September 2023

weekend open thread – September 30-October 1, 2023

This comment section is open for any non-work-related discussion you’d like to have with other readers, by popular demand. Here are the rules for the weekend posts. Book recommendation of the week: The Whispers, by Ashley Audrain. A neighborhood tries to figure out what happened when the young son of a woman known for losing her […]

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it’s your Friday good news

It’s your Friday good news! 1.  “Last year, I was in a very toxic job — my boss was not very good at his job and had constant turnover, and I ended up doing work that was very much not what I wanted to be doing (think taking over the very routine stuff after yet […]

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open thread – September 29-30, 2023

It’s the Friday open thread! The comment section on this post is open for discussion with other readers on any work-related questions that you want to talk about (that includes school). If you want an answer from me, emailing me is still your best bet*, but this is a chance to take your questions to […]

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I didn’t get hired because I wasn’t “high energy” enough, telling a coworker to rein in their aggravation, and more

It’s four answers to four questions. Here we go… 1. I didn’t get hired because I wasn’t “high energy” enough I interviewed with a start-up recently and I think it went well: the standard recruiter call, the hiring manager call, then a call with a would-be colleague who I’d work in parallel with. The day […]

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how do you find a lawyer for workplace issues?

A reader writes: You’ve written before about the scenarios where it might be wise to speak to a lawyer regarding issues at work. Could you talk a little bit about how to find a lawyer for that kind of thing? Is there a speciality or title folks should be looking for? Is it just a […]

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share your tips for work travel overseas

It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: I’m going to be traveling for work (30+ hours of flights including layovers) after a few-year hiatus related to the pandemic. I usually fly overseas and I’m wondering if the readers have any travel tips? I usually try to pack food after getting food poisoning […]

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an employee 2 levels down refused to meet with me

A reader writes: I am a division director at a large organization. I have three direct reports who collectively oversee about 30 staff, at levels ranging from entry-level, hourly office admins to seasoned managers earning six-figure salaries. Every year, I meet once one-on-one with everyone who is not on my leadership team just to check […]

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my intern asked if my pregnancy was planned

A reader writes: I’m pregnant with my first child. I’m just finishing my first trimester and have been sharing the news with colleagues. I’m wondering what, if anything, I should do in response to my intern’s reaction. Like everyone else I manage, I told her one-on-one behind closed doors. Her response was really odd — […]

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