updates

updates: the secret chat group, the friend who cancels, and more

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are four updates from past letter-writers. 1. My bosses and coworkers have a secret group chat where they trash-talk me My letter went live while I was […]

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updates: the nerves, the self-help cult, and more

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are four updates from past letter-writers. 1. I’m so nervous at work that it’s holding me back I’m coming up on a year at my new job […]

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update: can I fix how my boss treats people?

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Remember the letter-writer wondering how to fix the crappy way her boss treated others? Here’s the update. A few months after my letter was posted, I attended a […]

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update: I think my coworker is an alcoholic

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Remember the letter-writer whose coworker (Sterling) was an alcoholic, kept coming to work smelling like alcohol, whose work was becoming more unreliable, and whose manager (Cyril) hadn’t done […]

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updates: my boss doesn’t believe I’m quitting, we just hired the husband of the person we’re about to fire, and more

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are five updates from past letter-writers. 1. My husband’s boss accused me of calling my mother-in-law a bitch You were right, we ignored the rumors and they […]

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update: what do you do when your coworkers are afraid to address a problem as a group?

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Remember the letter-writer whose coworkers were afraid to speak up about problems because they feared retaliation? Here’s the update. I took your advice and the advice of the community […]

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update: how to say “I’ll quit over this”

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Remember the letter-writer asking about how to tell his employer “I’ll quit over this”? Here’s the update. To the commenters who asked, yes I left the letter intentionally […]

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updates: the matching tattoos, the embarrassing TV show, and more

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are four updates from past letter-writers. 1. My team got matching tattoos … and other lack of boundaries at my start-up I’m so happy to report that, […]

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