vaccinated, they lose their license until they can be? That seems harsher than you intended.
Rusty Shackelford* September 3, 2021 at 12:02 pm @ Harper the Other One @Rusty – because there’s a difference between the two scenarios, and we shouldn’t equate them. I would consider this more like a long-haul truck driver who develops seizures – they can continue their career as long as they are appropriately treated/medicated and stop driving if they have symptoms. Similarly, a nearsighted pilot that CAN be corrected to the standard is still allowed to fly. I think it’s odd that you said my scenarios were different, and then you deliberately re-wrote them to be different. A truck driver who needs narcotic pain meds is not the same as a truck driver who develops seizures. Someone who can’t get vaccinated is someone who CAN’T be appropriately treated, so why do you consider them comparable? And I specifically said a pilot whose eyesight CANNOT be corrected, so why would you talk about a pilot whose eyesight CAN be corrected?
Meep* September 3, 2021 at 12:04 pm The virus doesn’t care. One of my friends died of COVID because he had to go to a hospital for some sort of medical procedure. It was before vaccination was widely available. Some medical worker gave him the virus and he died of it. His right to receive medical care without sacrificing his life should trump a medical worker’s right to work with patients if they can’t get vaccinated for a contagious disease that can kill the patient.
Harper the Other One* September 3, 2021 at 4:12 pm @Rusty – I wasn’t very clear in my previous comment. What I was trying to express is that a person being unable to get the vaccine is not prevented from doing their job the way a truck driver on narcotics or a pilot with incorrectible vision would be. I don’t feel those two situations are equivalent. @Temperance – I’m very sorry for the loss of your grandfather. However, as we’re sadly discovering with this wave, full vaccination isn’t a guarantee of preventing exposure. That’s why additional protections like regular testing and PPE still remain so important on the small scale, while vaccination is important on both small and large scales. @YetAnotherAnalyst – my point wasn’t to directly equate seizures with being unable to get the vaccine, but more to say that in other professions, control of risk factors is what we look at. In the case of a truck driver with a seizure, it’s a lack of seizures for a set period of time and/or a medical determination that the seizures won’t return. In the case of being unable to get a Covid vaccine, it could be things like additional layers of PPE, only assigning that person to minimally vulnerable patient populations, and yes, regular testing. I know this is a very tough issue for everyone, and I apologize if I said anything hurtful to anyone. But I really do think we need to have different attitudes to the people who can’t get a vaccine, yet have to live their lives anyway – frankly, they’re all probably at higher risk from us than we are from them.
RabbitRabbit* September 3, 2021 at 7:10 am The hospital I work for has mandated flu vaccination since the H1N1 outbreak. Employees wear a sticker on their badges (which gets updated yearly and is distinctive each year) showing whether they are vaccinated. Medical and religious exemptions get reviewed by a committee. If you are unvaccinated you must be masked while working with patients. And now that COVID is here, everyone has to mask anyway, you still have to get flu vaccinations or an exemption, and they’re doing the same thing for COVID (vaccination or approved exemption, plus unique sticker, and required vaccination deadline approaching). In the case of COVID, they’re also adding the test requirement for employees who have an exemption. In our case, we did have a good plan ahead of time and a good-enough stockpile of PPE including N95s, so on-the-job transmission was rare and should remain so.
Harper the Other One* September 3, 2021 at 7:42 am This seems like an excellent solution, and it sounds similar to what hospitals here have done re. flu vaccines in the past.
Alice* September 3, 2021 at 6:11 am Patient-facing in-person healthcare workers should not be unvaccinated. If they can’t or won’t be vaccinated, and they still want to work in healthcare, maybe they can find a space in telemedicine. But the idea that patients who have been shielding should have to accept the possibility of being exposed to an infected unvaccinated healthcare worker because they are experienced and there is a nurse shortage? No way. Solve the nursing shortage with better pay and better organizational culture, not by throwing out everything we know about infection prevention.
Harper the Other One* September 3, 2021 at 6:25 am You won’t solve the nursing shortage overnight, though, and there are other methods, like good PPE, that also qualify as infection prevention. There are many patients, including someone like me, who is generally healthy and double vaxxed, who could safely be served by a nurse/other front line professional who is unvaccinated but taking other precautions. Then you could direct vulnerable patients to the vaxxed front line people.
Temperance* September 3, 2021 at 10:13 am Hard disagree. I don’t want an unvaccinated nurse near me, especially not touching me or providing care. I live with someone who is high-risk. So on paper, I’m mostly fine, but he’s not, and he doesn’t deserve to risk catching Rona because someone is unvaccinated and providing patient care.
Nelliebelle1197* September 4, 2021 at 6:53 am As a patient, I have the right not to have someone who can potentially spread a deadly disease with a slip of a mask NOT providing my care. There are very few legitimate medical exemptions to this vaccine.
Blackcat* September 3, 2021 at 9:13 am “A coworker has anaphylactic reactions to the flu vaccine, so the COVID one is contraindicated.” Just putting this out there–this depends. I have a bunch of anaphylactic reactions to things, including the standard flu shot. I get the nose squirt for the flu, and my allergist was fine with me getting the COVID vaccine. I just had to do it at a hospital-run clinic and sit there for like…. an hour, being monitored and with my epi-pens out next to me. To be honest, I’ve gone into anaphylaxis quite a number of times. I also got COVID in March 2020. Maybe I’m just lucky, but I’ve never had an anaphylactic reaction that was impossible to treat or resulted in more than 48 hours of feeling like crap. COVID was way worse. I could barely breathe and felt like death and I wasn’t even hospitalized. It’s a trade off I think is worth it.
Recruited Recruiter* September 3, 2021 at 10:38 am I had to do the fun hour wait too, since I have an anaphylactic allergy to a drug that contains one of the ingredients that the Pfizer shot does. Guess that ingredient wasn’t the one I was allergic to, since I didn’t go into anaphylactic shock when it was administered. My doctor had me do it in the ER, and tried to push the ER to let him be there for it. I also got the run around the entire hospital to talk to the experts on the vaccines who were employed there. I almost just waited for Moderna to arrive because of the hassle on my co-workers at the hospital.
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 12:59 pm Maybe I’m just lucky, but I’ve never had an anaphylactic reaction that was impossible to treat Yes, you’re just lucky. Anaphylaxis can be a killer.
Amy* September 3, 2021 at 9:36 am It’s not necessarily contraindicated. My colleague’s son has had anaphylactic reactions to vaccinations. He got his Covid vaccination in the ER in case of anaphylaxis on the recommendation of his doctor. (And he did not end up having a reaction, but they were ready if he did)
Paul Pearson* September 3, 2021 at 6:01 am In the UK at least, even viable discrimination complaints come with a “reasonable accommodation” test. So you couldn’t, for example, become a Muslim pig farmer then demand the job change so you don’t come into contact with pigs – there’s no reasonable accommodations that can be sought there which will still allow you to do your job I don’t know if this principle has been applied to healthcare workers – but Healthcare professionals already get more vaccines than the average member of the public. If you aren’t vaccinated (and not just to covid) you are putting your clinically vulnerable patient at risk. No accommodation can include “may kill patients”.
Katefish* September 3, 2021 at 6:39 am Our U.S. laws on religious accommodation are similarly structured, so the analysis would be the same under our 1st Amendment body of law. Not sure about employment law, which varies state to state here, but I believe that’s similar for workplace accomodations.
fhqwhgads* September 3, 2021 at 9:01 am You can be allergic to an ingredient in one vaccine but not another, or an ingredient in one company’s vaccine for a certain disease that isn’t in another company’s vaccine for the same disease. I can’t think of a medical reason someone could not get any vaccine at all. The people opposed to all vaccines aren’t doing it for medical reasons. I do suppose someone might have multiple allergies that rule out quite a few, but when right now we’re talking about “cannot get vaccinated for medical reasons” we’re talking specifically about the currently available COVID-19 vaccines, not vaccination on the whole.
HannahS* September 3, 2021 at 9:17 am Doctor here. Not all vaccines are the same. They don’t work in the same way and don’t have the same ingredients. Remember, talking about “vaccines” is like talking about “medication;” politically, they often get lumped together, but medically they’re widely variable. Also, vaccines are given over the course of a lifetime and conditions that make someone unable to tolerate certain kinds of vaccines are not lifelong. If someone developed myocarditis after their first dose of the COVID-19 vaccine or other mRNA vaccine (one of the very few valid reasons for us to hand out exemptions), it doesn’t mean that they didn’t or couldn’t get immunizations for influenza (vaccine contains a “dead” virus), measles (vaccine contains live “weakened” virus), or pertussis (vaccine contains a piece of the bacteria). If we’re not able to get the vaccines as expected, usually we’re expected to be stricter with PPE, or will work in areas where the risk of exposure is less. The other consideration is (usually, ugh) herd immunity. For example, if I’d had a history of developing a potentially deadly neurological disease after a prior tetanus shot, I wouldn’t have been able to get it during pregnancy to confer some immunity to my baby. I would then be relying on the immunity of my husband, family, and friends to protect her until she gets her own vaccine at 2 months. This is also true in hospitals, where (again, usually) other employees and patients are fully immunized, though of course that’s changing.
quill* September 3, 2021 at 12:14 pm Some people work in, say, intake billing, radiology, etc. where they would not necessarily be exposed to contagious patients regularly before the pandemic. They also may have aquired a condition that prevents vaccination after receiving all their childhood vaccinations, or only have problems with specific vaccine types. (See egg allergies back when we actually used eggs to make vaccines.)
wittyrepartee* September 3, 2021 at 10:40 am Holy crap, what kind of PCR are they using? Last time I did PCR it took a half hour minimum to run enough cycles to amplify DNA. That’s without any processing of a sample…
Sorrischian* September 3, 2021 at 9:28 pm Yeah, there’s no way a 15-min test is a PCR (that’s what the lab I work in processes, our current total turnaround time for covid samples is 12 to 24 hours and the actual PCR method takes an hour and a half), but some of the enzymatic nucleic acid amplification methods only take 15 to 30 minutes, so if they’ve got a small-volume onsite testing setup running a NEAR or RPA test they might actually be getting results that fast.
Squidhead* September 3, 2021 at 1:05 am I live in a US state where there is currently no option to test HCWs. At the end of September, it’s get the shot(s) or don’t work. Even as a vaccinated ICU RN, I have some hesitations about my state’s approach (the nursing staffing crisis is very very real!). OP #1 *has* choices, and choices have consequences. The requirement of paying for testing seems no different to me than, say, wearing sturdy closed-toe shoes or a certain color scrubs (bought at your own expense but required by the employer). And yes, if you show up in flip-flops and cut-off shorts, you should expect to be sent home. Get the shots or get the test or don’t expect a paycheck. (Less sternly, testing is paid for by health insurance here and we can get tested at many providers, so I’ll assume the OP is correct in saying they’d have to pay out of pocket but they might want to double check.)
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 3:02 am Yup. Also, think for a moment, OP, about the sheer level of fear that high risk people like myself have had to live in for the last….long time. We’ve had to fear every person we see get too close to us, everyone without a face covering, even other people in general when we’ve been told that we’re not as valuable because we’re not healthy so what does it matter if we die? Now we have vaccines, quite a few different types with frankly incredible results, and there’s quick and easy tests and we finally felt that the fear could be reduced. Covid is dangerous to everyone of all demographics and believe me I do know a lot about viruses So I’m asking, pleading really, to think of others.
LarryFromOregon* September 3, 2021 at 5:16 am Yes! And if thinking of others is too much to ask: a study just came out indicating that “the jab” (already known to sharply cut risk of infection, of hospitalization, and of death) also cuts in half the risk that infection would lead to “long Covid”.
Mina, the Company Prom Queen* September 3, 2021 at 6:47 am LW 1: People like you are the reason why this pandemic is dragging on.
Student* September 3, 2021 at 8:34 am My most recent COVID test was free to me / 100% covered by insurance. No special justification needed, and no workplace requirement in my case. Has the OP checked to see if the testing required even costs money?
Anonymous Koala* September 3, 2021 at 8:43 am If you have insurance, in most states testing is free for the person getting the tests.
Essess* September 3, 2021 at 9:58 am Agreed. However, the letter doesn’t make one thing completely clear. If the vaccination exemption is due to a personal CHOICE, then I agree that the OP should be responsible for the cost of the tests. However, if the exemption is due to a physical/medical limitation that the OP cannot control that makes them unable to get the vaccine, then a reasonable company should pay for the testing just like an ADA accommodation. If this is a personal choice exemption, the cost of testing is a consequence of that personal choice and OP needs to either accept the consequence of their decision or accept that the company will not risk other employees’ lives due to your OP’s decisions and they should terminate immediately if OP cannot prove that they are not a risk to others.
Justice* September 3, 2021 at 10:56 am If I ran the world, if you chose not to get vaccinated, and then also refused to get tested, you wouldn’t need to resign; you’d be frog-marched out by security, and told to pick up the contents of your desk in a box on the curb in the morning. It seems pretty clear to me based on tone that this LW doesn’t have any medical exceptions, they’re being irresponsible for their own BS reasons. And their co-workers shouldn’t be forced to work in close quarters with them for another second. And that goes triple for healthcare workers.
hannah* September 3, 2021 at 11:35 am very good possibility this is in the US where Covid tests are still covered by insurance so the out of pocket argument is irrelevant
Velawciraptor* September 3, 2021 at 11:42 am Exactly. I work in a state where state employees (so everyone in my office) are required to either provide proof of vaccination or submit to weekly testing. Failure to comply gets discipline, up to and including termination. I’ve been more blunt with my employees: I will work with you and be flexible about time for testing and vaccination…I want to do what I can to reduce the burden. But if you lie–if you provide false vaccination or testing records–I will straight up fire you and the union is welcome to fight me on it if they want. This is a law office and I can’t employ people I can’t trust.
Velawciraptor* September 3, 2021 at 2:24 pm And more to the point of Mr. COVID Denier’s question, if he quit in a snit over it, I’d thank him for his notice effective immediately and walk him out myself. You don’t get to endanger your colleagues or our clients to make some sort of stupid point.
Nanani* September 3, 2021 at 10:26 am +1 I hope you get fired, OP1, come to your senses and stop spreading the plague.
Pfiz'rd up* September 3, 2021 at 12:45 pm I am very surprised LW1 chose to write in, given Alison’s clear and unyielding stance on vaccinations, masking, and other evidence-based COVID protocols. I know that LW asked a specific question (can I be let go before the end of my two weeks because I refuse the vaccine), and perhaps they thought they’d just get a direct answer just to that question only, but seriously. What were they expecting other than “yeah they can, and I hope they do?” We’re in a global pandemic where people are dying and losing their jobs, and they’re going to run out of the Greek alphabet before this shit goes away, AND we could’ve prevented this last surge since the vaccines were available. I live in an area that had reached herd immunity levels, but then Delta and anti-vax protests reached my town… I’m tired. Thank you, Alison.
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 1:03 pm I’m not surprised. We’ve gotten a number of letters here that one would have expected people to realize would get Allison jumping down their throats. People just don’t seem to understand who they are writing to.
Sami* September 3, 2021 at 12:14 am Alison FTW! Letter #1: mask, social distance, stay home, pay for required testing, or get vaccinated. Choices have consequences.
Teapotcleaner* September 3, 2021 at 4:22 am Covid tests can also often be obtained for free through community testing, health centers and drive through events. I know that rapid PCR tests are costly at the local pharmacy but there are free events and people are welcome to come as often as possible as many times as needed. I agree with you 100 percent
MarfisaTheLibrarian* September 3, 2021 at 9:45 am Yeah, I was surprised that the OP would need to pay for the test–I’ve gotten tested a bunch, and never had to pay. At least where I am in the US, if you have insurance it’s required to cover the full cost, and city-run testing sites are free no matter what.
Everything bagel* September 3, 2021 at 10:30 am When I went into urgent care for testing (I chose the rapid test), they said it would be fully covered under my insurance. I overheard a woman having to pay $75 for the same rapid test but she had insurance through a different company (tot that I was trying to listen, but let’s face it, there’s no privacy in an urgent care waiting room). In the interest of staying on topic, I’m also in the US so it may vary state to state.
JR* September 3, 2021 at 10:48 am Her insurance company might be breaking the rules. I believe insurance companies are required to cover the testing cost 100%. Either someone is misunderstanding in the case of the woman you overheard, or something shady is going on.
doreen* September 3, 2021 at 3:20 pm It depends – I have vacation plans and the place I’m going has very specific requirements to obtain travel authorization. In looking for a place to have the testing done, all the labs and urgent cares had a free option but they also had options that would cost the patient money – for example testing done due to symptoms/contact was free, or all testing was either free or cost only your insurance copay – but if you needed the results in 24 hours rather than 72, there was a charge for expediting and so on.
middle name danger* September 3, 2021 at 10:37 am Same here – there ARE private practices where you can get a test but pharmacies have openings that are completely free for both rapid and PCR tests. Even though I’m vaccinated I had to get tested to work an event and it was free.
Empress Ki* September 3, 2021 at 4:53 am Having a vaccination exemption isn’t a choice. It’s a medical requirement. While it’s rare, some people truly cannot get vaccinated. Sure LW should test, but her employer should pay for it.
Kia Kara* September 3, 2021 at 5:49 am Not always. Some people are “exempt” on ground of religious belief etc. Exemptions are not automatically medical, and I’d bet you my house it isn’t in this case based on the dogwhistles in the letter.
Temperance* September 3, 2021 at 10:15 am And sadly even those largely can’t be trusted. Multiple chiropractors and PCPs have been caught writing blanket exemptions to vaccine and mask requirements.
Mina, the Company Prom Queen* September 3, 2021 at 7:10 am If the vaccine exemption is a medical requirement, it only makes sense that the exempt person should take every precaution not to get or spread COVID. Stay home, wear a mask and social distance when they do need to leave the house, and get tested in a regular basis if they work outside their home. Anything else is irresponsible. I would absolutely not want to work with anyone who might infect me or anyone else.
middle name danger* September 3, 2021 at 10:39 am Yes – anyone with a legitimate reason to not get vaccinated most likely has precarious enough health that they are still terrified of catching COVID. I know a few people in disability advocacy circles this applies to. They’re all still nearly as cautious as in March 2020, double masking everywhere.
I'm just here for the cats!* September 3, 2021 at 10:50 am Keep in mind that this person could be healthy but they are alergic to the vaccine. A classmate of mine had to go to the ER after receiving a vaccine (whatever boosters you get when you’re about 12). The county health did them at the school and the girl had a bad reaction. She didn’t have any other underlining conditions, was very healthy. But she was allergic to the vaccine. This could be a similar situation. Perhaps the LW has had really bad reactions to similar vaccines in the past and is not taking it for that reason. This is all conjecture because we really don’t know why she is exempt. HOWEVER, the LW should be getting tested. I recommend that they look for free testing cites in their area. I think the employer should find out where there are free cites and provide that info to all employees. Not just those unvaccinated but vaccinated as well, because vaccinated folx might want to be sure themselves
Dahlia* September 3, 2021 at 3:03 pm I have a couple friends who couldn’t/can’t get vaccinated and they straight up just don’t leave the house basically ever.
Hogsmeade AirBNB* September 3, 2021 at 9:11 am I feel like this is a point made I see made a lot, in bad faith, meant to make the hard-line but ultimately fair stance of “tough luck, choices have consequences” look worse by implication, so let me say this: OF COURSE there are some people with legitimate medical exemptions, and OF COURSE they are not the same as someone who chooses not to get the vaccine for religious or philosophical reasons. NO ONE IS ARGUING OTHERWISE.
Temperance* September 3, 2021 at 10:14 am It’s a choice. Look at all the chiropractors who are writing out vaccine and mask exemptions.
Yorick* September 3, 2021 at 11:05 am Someone who can’t get the vaccine for medical reasons is also someone who will be at higher risk for complications for COVID. They are likely advised by their doctors to stay home, mask, take all precautions, and get tested whenever it’s possible they may have contracted the virus. These people wouldn’t object to weekly testing. Someone like that might have written to Alison for advise about advocating for the company to pay for testing, but they wouldn’t be planning to quit their jobs because the company is trying to protect them from a deadly virus.
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 1:04 pm Having a vaccination exemption isn’t a choice. It’s a medical requirement. While it’s rare, some people truly cannot get vaccinated. SOMETIMES it’s a medical requirement. And even before the OP responded to Alison (see the note above), it was pretty obvious that the OP was CHOOSING not to vaccinate.
Emily* September 3, 2021 at 12:14 am OP #1: I really hope you take Alison’s advice to heart. You seem to want it both ways, you don’t want to get vaccinated, but you also don’t want to have to take a COVID test (if you’re worried about costs since you mention not wanting to have to pay for the COVID test, the COVID vaccine is free…just saying). I would think anyone who has a true exemption to getting the COVID vaccine would be more than happy to get regularly tested to protect those around them.
tangerineRose* September 3, 2021 at 1:57 am When I decided to get vaccinated for COVID-19, I was worried about possible long term side effects. Then I thought about the side effects we already know that COVID-19 causes and figured that getting the vaccination was the safer option, so I got the vaccination. I can understand why people might be afraid of getting vaccinated. I was. But I’m more scared of COVID-19 than the vaccine.
quill* September 3, 2021 at 12:18 pm Yeah. I was kind of braced to feel like crap, though I went in enthusiastically. And it turned out fine for me! But a lot of people put it off because they couldn’t afford to be sick even if it was 24 hours of muscle aches or whatever.
MarsJenkar* September 3, 2021 at 5:00 pm Agreed. I decided to get vaccinated because I felt the known consequences of the virus were worse than the known (and potential) consequences of the vaccine. As time has passed and more has become known about both, I’m more and more confident that I’ve made the right choice.
Empress Ki* September 3, 2021 at 4:49 am LW doesn’t say she doesn’t want to be vaccinated. She says she has an exemption.It’s not the same ! Employer should pay for the test in this case.
ceiswyn* September 3, 2021 at 6:52 am LW has an exemption of an unspecified type. Since many states allow religious, philosophical, ‘conscientious’ or other grounds for exemptions, there is no particular reason to assume that the LW’s exemption is a medical exemption, especially as it’s reasonable to believe that the LW would have said if it was. I disagree that the employer should pay if the LW has chosen to refuse vaccination. Also, I find it VERY INTERESTING that the LW went straight to quitting their job, rather than exploring the idea of their employer paying for the test. That rather suggests that it isn’t the cost that’s the issue, so much as the LW objecting to getting tested at all.
Need More Sunshine* September 3, 2021 at 8:27 am BINGO on your last point. OP makes no mention of talking to her employer about alternatives and her tone here implies she thinks it’s all BS – to either get vaxxed or tested at all. Maybe that’s not that case, but I feel like that just more shows that she needs a healthy dose in how to professionally communicate her concerns to her employer if they are legitimate concerns and not just “I can’t be effed”
Momma Bear* September 3, 2021 at 11:18 am I agree. The letter sounds much more obstinate than looking for a workable solution.
Wants Green Things* September 3, 2021 at 12:10 pm And you are correct! Alison added a sticky post at the top of the comments. Dude’s a jerk.
Keymaster of Gozer* September 3, 2021 at 9:07 am I somehow missed that bit! Yes, it is rather…bizarre to jump straight to ‘I quit’ without discussing things – or asking for advice from, say, AAM about how to phrase opening up accomodation talks with the employer. Not saying I’ve never quit a job under moral reasons – I have, but it was after pretty much all other avenues had been exhausted.
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 3:24 pm LW doesn’t say she doesn’t want to be vaccinated. She says she has an exemption.It’s not the same ! In this context it IS the same – because (even absent the update), it’s clear that the exemption is NOT medical. Given that reality, there is no reason the employer should pay for it.
Bamcakes* September 3, 2021 at 8:29 am I don’t really get everyone answering OP1 as if she’s asking whether it’s fair that she has to take or pay for tests! She’s already decided to leave the job. I mean, that’s a bizarre decision as far as I’m concerned, but if she’s not willing to get vaccinated or test for whatever reason, it’s the logical thing to do. Her question is simply whether she’ll get to work notice or be asked to leave on the spot. Everyone obviously has very strong feelings about the vaccine, but this is someone who has already made the decision to leave her job. Berating her for not taking responsibility for the consequences of her actions seems odd when she’s doing exactly that.
Eldritch Office Worker* September 3, 2021 at 8:46 am Because, as Alison said, this is going to come up elsewhere and LW needs to be prepared for that
Keymaster of Gozer* September 3, 2021 at 9:09 am The likelihood is she’s going to apply for jobs elsewhere and run into this again – epescially if she stays in the healthcare field and she needs to be prepared for that.
AnonForThis* September 3, 2021 at 12:30 pm We can’t possibly know whether the employer will ask OP to leave or allow them to work through their notice. What we DO know, is that the employer is a healthcare organization that is providing accommodations (testing in lieu of vaccine) when they don’t have to. Other healthcare organizations are mandating vaccination, with no alternatives, or be terminated. Comparatively, this healthcare org is being generous. Given the generous alternatives, OP’s stance reads as defiant, entitled, and lacking empathy. I think that is what readers are taking issue with, not that she isn’t accepting of the consequences.
AnonForThis* September 3, 2021 at 1:09 pm and by “no alternatives” I should clarify that I mean very, VERY limited medical exemptions. Policies that create space for anti-vaxxers (get tested if you don’t want to be jabbed) are, by contrast, generous.
Generic-username* September 3, 2021 at 12:15 am LW #1 – ask them to cover the cost of the tests for you since you have an exemption if that’s the problem, but yeah, you should be doing whatever you can to reduce the risk to others whether that is getting vaccinated or getting tested regularly or excusing yourself from indoor contact with others (particularly in a healthcare setting where people are more likely to be elderly or prone to sickness!)
Nerdgal* September 3, 2021 at 8:33 am She says she has a religious exemption. Most of these are based on non-science, or outright lies. Nevertheless, maybe LW1’s “religion” should volunteer to pay for testing.
Cj* September 3, 2021 at 9:06 am Did she say that in the comments somewhere? Because it’s not in the letter.
Essess* September 3, 2021 at 10:04 am If OP works in healthcare, it is vital for OP to ensure the health and safety of the people that OP comes in contact with. If it is true that OP is using a health exemption, MOST religions have exemptions for health and safety so OP should have a serious talk with their religious leader because it is likely that OP would be allowed to get vaccinated for the greater good. If not, then OP should be speaking to the religious leader about having testing covered by the religious organization OR OP should consider the cost of testing as part of the ‘tithe’ or other financial donations that are made to that religion by the OP as a cost of being part of that religion.
Essess* September 3, 2021 at 10:28 am Edit – My second sentence should say “If it is true that OP is using a religious exemption” (not health).
A Genuine Scientician* September 3, 2021 at 8:59 am I’m on board with the employer paying for the tests if it’s a medical exemption (eg if the LW is a transplant recipient and taking immunosuppressants because of that). Making that employee pay for the tests would feel similar to making an employee in a wheelchair pay the costs of a desk that can be adjusted to be as low as they need, which clearly shouldn’t happen. If it’s a religious exemption, I would emotionally not support requiring the employer to pay for the tests, but I’d talk with a lawyer about what the legal aspects are.
Generic-username* September 3, 2021 at 12:07 pm Honestly, same. I was choosing to believe that LW#1 was legitimately not getting the vaccine for a medical reason, but Allison’s post makes it clear I was wrong and that LW#1 is just a COVID-denier, which is upsetting. I think these “you pay it yourself” has been a way employers are trying to get unvaccinated people vaccinated (by making it more difficult to be unvaccinated than vaccinated) and I fully support that.
Cambridge Comma* September 3, 2021 at 12:15 am If OP has a vaccination exemption (which I would understand to be a valid health reason for being unable to get the vaccine) having a weekly test that she has to pay for might mean she can’t afford to continue in the job through no fault of her own. Is it really so clear from the letter that she just doesn’t want to?
PollyQ* September 3, 2021 at 12:20 am I have no desire to test and also pay for it This strongly suggests to me that the cost is not the primary concern. There is also still free community testing throughout the US, so it’s possible there would be no charge, although it’s also possible that the employer wants to do the testing itself and charge for it. I also doubt that the cost of the test is more than the weekly salary, which LW seems willing to give up.
Cambridge Comma* September 3, 2021 at 12:25 am It’s definitely ambiguous, but not so clear cut that it seems fair to start of with so much outrage towards the OP. There are plenty of people, especially in the US, who couldn’t afford an extra unplanned expense like this.
PollyQ* September 3, 2021 at 12:36 am If that’s the case, then why didn’t LW say that? “I can’t afford to pay for a weekly COVID test; how can I ask for my employer to cover it?” is a very different question than the one that was asked. LW’s clear determination to leave the job rather than even try to find a solution to any problems with testing is why she’s getting the intense pushback.
The Prettiest Curse* September 3, 2021 at 1:03 am Losing your salary (and potentially not being able to get another job in your field if the same rule applies everywhere) would presumably be a much bigger financial hardship than paying for testing. However, employers should absolutely pay for the testing to eliminate this excuse.
allathian* September 3, 2021 at 1:06 am Then get the darn vaccine, it’s free. The LW doesn’t say that they have a medical exemption. They’re planning to give notice anyway, and their main concern seems to be whether their employer will allow them to work out their two-week notice without requiring a test, or not.
Teapotcleaner* September 3, 2021 at 4:33 am Their employer may give the person write ups during their last two weeks for failure to test and then a suspension.
JustaTech* September 3, 2021 at 12:31 pm Yeah, this isn’t “I’m quitting in 2 weeks anyway, so I don’t want to buy the new uniform” this is “I don’t want to engage in basic safety procedures”. You can’t just *decide* not to wear a hardhat or gloves, or walk into the reactor room because you feel like it. Safety regulations are there for a reason and actively flaunting them is an excellent reason for immediate termination. So yes, OP1, if, for safety reasons your employer requires testing in lieu of vaccination, then they have every right and duty to fire you immediately.
Empress Ki* September 3, 2021 at 4:58 am LW says she’s exempted. What else than a medical exemption could it be ?
MissM* September 3, 2021 at 5:44 am The language used indicates it’s a “personal belief” one which is permitted by some states.
ceiswyn* September 3, 2021 at 6:57 am A religious, philosophical, conscientious or personal exemption. It took me five seconds of Googling to find out the kinds of exemption that are permitted by many states.
Xantar* September 3, 2021 at 11:24 am In many US states, an exemption can be a religious exemption or a conscientious exemption. I personally think these shouldn’t exist as a matter of policy, but I’m not a lawmaker. The reason commenters are so suspicious of LW is because people with legitimate medical exemptions are generally eager to say so and also actually wish they could be vaccinated.
MassMatt* September 3, 2021 at 1:18 am I don’t think people are outraged so much as they are unsympathetic, and IMO rightly so. I saw stacks of home COVID tests at my local CVS for $12 each; if that is too much to spend to potentially save someone from infection then IMO the LW does not belong in the health care field. It’s very hard not to go off on a political rant; I’ll just say I don’t understand the rampant anti vaccine/anti mask current that’s so rampant among large sections of the population.
Avi* September 3, 2021 at 3:11 am It’s not even a purely political thing; it’s an expression of the streak of boneheaded, knee-jerk contrarianism that runs deep through our society. While this tendency happens to have been enthusiastically embraced and exploited by certain political elements, it’s sadly not unique to them. One of the most rabidly unreasonable people I know in regards to their Covid opinions approaches it entirely from a crunchy-granola ‘alternative medicine’ viewpoint which has apparently led them to be both dismissive of and actively hostile to any basic precautions in a way that’s functionally indistinguishable from the more politically motivated Covid deniers, to the extent that they latch onto and parrot a lot of the same disinformation.
Sleeping Late Every Day* September 3, 2021 at 3:44 am It seems that the normal-to-extreme thinking scale is circular rather than linear, with the extremes of any political persuasion meeting and possibly overlapping.
Kaiko* September 3, 2021 at 7:27 am Definitely. Also, somewhat hilariously (if you like your humour tinged with a heavy end-of-days vibe), the folks on the inside of that conversation with declare themselves “the only true lefties/conservatives” and not realize that they have exactly the same views for totally different reasons.
Rachel Greep* September 3, 2021 at 1:15 pm There’s a political science theory that views the “left/right” political spectrum not as a straight line, but as a horseshoe. The extremists on each end may believe different things, but have very similar behaviors.
Lenora Rose* September 3, 2021 at 2:30 pm I wouldn’t say crunchy granola types are actually necessarily that leftist, though. Some are (I know a few) but many of them are more along the lines of “Let’s all just get along/don’t stir the pot/I don’t see colour/put up rainbow flags in June but don’t say boo the rest of the year” just tinged with a greenwashed veneer. I mean, one of the largest advocates I know for UBI is a crunchy granola type, but I’ve seen too many who are closer to Karens than to activists.
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 3:33 pm It seems that the normal-to-extreme thinking scale is circular rather than linear, with the extremes of any political persuasion meeting and possibly overlapping. Yes!
Mina, the Company Prom Queen* September 3, 2021 at 7:16 am It is not okay if someone gets a potentially virus just because their unvaccinated coworker couldn’t afford to get tested.
Well...* September 3, 2021 at 1:57 am My thoughts exactly. People who are immunocompromised shouldn’t be having to shoulder the financial hardships of regular testing after everything else they’ve gone through in this pandemic. The company might not accept free testing. We don’t have enough information about LW1s situation to rush to saying they have no options and should have no options.
Immunocompromised and Vaccinated* September 3, 2021 at 2:22 am There’s nothing that indicates the LW is immunocompromised. But regardless, just fyi to avoid spreading misinformation, immunocompromised people can indeed get the vaccine, we’re just less likely to respond effectively to it. If it’s relevant to someone in your life, I encourage you to help them look up reliable medical sources and talk to their doctor! (There are some other medical reasons that can make people unable to get vaccinated, but being immunocompromised generally isn’t it.)
Vaxexemption* September 3, 2021 at 2:37 am Even if they’re immunocompromised, they can still get the vaccine, and in fact getting it is highly recommended. It just may not be very effective. The only medical reason I can think of for not getting vaccinated is severe allergies to ingredients in all different options available to you.
Vaxexemption* September 3, 2021 at 2:44 am (to be clear, I’m sure there are extremely rare diseases or conditions, where you night want to avoid vaccination, it’s just the blanket term “immunocompromised” tells you nothing about medical exemptions. The problem isn’t that immunocompromised people cannot get vaccinated, it’s that they may not mount an adequate defense after being vaccinated, which sucks.)
Sleeping Late Every Day* September 3, 2021 at 3:47 am Some immunocompromised people were in the first wave to get vaccinated precisely because they are the most vulnerable to bad outcomes from Covid.
londonedit* September 3, 2021 at 5:45 am Yes, that’s how it worked in the UK. It was over-90s first, then over-80s, then over-70s and anyone on the ‘clinically extremely vulnerable’ list. So my sister had her vaccines at the same time as my parents, in March/April this year. They’re now talking about boosters this winter for the most vulnerable people. Because she takes medication that suppresses her immune system, it’s true that she may not have the same level of immunity from the vaccine as I might do, but the protection is still there and it’s far better than risking actually getting Covid while completely unvaccinated and having a reduced immune system.
UKDancer* September 3, 2021 at 6:53 am Definitely. My father has a compromised immune system and while there are some vaccines he can’t have (shingles for example because it uses a live virus) Covid is not one of them. He was at the front of the queue for it and we celebrated the day the got the second one.
Keymaster of Gozer* September 3, 2021 at 9:13 am The NHS held off on mine because they honestly didn’t know if my combination of ‘things wrong with Keymaster’ meant I couldn’t take the vaccines safely. But, I still got vaccinated in…May I think? Caused my RA to flare up like whoa but other than that I got through it fine. (Husband unit was throwing his guts up for a day after his – irony that he’s the 100% healthy one and got a worse reaction!)
Not your doctor* September 7, 2021 at 2:50 pm (Out of nesting – this is a reply to UKDancer) UKDancer, your father should check back with his health care providers. There are now two shingles shots – Zostavax and Shingrix. Zostavax is the live attenuated vaccine that can’t be used in (many) immunocompromised people. Shingrix is a recombinant vaccine that does not contain any live virus, and may be used in people for whom Zostavax isn’t safe. Here’s the NHS page on the two shingles vaccines: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/vaccinations/shingles-vaccination/ Both shots are available in the US as well; I didn’t look up worldwide approvals. In the US, Shingrix is approved for ≥50 years old, while Zostavax is still approved for ≥60 only.
DataSci* September 3, 2021 at 10:23 am Many immunocompromised people can get the vaccine. My son’s reading tutor is a transplant recipient, and not only got the vaccine but just got his third (booster) dose.
Temperance* September 3, 2021 at 10:30 am No. People who are immunocompromised are largely advised to get vaccinated, and then to also get a booster. This person said “exemption”, not medical exemption.
LilacLily* September 3, 2021 at 12:27 am that’s the same thing I was thinking! some people are allergic to components of the vaccine and can’t take it, hence the exemption letter she rightfully delivered to her employer, and I don’t know about the US but private COVID tests are REALLY expensive in the UK! being expected to take them weekly out of pocket is, well. I understand why OP#1 has to take the tests, but paying for them out of pocket might not be feasible or fair to them, especially if they have a legitimate reason not to take the vaccine. Alison’s usually good at answering people’s questions logically and unbiased, but this time I gotta say I’m disappointed :(
Quoth the Raven* September 3, 2021 at 12:42 am Getting a free Covid test in my country is an exercise in madness and paying for them is not exactly cheap either, so I do get how the cost would be a burden and I understand not everyone can cover it, let alone weekly . That said, I feel what’s rubbing me the wrong way is that, with the wording, OP comes across as not wanting to get tested (“I have no desire to test and also pay for it”) to the point they’re willing to quit over it, rather than being unable to get tested for whatever (valid) reason. If instead OP had asked about how to get the cost of the tests reimbursed or covered, I feel the answer would be different.
Tali* September 3, 2021 at 12:50 am Yeah I think the answer to this really hinges on how easy/cheap testing is. In my country I hear that tests are hard to obtain, and if you don’t have a medical reason to get tested (doctor’s orders, suspected close contact) then they can run 100-300 USD. It would be incredibly unreasonable to require weekly testing at employee expense under those circumstances. It is clear to me that the employer has implemented weekly testing as a deterrent to employees holding out on getting vaccinated. As long as it is reasonable for people with real medical exemptions to follow, I don’t see a problem with requiring regular testing.
Dark Macadamia* September 3, 2021 at 12:51 am Her answer isn’t illogical just because you disagree with it!
Ask a Manager* Post authorSeptember 3, 2021 at 12:59 am Perhaps because you’re not in the U.S. you don’t recognize the dog whistles in the letter, but this is extremely unlikely to be someone with a legit medical exemption.
Marzipan Shepherdess* September 3, 2021 at 1:19 am I agree! After all, if the LW had a legitimate medical reason for not being able to take the vaccine, surely they’d have led with that statement – it would’ve been in the first sentence. And even if they DID have an actual medical reason for having to decline the vaccine (spoiler alert – they don’t!), that would not have prevented them from being tested. A responsible adult with a real “medical exemption” would want to be tested MORE often to ensure that they didn’t have COVID and weren’t passing it on to others! Ahh…no. Just no!
Paperdill* September 3, 2021 at 3:24 am Perhaps this is very much a US thing? I live in a different country and actually work as a vaccinator – its my job to determine if people are safe to receive the vaccine. So my HCW mind immediately went to “Oh, they have an exemption – they must have [brainstorm of potential medical conditions]”. Hence, I was quite shocked to read your response, Alison, because that was simply not the direction my thoughts we going at all. Isn’t cultural context a funny thing?
FemalePhenotype* September 3, 2021 at 3:46 am It was the word “exemption” that led my mind there. The idea that you can be “exempt” due to a preference rather than a physical need feels weird and wrong.
Myrin* September 3, 2021 at 4:20 am I mean, I’m in Germany and this letter gave me the exact same feeling as it did Alison and the US commentariat, so make of that what you will. Possibly your job which makes you deal with (medical) exemptions probably on a daily basis is what’s guiding your impression most of all here. (It’s also not really a cultural angle but a… literary one, maybe? Gleaning unsaid information from texts as they’re written. The very matter-of-fact, clipped, straightforward way OP writes, short sentences without much explanation or additions to them, is usually used by people who 1) just speak/write like that and generally aren’t very engaging writers, either because they’re more used to a technical, “non-fiction” writing style or simply because they don’t write a lot at all, fullstop, and don’t have much experience with it OR 2) want to obfuscate what they’re really talking about and try their darndest to sound casual and reasonable via giving minimal information and sounding factual/unemotional/almost detached about it. We’ve had letters like 1) in the past, not doubt, but I’m absolutely willing to bet that it’s 2) in this case. You would expect someone who has a bona fide reason for their exemption to mention that at least in some way, even if just “I have submitted a vaccination exemption because of my [severe illness]”. The fact that OP didn’t add anything like that whatsoever anywhere in her letter, coupled with “I have no desire to test and also pay for it.” AND that she’s already planning on quitting over this (on the very date the new rule will go into effect) without mention of any talk with a higher-up or HR about her exemption very, very strongly reads to me like someone who already knows that most people aren’t going to agree with her and who has accepted that but who also wants to make the most out of it if in any way possible.)
Tau* September 3, 2021 at 8:00 am Also German, and although at first I was taken aback by Alison’s response on reread I went to the same place. The fact that the primary concern isn’t “this is a financial burden, how can I get my employer to take it on?” but “how can I keep working for as long as possible without getting tested or vaccinated?” is… pretty strong evidence in a certain direction. Like, it’s possible that this person is a terrible writer who is either somehow unaware of the state and history of COVID-19 vaccination discussions in much of the Western world or completely blind to how their letter comes off in that context, who has an exemption on medical grounds, is being asked to pay for a test that they cannot afford (as opposed to the free or very cheap options available in many places), has already looked into and ruled out the possibility of their company offering to shoulder the financial burden or agree to a cheaper type of test[1], and is now so panicked about the loss of income that they’ve fixated on drawing out their employment as long as possible without realising that asking to be able to come into work in person while unvaccinated and untested is asking to subject their coworkers to unconscionable risk. Possible. But I’m not holding my breath, you know? [1] the once-weekly thing did make me wonder whether it was a PCR test, which – those are 5o euros over here so I can definitely see that being a financial strain on a weekly basis. But I can get antibody self-tests from my local drugstore for less than 1 euro a piece.
Ana Gram* September 3, 2021 at 6:40 am I work as a vaccinator in the US and we don’t turn people away for anything, really. You showed up to get the shot, you get the shot. We have a list of questions to ask but assume you and your doctor have come to this decision together. We also have a medic response team and ambulance in the parking lot so we’ll deal with any unexpected responses. Very interesting to see different countries/cultural responses to this letter.
münchner kindl* September 3, 2021 at 7:45 am I think the cultural difference is that some US states allow non-medical exemptions from vaccination, too, whereas countries whose government follows science instead of populism, only medical exemptions are allowed in the first place at all. So non-US might interpret “exemption= medical”, but those following US news might know context and interpret “no medical reason mentioned = non-medical exemption”.
Liz T* September 3, 2021 at 11:09 am All US states must allow religious exemptions as well as medical–though no states have an across-the-board vaccine mandate regardless of what field you’re in. Individual employers can require it–but by federal law, must AT LEAST allow exceptions for medical conditions or “sincerely held religious beliefs.” But some cities and states are doing a “soft mandate” where you just get a CHOICE between vaccination and weekly testing.
Xantar* September 3, 2021 at 11:31 am Actually not all US states allow religious exemptions any more. Some have recently passed laws disallowing them. For example California has no religious or philosophical exemptions whatsoever. Source: https://www.ncsl.org/research/health/school-immunization-exemption-state-laws.aspx
JustaTech* September 3, 2021 at 2:27 pm And neither do Mississippi or West Virginia. And they haven’t had any non-medical exemptions for decades. (I was at a vaccine conference soon after the California law about exemptions was passed and we had to have security because anti-vaxxers tried to crash our conference. In 2018! It was wild and honestly kind of scary.)
Lady Meyneth* September 3, 2021 at 1:15 pm I can one-up you! We have not only religious but also *philosophical* exemptions here. Like, “my health is ok with the vaccine, my religion is ok with the vaccine, but I, all of myself, do not want to take it”. I can’t even with covidiots and the lengths government are going to appease them. I guess I need to step out of this thread. :(
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 4:04 am Am in the UK and even here that letter tripped the ‘here’s someone who’s just being combative for no reason’ bells. Mostly it’s the tone of it, the ‘I refuse’ rather than ‘can I get the firm to make reasonable accommodations such as ensuring others don’t infect me, or financial help toward the test?’ which I’d totally understand (I’ve got someone on staff who legitimately cannot be vaccinated, is a fantastic techie and very nice and I’ll move the earth to keep them safe).
Blue* September 3, 2021 at 6:17 am Absolutely this. “I have no desire to…’ just isn’t the language of someone who isn’t able to be vaccinated for health reasons but takes Covid safety seriously. IME, people who medically can’t be vaccinated are generally very punctilious about other safety precautions, because by definition those people are at risk. They also tend to be very upfront about their specific reasons for not being jabbed, because they don’t want people to be wondering if they’re antivaxxers or Covid deniers! Of course there are exceptions, but everything about the tone of this letter makes me think that’s not what’s happening here.
LDN Layabout* September 3, 2021 at 8:20 am Yup, this is the language of the anti-vaxx. Partly because most people who cannot get the vaccine for legitimate reasons are more than happy to deal with frequent testing because their other risk factors mean they’re more at risk of death.
Ginger* September 3, 2021 at 10:18 am completely agree. Someone who really can’t would phrase things differently. People like this annoy me because they make life harder (and more dangerous) for those who legitmately can’t get jabbed.
Amey* September 3, 2021 at 4:38 am Yes, even pre-Covid, I’m in a Facebook parenting group for an education system I enjoy but which does attract anti-vaxxers. This is a carefully moderated group and vaccination talk is banned but I eventually worked out that when people talked about ‘medical freedom’ as an important issue for them (often why otherwise politically liberal people wouldn’t vote for a liberal party), they were ALWAYS and exclusively talking about mandatory childhood vaccination. There are code words that people use and this letter is full of them. For what it’s worth, I’m grew up in the US (with mildly anti-vax parents) and live now in the UK and this is absolutely a cultural difference. You’re very unlikely to get spurious vaguely religious exemptions for things here.
Old Admin* September 3, 2021 at 6:08 am Letter #1 sounds very much like a US letter (two weeks notice etc. are US specific). I just wanted to mention that there are all sorts of programs providing FREE Covid tests to US residents without health insurance, for example at Walgreen’s and CVS (I recently booked one there). OP#1 doesn’t have a financial hardship excuse.
Gipsy Danger* September 3, 2021 at 11:54 am Two weeks notice is standard in Canada as well, and for what it’s worth, it’s very possible OP is in BC, as we are just about to require all long-term care staff to be vaccinated or to test regularly.
quill* September 3, 2021 at 12:20 pm We do seem to have a lot of dogwhistles going off in a sea of people with only human hearing.
allathian* September 3, 2021 at 1:09 am The thing is that every manufacturer has different additives in their vaccines, if one isn’t suitable, another one might be. This is just a covidiot who doesn’t want to get the vaccine for whatever reason, and doesn’t want to get tested either. I don’t think such people should be allowed to work in healthcare at all.
Prairie* September 3, 2021 at 10:20 am Oh this is interesting. Where I live “covidiot” is what ani-vax/anti-mask call people who are concerned about covid. Sounds like the opposite is true in your area.
Lenora Rose* September 3, 2021 at 2:38 pm I’ve mostly seen the term refer to the people who spread the “it’s a hoax” conspiracies, but my sampling pool is mostly the heavily pro-vaxx people. On more public comment threads, when I’ve dipped in my toe, I’ve seen it go both ways and you had to figure out which group was being referred to as idiots by context.
nodramalama* September 3, 2021 at 1:12 am It’s pretty rare for allergies to mean that you can’t get any of the different types of the covid vaccine though. Food allerges/hay fever etc are not affected by the vaccines, and the different vaccines have different components to them so that you would likely be able to use another vaccine if you had an allergy to one of the components. It is much more likely that this person does not want the vaccine.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 4:06 am Just recently reassured a coworker that none of the vaccines contain egg! I was surprised how many people I knew were avoiding getting the jab because of egg allergies.
Blue* September 3, 2021 at 6:22 am Yeah, there also are – not none, definitely- but very few people who genuinely cannot be vaccinated. I have a friend who has MCAS – her body responds to any kind of stress or surprise by throwing her into anaphylaxis, basically – who had to be admitted to hospital to get the jab so that they could have a crash cart standing by in case she reacted badly. But she got it, and she was fine. That doesn’t mean everyone can! Medical exemptions are real. But they’re also a lot rarer than most people think, and doctors here are recommending that a lot of people take the risk, because the risk of Covid is so much greater.
Siege* September 3, 2021 at 1:27 pm Better to get the shot and check your antibody levels later than assume preemptively you can’t get the shot, or at least that’s the experience among the immunocompromised in my friend group.
Lance* September 3, 2021 at 7:13 am I assume because it’s a common thing in flu shots (or at least I imagine it must be, since I’ve seen that type of allergy asked about nearly every time I’ve gotten one), so they’d want to make sure since this virus has similar symptoms.
YetAnotherAnalyst* September 3, 2021 at 7:16 am The flu shot uses eggs in part of the production process (which is why the US has effectively a strategic egg reserve!), so folks with egg allergies can’t get the flu shot. Some folks have assumed the covid shot was the same.
RabbitRabbit* September 3, 2021 at 7:23 am There are egg-free versions! These are less common so you may need to call around to find out who has it in stock.
RabbitRabbit* September 3, 2021 at 7:22 am Many influenza vaccines, including the nasal spray version, are cultured in eggs, so they may contain egg-based proteins that could trigger anaphylaxis in people with egg-based allergies. Some of the vaccines are cell-derived so no eggs needed for those. My workplace (hospital) does mass flu vaccination days for employees as well as walk-ins at Employee Health, so many times there were questions about egg allergies on the intake forms.
Cheesesteak in Paradise* September 3, 2021 at 7:42 am That doesn’t always mean anything. My hospital asks about pregnancy on the flu vaccine form even though 1) that might be illegal and 2) pregnant people are actually recommended to get the flu vaccine at any stage of pregnancy. And it’s a hospital. So information out there from Employee Health isn’t always good.
RabbitRabbit* September 3, 2021 at 8:12 am OK, I’m sorry you had a bad experience with your workplace, but many influenza vaccines ARE cultured in eggs, so people with egg allergies still need to request an egg-free version.
Coenobita* September 3, 2021 at 9:30 am My understanding is that the pregnancy question is standard on flu shot consent forms – it’s because pregnant people shouldn’t get the nasal spray (live attenuated) version but rather the injected (inactivated) version. But of course I understand that getting asked about pregnancy at work is not ideal!
Keymaster of Gozer* September 3, 2021 at 9:18 am Influenza viruses have a natural host in avians – so when we needed to culture them up in the lab for testing/their proteins/whatever we used eggs as the virus replicated far better in that than in any of the human line cell cultures. Thus, it wasn’t always possible to get a flu vaccine totally free of egg protein and people with egg allergies were told to avoid them. This *has* changed as there are now egg free variations but there’s still a cultural misunderstanding in my area at least that ‘vaccines = contain egg’
Richard Hershberger* September 3, 2021 at 9:46 am The here is that these people don’t think to ask their doctor about this. Doctors take anaphylaxis very seriously. This is not a concern they dismiss out of hand.
Where’s the Orchestra?* September 3, 2021 at 11:09 am I was advised by my dr to be cautious due to my iodine allergy but to definitely go get my jabs. What ended up happening is that I had to wait 40 mins after both of my shots instead of the typical 15 minutes. You can get vaccinated with allergies – you just have to discuss it with your doctor first.
Asperusual* September 3, 2021 at 1:31 am UK here too, and free Covid tests are available from all pharmacies. Hope that saves you some money.
BubbleTea* September 3, 2021 at 1:44 am Lateral flow tests are free and readily accessible, but PCR tests are only free if you have symptoms or need to test for work as a key worker. The tests you need for leisure travel abroad have a cost, and rightly so in my view. We’ve (the UK) already sent two variants around the world. People shouldn’t be travelling for leisure anywhere near as much as they are.
Tara* September 3, 2021 at 4:58 am They’ve never checked symptoms for a PCR though. Now there’s not a shortage I’ve been getting the free ones semi-regularly/before I see any of my family. They probably can’t be used for work, but it’s not difficult to get a free PCR, at least where I am.
Well...* September 3, 2021 at 2:01 am It depends on the type of tests. PCR tests are expensive. The company could be requiring those.
Ori* September 3, 2021 at 3:08 am You can literally get them at the library in my town, which I think is awesome.
Keymaster of Gozer* September 3, 2021 at 9:20 am Yup – got a whole box of them from the local pharmacy here in the UK. Just went in, said ‘I’m going to see family soon do you have any Covid tests I can take before I leave?’ and walked out with a free box )
Marzipan* September 3, 2021 at 2:37 am I do twice-weekly tests for work in the UK (in addition to being double-jabbed). They’re free.
Bagpuss* September 3, 2021 at 3:55 am LilacLily, it’s correct that some people are allergic, but as has been mentioned upthread, it is surprising that the OP didn’t expressly state that they are unable to get the vaccine, and didn’t query whether the company paying would be a reasonable adjustment in the circumstances. In the US as I understand it people can also claim an exemption on the basis of belief (although to the best of my knowledge, no major / mainstream religion opposes or forbids the vaccine, and many actively support it). IF the OPs exemption is due to a severe allergy meaning that they cannot get the vaccine then it would be reasonable for them to ask their employer to cover the cost of testing as a reasonable adjustment but the wording of the letter doesn’t suggest that that’s the case. (Also, and just for the record, the only situation where you may need a private test in the UK is if you are entering the country from overseas, or if you need one in order to board a flight out of the country. )
Agent Diane* September 3, 2021 at 4:09 am In the UK the lateral flow device test, aka rapid test, is freely available and tests whether you are asymptomatic and should be self-isolating. These are the ones used in schools, and that I use before travelling, socialising etc. If there is no pharmacy or similar offering the packs in your area, you can order them from the NHS website and have them delivered. You do the test and have the result in 30 minutes. If it is positive, you self-isolate and order a free PCR test. Private PCR tests because you want to go abroad cost but those are part of the costs of deciding a week in Italy is worth the risk of catching or spreading COVID. I do think if work requires you to travel overseas they should pay for the PCR tests and any quarantine costs. But “COVID tests are really expensive in the UK” is misleading: the type of tests workplaces and schools require are FREE.
Amey* September 3, 2021 at 4:52 am Yes! That statement is absolutely wrong. If this person was in the UK, they’d certainly be asked to do lateral flow tests which would probably be provided free by their employer but if not they can pick up free packs from the pharmacy. My employer (a university) expects all staff working on-site to test with lateral flow twice a week, regardless of vaccination status and this is really fine and easy. I’m glad if it – I and most of my coworkers are fully vaccinated but I have suspicions about my manager…
CreepyPaper* September 3, 2021 at 5:41 am UK-based here. Work paid for us all to have those private PCR tests before we returned to the office and when we did we were given a pack of lateral flow tests, a packet of masks and some hand sanitiser. We have a lot of high risk people at work (me included) so they aren’t taking any chances. Am glad to see I fall into one of the groups for a booster jab too!
Clewgarnet* September 3, 2021 at 6:16 am Also UK. A private PCR test suitable for travel is expensive, but workplaces/schools/etc. usually only require a lateral flow test. You can pick those up free from pretty much any pharmacy. Alternatively, schedule a free test at an NHS testing centre. I’ve just checked my local centres, and I can get a test this evening, no charge.
ceiswyn* September 3, 2021 at 7:36 am Private lateral flow tests in the UK are REALLY cheap. By which I mean, free. Are there really workplaces that are requiring private weekly PCR tests?
LDN Layabout* September 3, 2021 at 8:24 am Just FYI private ones are not really cheap, they’re at the £25-30 level. Ones provided by the NHS? FREE! (The ones you see in Boots and other pharmacies are still NHS provided vs. the ones they do for travel etc. which are private).
ceiswyn* September 3, 2021 at 8:36 am To be honest, I didn’t even know there were such things as ‘private’ lateral flow tests that you paid money for. Why would anyone do that when you can get a pack of 7 for free?!
LDN Layabout* September 3, 2021 at 8:55 am So, I, double vaxxed, will be going abroad next week to visit family I haven’t seen in a year. I still need to get tested prior to travel and this country in particular accepts both PCR and rapid-antigen results for travel. And the rules are the tests have to come from an ‘approved’ provider aka Bojo’s mates getting a bung.
ceiswyn* September 3, 2021 at 9:52 am Sure, but what does that have to do with the kind of tests being required by employers?
ecnaseener* September 3, 2021 at 8:17 am The *logical* answer to the LW’s question is still the same. Will they let LW work out their two weeks notice? No, probably not since their presence will put people in danger.
Momma Bear* September 3, 2021 at 11:36 am Right. We are down in the weeds when that’s not the question. I would expect the LW to be fired before the two week notice is up, or at the very least asked to stay home.
Northern Neighbour* September 3, 2021 at 11:01 am The U.S./ Canada/ U.K. have other vaccine options though – there are super rare allergies to PEG in the mRNA vaccines, but even those, they are finding that they can be administered with the guidance of an allergist. But if people don’t want them, there are the two viral vector vaccines that don’t have allergy-inducing components. So it’s definitely possible to get vaccinated. And as others have pointed out, immunocompromised individuals were prioritized for it. People are generally pretty clear about why they can’t get vaccinated if they have a genuine medical exemption, but OP doesn’t lay that out, and OP also doesn’t indicate that there is a concern about cost – OP is just very dismissive of the whole approach. That’s what people are reacting to here, and that’s what Alison is responding to. It’s not an illogical or biased response given the content in the letter.
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 3:36 pm some people are allergic to components of the vaccine and can’t take it, hence the exemption letter she rightfully delivered to her employer, Except you really have to be ignoring what the OP says to really buy that they are allergic.
Dark Macadamia* September 3, 2021 at 12:40 am For me it’s the framing of the letter. It would be completely reasonable to request that testing costs be covered due to their exemption – why aren’t they writing for advice about advocating for this? Why did they jump straight to quitting? They come across like they’re acting On Principle because their main concern is to work through their notice while flouting the company’s safety measures rather than figuring out a mutually agreeable resolution.
AllTheBirds* September 3, 2021 at 7:50 am Exactly. OP1, just go ahead and quit now. Open your position up to someone who believes in, you know, science.
Ask a Manager* Post authorSeptember 3, 2021 at 12:44 am They wrote, “I have no desire to test.” This is someone who doesn’t believe the science on Covid/has bought into the politicization of it, not someone who’s just worried about the expense.
Guacamole Bob* September 3, 2021 at 8:02 am And OP appears to be quitting her job over this requirement! It’s not 100% clear but that’s definitely how I read it. And even if that’s not the case, she’s putting in her notice so this requirement will only apply to her for a week or two, max. Definitely not someone with a reasonable question about who’s paying for it or whether the employer will accept rapid antigen instead of PCR tests.
Keymaster of Gozer* September 3, 2021 at 9:23 am Yup, the wording is very much ‘I’ve got no desire for any of this nonsense and I’m going to quit my job over it’ which is rather akin to the’cheap ass rolls’ letter in terms of tone IMHO.
Lady Meyneth* September 3, 2021 at 1:28 pm Alright – checks archive – THANK YOU for letting me know this letter existed. I needed the laugh today!
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 1:39 pm If you’re looking for more ‘I know I’m right and why am I being punished for it?’ posts also try the ‘I got fired for showing initiative (and undermining my manager)’ one.
Roberta JJ Howey* September 3, 2021 at 3:08 pm and we can’t forget the beautiful “I and the other interns protest this professional-clothing policy and were fired” (she did appear to grow from it, which is more than I can assume we will get from OP1).
Healthcare adjacent* September 3, 2021 at 12:48 am The large healthcare adjacent company I work at has announced a vaccine mandate. I am not sure what their policy is for those who don’t comply or the exact steps for exemption (didn’t bother looking since I am vaxxed) but they do have a religious as well as medical exemption allowance.
allathian* September 3, 2021 at 1:11 am I just hope that those with an exemption aren’t allowed to work with patients and are required to wear full PPE even if they’re working with other people who work with patients. The virus doesn’t care why someone refuses the vaccine.
lazuli* September 3, 2021 at 1:33 am Christian Scientist and Jehovah’s Witness are the two I’ve seen identified in the US as having official stances against vaccines.
TheSüperflüoüsUmlaüt* September 3, 2021 at 3:36 am It’s highly unlikely that a Christian Scientist would be working in the health/medical industry anyway, so I doubt that would be relevant to the OP. Besides which, the tenets of the CS faith require members to uphold the law of the land, so if you were required to be vaccinated to do whatever your job is, you would most likely do it. I know Christian Scientists who have accepted vaccines, mainly for the sake of community cohesion.
A Christian Scientist* September 3, 2021 at 10:06 am This! A Christian Scientist working in healthcare is a pretty difficult thing for me to imagine, to be honest. You’d either have to be very far removed from the healthcare part of it (ie, an accountant at a hospital, maybe) or only a very lackadaisically practicing CS. And, in fact, our “official stance” against vaccines is pretty weak to start with. We have very, very few official stances on anything, and in the case of the covid vaccine our leadership has come out with a statement that boils down to encouragement to get the shot on the basis of loving one’s neighbor and following the Golden Rule.
ele4phant* September 3, 2021 at 6:08 pm Yes – as someone raised but not a practicing Christian Scientist, it may depend on the individual but some are willing to do things like get vaccinated or tested if it means something to someone else. They have the attitude that this isn’t something I believe in, so it makes no difference to me either way but I’ll do it if it makes others more comfortable. Some are more hardline about it, but yes, also, they probably wouldn’t be working in healthcare either.
Ingrid* September 3, 2021 at 4:10 am The leaders of Jehovah’s Witnesses have advised everyone to get vaccinated.
Ingrid* September 3, 2021 at 4:13 am https://www.jw.org/en/jehovahs-witnesses/faq/jw-vaccines-immunization/
Empress Penguin* September 3, 2021 at 4:16 am This is interesting to me – I’m in the UK and have a JW colleague who was absolutely first in the queue to get vaccinated, as was the rest of her very religious family.
Eldritch Office Worker* September 3, 2021 at 8:48 am I was raised a JW there are no anti vaccine stances
Temperance* September 3, 2021 at 10:47 am Christian Scientists largely do follow vaccination schedules, even though they don’t believe in it. There’s someone here who is a member of that faith and very kindly explained it in the past. Cannot remember who it was, but they aren’t the anti-maskers.
My heart is a fish* September 3, 2021 at 3:27 pm I think that was Countess Boochie Flagrante. Haven’t seen her around in a while…
Gipsy Danger* September 3, 2021 at 12:02 pm Christian Science aren’t officially against vaccines, they say it’s up to their members to decide for themselves: https://www.christianscience.com/press-room/a-christian-science-perspective-on-vaccination-and-public-health
lazuli* September 3, 2021 at 3:37 pm Thank you all for correcting me! I had wondered myself a few months ago and found a newspaper article identifying those two; I’m glad the paper overstated it and/or the religious guidance shifted.
NeutralJanet* September 3, 2021 at 1:43 am Some Catholics object to the Johnson & Johnson vaccine specifically because the development of that vaccine involved stem cell research–I think they’re okay with Pfizer and Moderna, though, as those did not involve stem cells.
Ask a Manager* Post authorSeptember 3, 2021 at 1:47 am You may find this interesting: https://www.ohioemployerlawblog.com/2021/08/coronavirus-update-8102021-vaccines-and.html
chai latte* September 3, 2021 at 12:25 pm I believe there are some religiously-justified anti-vax Orthodox Jews as well. *disclaimer: not offering a judgement on religious exceptions for vaccines, not offering judgement. Also it might be only a certain segment of conservative Jews, I’m not Jewish myself & not well versed in the religion. Apologies in advance if my terminology or my information is off.
Metadata minion* September 3, 2021 at 2:17 pm I’m not saying there aren’t Orthodox Jews who’ve found some way to justify being anti-vax, but Judaism is in general extremely pro-medicine and there are some really interesting examples people have been bringing out in the last few months of rabbis from the 17 or 18oos arguing that their congregations were religiously *obligated* to get vaccinated against smallpox.
Kit* September 3, 2021 at 3:39 pm Oh yes, the mainstream Jewish thought is that all Jews are obligated to be vaccinated unless there is a strong medical case against it, because of pikuach nefesh. Vaccinations are literally in the defense of both oneself and vulnerable others! I did see someone claiming to be Jewish and claiming that she refused to be vaccinated because they weren’t kosher, but… if you’re eating the vaccine, you’re doing it wrong, Susan. (‘Claiming to be Jewish’ here because she’s an active congregant in a Christian church, fwiw. Randos on Twitter, idefk anymore.)
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 3:52 pm I did see someone claiming to be Jewish and claiming that she refused to be vaccinated because they weren’t kosher, but… if you’re eating the vaccine, you’re doing it wrong, Susan. LOL. Yeah, no one is eating these things. But, the truth is that I’ve seen this come up before (not necessarily in the context of vaccination.) And it’s just an incredible misunderstanding of the rules.
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 3:50 pm I believe there are some religiously-justified anti-vax Orthodox Jews as well. No. Three ARE Orthodox Jews who say that they are basing themselves on religious tenets, but in fact, they are not. Their arguments range from ignorance (like you look up the source they claim and it turns out that they are just wrong about what it says) to flat out lies about what Judaism requires. The MOST you can say is that it’s possible that Judaism does not REQUIRE vaccination. (A good many Rabbis would disagree with that, but that’s a more complicated argument.)
Sparrow* September 3, 2021 at 4:10 pm There are Haredi (very right-wing Orthodox) Jews who oppose vaccinations, but I’m not sure whether they’re using religious justifications or just general distrust of modern science. And in some cases, their own rabbis have spoken out against these attitudes. As far as I know, every major non-Haredi Jewish movement in the United States has come out with a statement that vaccines are not only religiously permitted, but religiously required.
ThisIsTheHill* September 3, 2021 at 10:54 am Healthcare adjacent here, too. I just looked up our policy (because I’m vaxxed, never paid attn when it was announced). My employer puts you on unpaid leave for 14 days if you’re not compliant “during which time [the employee] may reconsider their decision”. If you haven’t started the process after 14 days, you’re considered a voluntary resignation, which also makes you ineligible for unemployment.
Ele4phant* September 3, 2021 at 12:52 am Perhaps I shouldn’t assume but I imagine someone that can’t get vaccinated for a medical reason would be very keen to make that clear. Furthermore, if they have a medical reason they can’t get vaccinated, that probably also means they are high risk of severe illness from the virus, and therefore will be eager for whatever protections they can get. To me LW1 read like someone that just didn’t wanna.
learnedthehardway* September 3, 2021 at 1:14 am Agreed. I also think that someone who can’t get the vaccine for bonafide medical reasons themselves would be much more likely to express concern about the safety and health of colleagues and patients, rather than just an unwillingness to get tested. The writer’s lack of concern for anyone else REALLY rubbed me the wrong way.
londonedit* September 3, 2021 at 5:23 am Absolutely. You’d expect someone who couldn’t be vaccinated for a genuine medical reason to be even more keen on doing regular testing and taking all the necessary precautions. This is not ‘My employer wants us to pay for our own Covid tests and I don’t think that’s fair’, it’s ‘I’ve got myself an exemption, I don’t want to do any tests and I certainly don’t want to pay for them’. Sounds like someone who doesn’t believe Covid is a big deal – and they’d be putting their colleagues and anyone else they came into contact with at risk.
Harper the Other One* September 3, 2021 at 6:09 am I agree in the case of this particular LW, but I think people (justifiably!) get tired of having to argue their case. I mentioned above that my boss has a rare autoimmune condition – until last month her doctors hadn’t approved her to get the vaccine. She’s spent six months getting bombarded by people about did you get the vaccine yet, why not, well you should ask your doctor, it’s important and I’m sure it’s safe for you… Merely saying “I have an exemption for now” was not enough, and it was exhausting for her – and she works from home for her own business, so this was just from friends/professional contacts on Zoom and the phone. TL;DR I don’t think we should judge based on how much information about their health/medical conditions someone is willing to give.
ele4phant* September 3, 2021 at 1:02 pm I mean, I don’t know your boss or what they said exactly when asked, but I would think an easy answer for them would’ve been “I hope to get vaccinated eventually, but I have a medical condition and my doctor has advised me to wait for now.” That’s not any harder or more revealing to say than just “I have an exemption” particularly when the latter is guaranteed to come with a barrage of questions.
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 3:54 pm It depends on the context. In THIS context, it is ABSOLUTELY reasonable to judge based on what the OP says. Especially since the explicit rule is to take posters at their word, so all the medical information that the OP would need to share is “can’t get vaxxed per my doctor’s advice”.
Dragon Toad* September 3, 2021 at 1:28 am Exemption doesn’t just mean valid medical reason. It can also mean religious reason (which is on its own borderline fraudulent), or – given the number happy to sign a paper for money – false medical reasons.
Ele4phant* September 3, 2021 at 2:26 am Re – the religious exemption, I was raised a Christian scientist and wasn’t given childhood vaccines (don’t worry I’ve caught up as an adult) due to my parents sincerely held beliefs. And as a free thinking adult, I think that’s wrong. Your right to practice your faith should end when it impacts someone else – and you potentially passing on an illness to others most certainly is an impact on others.
General von Klinkerhoffen* September 3, 2021 at 3:05 am Agreed. That doesn’t mean you should have to accept the vaccine, but it does mean you have a moral obligation to avoid situations where you could be a vector. A healthcare environment, for example, or a crowded nightclub.
Sleeping Late Every Day* September 3, 2021 at 3:54 am So very much yes. If a person’s beliefs mean they can’t get vaccinated, MY beliefs think they should stay the hell home.
Bagpuss* September 3, 2021 at 4:22 am Exactly. And as I understand it (certainly true in the UK)a sincere religious belief is in a similar category to a disability – it doesn’t mean that the employer has to accept every exemption or accommodation you ask for, it mean that they must make reasonable accommodations for you, and there will be some situations where there it isn’t possible, or where the specific accommodation offered is not the one the employee wanted but *is* reasonable. (and here, what is reasonable is looked at case by case, as what’s reasonable where the employer is a big company may not be reasonable for a small one, and what is reasonable in (say) an office may not be in a warehouse or a hospital)
Akcipitrokulo* September 3, 2021 at 4:29 am And a reasonable accomodation could well be “ok, but you need tested once a week.” I think compny should pay though, if tests are not freely available.
Caroline Bowman* September 3, 2021 at 3:03 am It is possible, but feels very unlikely. If she has a medical exemption, then of course she needs to raise that with her manager to come to an equitable arrangement, but in all other cases, no and nope.
Carlie* September 3, 2021 at 7:26 am In the US, Walgreens and Rite-Aid pharmacies offer free testing, and those are just the two I know about. If the issue is actually the cost, there are many ways around it.
Jen* September 3, 2021 at 7:54 am Agree. Taking op at her word if she has an exemption and has a legit reason not to get the vaccine than having to pay for a weekly test because she can’t get the vaccine seems to punish her for something she doesn’t have a choice about and/or is cost prohibitive
ceiswyn* September 3, 2021 at 8:39 am Sure, but the OP isn’t asking about how they can get their employer to fund the tests; cost doesn’t seem to be their main concern at all. They’ve gone straight to resigning over having to do tests at all.
ThatGirl* September 3, 2021 at 9:16 am I feel like the *actual* question the LW has is “will they walk me out right away or can I work two more weeks” but that’s being overlooked in favor of arguing over what kind of exemption they have. Seems they are committed to not getting vaccinated, not testing, and getting fired for it.
What She Said* September 3, 2021 at 11:33 am Not only do I get the impression they do not want to test just because but I honestly wondered if they were quitting to avoid testing.
Esmeralda* September 3, 2021 at 1:38 pm exemptions can also be granted for religious reasons, I believe. THe employer may allow other reasons.
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 3:30 pm If OP has a vaccination exemption (which I would understand to be a valid health reason for being unable to get the vaccine) Why would you assume that? This is not a situation where it’s reasonable to think that the OP left out a small detail because they are trying to keep things brief. Even without the confirmation that Allison posted, it’s clear from the letter that they “have a formal exemption” NOT a “medical exemption” or “medical reason that they can’t get vaxxed”. Is it really so clear from the letter that she just doesn’t want to Yes. see above.
PollyQ* September 3, 2021 at 12:15 am I had my first COVID test last week. It was maybe 20 seconds of mild discomfort. I can see not being thrilled to have to pay for it, but other than that, I can’t imagine why LW#1 wouldn’t just get tested, for their own peace of mind and that of their co-workers. You’re really willing to give up paid employment over this?
Bagpuss* September 3, 2021 at 4:24 am Yes – I’m doing twice weekly lateral flow tests and have had multiple PCR tests, most of which have been for research purposes rather than because of symptoms or potential exposure. It’s not fun but it’s not a major hardship either. And I note that OP doesn’t say that tests are not available or unaffordable, she just doesn’t want to have to test.
UKDancer* September 3, 2021 at 4:37 am Yes I am not wild about sticking a swab up my nose as it usually results in a long sneezing fit but I do it because its necessary. In the scheme of things it’s a fairly minor thing to do.
Agent Diane* September 3, 2021 at 8:36 am We did a practise with the tween and explained that sneezing means the swab has hit the right spot. ;)
Keymaster of Gozer* September 3, 2021 at 9:26 am It’s definately triggered my gag reflex a fair few times, but I think it was someone here who gave me the advice about clenching my thumb to suppress it – which I gotta say, does work for me.
londonedit* September 3, 2021 at 9:38 am The latest couple of batches I’ve had from the NHS ordering service have been different – it’s just a nose swab, five circles in each nostril, and then you leave the swab in the reagent stuff for a minute before putting it on the test strip. It’s way more straightforward than the ones they were sending out before. I know people say they aren’t very effective and whatnot but at least I can feel I’m doing something. A 60% chance it’ll pick up an asymptomatic infection is better than walking around with absolutely no idea.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 12:16 pm Oh cool, I’ll give them a call. The ones I have taken in the past have either required pretty far back in the nose or back of the throat but you mustn’t eat/drink anything for a while beforehand. And yeah, agree with the tests 100% After all, I’ll take a percentage chance of catching a positive over not knowing. I can’t comprehend the ‘it’s not 100% so there’s no point’ people on either the tests or the vaccines.
Beth* September 3, 2021 at 1:59 pm Ooo, good idea! (Clenching the thumb.) I’ll have to try that. I have a massively oversensitive gag reflex, which makes dental work a real challenge. It helps at the dentist’s if I hum and waggle my feet, but I wasn’t able to do either of those during any of my Covid tests.
Generic-username* September 3, 2021 at 12:09 pm I always wind up giggling uncontrollably… apparently the inside of my nose is ticklish?
CoveredInBees* September 3, 2021 at 9:58 pm Same. I’m not generally ticklish either. The tech who did my first test said she would rather have her patients giggle. A lot of them apparently yelled at her or just shouted in response to their tests.
Beth* September 3, 2021 at 1:57 pm I’ve had — let’s see — four tests so far, or maybe five: the most recent one was a throat scrape, one last year was the deep nasal prode, and the rest were just mouth scrapes. I would be very, very happy if I never had to do the deep nasal one again, because holy hoopla was that miserably uncomfortable . . . but not nearly as uncomfortable as being intubated or on a ventilator or, you know, dead.
WS* September 3, 2021 at 12:21 am The vaccines are not 100% effective. It’s not a yes/no proposition, it’s a risk assessment.
PollyQ* September 3, 2021 at 12:22 am Option C: The vaccines are very effective at preventing hospitalization & death, but they are not perfect. They also are not perfect at preventing fairly serious illness, e.g., senior vaccinated relatives of mine who were infected by an unvaccinated relative and were laid low for several weeks.
Redd* September 3, 2021 at 12:23 am This is not how vaccines work. It’s training for your immune system, not a magic spell. Vaccinated individuals are much less likely to become seriously ill, and are contagious for a much shorter period of time, but they can still be affected. And unvaccinated hosts that harbor the virus for longer periods of time give the virus more time to evolve to a form the vaccine isn’t training our bodies for. (Delta, for example.)
FlyingAce* September 3, 2021 at 12:56 am This. One of my cousins (late 20s, no health issues) caught the virus recently; she ended up hospitalized for nearly a week, and had to use oxygen once she was cleared to go home. Vaccine rollout in my country has been extremely slow; by the time she became sick, people 30 and under were not eligible for the vaccine yet. On the flip side, her father (mid-50s, fully vaccinated) got sick a couple of weeks later; his symptoms were much, much milder, and he has been recovering at home.
Quoth the Raven* September 3, 2021 at 12:23 am For the millionth time, the Covid vaccine does not grant absolute immunity, anymore than seatbelts make you immune to harm from a car crash. They make your chances of surviving and of having a milder case of Covid better, and the more people are unvaccinated, the more chances a variant will eventually surge that will render vaccines ineffective.
anone* September 3, 2021 at 12:25 am That’s…. not how vaccines work. At all. For example, if enough unvaccinated people continue to get the virus and give it an environment to produce more variants, then there is increasing likelihood of there being variants that will be vaccine resistant (as with the recently reported mu variant; not to mention the extremely robust delta variant that can create illness even among the vaccinated albeit with less severity than if they were unvaccinated). And the waves of severe illness among the unvaccinated is overburdening the healthcare systems ability to care for other people’s needs, not to mention being extremely expensive and burning out healthcare staff. Vaccines are about lowering collective risk, which requires collective action and for as many people to get vaccinated as quickly as possible to create an unliveable environment for the virus. Your actions directly impact everyone around you. That you would repeat such a ridiculous phrase and think it is actually meaningful betrays how little you understand what you’re doing and who you’re hurting.
Tali* September 3, 2021 at 12:18 am LW1: If the company exempts you from testing and lets you work out 2 weeks untested and unvaccinated, others may be as well. That means that some of your coworkers could be coming into work with COVID, perhaps asymptomatically. That puts you at greater risk of infection, and is something you should consider as you plan your last 2 weeks at work. These policies are in place to protect unvaccinated people like you–it’s safer to be at a workplace where people are regularly tested than where they’re not.
Betsy* September 3, 2021 at 12:18 am Assuming LW1 has an actual medical contraindication to the vaccine, i don’t think it’s fair for their workplace to expect them to pay for the testing as a requirement to attend work. How much is testing in the US? (It’s free in my country – so I think a requirement to be tested if not vaccinated would be reasonable).
lazuli* September 3, 2021 at 12:21 am It varies. My county has both free and fee-based testing sites.
Speaks to Dragonflies* September 3, 2021 at 3:20 am This was my experience with being tested this week. Employer will only accept the PCR test: Tested Tuesday at the public testing center run by my county. It was a drive through set up, so I dont know what non-drivers would do.It was 4 hours to get through it all. Results came Thursday. It can take up to 4 days. I had to use PTO for all time missed from work. Im not vaccinated yet, but I would still have to be tested if I was…That is my experience with it.
PollyQ* September 3, 2021 at 12:23 am There’s currently free community testing throughout the US, although people are making noises about starting to charge for it.
Cambridge Comma* September 3, 2021 at 12:27 am If the OP could access free testing, presumably she wouldn’t mention having to pay for it.
lazuli* September 3, 2021 at 12:29 am One of my employees today talked about how to schedule and pay for testing, even though the guidance I sent specifically said we’d pay for testing and that time spent was considered paid work time. People make assumptions.
Brett l* September 3, 2021 at 1:33 am About two weeks ago, our free community testing (Missouri) shifted to requiring a doctor’s referral stating the patient has symptoms or was exposed. Without the referral, it’s $150 (and not covered by insurance). The workplace testing programs I have seen in Missouri and Illinois also tend to require the test be executed by the workplace’s provider (which would probably mean truly paying out of pocket).
NeutralJanet* September 3, 2021 at 1:46 am In my area, you can only get free tests if you have reason to believe that you’ve been exposed–I needed to get tested for travel reasons recently, and had to pay around $80 out of pocket. I think that Walgreens does provide free tests for any reason, including travel or employment, so there’s that option for anyone who lives near a Walgreens!
WS* September 3, 2021 at 12:25 am +1, countries with mandatory testing usually have a payment exemption for the small number of people with a genuine medication contraindication. I have a relative in this position who is currently undergoing chemotherapy, so vaccinating her at this point is at best useless and at worst dangerous (she will get vaccinated as soon as she can safely do so). She has to have a COVID test to enter the hospital but she doesn’t have to pay for it.
Where’s the Orchestra?* September 3, 2021 at 1:04 am I have seen this as well. Those with legitimate medical reasons they can’t get the vaccines are getting plenty of assistance and work-around for testing mandates. There is far less sympathy and assist being given to the people who “just don’t want to get jabbed.”
allathian* September 3, 2021 at 1:16 am Yeah. I’m in Finland, and testing is free if you have symptoms, but you have to pay if you need it for other reasons, like travel. This is fair, I think.
allathian* September 3, 2021 at 1:16 am And if you need to travel for work, your employer pays for the required tests.
Bagpuss* September 3, 2021 at 4:27 am Yes, in the UK testing is free unless you need a test to travel overseas. Lateral Flow tests are available free to everyone, for a PCR test you need to have symptoms or have been exposed (or be getting the test as part of a specific government or research program)
Kevin Sours* September 3, 2021 at 1:16 am That’s a hell of an assumption really. I’m generally suspicious when people seem to imply something while conspicuously avoiding saying so.
Percysowner* September 3, 2021 at 6:11 am I agree it would be unfair that someone who is medically unable to be vaccinated would have to suffer a financial penalty. I think they should float the idea of the fact that they need accommodation under the ADA so that they don’t have to pay for testing. That said, the LW didn’t say medical exemption, just a letter of exemption which makes me think they are claiming religious and/or philosophical objections to the vaccine. In those cases, the company shouldn’t have to bear the expense of testing.
Cthulhu’s Librarian* September 3, 2021 at 8:12 am I work with someone who requires regular medication to be able to work in our field (think severe issues with pollen, but working in a plant greenhouse) – Our employer doesn’t pay for those (except via insurance). Why should COVID testing be different, even if medically they can’t get the vaccine?
Metadata minion* September 3, 2021 at 8:45 am In this case, I think it is different because your employer isn’t mandating that your coworker get the medication — it’s just a consequence of working this particular job for them. (Unless I’m misunderstanding and it is mandated!)
Anna* September 3, 2021 at 8:27 am Free testing is widely available. You can also go to a private clinic and pay for it, but you don’t have to do that.
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 3:57 pm Assuming LW1 has an actual medical contraindication to the vaccine, Why would you assume that?
Amazed* September 4, 2021 at 4:19 am It appears to be for the sake of argument; not taking a literal stance that the LW1 has such, but wanting “if unvaccinatable and required to test weekly at own expense, how much expense is too much?” to be answered on its own merits rather than simply be shut down with “LW1 isn’t unvaccinatable”.
Queenie* September 3, 2021 at 12:21 am LW1 – I would hope the answer is influenced in very large part by that exemption notice. If you’re immunocompromised and your doctor is recommending you wait, I suspect they could get into very big trouble for firing you over the vaccine. This sounds like a “talk to a lawyer” question, frankly.
PollyQ* September 3, 2021 at 12:24 am But they’d be getting fired for not getting regularly tested, not because of the vaccine.
Raida* September 3, 2021 at 12:38 am I think the sticking point would be imposing a cost onto a staff member due to a medical condition where the policy seems to be both a statement of the company’s position and pressure to vaccinate. Making someone pay for their own testing in that instance, I think, would not be in the spirit or purpose of the policy. Perhaps a variation such as “working remotely and the company will cover xx tests in one financial year” would be offered as an option, and that would be reasonable
lazuli* September 3, 2021 at 12:42 am Healthcare workers generally can’t work remotely. Those sorts of accommodations are not reasonable in all cases. Ensuring that healthcare workers are vaccinated or tested frequently, given their jobs working with vulnerable people, is reasonable.
iliketoknit* September 3, 2021 at 8:57 am But they work for a healthcare company – that doesn’t mean they themselves are a frontline healthcare worker. They could process claims in an office.
Ariaflame* September 3, 2021 at 10:50 am Which they would not need to come into the office to do, so testing would be moot.
iliketoknit* September 3, 2021 at 1:07 pm Well, we don’t know that. A large healthcare company could well have employees who need to be on-site but aren’t frontline health care workers (maybe not processing claims, but stuff like maintenance, certain kinds of IT, even just handling physical mail), or could be requiring people to work on site (or be able to) regardless.
Ele4phant* September 3, 2021 at 12:56 am I think if the LW1 had a medical reason they couldn’t be vaccinated, they would want to be in an environment with regular testing. And they probably wouldn’t just quit over it, they’d be making it clear why they weren’t vaccinated and asking how to get their employer to work with them.
GNG* September 3, 2021 at 12:24 am Lw2: Please don’t hold this against him or anyone. Presumably, this person expressed their thanks verbally at the end of the interview. If you get miffed at not getting a written thank you on top of that, please ask yourself why you even did this informational interview in the first place – did you do it for the accolades and thanks, or did you do it because you want to help someone.
Artemesia* September 3, 2021 at 1:00 am I had the same knee jerk reaction as the OP coming from looking back at a long career, but I really appreciate Alison’s answer. When I was starting out, I certainly did not have the business social graces I expect of people now; my family was not professional and things like how to dress for an interview or writing thank you notes for interviews were totally foreign to me. And I am white and come from the lower middle class. I can imagine that these skills and savy differ across cultural groups as well as social class and that being insistent on them disadvantages a lot of public school kids from poorer backgrounds in particular, but lots of kids from backgrounds where no one has taught them these things. It would be gracious to provide the feedback that Alison suggests. I have a niece whose father was a brilliant scholar with no grace whatsoever and she was actually taken in hand by a senior professor when she was getting her doctorate and taught how to dress, act and follow up contacts at professional conferences which was very helpful in her early career.
Pan Troglodytes* September 3, 2021 at 3:14 am Thanks for this response- I have the same experience (first person to be an office-job ‘professional’ in my family) and it comes with a constant fear I’m blind to hidden rules and etiquette. When I read OP1’s letter, my reaction was ‘Oh God, I’d have been this person to not write a thank you note…’ In my mind I would have been super grateful in the moment and not even have thought about clogging their inbox with another email.
Ori* September 3, 2021 at 3:19 am Yep. Lower middle class and all my family work in non profits / public sector roles. It’s a completely different universe, especially as neither of my parents went to university. I first heard about thank you notes on this blog, in my mid twenties, and I’m still figuring out workplace norms. There have been times where I’ve clearly violated some sort of class / workplace code and have had *literally no idea* what I’ve done wrong.
Anon Mouse* September 3, 2021 at 1:05 am LW 2: I was raised by working class parents and definitely didn’t know what informational interviews were or that you sent thank yous after all interviews until I took a training in job search. It’s okay to just tell him, or to simply ask your colleague to tell him.
I'd Rather Be Eating Dumplings* September 3, 2021 at 3:09 am It’s also worth noting that if you’re not used to it, writing a thank you note can feel cloying and insincere. In fact, one of the big issues with networking in general is that people who aren’t used to it feel like they’re being fake or manipulative if they particpate, which results in them holding back.
Spearmint* September 3, 2021 at 7:53 am This. I’m white and have professional parents, but I still find the whole concept of being required to send canned thank you notes after interviews (informational or for a job), even when I express verbal thanks in person and have nothing to follow up on, odd and unintuitive. I only do it because I know intellectually that it’s the norm.
Greenish* September 3, 2021 at 9:55 am For what it’s worth, I went to a top ten law schools some 20 years ago, and we were instructed not to send thank you notes for interviews. Sending thank yous for something that is not part of someone’s job – like a networking/information interview – was a distinct rule. I know that this site subscribes to the appropriateness of thank you notes for interviews, but it is not a universal norm in all industries or parts of the country.
Delta Delta* September 3, 2021 at 10:29 am This is interesting! I went to a Not Top Ten Law School about 20 years ago and while our career services department was terrible (because they tend to be), they did tell us to send thank you notes/emails to acknowledge the contact and to thank the person for their time. Maybe that’s why we’re Not Top Ten.
Lolo9090* September 3, 2021 at 2:33 pm When I was interviewing in Big Law 5 years ago, I was told by attorneys that more-often-than-not, the interviewers will be meeting up immediately after the interview day is over and any thank you note I would send out would be received after the hiring decision had already been made. I can’t recall if my career services office advised anything about it either way.
Elle* September 7, 2021 at 8:42 pm Same here – legal profession in the US, mixed answers to thank you notes but pretty heavily leaning to no. For informational interviews, it was more about following up without bothering the person, but sending just a thank you was strongly discouraged. I do informational interviews now and do not expect a thank you card from those, networking, or referrals.
Nanani* September 3, 2021 at 10:34 am If there’s nothing to follow up on, then you really shouldn’t send a note? Because at that point it IS insincere contact for contact’s sake. Op2 is an outlier.
Smithy* September 3, 2021 at 10:45 am When it comes to informational interviews – unless there are some niche sectors I don’t know about, I think people will largely fit into three categories. Some people who really care about getting a thank you note, people who aren’t overly moved either way – but getting the thank you might serve as a helpful reminder to do what they said they would, and people who will get actively irritated by a generic thank you. My guess is that people in category 3 are fairly small, and so the reason there’s value in giving the advice to send the thank you is that you’ll meet the needs of group 1 and send that reminder to group 2.
Artemesia* September 3, 2021 at 11:31 am OP2 is not an outlier. She took a lot of her time to do a favor for a newbie; that needs to be acknowledged and thanked. It is however not at all odd that a young person would literally not know that or have the skills to do that if they have not been taught.
Nanani* September 3, 2021 at 4:43 pm But thanking someone for their time is what you do at the conclusion of the interview. You wouldn’t just walk out like “k I’m done bye” right? Expecting further thanks in the form of a specific note is not normal, because as amply discussed in many threads on this site, thank you notes are not actually about thanks but about following up.
A Person* September 3, 2021 at 12:15 pm Well, Alison would agree with you that canned thank you notes are not a good use of your time. She says that thoughtful specific ones are useful.
Sleeping Late Every Day* September 3, 2021 at 4:05 am I also think a thank-you at this point could be premature. Once the LW actually puts the young person in touch with their contacts and appointments are made, THEN it would be appropriate for a formal thank-you. After one conversation with no action yet, the verbal thanks at the end of the interview should be sufficient.
Purple Cat* September 3, 2021 at 9:47 am +1 These were my thoughts exactly. I *assume* the person gave a verbal thanks at the end of the discussion. An immediate formal thank-you on top of that when nothing additional has happened, felt a bit much. Not extreme, but certainly not a given that the younger professional would know about. Being more thankful definitely isn’t an issue though and if OP can kindly express that thought it can only help.
Here for the Randomness* September 3, 2021 at 6:53 am Count me among those that would not expect a thank you note from someone if I did an informational interview for them. Unless there was something to be followed up on, it just doesn’t add anything to the conversation. Also, can we normalize that a thank you e-mail is sufficient over physical cards in business AND personal?
Artemesia* September 3, 2021 at 11:33 am An email should not only suffice but be more likely to be read. Perhaps it is a good idea to think of these less as ‘thank you notes’ and more as ‘follow up notes’.
Richard Hershberger* September 3, 2021 at 10:10 am Alison’s characterization of this coming from a playbook is very good. This is not some obvious eternal verity that every sensible and decent person knows. This is a rule of etiquette, not an element of basic decency. The thing about rules of etiquette is that they are inherently exclusionary. They are arbitrary customs that arose within a subculture. They mark insider status. This is not necessarily the reason they exist, but it is a clear application. The first etiquette manuals were aimed at new money families trying to fit in with old money families. In the present case, the issue is an expression of gratitude for a favor. There is a pretty good argument to be made that some such expression is called for here. Was there a verbal thanks? If yes, then the complaint is that the expression of gratitude did not take the proper form etiquette demands. This is on a par with using the wrong fork at a formal dinner. Getting miffed is ridiculous. If there was not expression at all, then getting miffed is more reasonable, but it would still be worth thinking about how this is done in this person’s culture. This is not to say that this isn’t an education opportunity. If the LW is going to help this person going forward, explaining thank you note etiquette is part of this. Were it me, I would couch it as “This is something you need to do later on,” not “This is something you should have done with me.” The second version would tend to cause a defensive reaction that would be less useful.
Smithy* September 3, 2021 at 10:40 am I think that this lays all of this out incredibly well. Professionally, those kinds of “thank you follow ups” are most common under very specific conditions that transition over time. The most common example being that sending thank you notes during the interview process is very common. But the second you get the job offer, you no longer are supposed to send thank you notes. And because there are situations where it’s just wildly normal, the content of those messages is barely remarked up. Thank you for taking the time, I greatly appreciate it, wonderful to learn, look forward to remaining in touch, etc etc etc. But then the second you send a thank you message outside of the more traditional context, those phrases can seem really canned and awkward. No different than if you’re invited over to dinner, and bring followers with a card saying “your hospitality is always appreciated”. Send the same bunch of flowers outside the context of being invited to the home, and it’s instantly very weird.
Lenora Rose* September 3, 2021 at 2:48 pm I know it’s a typo or autocarrot for flowers, but I kind of enjoy the visual of coming to someone’s house with followers who stand outside and hold up cue cards praising their hospitality and their potato salad recipe.
T. Boone Pickens* September 3, 2021 at 11:41 am Really, really well said Richard Hershberger. This is great.
Lenora Rose* September 3, 2021 at 2:51 pm That last paragraph is exactly what I was thinking if this is to be a real teaching moment. Alison’s phrasing is nice and neutral, more “I noticed you didn’t do this thing” rather than admitting to being irritated about it, but keeping the past that’s too late to fix out of it entirely is even better.
Nanani* September 3, 2021 at 10:29 am This. It even sounds like OP2 expects an actual gratitude note, like for a wedding gift, instead of what post-interview notes actually are supposed to be, which is a follow up. Since it was an informational interview and not a job-seeking one, there might not be anything to follow up on. OP2 sounds a bit “Egads he used the wrong fork” to me.
Pay No Attention To The Man Behind The Curtain* September 3, 2021 at 11:05 am I agree. It’s perhaps time to rethink the Victorian etiquette in light of a younger, more diverse, generation. I wouldn’t even think it’s a class divide– it’s just old fashioned. People don’t even write thank you notes for personal gifts much anymore; and I do mean email and not fine linen stationary. A verbal “thank you” should be sufficient to express gratitude; more is just performance art.
Richard Hershberger* September 3, 2021 at 11:24 am It still depends on context. A relative of mine recently assessed his finances versus his life expectancy and concluded he had more money they he needed. So he distributed a substantial chunk to various family members. This essentially was an early bequest. Clearly a thank you was called for, and it should be more than casual. I dug through my stuff and couldn’t find my formal stationery, which I haven’t used in probably two decades, so I bought a box of note cards. These are not formal in the traditional sense, but close enough, for the 21st century. Then I hand-wrote a thank you letter and sent it via USPS. Given the nature of the gift and the age of the giver, I stick to this being the correct way to go. As it happens, I saw this same relative recently. He paid for breakfast. Anything more than a verbal thank you would have been absurd.
Smithy* September 3, 2021 at 11:38 am I think the point with any context though is being informed on the situation. In your case, you knew the person, his age, his tastes, preferences etc. In the same way you knew that a snail mail card was the right way, you also knew that accompanying it with a bouquet of flowers was not appropriate. Whereas had the relative in question been a woman of a similar generation you might have considered going that direction. For those new to the workforce, that expected context is exactly what’s missing.
Richard Hershberger* September 3, 2021 at 11:50 am Absolutely! My point is that there are still some contexts where a thank you note is still appropriate. Knowing when one is appropriate and when one would be weird is part of cultural literacy.
Lenora Rose* September 3, 2021 at 3:00 pm Yes — and cultural literacy also includes an element of knowing there are many cultures with many standards, and giving space for that with newcomers to your culture. (I know from your comment that started the thread that you know this and have said as much, but it feels useful to reiterate.) And knowing professional workspace is a culture unto itself is also a part of it.
Pay No Attention To The Man Behind The Curtain* September 3, 2021 at 12:15 pm Context matters, but the context you present is pretty personal and an outlier… I’d argue it really doesn’t apply as a comparison for a business context at all. I’m even trying to think of a business context where a written thank you should absolutely apply, and other than “because tradition!” I struggle to come up with one. If someone has direct influence on you winning a Nobel prize, send a card instead of verbal Thanks.
Smithy* September 3, 2021 at 11:32 am I’m an older millennial, and my parents were never terribly successful at getting my brother and I to send written thank you notes on top of telephone thank you’s to relatives. We didn’t live in the same city as any of our relatives and those relationships had their own adult issues above and beyond how 8 year olds dealt with thank you notes. But I do think that these issue and these norms have been changing for a while. And when you consider the vast ways folks can express gratitude in 2021 beyond snail mail – a TikTok video, Instagram story, Facebook post, email, phone call, text, FaceTime, a Cameo video, and then all manner of in-person thank you’s. I think for someone to presume that their weighted list of what does or does not count from the list above is not going to help. In a mentorship position, there’s a wonderful way to give insight on norms and best practice. But I don’t think being offended is going to be helpful.
What She Said* September 3, 2021 at 11:40 am I was wondering this too. I get it’s a nice thing to do but if I said thank you at the end of meeting to me I’ve already expressed my gratitude. It also points to Allison’s advice that it’s not just a thank you it’s a follow-up so to speak.
Donkey Hotey* September 3, 2021 at 12:12 pm (Finally found the non-covid thread) OP, I am 50 years old. I have worked successfully in the world for over 30 years. It has only been within the last 5-10 years that my (long suffering) wife has managed to teach me the value of writing thank you notes. If the kid is a kid, be kind.
TiredMama* September 3, 2021 at 12:26 am I think Alison has suggested using this line.in awkward situations – What a very odd stance for you to take. – and I LOVE seeing it used in response to LW1.
lazuli* September 3, 2021 at 12:28 am LW2: Part of doing the work to give underrepresented folks an entryway is making sure you’re not penalizing them for not following the unwritten rules that tend to keep them out in the first place.
Raida* September 3, 2021 at 12:34 am +1 taking a step back and being ruthlessly logical about this emotional response leads, I think, to the conclusion that this is something for the LW2 to approach from a more “not the same life experience as me” viewpoint in the future.
S* September 3, 2021 at 9:29 am Yes! This is something Alison touched on in her response, but it’s really important: one of the *reasons* kids from underrepresented backgrounds continue to be underrepresented is because there’s a bunch of business-class shibboleths that exist in large part to exclude those who aren’t “our sort of people”. You’d know you were doing something wrong if you decided not to give a young person opportunities because he was a person of color, but the thank-you note requirement gives a fig leaf–it’s not his race, it’s that he’s not polite. (When, of course, he probably is a polite young man who has no idea that both an oral and written thank you are expected after a certain sort of business discussion.) It is critical for privileged people to actually think these issues through instead of allowing gatekeeper etiquette to do what it’s always done.
Reba* September 3, 2021 at 9:57 am Big yes. People aren’t born knowing things! This is related to something that in education is called “the hidden curriculum,” the implicit codes, knowledge and behaviors that are part of a given institution or class of institution. Mentorship is so key to unveiling the hidden curriculum, since students–or early career workers–are evaluated not only on stated metrics (like written requirements, grades) but also the the unspoken metrics that show that they belong, that they are part of the culture and can navigate it. I’m not saying that OP2 is now obligated to mentor this person, but it seems like they enjoy extending a hand to younger colleagues. I don’t think it costs them anything to share this information with the job-seeker, rather than marking this person down on a test (the thank-you note) they likely didn’t know they were taking.
DumDumDum* September 3, 2021 at 9:54 am Also, I was recently made aware that thank you notes are a white people and some people say thank you through food-sharing or other gestures, which most likely will be interpreted as inappropriate in the professional context.
Zenon* September 3, 2021 at 12:30 am OP4, I agree that it’s probably because you aren’t local, though of course it’s impossible to totally exclude bias. For what it’s worth, I’ve seen non-LDS companies look not just neutrally but favorably on mission experience. It’s definitely seen as volunteer work and isn’t as important as relevant job experience, but it can also demonstrate the ability to work under tough conditions, perhaps an ability to deal with difficult clients without getting too frustrated, etc. So I’m not sure you should leave it off entirely.
Jackalope* September 3, 2021 at 1:01 am Is there a way to put it on your resume and not list the name of your church? I in no way want to say that you have to hide such an important part of yourself if you don’t want to, but if you’re concerned about being dismissed out of hand maybe just be vague on that part? A lot of religious groups do missions work, so if you don’t state which group you’re with then they might not know for sure.
Marzipan Shepherdess* September 3, 2021 at 1:23 am OP4, are you absolutely certain that you want to move to a region where your religion will be looked upon with hostility?
Sam* September 3, 2021 at 8:36 am Lol. Yeah, we have family over there. I think in general it won’t be an issue, but I just wondered if people saw my religion on there and hard noped me right out of the applicant pool. I’m not going to be going around and preaching my religion to everyone as well, so I think it will be alright.
ES* September 3, 2021 at 8:55 am My two cents as someone from the Bible belt (and who is still a practicing evangelical Christian who disagrees with the LDS church’s teachings) — there’s a lot less hostility in most parts of the region to Mormonism than there were 15-25 years ago. I’ve worked with several dozen Latter-Day Saints at this point, and even if I didn’t agree on issues of doctrine, I’ve always come away with good impressions I would never look at a church mission on a resume as anything but a positive. Like Alison, I wouldn’t assume that the mission is what’s causing hiring managers not to follow up.
Artemesia* September 3, 2021 at 11:37 am My evangelical Christian niece went on a year long church mission program so even that is not necessarily LDS.
Donkey Hotey* September 3, 2021 at 12:38 pm Ummm… You know that this would preclude some people from moving anywhere, right? That’s stuff that Jewish, Muslim, Pagans, and Atheists have had to deal with for (in some cases) millennia.
allathian* September 3, 2021 at 1:24 am Mmm. Although if they’re relocating from Utah, the inference would be rather obvious…
Youth* September 3, 2021 at 10:58 am Not necessarily. I work in Utah and the majority of my colleagues aren’t members of that particular religion.
quill* September 3, 2021 at 12:27 pm I just moved to utah and have no clue which colleagues are LDS members. I tend to know about my parents’ neighbors because they’ll mention having been on a mission, but at work? Nobody knows anyone else’s religion, AFAIK.
Donkey Hotey* September 3, 2021 at 12:39 pm Enjoy that. I grew up and lived 25 years in Utah, moving away in 2001. I’m glad that things have changed.
kmcm the Wondermuppet* September 3, 2021 at 1:29 am LW 4: When i worked in HR before becoming too broken to do so, i found the potential employees that listed a long term volunteer position as “Mission Work” or “Church Mission Work” tended to not cause anyone to pass over the candidates, especially if the Mission gave you job skills relevant to the job being applied to. However, i dont see the inclusion of ones religion being a necessary addition to a resumé. It’s only something i would think was relevant if you are applying to a job at a church, or religious organization (like a non-profit thrift store.)
HeretoRead* September 3, 2021 at 1:49 am OP 4, I change my mission to just say ‘volunteer work’ and listed the language I learned, and only kept it on there for my first job search after the gap. After that I took it off and no interview had ever asked about the gap.
Amaranth* September 3, 2021 at 4:10 am I’m wondering if a focus on the type of work like ‘built 24 houses with charity org’ or ‘taught music in lower-income school’ would be effective. If asked for details, OP could say ‘with my church’ or ‘organized by the local LDS church’ — if it was door knocking though, that wouldn’t be something I’d probably even include.
Cheesesteak in Paradise* September 3, 2021 at 7:15 am I wonder this too. Lots of church missions are explicitly charitable like setup food bank or rebuild homes after hurricanes, rather than proselytizing but I don’t know what LDS does. If it’s only proselytizing, I’d leave it off entirely since it’s not related to work. Otherwise, the LW could just name the work like “2018-2019 taught English in low income school in Guatemala and assisted locals in building hurricane-proof housing.”
Sam* September 3, 2021 at 8:33 am Hello, I’m OP! Thanks for all your advice. I think I’m just going to take it off since it’s been four years at this point. But I’m glad to know Southerners aren’t just going to hate me (which I figured was the case, but I wasn’t sure if people just put on a face and secretly hate me and are just thinking the whole time that I’m going to hell).
Mockingjay* September 3, 2021 at 9:08 am Naw. Most of us Southerners are pretty live and let live these days, despite what news and social media imply. I’m a lapsed Catholic who recently moved from the coast to the mountains, now living in the middle of devout Baptists. We get along fine.
Gracely* September 3, 2021 at 10:47 am Honestly, I grew up in the South, and I don’t know anyone who’s explicitly anti-LDS, except if/when they’re actively proselytizing at someone (and that’s not limited to LDS, honestly; there’s plenty of disdain for the “concourse preachers” of evangelical Baptist ilk). In fact, some people will simply assume if you talk about church or God that of course you’re the same religion as them. The general consensus when it does come up is “I don’t agree with LDS about their beliefs, but they’re usually nice people.” For example, my current next-door neighbors are LDS, and they’re the best neighbors I’ve ever had. There probably will be some evangelicals who’ll argue with you if religion comes up in conversation, but I wouldn’t worry about people putting on a face and secretly hating you.
Loredena Frisealach* September 3, 2021 at 11:55 am I lived in the south for a long time, and the general attitude seems to be ‘weird religion but really nice/polite members’. Which while maybe a bit insulting isn’t hatred :) The most notable signifier when growing up was the nice young white men in long pants and long sleeved shirts on bicycles in a Florida summer – mostly because that was a truly horrible combo!
raintree* September 3, 2021 at 7:15 pm You’ll have plenty of other problems there. The south is very far behind.
raintree* September 3, 2021 at 7:16 pm They will absolutely be doing that, but about a lot of reasons. You will never know where you stand with anyone, it is so ingrained in the culture.
teapot analytics manager* September 7, 2021 at 9:04 am I grew up in the south and my mother’s people are Mormons. No one cares. People will make jokes about Mormons being strait-laced but I personally don’t consider that hateful, just in the same bad taste as people who make jokes about Catholics and statues.
Sam* September 3, 2021 at 8:40 am Maybe. While I did do a lot of community service (which I focus on on the resume and not so much the proselytizing part of it) LDS missions are definitely focused on proselytizing in most places, except for Russia and maybe a couple other places where it’s illegal to do that. I think I’m going to take Allison’s advice and just take it off, and also change my location listed.
iliketoknit* September 3, 2021 at 8:59 am I’ll admit that I would assume Mormonism based on the description of the mission. That may be unfair to other religious groups who do missions, but that’s where my mind would go.
Midwestern Scientist* September 3, 2021 at 2:20 am Especially since LW says they are moving to the Bible Belt. LOTS of people in that area would look favorably on mission work.
Lady of the Lab* September 3, 2021 at 2:23 am If you are only looking to explain a time gap, and don’t need the mission work to discuss skills needed for the job, then I would leave it off. I have sat on the board of my synagog everywhere that I’ve lived for more than 2 years. (Hired, fired, organized, arbitrated, dealt with contract disputes and real estate deals), but it doesn’t go on my resume because it’s related to my religion (and I’m primarily a scientist so these skills aren’t needed to sell myself). Personally, have an unpleasant association with people walking up to me on the street asking about religion (which I’m sure isn’t the only thing a mission entails, but it’s the only part I’ve experienced. I’ve also had negative experiences with Lubavitch who seem to somehow target me like a Jew-seeking deep-Learning algorithm). I would really like to think that it wouldn’t affect me if I were hiring (because if you don’t bring G-d into the interview then I won’t) but I’d rather not know to start with.
Popcorn Apricot Tree* September 3, 2021 at 2:45 am Howdy! LDS here raised ALL over the Bible Belt (Alabama, Louisiana, and Texas) and now in Europe. I know church culture says “stand proud, defend the faith, etc.” but just take the name of the church off and list the non-proselyting work you did if you decide to keep the mission on. For me, I was a degreed English teacher and helped train other missionaries to teach English. We also got to do a service project in conjunction with a local news organization, worked weekly at a food bank, rebuilt houses, etc. I personally think a lack of interviews is related to being out of state as Alison said. Professionally, the “Southerners hate Mormons” trope is more of a myth though sure, individual cases could happen I guess. Try and join some networking groups or contact local (to your goal area) chapters of professional organizations to see if you can get an idea of your chances of getting a job without a local address on your resume. If there is an abundance of positions it might be worth it to relocate temporarily to job hunt. I was even chastised once by a church employee (in his 70’s who had only ever worked for the church) for not listing my mission at the TOP of my resume, and felt that to be a gut reaction of his having had zero experience with professional norms outside of church work. Best if luck!
Popcorn Apricot Tree* September 3, 2021 at 2:46 am Of* lol. I would love an editing function on this website
Grits McGee* September 3, 2021 at 9:11 am Popcorn Apricot Tree, thanks for this perspective! As someone who was raised and lived all over the south, I wasn’t aware that “southerners hate Mormons” is a thing!
Clever Girl* September 3, 2021 at 9:38 am I grew up Mormon and I feel like Mormons think people hate them a lot more than people actually hate them
Marillenbaum* September 3, 2021 at 10:35 am Yeah, this is pretty much it. Like a lot of high-control organizations, the church benefits a lot from cultivating an internal perception that the outside world is hateful or persecutes members to keep them thinking the church is the only real safe place. This is especially in common in the Mormon Corridor, because when you grow up outside of it, you realize most people don’t care.
Littorally* September 3, 2021 at 10:59 am To be fair, the start of the church did involve an awful lot of violence. Getting driven out of what was then the US can leave a mark. That said, it’s mostly worn off these days, and the worst you’ll get is some incomprehension or impolite questions about magic underwear. Not comfy, but not outright hatred either.
Youth* September 3, 2021 at 11:10 am I dunno. I’ve seen some people be pretty nasty. Also I know an LDS guy who grew up in the South (who’s not that old) who was seriously asked by people where his horns were. Not hatred, but definitely bizarre.
Esmeralda* September 3, 2021 at 1:48 pm Those are the same folks who call the roman catholic church the Whore of Babylon. I first encountered them at my high school in southern california. Apparently I was damned straight to hell and the LDS kids were going with me. (And as with anti-Mormonism, a long history of that kind of thing, most prominently in the 19th and early 20th centuries)
SweetFancyPancakes* September 7, 2021 at 4:40 pm My mom worked in San Francisco in her early 20s and was asked the same question. She would just tell them that her parents had them removed when she was a child and would show them the scars (she had fallen out of a moving car when she was about 2 and had several scars on her head).
KittyCardigans* September 3, 2021 at 2:09 pm Yeah, I’ve lived in the south my whole life and I hadn’t heard it either! I would think LDS people would just be more likely to get (possibly nosy and inappropriate) questions about religion/culture.
Here for the Randomness* September 3, 2021 at 7:30 am I would put it as a neutral impression unless they can point to something in particular that relates to the job. It should be listed under an other information section and not work experience. Listing just mission work in my mind would have the same strength as vice president for the local tea pot collectors club from a business perspective. It shows life experience, but it is not work experience. Again, this is fine on the resume under nonwork experience (though I would leave off the church name to avoid conscious or unconscious bias).
ecnaseener* September 3, 2021 at 8:30 am I think for many people it would be a negative impression, since LDS is known for proselytizing specifically. As others said above, if the mission included volunteer work, listing that could be neutral to positive. But just “LDS mission in X” would set off proselytizing alarm bells.
Mary Connell* September 5, 2021 at 2:43 pm And by doing so you would violate federal employment and Civil Rights law. For shame.
Deanna Troi* September 3, 2021 at 8:06 pm Yes, seeing mission work of any kind on a resume makes me uncomfortable. Proselytizing to other cultures seems to me to be extremely unethical – like saying “your culture and religion aren’t good enough, and I’m obviously better than you (often since I’m white), so if you want my help doing charitable work, then you will be required to listen to me talk about my religion.” My mother did mission work in South America when she was in Catholic high school, and she was mortified by it, even at the time. Her point was that if you genuinely want to help someone, you should do it without having to push your religion onto them.
FashionablyEvil* September 3, 2021 at 7:39 am Yeah, I just hired a young woman who did religious work—her resume focused on the skills she used (curriculum development, implementing Covid safety protocols, communicating with parents, etc.). There’s definitely a way to frame it.
elletee* September 3, 2021 at 11:01 am In my profession, employers tend to not want to hire Mormons from out of state because…they think they’re going to come work for a couple of years and move back to Utah (or Arizona or wherever they came from). Why invest in someone who is going to leave in a couple of years? Sure, you might run into someone in the south who has a grudge against Mormons (or a grudge against people with your last name, or a grudge against people who went to your college, etc. etc.) but from a hiring perspective hiring someone from out of state who they think could be a huge flight risk is more likely to be the issue. You’ll probably be more successful if you have a local address on your resume, so if you can move early or stay with family in the area you’re targeting you’ll likely be more successful. I also think taking the mission off the resume is a good idea but I doubt religious discrimination is the real issue here.
Esmeralda* September 3, 2021 at 1:50 pm That’s so weird! I mean, ANYONE could work for a few years and then leave for another part of the country. Or go work at another employer in town.
Kes* September 3, 2021 at 11:28 am Beyond the difference of being local which I agree is likely the main cause, keep in mind that rather than the mission being a negative in your southern job search, it may also be more that the mission has been a positive in your Utah job searches
Raida* September 3, 2021 at 12:32 am for #1 I am intrigued that their business is not just saying unvaccinated = testing, but testing and employees will each individually bear the cost. That is a significant bit of pressure to get vaccinated, and a very loud statement of the company’s position! Honestly, I would also be pissed if my employer wanted to force me to pay out of my own pocket for testing just from the automatic gut response of “You can spend YOUR money and I’ll spend MY money, hands off” But this isn’t in-office testing like a drug screen. And I’m booked in for my second shot in a couple of weeks :]
nodramalama* September 3, 2021 at 1:16 am They are in an industry where it is extremely important that covid is not spread. I think it is 100% fair to say if you want to continue working in health care you either get vaccinated or you accept that you will need to get tested regularly, and you may have to pay for those tests.
crchtqn2* September 3, 2021 at 10:13 am yah if you want a personal exemption (not is not based on accurate and true medical exemption from a doctor) then you need to take the person cost. We live in capitalistic society where your personal choices mean personal consequences.
twocents* September 3, 2021 at 10:12 am Vaccines are free and someone who works in healthcare had to get other vaccinations anyway. They can cough up the $12 for their insistence on recklessly risking their coworkers’ lives.
Me* September 3, 2021 at 1:34 pm I said this above in response to a “but the company should pay” The company is very clearly telling their employees that the expect vaccinated employees. The fact that LW is leaving in response to their policy means the companies policy is having the desired effect.
anone* September 3, 2021 at 12:33 am LW2: Please keep in mind that a lot of expectations and beliefs about what constitutes professionalism are also rooted in classism and white supremacy, which is part of the structural fabric that leads to issues like a lack of representation for racialized people in various professions. Please do not adopt a punitive mindset toward people who don’t behave in the way you expect when their actions are truly harmless. Letting something so small affect your judgement of him and willingness to help him so strongly would not be helpful. Follow your instinct to be kind and generous. https://ssir.org/articles/entry/the_bias_of_professionalism_standards
RC Rascal* September 3, 2021 at 12:35 am LW3: please tell the new person now. Depending on their reason for search the new hire may decide they are better off staying where they are and decline your offer. I’ve seen a few messy work situations where the outgoing manager hired someone on their way out the door and the new manager had different ideas. Realistically this change may mean the job doesn’t work out for the new hire. They deserve to know now.
learnedthehardway* September 3, 2021 at 1:21 am Completely agree – OP#3 – it’s only fair to tell your incoming employee that you are leaving and how this change will affect their role. Do what you can to introduce them to your own manager, some of their future colleagues, and (if possible) the new manager – that will help the new hire feel cared about. It will also help for them to be bought into the company, rather than just yourself (some people really do take jobs because they want to report to a particular manager). I had a recent situation where a candidate was hired, and upon learning that the manager was leaving, decided not to join the company. Since we found out in time, we could hire our 2nd choice before the 2nd choice took another position.
Amaranth* September 3, 2021 at 4:12 am I’m curious about the estimate for last day, too, when OP hasn’t yet put in notice. They probably need to tell their boss first, but are they assuming they will be allowed to work out two weeks?
ecnaseener* September 3, 2021 at 8:34 am In many (most?) companies that’s a safe assumption. I don’t get the sense it’s common for well-functioning companies to terminate people on the spot when they’re trying to resign on good terms.
Need More Sunshine* September 3, 2021 at 8:38 am I would guess if OP is estimating/assuming their last day, that they work in a place where it is common for people to work out their two weeks without issue. It’s a safe assumption to make in a non-toxic workplace, and it doesn’t sound like OP is leaving over anything particularly fraught that may cause her boss to push her out early.
Mockingjay* September 3, 2021 at 9:17 am I wrote in a few years ago while at ExToxicJob. Company wanted to hire another person for my team; I wanted to know how to handle interviewing when I was desperate to get out. Commenters pointed out that what to me was a toxic job could be a lifeline for someone else. The things that irked me or that I found unbearable might not be a bother to someone else. Consider someone who simply puts in 8 hours on task, then goes home, as opposed to me who was very invested in career and progression. We’re not going to care about the same things. TL;DR: Brief the new employee on your departure, work tasks, and reference materials. Give them an overview of the department/company functions, but let them draw their own conclusions about working there. (If they’ve given notice at OldJob, they’re coming on board regardless. If you can’t leave them with a positive impression of the company, aim for neutral facts.)
Sally Seton* September 3, 2021 at 1:10 pm OP here. I know my end date because I’m going to work one day of the month for health insurance coverage….I’m giving four weeks, which is more common in my industry. Thanks for the advice everyone!
A Person* September 3, 2021 at 12:21 pm This happened to me. Interviewed for a contract, they changed their mind and made it a full-time job, which was great, although it lengthened the whole process by a couple of weeks. During which the person who hired me accepted a promotion and when I started I was reporting to someone who had been her direct report, and whom I had never met at all. I assumed all would be well, and all was not well. I lasted about 3 months in that job (and I listed it on my resume as a contract position until it aged off altogether). It was a learning experience! in a bad way.
Lolo9090* September 3, 2021 at 2:12 pm Agree – I also wanted to add that once, I accepted an internship position because I really liked the hiring manager who interviewed me. Unfortunately, she left before my first day (I interviewed during her notice time), and it left a really weird taste in my mouth for the organization that I wasn’t provided this information. The manager I ended up with was really great (he interviewed as well but was in a different role at the time), but our relationship started with kind of an uphill battle that wouldn’t have existed if I’d been told that the hiring manager wouldn’t be my manager.
Happy* September 3, 2021 at 12:35 am LW#1, the testing isn’t for your benefit – it’s for the safety of everyone who could be exposed to you. Many people seem determined to view testing as punitive and as though they shouldn’t be required to test if they have a “valid” reason to forgo the vaccine, but that’s completely missing the point of the tests.
Where’s the Orchestra?* September 3, 2021 at 12:50 am The vaccine mandate at my job is either fully vaccinated (pick your preferred set of jabs – we don’t care which ones you get) or exemption with weekly testing to prove you aren’t contagious. It’s not to be punitive – it’s to protect our patients, some of whom can’t be vaccinated, and some of whom are caretakers for those that can’t be vaccinated. This is very much not a “have your cake and eat it too” situation. Choices have consequences- accept them and move on.
albe* September 3, 2021 at 12:56 am In my country, health care is moving to mandatory vaccinations AND weekly surveillance testing for all staff just to be safe. Honestly, LW1 can harden the f up.
allathian* September 3, 2021 at 1:27 am Yeah, agree. I assume that the mandated tests are free for employees in your country, though?
albe* September 3, 2021 at 2:04 am They are but as LW1’s wording makes her sound as through the exemption is BS, I don’t actually have any sympathy. If LW1 is genuinely medically unable to get vaccinated, they’d probably have a really different view about being tested every week or be trying to find work in a field that doesn’t require things like, oh, face to face attendance around possibly sick people.
Ask a Manager* Post authorSeptember 3, 2021 at 2:47 am Removed an off-topic thread here about health care workers.
Greg* September 3, 2021 at 12:43 am LW#5 – be careful coming in at the top of a salary range. I’ve known people who come in near the top, and then no longer receive raises “because there’s no room in the band.”
PollyQ* September 3, 2021 at 12:55 am Even there, they’d still be better off financially making the higher number from the start, although there still could be a morale hit from not getting a raise.
Ele4phant* September 3, 2021 at 12:45 am Oh boy LW1. It’s fine (well not *fine* but allowed I suppose) to not get vaccinated , but you don’t get to have it both ways. We’re dealing with a highly transmissible disease for which still many are vulnerable to getting sick and dying. We all have to do what we can to reduce our ability to pass the vaccine onto others. There’s a couple ways to do that – but we all have to do *something*. If you’re not going to get vaccinated than yeah, you need to get regularly tested, socially distance, and wear a mask around others. If you refuse to do any of that, you deserve to be shown the door ASAP. Sorry if this makes your life more of a hassle, but it’s part of the moral social contract. This is about more than just you. Frankly if you just get the vaccine already you won’t have all these regular hoops to jump through anymore.
L6orac6* September 3, 2021 at 12:47 am #1 I don’t care if you don’t get vaccinated, this is your choice. But please get tested, I think the employer should pay for this, in Australia these tests and vaccine is free. This test will help protect yourself, your family and friends. Someone at work could be similar in their thinking to you, but additionally they could bring COVID (Delta) to work and infect you and others. This is the new normal going forward, be vaccinated or get regular testing. Any smart employer wanting to look after and retain their employees would be doing this. Please don’t up a paying job over this.
Ele4phant* September 3, 2021 at 1:02 am Nah – assuming the LW doesn’t have a medical reason to get vaccinated (which they did not say so I see no reason to assume that’s why they are unvaccinated) they can eat the cost of these tests. They have the right to make a choice, but not the right to make it without consequences. At this point in the pandemic – get vaccinated or deal with associated hoops and costs for deciding not to.
Sarah* September 3, 2021 at 6:32 am This LW doesn’t seem worth retaining, as others have pointed out that their “exemption” seems bogus based on the language. And…if bogus, why should employers shoulder the cost of testing?
Tara* September 3, 2021 at 6:36 am It’s an incredibly different perspective to be saying this in Australia, where you’ve had about 1,000 deaths total, than in US or UK, where we are all seeing friends, family, loved ones, colleagues getting sick and dying. You should care about people getting vaccinated.
Ariaflame* September 3, 2021 at 10:58 am Fully vaccinated Australian here. Booked nearly as soon as I was eligible (mutter mutter about Fed govt vaccine purchasing)
Nanani* September 3, 2021 at 10:35 am Nah, Op1 should lose their job and also every job until they get the dang vaccine.
Where’s the Orchestra?* September 3, 2021 at 12:04 pm I’m perfectly fine with medical exemptions. But generally the people that are getting those exemptions are a fairly small group, are being very proactive about testing, masking, social distancing, and all other preventative measures. If it’s medical, and the cost of the testing is the problem then working with the employer to sort out a way to make it work is reasonable. But, yeah this letter just doesn’t give off the medical exemption vibe.
No Dumb Blonde* September 3, 2021 at 12:50 am I love these magical thinkers who believe a global pandemic simply doesn’t apply to them.
Marzipan Shepherdess* September 3, 2021 at 1:25 am Or those who complain that the vaccine doesn’t work because it’s “only” 95% effective! Sorry, folks, but we’re all out of magic wands and fairy dust today; you’ll have to settle for a 95% chance of not dying prematurely of an awful disease.
allathian* September 3, 2021 at 1:33 am Yeah, or of getting long Covid with really unpleasant aftereffects like utter exhaustion and/or brain fog to the point that you’re no longer able to work, a loss of the sense of smell and taste, or an alteration of these senses to the point that everything smells and tastes awful, etc.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 5:16 am Or my cousin who now has tinnitus so bad he’s had to miss a lot of work.
Flower necklace* September 3, 2021 at 6:17 am Exactly. A lot of people quote the survival rate as a reason not to get vaccinated, wear a mask, etc., but I have a healthy fear of long-haul COVID.
londonedit* September 3, 2021 at 9:52 am So do I. I have a friend in her early 30s who got Covid in April 2020, and it affected her really badly for the best part of a year. She’s getting back to normal now, but she still has ups and downs and it hasn’t completely gone away. This is a woman who was routinely running sub-3hr marathons and who was generally extremely fit. And she went from that to being hardly able to walk because of ‘Covid toes’ and being restricted to a diet of about six foods that she knew wouldn’t trigger another histamine response. She missed a load of work and went for months never knowing whether she’d be able to go for a short walk down the road or whether that would land her in bed for three days afterwards. You can bet your life I’m going to do everything I can to avoid getting Covid if I can help it.
Everything bagel* September 3, 2021 at 10:43 am I know a woman who unfortunately can’t be vaccinated due to being allergic and she’s had covid twice. The 2nd time destroyed her lungs – to the point where she’s now using a walker so she doesn’t fall over. She’s in her mid 20s.
Blomma* September 3, 2021 at 11:37 am Yes! I have several chronic illnesses and already live with some of the symptoms that people with long-haul COVID experience. It’s honestly awful most of the time and I’m not going to risk making it more difficult to live in my body by adding more health issues due to COVID.
BubbleTea* September 3, 2021 at 1:40 am What I find really distasteful is the evident lack of care about others. I was notified I’d been in contact with a positive case a couple of days ago. The contact was a week prior and I was horrified at all the people I’d spent time with since and potentially infected – it was my first actually sociable weekend in 18 months. The relief when I got a negative test result wasn’t primarily that I wasn’t ill myself, it was that I hadn’t been shedding virus all over the place for a week. I don’t think I’m unusually public spirited, I think most decent people are concerned about harming others too.
Mu-on* September 3, 2021 at 2:30 am If someone doesn’t care about themselves, nothing will make them care about others.
Myrin* September 3, 2021 at 5:40 am I was adjacent to the most flabbergasting interaction I’ve ever experienced the week before last. I work part-time at an inn’s kitchen and recently when we – my two bosses, their son, and I – were taking our break, there was an old couple who is acquainted with my bosses at the table next to ours. Here, it’s been mandated recently that eating out outdoors is fine but indoors, you have to show you’re either vaccinated or have tested negative in the last 48 hours. My bosses take all COVID rules very seriously and while they talked to their acquaintances, it came about that the wife at least isn’t vaccinated (this was before the current rules came into effect). “Okay”, my boss said, “then you’ll have to sit outside; or you can get tested, easy as that”. “I don’t wanna get tested!”, the woman exclaimed. “I want to be free!!” That was already the dumbest thing I’d heard personally in the last few weeks, but then she went on to say: “Oh, and there are people, you know, who say ‘oooooh, I don’t want to infect others~~~’!” and I almost fell over backwards in my chair. Like. Yes? She said it like that’s the most ridiculous thing ever, like actually caring about the health and wellbeing of your fellow humans was something to mock and belittle and honestly, it was easily the most callous thing I’ve ever heard in this regard with my own two ears. Like. Who is so far removed from logic and human decency that they just say something like this out loud?!
Ray Gillette* September 3, 2021 at 10:12 am I don’t know how to explain that we should care about other people.
londonedit* September 3, 2021 at 5:33 am Yes, I love how people are now banging on about vaccines being ‘only’ 80% or 90% effective – flu jabs are far less effective than that, and always have been, and no one ever threw their toys out of the pram about that. People understood that a 50% or 60% chance of not getting flu was better than taking the risk of a 100% chance. But all of a sudden vaccines with efficacy rates unlike almost anything seen before aren’t good enough? Ridiculous.
Harper the Other One* September 3, 2021 at 6:15 am The folks I know who don’t get the flu shot all cite the low efficacy rate. “It doesn’t even guarantee you won’t catch it!” has been a talking point for a long time.
learnedthehardway* September 3, 2021 at 12:57 pm Having had the flu one year (which spoiled Christmas and required me to cancel travel plans), I get my shots because even if the current year’s shot is only 30-50% effective in preventing it, it is very effective in not making you wish you were dead while you have it. A mild flu instead of feeling like death? Sign me up!!
HalloweenCat* September 3, 2021 at 8:55 am I’ve often wondered if there’s a correlation between abstinence-only education telling us that condoms “don’t work” because they’re only 98% effective and a rise in anti-vax sentiment.
Keymaster of Gozer* September 3, 2021 at 9:28 am Sadly, there’s antivaxx propaganda dating back to the 1918 flu pandemic. It’s not a new thing :(
quill* September 3, 2021 at 12:33 pm Perfect is the enemy not just of “finished” but also of “alive” in this case.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 4:10 am ‘But I’m healthy so the virus can’t harm me’ /me throws virology textbooks at every single Covid denier
JelloStapler* September 7, 2021 at 2:09 pm And yet other people getting married to a same-sex partner or get an abortion is affecting everyone else!
Anon Mouse* September 3, 2021 at 1:11 am I think if there are no skills relevant to your work you could frankly put “2016-2017: traveled the US and volunteered.” I believe LDS folks do work other than evangelizing in their missions although I could be wrong, so if you’re asked you could talk about helping to build houses or feeding the poor or other neutral things you did, and some of the cities you went to.
CB212* September 3, 2021 at 1:30 am Unless they’re sent on a service project, like building a school, most LDS missionaries proselytize – that’s the mission. It’s full-time work.
Sylvan* September 3, 2021 at 8:48 am The mission is getting people to replace their current beliefs with LDS beliefs.
Not Mormon anymore* September 4, 2021 at 10:50 am Yeah I was a missionary before I ended up leaving the church and it is entirely focused on convincing people to completely adopt the Mormon religion. Completely. Every other activity during a Mormon mission is performed with that goal in mind. It is basically sales work, except you’re selling a massively time-consuming lifestyle.
learnedthehardway* September 3, 2021 at 1:29 am OP#5 – Congratulations on your promotion!! And yes, you really SHOULD mention it to the company you’re interviewing with. A) it’s evidence that you’re doing a good job in your current role – it’s kind of like getting a reference without having to ask your current employer for one. B) it makes it evident that you’ve progressed to such-and-such a level of skills and experience, which makes you more attractive, and C) it can and should influence the level of compensation the hiring manager offers, if they offer you a job. It absolutely makes sense for you to be revising what your compensation requirements are to make a move, in light of your new role. And if the company wants you, they should pay market value for your services. If you really, really want to work for this new company to the point where you would still take the role at a salary level you’d have taken at your old position/compensation, that’s fine. You can be flexible about what you’re willing to accept. But don’t leave money on the table when you don’t have to and don’t let yourself be offered less than you’re worth.
Cant remember my old name* September 3, 2021 at 1:40 am LW1’s company should be paying for the testing, period. People seem to be interpreting their second sentence to mean the exemption is bogus, but I’m interpreting the first sentence to mean that LW would have to pay whether it was legitimate or not, and that’s not okay. People with a legitimate medical exemption should never be financially penalized for their condition. And the rather than determine (perhaps incorrectly) whose medical exemption is real or fake, the company should pay the cost to keep the workplace safe. It’s literally the cost of doing business!
Ele4phant* September 3, 2021 at 1:49 am The LW works in healthcare. If they bring in the virus and that ends up infecting a patient – that will most definitely have an impact on the cost of business. *If* the LW has a legitimate medical reason to not get vaccinated – yeah, I would hope their employer would work with them to find a solution, like they continue to pay. I will confess, I am not an expert on accommodating disabilities and how one goes about requesting that, whether you have to disclose your condition or not. HOWEVER, it is an assumption that the LW might have a medical reason to not get vaccinated. If it’s a philosophical or religious exemption, or they just don’t want to disclose, sorry, IMO you have the right to make that choice but you also need to be the one that bears the literal and figurative costs of that choice.
NeutralJanet* September 3, 2021 at 1:50 am I do agree that the employer should pay for the test, but it doesn’t seem like that’s LW’s primary objection, being as she’s asking how to expect her resignation to go, rather than asking for advice on pushing back on/dealing with the expense, so it’s fair that the answer and comments are not primarily concerned with the cost either.
darcy* September 3, 2021 at 4:42 am Yeah, people seem to be treating having to pay for tests as some kind of justly deserved punishment for not getting vaccinated. Rather than getting into litigating who does and doesn’t have a valid exemption, surely it’s easier to just pay for everyone’s testing to 1) remove payment as an excuse and 2) make sure you’re not penalising people who can’t get vaccinated. Testing unvaccinated people is good because it protects everyone, not because it’s the grown up version of the child who didn’t help tidy up the classroom having to sit out on a fun activity.
Harper the Other One* September 3, 2021 at 6:16 am +1 – I’d rather “fake” exemptions get free tests than people get penalized for having a medical condition that prevents them from getting the vaccine.
mreasy* September 3, 2021 at 7:12 am I agree that tests should be free, as they are in my state – but if they aren’t, I am comfortable requiring the burden on the unvaccinated, provided they aren’t unvaccinated due to legitimate medical reason.
münchner kindl* September 3, 2021 at 8:03 am My country (non-US) offered free = paid by government tests all through the year; but now, with vaccinations available to all, they announced that next month, free testing will be stopped. Obviously, those who have valid medical exemptions they can’t get vaccinated, will still get tests paid by health insurance – but those also usually stay at home to avoid being infected. People who “don’t wanna” get vaccinated, but still go around to work and restaurants etc., to possibly spread dangerous disease? Yes, they should pay for their own test when 3G system requires them.
darcy* September 3, 2021 at 10:08 am But free testing helps everyone! You can still catch and transmit it when vaccinated, and the more people being tested regularly the safer it is for everyone, including those who can’t get vaccinated or for whom the vaccination didn’t generate enough antibodies! It’s very frustrating to see high risk disabled people being relegated to “staying at home” just so everyone else doesn’t have to bother with testing and masks now they’re vaccinated.
Despachito* September 4, 2021 at 11:35 am But overall testing is also extremely expensive, and it’s a question of cost/efficiency balance. Before the vaccine was available, it was a good thing to pay tests for everyone as it was one of the scarce means we had against the disease. But it was still a lot of money, and when vaccination became an available option, there is no more reason to continue paying to everyone. I think it is just to pay for the tests of people who cannot be vaccinated for truly medical/age reasons. For the rest, it is up to them – I either can get vaccinated and not need tests anymore, or, if I am an objector, I am free NOT to get vaccinated (which is good freedom-wise), but there is absolutely no reason the rest of population should bear the costs of testing for me. I think it is good to realize that freedom sometimes comes with a price, and that if the price is just the cost of a COVID test out of our own pocket, we should consider ourselves quite lucky.
ceiswyn* September 5, 2021 at 5:47 am Free testing only helps everyone if people a) take the tests and b) act on the results. LW1 would clearly do neither. And we already have many stories of people who went to work with Covid because they couldn’t afford not to, or because their bosses were Covidiots and threatened their job security if they did the right thing. Free Covid testing is a good thing, but not a universal panacea.
Sola Lingua Bona Lingua Mortua Est* September 3, 2021 at 10:04 am I don’t like forcing the employee to pay for testing out of pocket, either. That comes too close to making (some) exemptions a form of means-testing. As far as the two weeks go, that’s going to depend on the role, supervisor, organization, reputation, attitude, and so many other factors. Ironically enough, LW1 is best equipped to answer that question themselves.
Akcipitrokulo* September 3, 2021 at 4:51 am Agreed company should pay (assuming you can’t get them for free where op is). I got strong feeling that OP would quit rather than take the test anyway, but company isn’t helping their case. Giving OP benefit of the doubt – it is perfectly ok to push back on the cost. Tell company something like “I appreciate the need to keep everyone safe, but the cost burden isn’t one I can easily take on – can we look at having this paid through expenses?” ( or however they would do it).
mreasy* September 3, 2021 at 7:10 am If OP1 has a medical exemption, I agree the testing should be covered. If their exemption is any other type – religious or otherwise – why should their employer bear the cost? My employer is mandating vaccinations, period, for all but medical exemptions, and I wish all employers would.
Elspeth McGillicuddy* September 3, 2021 at 8:19 am Agreed, the business should just pay for the testing. If the company requires it, if it’s for their benefit, then it should be on their dime. It’s certainly not for the employee’s benefit. If the testing cost is minimal, then the business should totally pay for it, because nitpicking over small expenses with your employees is stupid and counterproductive. If the testing cost is high, then the employer should also totally pay it, because foisting major expenses on your employees is stupid and wrong. If they don’t believe she has a legitimate exemption, they should deny it. If they grant the exemption, they should pay.
Roscoe* September 3, 2021 at 8:32 am I’m not sure I agree here. Look, even if we assume the exemption is valid, I’m not sure its on the employer to pay for these tests. At this point, this falls under personal health things, IMO, which they don’t pay for in other situations. Do they need to pay for thermometers so people can figure out if they have a fever? Cold medicine if they aren’t feeling well? If it is valid, its an unfortunate that this could become pricey for the person, but its still a personal issue.
Cant remember my old name* September 3, 2021 at 9:56 am I don’t. It could very well not be. My point is it doesn’t matter. I am interpreting the first sentence to mean that it doesn’t matter to the employer either. It seems like every unvaccinated person has to pay and I’m taking a strong stance against that policy – which, to be clear, is not the same as defending the LW.
darcy* September 3, 2021 at 10:10 am Yes, exactly! Antivaxers can go kick rocks as far as I’m concerned but in practical terms it’s safer for everyone to remove as many possible barriers/excuses for regular testing.
Duc Anonymous* September 3, 2021 at 11:47 am It may not matter to the employer; we don’t know. In my facility, it very much matters, as non-medical exemptions are required to pay the (discounted) cost of their testing whereas medical exemptions are not required to pay. This is very much not about that for the OP, who has contacted Alison with the nonsense it was assumed to be.
Koala dreams* September 3, 2021 at 12:48 pm I agree with you. If the employer wants to run a business that requires in person interactions, they should be prepared to pay for testing, not only for the unvaccinated but for the vaccinated also if needed. Unfortunately, it’s too common for employers to push costs onto employees no matter if it’s reasonable or not. I don’t care for the argument that tests are important, so the employer shouldn’t pay for them. Obviously, that doesn’t change the situation for the letter writer. I wish the letter writer good luck with finding a remote position.
learnedthehardway* September 3, 2021 at 1:02 pm Meh – There’s a good reason for companies to not pay for testing – it’s about making it more preferable to be vaccinated by making it inconvenient and expensive to be unvacc’ed. Given that there are a whole lot of people out there who don’t really have strong feelings about it, but who can’t be bothered to do something until it affects them personally, making it more inconvenient and expensive to not get vaccinated makes a lot of sense.
crookedglasses* September 4, 2021 at 12:47 am I agree, establishing a requirement that employees cover the costs of their own reasonable accommodations for a medical or religious need is… not the slam dunk a lot of commenters seem to think it is. Maybe it starts with cases like LW1, who are transparently behaving badly, but you’re kidding yourself if you think that’s where it stops.
Tali* September 5, 2021 at 9:22 pm I agree. I don’t think we should use the cost of testing as a financial penalty to those who choose not to vaccinate. It will end up being a deterrent to getting tested and ultimately work against our public health goals! Even vaccinated people can be contagious! Testing should be free for everyone, and if it’s not, the employer should pay it as a cost of business. It’s in everyone’s interest to know if the unvaccinated are positive or not! Better to require a negative test than expect people we already know are stubborn and resistant to pay for it; they will just choose not to get tested.
Analytical Tree Hugger* September 3, 2021 at 2:35 am OP1, this may be a meaningless distinction: If you turn in your two weeks notice and your employer declines your offer to work through your notice period, you were NOT fired. You still resigned. So, in the future, you can honestly say you were not fired from this job. There are employers who choose not to have employees work through their notice period, but those companies cannot retroactively call it a firing (at least, not without lying).
Random Person* September 3, 2021 at 4:02 am This is not true. In my state, if you give notice and your employer doesn’t let you work your notice period, you are eligible for unemployment benefits for your notice period because your employment was terminated. Declining a COVID test is against this company’s policy, and people can be fired at any time (including during their notice period) for not following company policies. It’s the same as if a uniform is required and the person decided they didn’t want to wear the uniform during their notice period.
Klio* September 3, 2021 at 4:38 am But can’t they say what you work and were you do it? So “twiddle your thumbs for two weeks at home” would be an option
Sola Lingua Bona Lingua Mortua Est* September 3, 2021 at 9:10 am I’ve also heard it referred to as “terminal PTO.”
Keymaster of Gozer* September 3, 2021 at 9:31 am Got 3 months of that once – paid to sit at home and do nothing. Bliss. (I was being laid off, my notice period was 3 months – not going into why – and they decided having an annoyed sysadmin around probably wasn’t a good idea. I’ve never heard it used in a ‘you about to be fired mate’ situation though)
Analytical Tree Hugger* September 3, 2021 at 10:06 am I honestly did not know that (embarrassing…), so thanks for educating me!
Random Person* September 3, 2021 at 2:23 pm A lot of people don’t realize this! Sometimes the hassle of applying for benefits is too much if you’ve already got another job lined up or whatever, and sometimes people just don’t realize that they can get them. I’m not sure if it’s true in every state, but I’m in a pretty employer-friendly state, so I imagine it’s true most places.
Random Person* September 3, 2021 at 2:20 pm Yes! But then you’re not getting terminated because you’re still getting all your pay and benefits.
TechWorker* September 3, 2021 at 2:43 am Well, no. But I don’t see this as any different to someone who insists that smoking in an office is totally fine and their choice and thus should be allowed everywhere. Smoking in workplaces is illegal now in many places, because it has a negative impact on the health of those around you. You are welcome to smoke at home or be unvaccinated at home, but when your choice about what you put in your body affects other people’s health it’s no longer a free choice as it relates to the workplace.
beaton* September 3, 2021 at 3:19 am LW#1 – As someone who also works in healthcare, I had the pleasure (/s) of sitting through a webinar on Wednesday about the new Proposed Medicare Rules. They are talking about requiring monthly reporting on Ambulatory Surgery Center staff who are vaccinated against COVID (similar to what they did with Influenza vaccine reporting years ago) starting on 1/1/2022. If a facility does not meet that threshold, they will get their Medicare payments deducted by a certain percentage. I haven’t read the whole Proposed Rule (I don’t have a spare six hours to spend flipping through it) but I’m sure hospitals and other facilities will be dealing with something similar. Not only is vaccination (if you are medically allowed to do so) the moral and ethical choice, but you could be costing your facility money by not getting it done. (This of course is for the U.S. only, I’m not versed in healthcare regulations in other countries – but I’m sure we’ll see more questions similar to this once the facilities have to start metaphorically cracking down).
Pan Troglodytes* September 3, 2021 at 3:26 am Removed because too off-topic from the letter, but there’s lot of info on this if you google!
Ferret* September 3, 2021 at 3:27 am Alison, is there any way to separate or consolidate the response to #1 as it seems like one of those that is going to dominate the thread and just squeeze everything else out. Might be better as a separate post
T. Boone Pickens* September 3, 2021 at 7:38 am Ha, agreed! I read OP 1 and thought, “Ooh we’re getting 1000+ comments in the thread today!”
Sola Lingua Bona Lingua Mortua Est* September 3, 2021 at 9:11 am Not to second guess Alison too much, but I would have lobbied for #1 to get its own standalone post.
Frank Doyle* September 3, 2021 at 4:11 pm Try using the “Collapse replies” function! Cleans things up right quick.
cncx* September 3, 2021 at 3:38 am Re LW1, these people really have to understand that you can’t have it both ways. Don’t get vaccinated, fine, but then test and mask and/or stay home. Freedom of choice is something I can respect, but with rights come responsibilities and you can’t exercise your right to not be vaccinated and not also suffer the consequences like testing and masking. I’m salty (actually I’m furious) because I live in an area with no mask mandate but a testing mandate and as a member of a risk group I have to home office despite being double vaccinated because of antivax colleagues who refuse to get tested. No one asked me about my “freedom of choice” to not be breathed on indoors. This is exactly like smoking indoors, covid is airbone and you can’t just say I don’t want to and think it doesn’t affect other people.
cncx* September 3, 2021 at 5:02 am I understand an exemption isn’t necessarily antivax, but the same principle remains, why wouldn’t someone test and mask in a group of people inside? exemption from the vaccine doesn’t mean exemption from everything else.
learnedthehardway* September 3, 2021 at 1:06 pm Yeah, I love how people who whine about their “freedoms” are too selfish to consider anyone else’s, or to consider that their freedoms end where other people’s begin. The whole “responsibilities”and duties of citizenship seem to be very selectively understood by some people.
Library gal* September 3, 2021 at 3:57 am Maybe I’m being too generous in my reading of question 1, but I took “exemption” to mean medical exemption (what other type of exemption would be accepted by the employer?) and therefore it would be totally unfair to expect them to pay for testing themselves. I was surprised by the automatic outrage/blame directed at OP1 – I really didn’t take it to be an anti vax letter at all! To be honest, the employer should be covering the cost of testing anyway to avoid situations like this – and ideally the government should be providing free lateral flow tests for everyone, but maybe I’m dreaming too big… To clarify – I am pro vax and (finally) getting my second dose today!
Sleeping Late Every Day* September 3, 2021 at 4:40 am I don’t know if you are in the U.S., but we unfortunately allow religious exemptions to the vaccine here, which, beyond being bogus in itself, allows anti-vaxxers an out. If the writer had meant medical exemption, they could have said so. And since the cost of testing was not the first reason given for their objection, it sounds like they’re just an anti-vaxxer whining because they didn’t get special privileges.
Canadian Valkyrie* September 3, 2021 at 10:52 am I have an MA in theology and I CANNOT trace the objection to things like vaccines as being rooted in scripture – and neither can anyone else who’s not taking some bizarre, radical and extremely generous interpretation of the Bible! There’s a lot of scriptural stuff that you could take to mean several ways (eg the bit about being fruitful and multiplying amongst other verses about not spilling the seed and stuff has led some to believe that sex is just for reproducing, and that birth control shouldn’t be used cause it contraindicates the bit about multiplying, even though that’s just 1 such interpretation about how to handle that — for example, you’d still be in line with scripture if you had a single child, and you wouldn’t be in violation if you didn’t given that many others are having children and there’s not exactly an overall issue with humans being fruitful and multiplying). So to be honest, I find the religious exemption bizarre because it doesn’t really stand up to reason or normal practice… that said, I’m Jewish and raised Christian so I am open to the possibility that this exemption meets the rules for other religions who’s texts that my beliefs and my theology masters didn’t impart as much textual and practical knowledge of.
learnedthehardway* September 3, 2021 at 1:14 pm In fact, there is specific instruction all over the place in the Bible to consider how your actions affect other people. In Leviticus, people with communicable disease (leprosy, in their case) were instructed to cover their faces (masks, anyone?) and remain apart from the community. The focus on disease – in terms of miracles, comparisons to sin, rules for how to be healthy, etc. etc. – is pervasive. Those people were really aware of and worried about getting sick! They were also much more concerned about the well-being of the collective society than they were about individual rights.
raintree* September 3, 2021 at 7:27 pm Yes!! All this denying is about fear and control. Like everything else people use Abrahamic religions to justify.
Wha* September 3, 2021 at 11:59 am We’re not to make assumptions of a LW. Alison could have written back to clarify, but obviously didn’t.
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 4:12 pm It would be nice if you didn’t make up rules. It’s perfectly reasonable to draw conclusions based on what the OP says. And what they say indicates that they are NOT medically constrained from taking the vaccine. PS Allison updated – the OP is a covid denier.
Akcipitrokulo* September 3, 2021 at 4:56 am It sounds lime a religious/ethical exemption that they have had. Honestly, I think the company should cover the cost anyway. But OP doesn’t seem to have that as main issue. (Lateral flow tests are free where I live (uk) – you can either pick them up at a pharmacy or get a pack sent out to your home.)
Not Here For It* September 3, 2021 at 7:38 am Perhaps you missed the dogwhistles, but it’s pretty clear OP isn’t someone with a legitimate medical exemption. A letter that said “I have a medical condition which means my doctors don’t want me getting the Covid vaccine, and my employer is requiring unvaccinated employees to get tested at their own expense. I cannot afford to pay for this testing. How should I approach this with my employer?” would be getting a VERY different response.
ceiswyn* September 3, 2021 at 7:47 am I don’t know where LW1 is, but plenty of places allow exemptions for religious or philosophical reasons. Additionally, the OP has gone straight to leaving their employer because they ‘have no desire to’ test, rather than exploring payment options. Clearly, the problem here is not the money, but the test.
No Tribble At All* September 3, 2021 at 7:53 am In most cases we want to read letters as generously as possible. Unfortunately, as Alison said in another comment, this letter is so full of anti-vax dog whistles as to summon a whole pack. The USA is a weird place right now. The fact that the LW said “I don’t feel like getting tested” rather than “the testing will be a financial burden for me, can I ask the company to pay for it?” means they’ve chosen to make a martyr of themselves. They don’t want this problem to be solved; they want attention.
londonedit* September 3, 2021 at 9:22 am Absolutely. The fact that the letter was basically ‘I’m not having the vaccine and I have no desire to do any testing, I’m quitting my job in response to this request and all I want to know is whether they’ll fire me if I refuse to test during my two weeks’ notice’ says it all. They weren’t asking whether it was fair for their employer to require them to test, they weren’t asking whether it was fair that the employer asked them to pay. They don’t want the vaccine, they don’t want to test themselves for Covid and that’s that, and they’re willing to quit their job rather than do a simple test once a week. That does not seem to be the stance of a reasonable person with a genuine medical reason not to be vaccinated.
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 4:09 pm but I took “exemption” to mean medical exemption (what other type of exemption would be accepted by the employer?) Religious exemptions are a thing in the US. The fact that the OP is clearly in the US and fails to mention medical issues is an extremely strong indicator that it is NOT a medical issues. Furthermore, the OP makes it clear that they don’t wish to test. Period. Paying for it simply “add insult to injury”, but it’s not the primary issue.
Paul Pearson* September 3, 2021 at 4:02 am “What a very odd stance for you to take” I do so love how Alison can load a whole fusillade of devastating disapproval in one innocuous phrase
Fitzroy* September 3, 2021 at 5:01 am Yes, I Loved this sentence somuch, trying to come up with a version in my language that conveys the same disbelief/disapproval..
Sarah* September 3, 2021 at 6:26 am I love Allison’s response (the entire response, but also that line) and couldn’t agree more!!!!!!!!!!
Chaordic One* September 3, 2021 at 9:36 am It does sort of remind me of as something that Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham (as portrayed by Maggie Smith) might say.
Elle Woods* September 3, 2021 at 12:11 pm Same. I confess that I plan on adding this phrase to my repetoire.
shocked* September 3, 2021 at 4:16 am I am going to assume that LW1 was granted this exemption on medical grounds (such as an allergy, which can prove fatal), rather than less pressing issues. Perhaps you can request to work from home, or if you are US0based, have the health insurance plan cover the testing?
Need More Sunshine* September 3, 2021 at 8:45 am If OP1 works in healthcare, it’s highly likely that she can’t work from home – though assuming her exemption is on medical grounds, maybe she could work with her employer to do a different job temporarily as a “reasonable accommodation”? (Though honestly, it doesn’t sound like this is the case because you’d think OP would include this very relevant info in her question if it were.) But even if we’re rolling with this assumption, most health insurance carriers have updated their testing coverage language since the early days and will only cover the cost if your test is “medically necessary” – due to exposure or symptoms, or on a doctor’s order. If the test is to return to work or travel, they push the cost on to the member. So it would be on the employer’s shoulders to decide if they wanted to cover the costs of regular testing for their employees.
Carrie* September 3, 2021 at 4:20 am “Don’t penalize him for not following every guideline in a playbook that he may not have been given.” This is SO important to ensure diversity in hiring and also in many areas of life in general.
UKgreen* September 3, 2021 at 4:51 am As a British person I am utterly bemused by the pearl-clutching about thank-you notes.
Red Reader the Adulting Fairy* September 3, 2021 at 6:15 am I’m a US person and I think it’s classist and absurd.
Paul Pearson* September 3, 2021 at 6:48 am Thank you! I was beginning to think I was slightly mad! As a British person I’ve never heard of sending anyone a thank you note – it feels quaintly Victorian
mreasy* September 3, 2021 at 7:14 am I assume the LW doesn’t mean an actual physical note, but an email, which would be best practice, but is also a learned behavior.
Washi* September 3, 2021 at 8:04 am Yeah, I assumed this was a follow up note via email. It would be absurd to expect a handwritten note, but I think I would be a little surprised not to get a brief follow up email with a thank you for an hour-long, in-person informational interview. I wouldn’t hold it against someone early in their career, but it’s such a good thing to do, both to say thank you but also just as an additional point of contact to solidify the relationship.
SheLooksFamiliar* September 3, 2021 at 8:55 am Same here. Most of the informational interviews I’ve been asked to conduct took quite a bit of my time, and I usually got a lot of requests afterward: Can you review this, can you advise on that, how should I do the other, and can you connect me to So-and-So? I wouldn’t be surprised if an early career contact didn’t email a thank you, but I would let them know it’s a good practice to thank people for their time and attention – especially they’re providing it at your request.
Bamcakes* September 3, 2021 at 7:51 am I’m quite baffled by the point of view here. I agree that in a situation like this where you’ve given up some time to help someone, it would be nice to get a formal follow up and thank you. But at the same time, I can’t get my head around holding it against someone if they don’t, especially if they were polite and personable in person. You recognise that your field historically excludes people from certain backgrounds and you want to try and rectify that, but you don’t recognise that this kind of rigidity about procedural niceties is exactly how that exclusion functions— that just baffles me. But I guess it’s a great example of how people can in theory recognise that their industry needs to change to be more welcoming to excluded groups but in practice continue that exclusion.
Jessica* September 3, 2021 at 8:11 am British people, are thank-you notes not done in personal life as well? I’m just curious now!
Bamcakes* September 3, 2021 at 8:18 am They’re a huge Mum-make-you-write-them-after-Christmas-and-birthdays thing from 7-12, and after that they’re pretty much only for weddings.
ceiswyn* September 3, 2021 at 8:48 am Agreed. And I’m still bitter about all those thankyou notes and phone calls that my mother forced me into, without at any point giving me any guidance on what to say in them beyond a four word ‘thankyou for the X’. Even thinking about them today, my stomach starts to hurt with the stress of being given a completely novel task to do, no instructions on how to do it, and then being punished for not getting it done…
Canadian Valkyrie* September 3, 2021 at 11:05 am So my family comes from high level military and government and are VERY into manners and protocol. You can bet that, even at age 30, my mom will tear me a new one if I don’t send thank you notes for things like Christmas gifts where I (1) specifically name what I was given (2) say thank you (3) even if the person is literally in the room with you (4) and mention how much I like it — even if I hate it haha. So that sort of behaviour is very much drilled into people from certain backgrounds. It kind of makes me wonder if that’s where OP is coming from. Like there’s that general rule in business to thank someone (even if it’s just to email and be like thanks for X meeting) and maybe she was raised in a Manners And Protocol Are A Very Big Deal family like I was, cause if I didn’t grow up in a super blue collar area where I could tell this was, well, not always common practice, someone like OP might just assume this is well known common practice and is, thankfully, coming places like here to figure out how to address this belief in practice.
UKgreen* September 3, 2021 at 8:20 am If I received a nice gift I might email or message to thank the sender, but not if I’d profusely thanked the giver in person at the time. The same goes for a meeting or interview- I’ve said ‘thank you so much for your time!’ at the end of the session so a further written thank you seems overkill and possibly a bit creepy.
Eldritch Office Worker* September 3, 2021 at 8:52 am Do you feel the same way when Alison recommends them after a job interview? It’s the same principle.
Roscoe* September 3, 2021 at 8:57 am She recommends people interviewing to do it to help themselves stand out, but also says employers shouldn’t hold it against someone like OP is doing.
Eldritch Office Worker* September 3, 2021 at 8:59 am Oh definitely! I’m just asking about the cultural aversion, I’m not disagreeing with the advice
londonedit* September 3, 2021 at 9:27 am Yes, absolutely – I’m also from the UK and while thank-you notes are a thing if you’re a child and someone gives you a gift, or if someone’s sent you a gift or done something nice for you and you haven’t thanked them in person, that’s about as far as it goes. I’d send a thank-you card if a friend sent me a birthday present in the post, or if I’d been to stay with a friend for a weekend, but otherwise you generally say thank-you in the moment and don’t follow it up. And it is the same for job interviews – the culture is that when you wrap up at the end, everyone says ‘Thank you for your time/thank you for coming/it was lovely to meet you/we’ll be in touch soon’ etc, and that’s the end of the interaction from the interviewee’s point of view. I’m not saying it would actively harm your chances to then send a follow-up, but everywhere I’ve worked it would get a sort of ‘Oof, we’ve got a keen one here!’ response. People would think it was a bit pushy, a bit ingratiating.
kettle fish* September 3, 2021 at 9:45 am Nah, I’m in the UK too and thank you notes are not that uncommon.
londonedit* September 3, 2021 at 9:55 am After a job interview, you mean? I’ll accept it may vary by industry but in nearly 20 years of working I’ve never heard of anyone sending a thank-you note after an interview. It would strike me as very odd (and that’s borne out by the fact that every time this comes up, loads of people from the UK pop up and are incredulous at the very idea of people being expected to send thank-you notes for job interviews).
Regular Reader* September 3, 2021 at 10:07 am +1 I’m in the UK too and in over a decade of interviews I’ve never received a thank you note or email from a candidate. Not to mention that even if the thank you note is sent by email it is unlikely that the interview panel would have read it before they make their decision. When I have been on an interview panel the discussion about the candidates is usually done immediately after the last candidate has been interviewed, while the interviewers memories are fresh so they can review their notes. Additionally any candidate contact would be via the HR/Recruitment team who do not conduct the interviews. OP if this is something your industry expects then guidance for your candidate would be good. I wince when I think of the things I did when I first started job hunting out of university. I made a lot of mistakes.
UKDancer* September 3, 2021 at 12:44 pm Definitely. I sent my cousin a wedding present last month and she sent me a card. That’s just manners. I don’t think we do them for interviews though. That’s perceived as either ingratiating or over keen on my experience.
onco fonco* September 6, 2021 at 8:33 am Yeah, I’m from the UK too and I’ve never sent or received a thank you note for this sort of thing. Of course I’d thank the person for meeting up with me! But I’d say it at the end of the meeting (and probably the beginning, and generally express appreciation all the way through, because thanks and/or sorry are basically punctuation to me). I would then consider that I’d thanked the person, because…I had. Getting in touch just to say it AGAIN might seem pushy, like I was angling for more or finding an excuse to make contact. So much of this stuff is culture-specific. I think it’s really important to remember that someone who seems generally polite, appreciative and well-meaning but omits one specific point of etiquette is most likely just not operating on the same cultural expectations!
Bamcakes* September 3, 2021 at 9:20 am In any formal interview process, it would be an overstep and a red flag. The interview is your chance to convince them to hire you, and after that the ball is in their court. Sending a follow-up message afterwards would be seen as a bit pushy / desperate / lacking boundaries in most formal systems. If it’s a more informal “we’re discussing the possibility of finding mutually beneficial opportunities” that’s different. But generally it wouldn’t be advised.
Mockingjay* September 3, 2021 at 9:29 am After interview notes are called “thank you” notes, but they’re really a follow-up to expand on the interview conversation.
Bagpuss* September 3, 2021 at 9:23 am They are a thing in personal life, it’s in a work context that they seem weird to us. Different people will have different expectations, though. For instance, my understanding is that if someone gives you a gift you need to thank them – if they give it to you in person and you open it when they are there, then you say thank you in person. If they send it (so you don’t see them in person) or in situations like a wedding where they might give it to you in person but you don’t open it until later, then you send a thank you note* I’d disagree that they are only for children, I think you normally have a parent telling you to do it as a child, the assumption being that having been taught that it is appropriate you then know to do it as an adult without prompting. (*Or, depending on norms in your family / social circle might phone and thank them in person that way, rather than with a physical letter or note, although a written note would still be usual for wedding gifts) Thank you notes are not the norm for social events in most instances, (presumably because again, you thank your hosts for the lovely meal / party / whatever as you leave)
Marillenbaum* September 3, 2021 at 10:44 am Precisely! With certain family members and friends, we are close enough that my ‘thank-you note’ is done over text: I take a photo of myself with the gift in question, and send it with a brief expression of gratitude. With other relatives (largely those who aren’t comfortable with texting) or a more formal event like a milestone birthday or a wedding, a hand-written note is what I go with.
Roscoe* September 3, 2021 at 8:34 am As an American, so am I. Some people here have an inflated sense of their own importance
Canadian Valkyrie* September 3, 2021 at 11:12 am I don’t think it’s an inflated sense of self-importance at all – not that it can’t be, but I just think like, it seems polite to acknowledge that someone did you a favour, did something nice, whatever. I think you can want your thoughtfulness or time to be appreciated without it being because you think your all that. I think sometimes people just get ideas/beliefs about how one shows said appreciation that aren’t common practice (eg thank you notes) and assume that therefore the person is being unappreciative. But I don’t think it’s wrong to want people to be respectful of your time, appreciate when you help them, etc. I also think it’s contextual. There are times when expecting thank yous would be inappropriate. For example, it would be rude on my line of work for me to expect thank yous from my clients. They often do express that my work for them is helpful but to expect this would be obnoxious and egotistical. So context matters to?
Roscoe* September 3, 2021 at 11:26 am And if the person in question didn’t even leave the meeting without thanking them for their time, I’d understand OP feeling this way. But it doesn’t seem like that happened. As you said, she is trying to dictate HOW they show appreciation, which is the problem I have. Showing appreciation and gratitude in some way is important. But the person shouldn’t be punished because she thought he should do it another way.
quill* September 3, 2021 at 12:49 pm Honestly growing up in the midwest of the US I am willing to bet that thank you note culture in the workplace is based on region, class, generation, and industry… and therefore basically has no broad applicability at all.
Barbosa* September 3, 2021 at 2:41 pm As a person person, I don’t get it either. Like, didn’t the gentleman say “thank you” at the end of the conversation? Why is it necessary to thank *further*?
Ellena* September 3, 2021 at 5:35 am Everyone jumping on LW1 – the issue with self-paid testing for someone who has a legitimate (potentially health-related and costly) reason not to be vaccinated is a real one. The employer should recognize that and not for such employees cover the costs of testing. If someone rejects the vaccine and testing simply out of anti-vax mindset, should definitely pay.
Colette* September 3, 2021 at 7:24 am There’s no indication that OP1 has a medical exemption or that the employer wouldn’t pay for testing if she did.
iliketoknit* September 3, 2021 at 9:06 am But the LW didn’t ask about how to get the tests paid for, they asked whether they’d have to leave on the spot.
Canadian Valkyrie* September 3, 2021 at 11:17 am I think my issue with that is that, yes, not wanting to pay for testing when your not vaccinated due to a health issue is 100% legit, but there’s no indication that LW1 tried to have a conversation about having it covered by the business due to having to incur said cost for work, nor is there any indication about pursuing the free testing I hear is available in places in the US, etc. Maybe OP thought this was self-explanatory that they’d, say, talked to their bosses who won’t cover it, but if the cost is that big of a burden to do even once during a quitting period, it seems odd the OP would then quit their job (if they can’t afford 1 test, how do they plan to survive once they no longer have a job?) so it seems like is more about the principle of it than actually being curious about finding a solution.
Bamcakes* September 3, 2021 at 12:26 pm I just can’t see any logic for requiring tests but the company not paying for them! If you grant someone an exemption, you’re presumably saying you think they’ve got a legitimate reading or being exempt. If they have got a legitimate reason, then requiring them to pay for tests seems pretty discriminatory. If they haven’t got a legitimate exemption and making them pay for tests just seems like the worst of every world: you’ve granted an exemption you don’t believe is valid AND created an administrative burden for yourselves, because it’s not someone’s job to check those tests are being done and what the results are. If the actual aim is to try and force people to resign, it’s a ridiculously bureaucratic and ineffective way to do it.
Public Sector Manager* September 3, 2021 at 2:10 pm If the person had a legitimate medical exemption, it would probably read like: “Alison, we’re coming back into the office on September 13th, and we need to be vaccinated or have a weekly test at our own expense. I have have a medical exemption from my doctor for the COVID vaccine. I feel like paying for my own testing is discrimination against my medical condition. Do you have any advice on how to push back on my boss to get the office to pay for testing?” That’s a legit question that’s worth debating. But absent a medical exemption, I shall shed no more tears on this issue. People need to get the damn shot or never leave the house. It is really that simple.
Princess Hylia* September 3, 2021 at 5:45 am OP4 — You might not need to worry about a resume gap at all, if you’re young enough. If you were called to mission at 19 like all my LDS friends from high school were, it’s not all that weird for 19-year-olds to be doing things that aren’t working, especially if you’re working now. If you still think it’s a problematic gap or demonstrates a required skill like “speaks fluent French,” I’d devote just one line to it in a volunteering section like: “2016-17, served on a mission in Provence, France.”
elletee* September 3, 2021 at 8:56 am I’m mormon and I agree with this. And if you graduated from college, unless you decided to go on the mission after college all anyone is going to do is look at your graduation date and they will expect a spotty work history before college graduation. Most people go on their missions when they are 18 or 19 now, so it’s not like when women used to go when they were 21 or 22.
Love WFH* September 3, 2021 at 9:42 am I would definitely recommend leaving a mission off of a resume. Employers legally cannot make hiring decisions based on religion. If they know what a candidates’ religion is, and turn them down, then they put themselves at risk of being sued. I’ve done a lot of hiring in the past, and I tossed the resumes from out of state. I didn’t have the budget to pay their travel expenses to interview, or moving expenses. With today’s remote work, that could be less of a factor.
Ugh* September 3, 2021 at 6:32 am LW #1 – you work in the healthcare field and both refuse to get vaccinated or tested? How dare you. Please find another profession.
tinybutfierce* September 3, 2021 at 8:25 am The way the pandemic has revealed so many healthcare workers who are actually anti-vaxx or otherwise anti-science has seriously done a number on my faith in people.
whistle* September 3, 2021 at 8:50 am Except almost none of these people were anti-vax two years ago! If they’re in healthcare, they’ve already produced vaccine regards for numerous things, and likely have to produce annual flu shot verification and tb skin test results. I used to hire HCWs, and they all had to have polio, mmr, varicella, hep a, hep b, tdap, flu, and tb. Medical exemptions were granted for flu shot with doctor’s note, but that was it. In nine years of hiring hundreds of HCWs, I can remember two times a candidate bowed out over the vaccine requirements. This new anti-ax mentality is so so frustrating to watch.
Bookworm* September 3, 2021 at 6:33 am #1: I think the why to exemption matters. I’m not asking you to tell us, but unless it’s because you CANNOT get the vaccine (allergic to ingredients for example), please find a job that is remote. It’s not just about you. It’s about the (now former) co-workers, on-site staff, etc. and others you may come in contact with. AND they may live with children, immuno-compromised people, etc. You have to get vaccines to participate in many other things–school, military, travel/work in certain parts of the world. This isn’t different. We’re tired.
Eldritch Office Worker* September 3, 2021 at 8:53 am The why doesn’t matter. If you can’t get vaxxed, you need to get tested regularly. The virus doesn’t care what your reasoning is.
New Jack Karyn* September 3, 2021 at 12:57 pm Agreed, but if it’s a medical exemption, then I think the employer should pay for the tests.
Ktv123* September 3, 2021 at 6:35 am Allison. You have incredible tact and skill in calling people out thoughtfully. I appreciate this column so very much. I truly believe it has helped me be much more successful over the past few years.
CR* September 3, 2021 at 6:53 am #2 — IMO, it’s pretty arrogant to expect someone to write you a special thank you note because you spoke to them. Presumably he said thank you in person. Why on earth would he send a note?
Washi* September 3, 2021 at 8:00 am Well, if he wants to continue to have a professional relationship with this person, following up with a thank you note is a great way to solidify the connection and thank her for (and thus remind her of) the opportunities she said she could connect him to. So beyond just being an expression of gratitude for someone taking a full hour out of their day for his benefit, and beyond it showing a certain level of professional polish, it’s in his own best interest to write a thank you note/email. I think Allison’s wording is a great way to make this point.
Roscoe* September 3, 2021 at 8:37 am I think of it as more as a “nice thing to do” as opposed to an expectation. It may be in his best interest to do it, because it can help them be more memorable or something, but it shouldn’t be held against someone who doesn’t.
Bernita* September 3, 2021 at 8:53 am It might be a “nice thing to do” more generally but it seems like it’s definitely much more of an expectation in LW#2’s industry – so much so that a new person could not only tank their own chances at breaking in, but negatively impact the person who introduced them! “If he does the same [no thank-you note] to people I connect him to it might ding my reputation a little”. So the advice is two-fold: LW should not take the lack of a note personally, AND should let this person know thank you notes are necessary for success in this industry.
Roscoe* September 3, 2021 at 8:56 am I think that is a fair way to put it. I think its totally fine to say something like “FYI, in this industry, this is the standard and you will be judged by not doing it”, while not taking it as a personal insult like she is doing
AJL* September 3, 2021 at 7:05 am I am an attorney for a US hospital system, in a part of the country that is gripped in a COVID surge. I have also spent more time than I would like dealing with vaccines. The ADA and other employment laws come into play here. There are two reasons you can get an accommodation: medical contraindication; or sincerely-held religious belief. The science tells us that category one is very small, particularly since we have different types of vaccines from which to choose. (My health system is granting “deferrals” to pregnant people during the course of pregnancy; I don’t agree and the science says get vaccinated, but given that pregnant people hear “if you have a glass of wine or a sushi roll your baby will DIE,” I understand the angst.) Category 2 should also be vanishingly small if you are looking at actual religious doctrine, but there is a lot of abuse here. We can deny category 2 under Title VII of the ADA if accommodating the request not to get vaccinated would cause an undue hardship, but most employers won’t want to deal with the ensuing drama and allegations of religious persecution. It is important for OP 1 and others in her shoes to realize that an “exemption” isn’t a get out of jail free card – you still have to accept the resulting accommodation. At my employer an exemption means masking and face shields at all times, no exception; weekly testing; no ability to eat in shared breakrooms or similar spaces; etc. We are not going to let you breathe on patients or your coworkers. Other employers are requiring these folks to pay higher insurance premiums. There may be other appropriate measures employers are taking. Please get vaccinated. I am tired to my bones of watching case and death numbers climb, of seeing 20 somethings and little kids on vents, of holding the hands of my clinical colleagues while they sob from sheer, soul-crushing frustration and exhaustion. Please.
Stitch* September 3, 2021 at 8:05 am I understand why they’re grabtijg the deferrals to pregnant women but boy those women should rethink that. Delta is killing a lot of women in their late second and third trimesters.
AJL* September 3, 2021 at 9:22 am Agree 100%. We’ve already delivered too many babies early because unvaccinated mom was deathly ill or comatose.
Keymaster of Gozer (she/her)* September 3, 2021 at 1:55 pm I honestly didn’t know that was happening. That’s…dear god and people STILL deny this virus?
Irish girl* September 3, 2021 at 9:46 am Not only killing but also causing a large number of preterm births that have severe long term consequences for mom and baby. My friend had Covid while pregnant back after Christmas and at 23 weeks ended up on bed rest in the hospital and according to the DRs, should have lost her baby. Amazingly she did not and after 11 weeks in the hospital and 3 weeks home on bed rest she delivered her baby but he had to be in the NICU and is being watched for preterm birth delays. My friend on the other hand could barley walk after all the time in bed and from long term COVID that she jsut went back to work as a nurse after 4.5 months since delivery and only part time. They are both going to be dealing with the long term effects of COVID for years.
Theo* September 3, 2021 at 2:52 pm I *don’t* understand why they’re granting them — the vaccines have proved safe in pregnancy. A hospital system should know better.
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 6:36 pm Because these same systems have helped foster the kind of hysteria that AJL mentions. And because the trials specifically excluded pregnant people because it’s sooo dangerous and the first safety data simply ignored the whole thing, but you had LOTS doctors talking about how OF COURSE we have to wait to allow pregnant women to take the shots because we don’t know enough, blah blah blah. It’s the misogyny of the medical system coming back to bite us on a societal level, especially since these systems don’t want to admit how badly the have messed up over the years.
Observer* September 3, 2021 at 6:50 pm Well, the FDA needs to rethink its stance for that to happen. Here is what they say: ========================================================================= Q: Can pregnant or breastfeeding women receive Pfizer-BioNTech COVID-19 Vaccine? A: While there have been no specific studies in these groups, there is no contraindication to receipt of the vaccine for pregnant or breastfeeding women. Pregnant or breastfeeding women should discuss potential benefits and risks of vaccination with their healthcare provider. ========================================================================= It’s 9 MONTHS since they’ve allowed the Emergency Use Authorization. And they haven’t been able to come up with ONE study, or even ONE really solid statistical analysis?! The best that they can say is that “there is not contraindication”? Really? Of course women are worried! Rightly so! We’ve been told ad nauseum that if if hasn’t been proven to be safe it’s probably too dangerous to take. And often we’re told that we should allow ourselves to be ill for the sake of the child (sometime explicitly and sometimes by implication.) Like I said, the misogyny of our medical system is coming back to bite us. Because the few studies we do have indicate that it’s a LOT safer to take the vaccine than to get covid while pregnant. But we’ve created a culture where it’s hard to get that message through especially since the FDA apparently can’t be bothered to do the work needed – do the analysis, demand the data, and look at the analysis done bu others.
Elizabeth Jane* September 3, 2021 at 8:03 pm You won’t find a single controlled study on any vaccine and the effects on pregnancy because it would be unethical to do so. To determine if something is safe for pregnancy you have to assume that some of it would be unsafe and catastrophic. It’s a bit easier to explain with alcohol (this is relevant I promise). The statement on alcohol is “no amount has been proven safe” which does not mean “any amount of alcohol is unsafe”. It literally means “we have not proven the threshold for safe”. In scientific terms to prove the threshold with a peer reviewed and controlled study you’d have to take a group of pregnant women and have them drink until they caused a problem with their pregnancy. Which is hugely unethical. There are a lot of studies cobbled together based on things that women have reported doing while pregnant but nothing controlled. Vaccine studies are the same. You cannot ethically attempt to cause a problem in pregnancy to determine where that pregnancy threshold is. The flu shot or Tdap also haven’t been tested. Instead doctors use data from people they know are pregnant who have gotten the vaccine to determine safety and efficacy. All that being said there’s a lot of data about vaccinations and pregnancy. Vaccines are safe. Get your Covid shot.
Observer* September 4, 2021 at 9:13 pm Yes, there is a lot of data and it is weeeelllll past time for FDA to say that. They should be clear that based on the data we have, there is strong reason to believe that the vaccine is safe. But they won’t say that. They won’t even admit to the (too few) analysis of the data that does exist. And THAT is the problem I have. Blaming women for their attitude when the FDA uses this kind of language – and in a context where women are often blamed for thinking about their own health because MAYBE the baby something or other is ridiculous. This is true in general, not just about Covid. You mention alcohol. The fact is that you don’t necessarily need randomized laboratory controlled studies to be able to say what a safe level could be. But instead we act as though a women sipping a glass of wine IS going to have a child suffering from Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. That’s not a good way to practice medicine, and it’s an even worse way to manage public health.
Panhandlerann* September 3, 2021 at 11:46 am My 29-year-old niece, heretofore perfectly healthy, got COVID back in February (before folks in her age group were eligible to be vaccinated) when she was 9 months pregnant. The baby was born healthy in March. My niece has had major complications of COVID ever since February: pericarditis, POTS, small fiber neuropathy. She’s unable to work. Because of the income shortfall, she and her husband are probably going to lose their house. It’s so sad. I’m sure she would give anything if she’d been able to be vaccinated in time to prevent all this. Meanwhile, one of my brothers and his wife refuse to be vaccinated, despite seeing what has happened to their own niece. (It is, I think, a religious thing for them; they belong to a very conservative Christian denomination that thinks its way is the one and only way. I can only imagine the misinformation they’ve swallowed.) I am so angry about this entire situation.
agnes* September 3, 2021 at 7:26 am LDS mission—usually that occurs by taking an educational gap, so there’s nothing wrong with leaving it off your resume if you then returned to school and finished a degree. It will just look like it took you longer to graduate. Or you could do something like this BYU 2000-2006* BA, Psychology *includes 18 months of full time volunteer service abroad
C Average* September 3, 2021 at 7:46 am LW 1 makes my blood boil. My partner is a doctor, and we’re in the U.S. You wouldn’t believe the people from his distant past who have tracked him down because they’re looking for anyone with an M.D. after their name to issue a vague, BS medical exemption. As he explained to me, someone with a legit medical reason they CAN’T get vaccinated would desperately wish they COULD get vaccinated, and they’d be looking for every way possible to avoid exposure. Because if you’re medically fragile enough to have the vaccine contraindicated, you really really don’t want to get covid. The people who want to get “exemptions” so they can pretend covid isn’t a thing deserve all the contempt, and so do thhe doctors willing to issue the exemptions.
tinybutfierce* September 3, 2021 at 8:20 am Ugh, I’m so sorry your partner has to deal with that. That’s so beyond gross.
J.B.* September 3, 2021 at 9:55 am That is rough, I’m sorry he had to deal with that. I don’t get it I really don’t. I’m just praying school stays in person.
Policy Wonk* September 3, 2021 at 7:58 am LW2 – I would reach out on the norm of thank you notes first, and indicate you will connect him with your contacts if he agrees to send thank yous (and offer to give him guidance on how to draft.) You met with him, so should have a vibe for what kind of person he is, but in informational interview territory I have met enough entitled people who think we all owe them something that I would not use my capital to connect him with people until I knew he would appreciate it, and not simply expect it. LW4 – if you are still practicing, I recommend you reach out to the LDS community in the area you plan to relocate to for advice on this. They will know whether there is a bias or if, as Alison notes, it is simply that you don’t live there yet. (And don’t dismiss that it could also be that you aren’t part of the local “old boy” network. People often hire those they know, or those referred to them by friends.)
Stitch* September 3, 2021 at 8:02 am My Dad’s a pediatrician who works with some very sick kids. He’s both vaccinated and getting tested weekly to make sure he doesn’t get a breakthrough case and pass it to his patients as many are too young to be vaccinated.
Lynn* September 3, 2021 at 8:51 am My husband is a high school teacher (physics and astronomy) and he is doing the same, except he is getting tested every other week. And he doesn’t work with nearly the volume of high-risk people as your Dad. We are just grateful that his district is at least requiring masks, though they aren’t requiring vaccinations unfortunately.
Lynn* September 3, 2021 at 8:53 am Oops. Hit enter too soon. His tests are, however, paid for by his health insurance, so other than a bit of inconvenience it isn’t really much of a burden.
Anon in Canada* September 3, 2021 at 8:18 am Can we stop with this “don’t include an address” thing? It’s so naive and out of sync with the times. Even if you don’t include an address on your resume, the ATS is going to require it. As far as the “relocating to X” note, the ATS won’t have a field for it. Some people seem to have their heads in the sand about how ubiquitous ATSs are – all but the tiniest companies have them by now. As for attempts to seem local when you’re not: if you have current, non-remote employment, this not only won’t work, it will backfire. The employer will know were you are from the location field of your current employment, and such a lie will be so obvious – it will instantly torpedo your candidacy. You can only fudge your location if you’re not employed, or if your current work is remote.
Eldritch Office Worker* September 3, 2021 at 8:56 am Not all companies use an ATS (in fact I just spent the majority of a year job hunting and most did not). I don’t think the point is to seem local, but to get far enough into the process to explain you’re relocating.
Anon in Canada* September 3, 2021 at 10:06 am This might be field-specific (small nonprofits, maybe?) In my field (financial services), there is not a single company that doesn’t have an ATS. My point is only very tiny companies still recruit by having candidates email a resume and cover letter. The vast majority of jobs will require the use of an ATS or other type of application that will ask for an address, so the advice to “leave it off” is unfeasible, and even tone-deaf.
londonedit* September 3, 2021 at 9:59 am I didn’t even know what an ATS was until I started visiting this website. In my country, and my industry, I’ve never once been asked to even fill in an application form, let alone apply via a website. It’s always been CV and cover letter and I can’t see that changing any time soon.
Blinded By the Gaslight* September 3, 2021 at 3:31 pm You also shouldn’t include your address for privacy reasons. I’ve been involved in and lead multiple recruitments and search committees, and it’s possible for a candidate’s application materials to be printed and emailed to multiple people. That’s your address laying around someone’s office, getting carelessly thrown in the trash, accidentally emailed to someone, etc. Not to mention, depending on public records laws in your area, if your resume is presented at a meeting – say, to a City Council – it can become part of public record, requestable by the public, and unable to be redacted because it was shared publicly and out of the context of “personnel records.” So . . . don’t include your address on your resume/CV. It’s unnecessary at best.
Anon in Canada* September 3, 2021 at 7:05 pm I’m not saying that everyone is required to put their address on their resume – I’m saying that if the company has an ATS (and the vast majority of jobs are at companies that do) you’ll be required to provide it no matter what, because the ATS will ask for it. So even if it’s not on the resume, the employer will have it and will be able to factor it into their hiring decisions (e.g. rejecting all non-local candidates).
Roscoe* September 3, 2021 at 8:20 am #2. Did he thank you for your time after you left? I feel like the expectation of a separate thank you note is pretty antiquated and petty. This isn’t a wedding, this was an informal meeting. Would it have been nice? Of course. But wanting to punish him over something this minor is ridiculous. This to me has nothing to do with his race or background. I just feel this is a power trip on your end more than anything else.
I'm just here for the cats!* September 3, 2021 at 8:21 am I do agree with Alison’s advice for LW1. But I can see why they don’t want to have to pay for testing. I think COVID 19 should be free. LW check to see if there are any free COVID testing in your area.
LDN Layabout* September 3, 2021 at 8:33 am With the way the Delta variant is spreading and LW1’s attitude, I’m sure they’ll discover COVID 19 is free any day now.
I'm just here for the cats!* September 3, 2021 at 10:40 am I don’t understand what you are getting at with your comment that COVID 19 is free. I just think that testing should be free so there are less barriers for people to get tested. I am fortunate that where I work there is also a free covid testing site for the community that does both the antigen and the PCR (?) tests. I wish there were more sites like this around the country.
What She Said* September 3, 2021 at 12:10 pm I think you may have left a word out “I think COVID 19 should be free”. I think you meant to type “I think COVID 19 TESTING should be free”. Your comment as written implies getting the VIRUS is free. LDN was making a joke that since LW1 doesn’t want to pay for testing and based on your comment implying the virus was free well…..do you get it now? Maybe, maybe not….. And yes, the vaccine and testing for the virus should be free.
Junior Assistant Peon* September 3, 2021 at 8:32 am #4 – I know of a situation where a newly-graduated PhD scientist (whose hiring process takes a lot longer than the usual 2 weeks’ notice period for a working professional) showed up for their first day of work at a company that had just been bought. Apparently, the people involved in the hiring had been laid off suddenly after the acquisition, and were hustled out quickly without any transition planning. The poor guy just showed up for his first day of work with no one expecting him!
Reba* September 3, 2021 at 10:12 am Oh no! A coworker of my SO was apparently forgotten in the shuffle of an acquisition. He was remote, and he was moved to a new team, but just never really…assigned any work. So he had three nice months to do a paid job search.
Michelle Smith* September 3, 2021 at 10:42 am That’s horrible!! Did they onboard him or send him away?
Junior Assistant Peon* September 3, 2021 at 10:58 am I understand they found him a job at another company site, and as a new PhD who had just moved to the location for the job, it was pretty easy to move him again. I just noticed I meant to reply to OP 3, not OP 4.
Purple Cat* September 3, 2021 at 8:33 am My only surprise on OP1 is that the company isn’t paying for the tests, but it does make sense. My employer currently pays for tests to clear people who have been exposed to return to work. We also cover uniforms, safety boots, PPE, etc (which seems to not be a given reading through other comments). If the vaccine is mandated though (and free in the US) it does seem unfair for the company to have to bear the burden of this employee’s choice – and it’s clear from their combative language it is a choice.
Eldritch Office Worker* September 3, 2021 at 9:00 am Agreed. We pay if it’s a work exposure, but if someone travels out of state for personal reasons we require a test before they return to the office and we don’t pay for that. This seems like the same principle to me. Personal behavior incurs a personal cost.
OhNoYouDidn't* September 3, 2021 at 8:44 am I couldn’t love Alison’s response to LW#1 more. Kudos for to her for her straight to the point, call the person out on their BS stance. <3
BlueAnon* September 3, 2021 at 8:47 am I will neverrrrrrrrrr understand people getting miffed about thank you notes. I’m 10 years into my career and I think I’ve sent maybe 2. Did I lose out on some jobs somewhere in there? Maybe. But I don’t think I would want to work for someone who cut me just because I didn’t send a thank you note. And to be worked up because someone didn’t send one for an informal meeting you agreed to? Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeesh.
Roscoe* September 3, 2021 at 8:59 am Totally agree. If you are going to not give me a job because I didn’t send you an email after, me and you probably woudn’t work all that well together anyway and we are both better off
Nanani* September 3, 2021 at 10:33 am Yes, agreed. Especially when this doesn’t sound like a situation applicable to the follow-up notes, that are the true nature of “thank you notes”, but a literal thank you note. I mean, come on. Did they act politely in the meeting itself? Good. Not magically knowing every etiquette rule is not actually a strike, but holding people to invisible standards is.
ecnaseener* September 3, 2021 at 8:51 am LW2: It sounds like you were genuinely eager to do this guy a few favors — but when a certain amount of time elapsed without a thank you note, you lost that desire to be helpful. I think it’s worth examining where that comes from. Of course it’s nice to be thanked, but do you want your generous impulses to be conditional on being thanked in a specific traditional way?
EmpAtty* September 3, 2021 at 8:51 am I’m a long time reader who never comments. I’m just here to say bravo to Alison’s answer to LW1.
whistle* September 3, 2021 at 8:55 am I’m gonna push back on all the commenters saying that the healthcare employer should pay for testing if the vaccine exemption is for medical reasons. Someone who cannot/will not get the vaccine should not be patient-facing at this point, regardless of the reason they can’t/won’t get the vaccine. Lots of people can’t do specific careers for reasons that are not their fault.
Eldritch Office Worker* September 3, 2021 at 8:58 am Millions of healthcare field jobs aren’t patient facing, the LW doesn’t specify but the phrase “healthcare company” makes me assume they are doing something adjacent but office based.
Tali* September 5, 2021 at 11:08 pm I don’t think those are mutually exclusive. I agree that unvaccinated people should not be patient-facing regardless of their reason. Also non-patient-facing unvaccinated people should be regularly tested. I don’t think any tests should charge the patient, in order to encourage people to get tested, but if they must charge, I think the employer requiring the test should cover it. The result is that risk is minimized because patients don’t interact with unvaccinated people, and unvaccinated people are regularly tested to minimize spread among the people they DO interact with.
Duc Anonymous* September 3, 2021 at 9:26 am I don’t know where this person is located, but I’m in an area with 5 large university health systems. They all seem to have arrived at the same policy for this. Where I work, there are two approaches to unvaccinated workers: 1. Medical exemptions are required to mask, distance, and regularly test through employee heath at no cost. 2. Religion/conscience exemptions require the same things but the testing is not free. It’s discounted through employee health. We accept outside test results directly from the clinic or lab, but not where they could be typed up in Word or something. I’m in administration now, so no direct patient care, but I used to work in Employee/ Occupational Health. We had so many new hires argue these requirements and it’s just insane. These polices are designed to protect as many as possible, we make adherence easy, and real exemptions are granted, but not often.
YoungPublicServant* September 3, 2021 at 9:28 am Re Letter 2 – I’m currently a young professional going on frequent informational chats within my broader government organization. Usually I end the chat by saying how grateful I am for their time, in which case I haven’t been sending follow-up e-mails… Sometimes they offer to connect me with someone else, or I’ll send them someone’s contact from my organization, in which case I’ll re-iterate the thank you via e-mail. But is it really not okay to just be thankful during the chat and not send a follow-up e-mail?
lilsheba* September 3, 2021 at 9:37 am #1 — I 100 percent agree with Allison. And this is going to be required by every company eventually so you will have to get used to it. About the only way I could see avoiding it is maybe working from home.
Chaordic One* September 3, 2021 at 9:43 am #2 My first reactions was, “Okay, Boomer.” But really, it’s not that big of a deal anymore. It would certainly have been nice if he had sent you a thank you note, but I really don’t think it is expected. Times change. #4 Leave your religious mission off of the resume. You can never underestimate subtle religious prejudice.
Mental Lentil* September 3, 2021 at 9:53 am It’s not an age issue. I’ve received thank you notes/emails from people of all ages, and I’ve also not received thank you notes/emails from people of all ages. It’s more a matter of whether or not you’ve been trained to do that.
Roscoe* September 3, 2021 at 10:39 am Its not an age issue, per se, but I do think its a tradition from years ago that just isn’t as relevant anymore. I feel that people of a certain generation will EXPECT one more, even though people of all ages may or may not write them. Like, I just don’t see a 30 year old being put off that someone didn’t send one, whereas people my mom’s age I definitely could see being a bit miffed about it and reacting like OP
Colette* September 3, 2021 at 10:11 am How important a thank you not is is not determined by the recipient of the favour.
T. Boone Pickens* September 3, 2021 at 11:37 am Depending on the industry, thank you notes are still very much ‘a thing’ (and OP 2’s industry seems to be one of those.)
MistOrMister* September 3, 2021 at 9:50 am Re OP1 – of course you should expect to be let go immediately if you put in your notice the day the new policy goes into effect. My assumption of the way the policy would work is that if you’re unvaccinated and you would need to submit your negative test results before work each Monday. I further assume that if you go in on Monday with no test results, you’ll be sent home and told to use leave for that day and any further days until you submit a negative result. I also guess that eventually you would be fired because you would run out of leave. Or, if your employer has a rule that you can only call out X number of days or X days in a row, you will run afoul of that rule. If those things are all true and the employer is actually going to enforce the testing mandate, then it just makes sense that if you go in without a negative test on the 13th and give notice, that they’re going to say your last day will be effective immediately. It makes no sense for them to do otherwise. If we assume that the unvaccinated who don’t provide negative tests will not be allowed in the workplace, what possible reason would they have for keeping you on for the notice period? You wouldn’t be allowed in the office and therefore wouldn’t be allowed to work (I am assuming they are requiring this testing because its an in-person job that can’t be done remotely), so there would be no reason to keep you as an employee at that point. The only thing I think you could hope for is that they would pay out whatever leave you have in the bank and that they would make your last day effective immediately but would list you as resigned instead of fired in their files. Although they would likely put you on a list of people who are not eligible for re-hire since in effect your actions would amount to quitting without notice. But expecting to be able to continue going in for the notice period is unreasonable. And expecting them to pay you for the notice period while you’re not allowed to be in the office is unreasonable as well. You’d be better served putting in your notice today so you at least could work part of the 2 weeks. But really, this is probably going to be hard for you to get around if you stay in healthcare. On a personal note, I fully support my office if, once we go back, they take the same stance. If someone has a medical exemption I would hope the firm would pay for their weekly testing. But if the exemption is for any other reason, I see no problem putting the burden of cost for testing on the employee. Quite frankly, I applaud any place that has this sort of policy and enforces it, up to and including firing those who won’t comply. This is not just about your personal safety, it’s about safeguarding the health of coworkers and their families. No one wants to be part of an outbreak…
WFH with Cat* September 3, 2021 at 10:03 am LW 1 – I hope you realize that a lot of the frustration and push-back to your letter comes from the sense that you simply don’t want to foot the extra expenses created by your refusal to be vaccinated. This seems to be a common attitude among anti-vaxxers — that they should not be burdened in any way whatsoever, whether with testing costs or having to wear uncomfortable masks or having to stay at home instead of going to work when sick — and many people are fed up with it. That frustration is leading to many calls (not here on AAM but across social media) for people who refuse to be vaccinated to be denied hospital care for COVID. I am *not* saying that I agree with that stance — and I certainly do not want you or anyone else to catch this terrible (and largely preventable) disease. But you need to own up to the horrendous burdens you are forcing others to carry by refusing to be vaccinated and/or tested. Children who can’t be vaccinated are dying of COVID. Adults who (genuinely) cannot be vaccinated are dying of COVID. People with other, treatable conditions can’t get life-saving medical care because hospitals are overwhelmed by COVID patients who, like you, refuse to take even the smallest steps to protect others. Families are losing loved ones to all kinds of illnesses due to the selfish behavior of anti-vaxxers. The extra costs you don’t want to pay may begin with testing, but they end in hospital bills and funeral expenses. Shame on you. (Alison, sorry for the rant. But I just could not *not* respond.)
LDN Layabout* September 3, 2021 at 10:53 am The incredibly ugly irony is that the same people who cried ‘death panels’ regarding socialised medical systems are the same demographic who are likely going to force them into existence in the US because a number of regions are at the point where they’re going to have to made tough decisions about the treatment of unvaccinated covid patients with the beds/staff available and other patient needs.
lilsheba* September 3, 2021 at 12:14 pm I have a friend who was a nurse until just recently, and is one of those who balks against having to be vaccinated for their job, actually called the vaccine poison, said it wasn’t approved blah blah blah. Well guess what she got covid, and she passed it to another friend who lives nearby (now in the hospital) and that person’s son is positive. Prime example of one person’s refusal to vaccinate, and it having effects on others around her. Just get the shot.
WFH with Cat* September 3, 2021 at 12:52 pm Damn. That’s bad. I hope all three come thru it okay … and that your anti-vax friend learns from her experience.
a tester, not a developer* September 3, 2021 at 10:04 am LW 1 is lucky it’s only weekly testing – my company requires a rapid test every time you come into the office.
Eldritch Office Worker* September 3, 2021 at 10:06 am Interesting! Do they pay for that? How often are you expected to come in?
a tester, not a developer* September 3, 2021 at 12:12 pm It’s covered by either the province or our employer (I’m in Canada, so never thought of someone having to pay out of pocket to get tested TBH). Our company is large enough that there are some teams that have had to have someone in the office daily all through lockdowns, while others (like mine) have been fully remote and plan to stay that way going forward. I’m vaccinated but immunocompromised. If I was unable to get vaccinated due to my medical situation I wouldn’t want to be coming in to the office, rapid testing or not.
overcaffeinatedandqueer* September 3, 2021 at 10:10 am I generally avoid vaccines that aren’t strictly necessary, because I’m allergic to egg derived shots, and most vaccines seem to activate a painful skin condition flare (severe eczema/psoriasis or something autoimmune). But for this, I got the COVID shot anyway. I had about a week of referred pain shooting from the site down my arm all the way to my hand. And developed a huge under-skin welt at the injection site, as well as overall making my skin issues much more prevalent and painful for a week afterwards. But it was worth it, to be able to see my grandmother in her nursing home without worrying about killing her.
Sporty Yoda* September 3, 2021 at 10:17 am Interesting; I’ve always heard it’s totally safe for people with egg allergies to get the COVID vaccine because it wasn’t egg derived. No matter; thank you for getting vaccinated despite the personal pain/discomfort/risks
WFH with Cat* September 3, 2021 at 11:02 am There was a discussion early (on this thread, I think, but somewhere in AAM) that said there are egg-free COVID vaccines but they are not available everywhere. I know it’s too late for you, but wanted to make you aware if you know anyone who is hesitant about the COVID vaccine due to an egg allergy. That aside, thank you for getting the shots despite the difficulties you experienced! And I hope your grandmother is doing well. Best to you both.
UKDancer* September 3, 2021 at 12:35 pm My understanding is that all the Covid vaccines are egg free. Some flu vaccines are made with egg. Some people think that because flu is made with egg all vaccines are but that’s a misunderstanding.Co That’s not to say there aren’t other ingredients that can cause a bad reaction in Covid vaccines.
anon4eva* September 3, 2021 at 3:57 pm Vaccinated folks can still have breakthru cases and spread COVID, although it’s much harder if you’re asymptomatic.
Sporty Yoda* September 3, 2021 at 10:13 am LW 4: is it possible you can say that you were doing “missionary work” (since you will be in the Bible Belt where I’m assuming some time doing missionary stuff isn’t super unheard of) without mentioning the religion? Or as others have suggested, 18mo volunteering? I can see it both ways; 18 years is a long time to be unemployed and if I were hiring I would want it explained, but I’m also in a more liberal area that doesn’t care that much about religion and honestly don’t care if you were volunteering abroad because of a religious requirement or just because you felt like taking a gap year.
El l* September 3, 2021 at 10:39 am LW 5: OP’s attitude is confusing. Did the promotion give them enough responsibility and money – or not? They’re fixated on salary ranges, when they should be focused on that bottom line. Yes or no. Then act accordingly.
Firecat* September 3, 2021 at 10:43 am At a lot of places if you come in on the high range you are ineligible for raises so it makes sense to me.
El l* September 3, 2021 at 10:54 am OK, that makes sense, that’s a part of their decision. I found their attitude confusing because OP was notably silent on whether the promotion had achieved the other objective – more responsibility.
Delta Delta* September 3, 2021 at 10:40 am Re: thank you notes – I write them because I just do that. Probably years of writing notes as a kid thanking grandma for the new sweater or thanking uncle so and so for the Christmas present. If I help out someone and they thank me, I appreciate it. If they don’t send a note I probably don’t notice, especially if they verbally thanked me during the interaction. I will say, though, that as a lawyer, there’s a lot of referral work that goes on between lawyers. I always thank other lawyers for referring work to me, and many do the same. If a long time goes by and I refer several clients to Lawyer X, and they never acknowledge my referrals, I generally steer referrals elsewhere.
Firecat* September 3, 2021 at 10:42 am #1 I do think it’s crap that healthcare companies are requiring you to pay for testing, which suggests to me that the testing must be done on your own time and isn’t offered on site. Healthcare has been absolutely battered in the US, not just because of the virus but a lot of it is because Administration has cut, slashed, and bashed whatever moral, benefits, and staff were left to save their own jobs and pay in the wake of declining elective surgeries. I can see being told that, on top of every other sacrifice we’ve made since 2020, the hundreds of hours of overtime we’ve put in, that you now have to go get tested every week on your own time and dime as being the last straw. I’m vaccinated and burnt out and this is why I left the hospital in 2020. Fear of the virus and the desire to save people was high but you can only watch the cushy execs furlough nurses left and right for so long before you just don’t care anymore.
ceiswyn* September 3, 2021 at 12:25 pm Except that LW1 wouldn’t have to get tested if they’d just get the dang vaccine. The ‘time and dime’ of testing is entirely their own decision.
Come On Eileen* September 3, 2021 at 10:42 am The exemption process for the vaccine is interesting and will continue to evolve, I’m sure. I had an adverse reaction to a flu vaccine when I was 30 that has left me with nerve damage. They called it post-vaccination demylenating syndrome (similar to Guillian-Barre, but never resolved). I’ve been having conversations with allergists at my health care provider to understand how risky the COVID vaccine might be for me, and also asked if I would qualify for a medical exemption. In my head I thought it was fairly obvious – documented adverse reaction to a vaccine in my medical history! But it’s not, and the allergist explained that medical exemptions have to meet a fairly limited set of criteria, and I’m not one of them. It’s been a really enlightening process for me! She assured me that the risk of a similar reaction is quite low and that I should get the vaccine.
middle name danger* September 3, 2021 at 10:51 am My sister has similar severe allergies and they had her get her vaccine at a hospital instead of a vaccine center or pharmacy, and doubled the waiting period where you sit and get monitored for a reaction. Responsible doctors want EVERYONE who possibly can to get vaccinated.
ScruffyInternHerder* September 3, 2021 at 12:00 pm Same. Because the treatments for Covid have worse potential outcomes, even when weighing in my allergy list.
Me* September 3, 2021 at 12:55 pm That’s very enlightening, thank you for sharing. I’m sorry for your experience. I’m sure it must make for a scary decision even taking into account the experts. Take care!
middle name danger* September 3, 2021 at 10:50 am LW1, you can’t have seriously expected Alison to be sympathetic to you, given everything she’s written regarding COVID in the workplace over the last year and a half?
jane's nemesis* September 3, 2021 at 11:44 am right, like what blog did that person think they were writing in to?
ChemistryChick* September 3, 2021 at 11:46 am I guarantee LW1 didn’t ready any of the blog before sending that question.
Luminous Blue* September 3, 2021 at 10:53 am In the best of all possible worlds, employers would be paying for mandatory COVID testing or offering testing time while on the clock. [https://www.shrm.org/resourcesandtools/legal-and-compliance/employment-law/pages/should-employers-pay-for-mandatory-covid-19-testing.aspx] However, if that’s not an option at your company and there are no free testing sites near you [https://www.hhs.gov/coronavirus/community-based-testing-sites/index.html] then yes, you need to pay for it. It is worth the $28 box of BINAX home tests from CVS to make sure you’re not passing along a highly infectious disease to the people you work with. Even if you hate them all for some reason, think about the potential for them infecting their friends and family. COVID is too big and too dangerous to play around with.
CommanderBanana* September 3, 2021 at 10:54 am LW#3, please tell the person you hired! I’ve been in that situation twice and honestly, it sucks.
Annony* September 3, 2021 at 11:02 am #3: I work at a hospital. The policy here is that if someone is unvaccinated (with a valid exception) and does not get tested, they are suspended without pay until they either get vaccinated or tested. I don’t know at what point they would be officially fired.
Eirene* September 3, 2021 at 11:24 am Ooh, someone’s not vaccinated by choice and feeling salty about it, aren’t we?
Rusty Shackelford* September 3, 2021 at 11:46 am I’d hope they’d terminate on the spot anyone who’s unvaccinated who also refuses to get tested, since you’d be explicitly saying that you’re not willing to take even minor steps to avoid infecting and potentially killing other people in your workplace. What a very odd stance for you to take. Don’t penalize him for not following every guideline in a playbook that he may not have been given. Well, Alison made me want to applaud twice today!
HailRobonia* September 3, 2021 at 11:46 am I’d also worry that this anti-vax person will get a fraudulent test. I am sure there are all sorts of fake test services out there.
Oh Behave* September 3, 2021 at 11:56 am LW 1 Isn’t it possible they have a valid exemption to the vaccine??? If so, why should they pay for a weekly test the company requires?? Testing is free in my state.
doreen* September 3, 2021 at 12:07 pm I live in NYC and the legal requirement is for staff and customers to have at least one dose for indoor dining, indoor fitness and indoor entertainment. Unvaccinated people can still go to the pharmacy or the supermarket and work outside the home – unless the pharmacy/supermarket/employer has imposed a vaccination requirement. Some employers are requiring either vaccination or frequent testing – but I have not heard about any pharmacy or supermarket that is requiring customers to be vaccinated.
Sunny* September 3, 2021 at 12:44 pm LW#2 Also, unfortunately, men are less likely to be taught to send thank you notes. Growing up, I remember writing them, but don’t remember my much older brother having to write them.
Nanani* September 3, 2021 at 4:44 pm Again, this is a social thing. “Thank you notes” for intervews are not the same thing as thankyou notes for gifts and other social things.
photon* September 3, 2021 at 1:28 pm My employer isn’t letting unvaccinated people enter the office at all, unless they have specific medical exemption. As it should be.
Allison* September 3, 2021 at 1:47 pm LW #1, those tests do not look like fun, they look painful and invasive, and I’m so glad the only test I’ve had to take (so far) as been the less invasive, but still vaguely unpleasant, rapid test at a local CVS testing site (which was free, by the way). That said, your employer was very fair in giving you an alternative to getting the vaccine, and if you honestly won’t do either one, then yes, it’s completely reasonable that they fire you. This is a healthcare setting, and they have a duty to ensure patient safety.
Ask a Manager* Post authorSeptember 3, 2021 at 1:49 pm Just in case anyone shies away from testing for that reason: I just had one this past weekend, not painful or invasive at all! Small cotton swab in your nose (not far up AT ALL, barely inside the nostril), swirl it around, done.
Speaks to Dragonflies* September 3, 2021 at 1:54 pm Yeah, the swabbing wasn’t that bad. Not trying to sound gross, but it kinda cleaned things out up there and made it easier to breathe.
Domino* September 3, 2021 at 2:29 pm Eh, I don’t know. Maybe tests have changed since I got one in summer 2020, but I found it *extremely* painful. The pressure was so intense that there were pre-fainting white spots in my field of vision. And I’m not squeamish about needles or anything (I give blood regularly). Maybe it depends on the specific testing kit, the person administering it, and the inner anatomy of the person receiving it, but boy oh boy, was that not fun for me. That said! It was only a few seconds of my life, and if I have to do it again, I will, without question. It’s called being an adult, a concept LW1 will never understand.
Metadata minion* September 3, 2021 at 2:40 pm You probably had the kind where they go alllll the way back up your nose? Those are notoriously painful, but almost all testing sites these days are doing regular nasal swab or cheek swab tests,.
Domino* September 3, 2021 at 4:51 pm Yep, that’s the one. I’m relieved to hear that those are mostly over!
Just Another Zebra* September 3, 2021 at 2:51 pm They’re definitely better now. My family had to get one fairly early on and I’m pretty sure they swabbed my brain. Got a second one in February, not nearly as rough. My then two-year-old got one and was OK.
quill* September 3, 2021 at 3:09 pm Yeah, most people are now getting a variant on the rapid tests / shallow nose swab tests. In Mid 2020 the most reliable and widely available test was the one that, as Zebra mentioned, nearly swabbed the brain.
Mental Lentil* September 3, 2021 at 2:20 pm Same here. I’ve had several COVID tests, and while it is not the most fun thing in the world to do with your nostrils, it is highly tolerable: Protip: trim your nose hairs first.
Sola Lingua Bona Lingua Mortua Est* September 3, 2021 at 4:28 pm I had to hold my breath to keep from sneezing. O mores! O tempora!
Metadata minion* September 3, 2021 at 2:39 pm I get tested weekly through work; can confirm that it’s painless. If you’re *very* ticklish or have extremely sensitive skin I could see it being uncomfortable, but otherwise it’s a mild administrative hassle to have to walk over to the testing site once a week. If you have ever rubbed your nose while you had a cold, that was probably significantly more uncomfortable than a nasal swab.
quill* September 3, 2021 at 3:07 pm The deep nasal exploration type of test seems to have fallen out of favor since late 2020, probably because people prefer the barely in the nostril swab.
Happy* September 3, 2021 at 3:16 pm Some are like that, and some are more like a flu test (I’ve experienced both). I would categorize the second type as a bit painful and invasive, but I’m a huge wimp. (Still important to get tested when necessary either way, though. Sometimes we have to do unpleasant things.)
YouwantmetodoWHAT?! * September 3, 2021 at 2:19 pm Nah, not painful. Weird & uncomfortable for sure, but not painful. I’ve had a few.
HannahS* September 3, 2021 at 2:27 pm I’ve had a bunch of the deeper swabs (I do patient care; if I screen positive on any given day I have to get one and can’t work until I have the results). I’d say they’re in realm of unpleasant-but-not-hideous. It’s not, like, a massage, but in the range of invasive tests and procedures that people go through in regular health maintenance (PAP smear, flu shot, blood draw) it was the least unpleasant because it’s over really fast. Not a big deal. I don’t know about the rapid ones; we don’t have them at my facility yet.
ele4phant* September 3, 2021 at 2:30 pm Personally, I don’t find even the most invasive (the PCR tests administered by a healthcare professional where they REALLY get up in there) to be that bad. Just feels like I need to sneeze and I can’t. The nasal swabs you administer yourself are even less bad. Heck, there is even a walk up kiosk near my house that has a spit version. But, for anyone that *really* doesn’t want to get a test, the vaccines are free and safe, so unless you have a very specific medical concern and your doctor agrees, just get vaccinated.
Foofoo* September 3, 2021 at 2:33 pm You know what’s more invasive and painful than a test swab up the snoot? Intubation.
Recruited Recruiter* September 3, 2021 at 2:21 pm I’m guessing we will all see this again, when Allison puts out the top commented posts of the year. LW 1, your lack of care for your fellow humans is appalling, especially in your healthcare setting. I am guessing that you won’t find another healthcare employer that does not have at least an equivalent of this rule.
Jennifer Juniper* September 3, 2021 at 2:22 pm LW1, where do you live? Where I live, you can’t go anywhere without tripping over a free covid test site.
Jennifer Juniper* September 3, 2021 at 2:23 pm I’m guessing your exemption is medical and you’re worried about the expense of the test.
ceiswyn* September 3, 2021 at 2:31 pm See Alison’s update at the top of the comments. LW1 is a conspiracy covidiot who just doesn’t want to test.
ele4phant* September 3, 2021 at 2:33 pm Nope, as the pinned comment from Alison shows, their exemption is not medical and honestly, I think they are using the cost as an excuse. I’m sure if their employer was paying for testing they would still be in a huff and end up quitting. Some BS about privacy and personal choice and COVID not being that big a deal.
Domino* September 3, 2021 at 2:31 pm LW1’s sense of entitled can only be measured in lightyears. His position is equivalent to being a porn star who refuses to get tested for HIV. Nope nope nope, get fired and go away, please and thanks.
BlackLodge* September 3, 2021 at 5:19 pm Did Alison publish LW #1’s follow up email and I’m just not seeing it?
Wants Green Things* September 3, 2021 at 6:40 pm No, she didn’t publish it. She just mentioned it in the stickied post at the top of the comments. No poing in giving such views any more air time.
BlackLodge* September 3, 2021 at 8:05 pm Thanks! I agree that he shouldn’t get a venue for his BS, but I didn’t want to miss a link if there was one :)
SilentStars* September 3, 2021 at 6:54 pm I have a question related to LW1: What would be the best way to ask a potential employer about their COVID policies? My current employer runs on the honor system (no masks if your vaxxed but they don’t make you prove it) and I would really LIKE to be working somewhere that mandates (as much as they legally can). This is not my sole reason for wanting to leave this job, but it will definitely affect what offers I choose to entertain. (And I AM vaxxed and still masking at work, fwiw).
Enginuity* September 4, 2021 at 12:29 pm I’d simply ask “What policies have you put in place to keep employees safe while COVID is still a risk?” and then any follow-up you want after that. Reasonable employers shouldn’t take offense to that, and if someone does, then I’m guessing that’s not a place/manager you’d want to work for.
Long time caller... first time listener* September 5, 2021 at 3:50 pm OP2: nooooooooooo!!!!! You are NOT in a position to give this person some casual advice about not sending a thank you note. You are upset at him for not doing it and are considering an action that even you say is “petty.” There is a decent chance that you will not convey this message as it needs to be conveyed. It’s too bad because everything else about this situation screams that you’d be the person to help. But your mindset around this makes that absolutely a terrible idea.
Long time caller... first time listener* September 5, 2021 at 3:56 pm OP4: is it obvious you are a member of LDS when somebody googles you? Are you done with your mission and never going to do another one? If the answer to both is yes, you should disclose all of this. Why? Because Mormons who have not gone on missions are notorious at a lot of employers for leaving their jobs with extremely minimal notice. In the past decade, I’ve had seven co-workers leave for missions with one week or less notice (although one was not an LDS mission). It’s probably illegal discrimination to not hire people based on this, and we don’t discriminate in this way, but surely many people do. You should probably be okay if you’re not hired by somebody who hates your religion — that’s dodging a bullet. (Okay at the micro-level; from a society-wide perspective, this is terrible.) But if you can avoid not getting hired because people take into account the practical (if illegal) consideration that people are often asked to leave on missions with just a few days notice, then you probably should do that.
Tali* September 5, 2021 at 11:16 pm Huh?? Why would OP disclose their religion so that employers can discriminate against them because of inconveniences caused by other people of their religion, in other words discriminate against them because of their religion?? Even if we were to debate the morality of hiring someone likely to inconvenience you based on what you assume about their religion, that is not in OP’s best interest to disclose. OP is the one who wrote in for advice.
Donkey Hotey* September 7, 2021 at 11:35 am “Mormons who have not gone on missions are notorious… for leaving their jobs with minimal notice.” The next sentence you say you’ve had seven co-workers leave for missions with no notice. So, what you’re saying is that in your experience “Mormons who have -not yet- gone on a mission” are the flight risk, not adult Mormons who have never gone on a mission. What this overlooks is that the great majority of missionaries are in the 19-21 age range. For people in that age range, it is common for them to leave with minimal notice, Mormon or not.
BabyElephant* September 7, 2021 at 2:37 pm #1 i try not to absolutely rip into people, but you kind of are being a suckfest here. get the freaking vaccine or go work at hobby lobby. idk man. people like you are really ruining things for everyone else.