I’m poly — can I ask to bring both my partners to work events? by Alison Green on July 31, 2023 A reader writes: I know you’ve answered a couple of questions from managers of polyamorous employees who want to bring more than one partner to events, but as a relatively junior employee … what would be the best way to go about asking if it’s okay to bring two people? My institution (higher ed) throws […] Read the full article →
how do you balance two “big” jobs in a family? by Alison Green on July 20, 2023 It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: How do you sensibly balance two “big” jobs in a relationship? My husband is an executive at a high-profile company, and I am the head of a small but very busy specialist department at my firm. Both our jobs are slightly flexible, but less and […] Read the full article →
work is ruining one of my closest friendships by Alison Green on April 11, 2023 A reader writes: I started at my company five years ago, around the same time as another new hire, Jill. We were on different teams and our responsibilities didn’t overlap at all, but as two newbies around the same age and with similar interests, we quickly formed a bond. Over the years our friendship has […] Read the full article →
my dad has been applying to jobs pretending to be me by Alison Green on March 8, 2023 A reader writes: I’m a recent graduate who’s been job hunting for the past few months. I live with my parents and recently, I’ve discovered my father has been applying for jobs pretending to be me. On top of that, he’s gone out of his way to personally email CEO’s from various companies and design […] Read the full article →
my boss’s horrible kids are trying to destroy us because he disinherited them by Alison Green on February 6, 2023 A reader writes: I work for a small towing and salvage company as the manager and dispatcher in a very rural area. My duties range from high-stress emergency tow dispatching to legal notice writing and basic administrative duties, as well as selling auto parts and salvage, inventory, writing store policies and negotiating contracts with motor […] Read the full article →
my mom tells me to go to work sick, never take time off, and fear being fired every day by Alison Green on October 25, 2022 A reader writes: My mom once told me that what she does, and what I should do, is “go into work every single day convinced they are going to fire you if you make a mistake.” Also, a few years ago my mom had so much PTO accrued that HR told her that she legally […] Read the full article →
is it bad to be alone with coworkers of the opposite sex? by Alison Green on August 31, 2022 A reader writes: I work in an STEM industry that is probably 75% male and I’m the only woman in my company (seven full-time employees and one temp employee) . I graduated in spring 2021 and this is the first salaried job with benefits I’ve held since graduation (I’ve been at this company since last […] Read the full article →
my brothers’ wives are interfering in our family business by Alison Green on August 30, 2022 A reader writes: My two brothers and I inherited a small family business when our parents died. We have similar visions for the future, and we get along well (most of the time!). I am the manager of the corporation, and I am responsible for all the details. I pay the bills and keep track […] Read the full article →
dealing with domestic abuse in the workplace by Alison Green on July 11, 2022 This is a reprint of a post from 2012. Someone recently suggested reprinting it annually and I think it’s a good idea. In a post about what to do if an employee is being abused at home, commenter Marie left the following comment, which I thought was so powerful that I wanted to post it here […] Read the full article →
should I let my parents help me network? by Alison Green on May 26, 2022 It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: My question is about networking and family. My parents and I are in the same field, and I definitely was helped from the very beginning of my career by their experience and connections. Now that I’m finishing graduate school however, I feel that I want […] Read the full article →