Here are three updates from past letter-writers. 1. Intern wants me to drive him to and from work Thank you for your support and insight. I’m so appreciative of your comments. Some items, to clarify: – I’m female; boss is female; husband is male; intern is male. – Boss made promises to the college consortium […]

Remember the letter-writer whose new coworker was their boss from before their gender transition? Here’s the update. Thanks again for running the letter. While I had to eventually nope out of the comments (I found the assumptions some commenters made that I was utterly panicking about the situation a little strange), I gained a lot […]

Here are three updates from past letter-writers. 1. The organization I volunteer with is exploding in drama and rage-quitting Thank you for publishing your thoughtful answer to my question – I have an update to share. After a week of hemorrhaging volunteers from the program and generally being taken to task by those who were […]

Remember the letter-writer asking how transparent to be with an employee about why they’re not promoting him? Here’s the update. Thanks for responding to my letter and thanks to readers for commenting. Yes, I am aware that it is ridiculous the nepotism policy isn’t better worded. Unfortunately changing that policy is not within my power […]

Here are four updates from past letter-writers. 1. Can I invite only women and LGBTQ+ coworkers to a private movie screening? I’m the letter writer who wrote to you about organizing a private screening of a movie. I ended up not inviting any colleagues. I’m relatively senior in our office, so I decided to avoid […]

Remember the letter-writer whose “hybrid” team was using him as their way to not go to the office at all? Here’s the update. Thank you for your input. The situation did have an interesting resolution: someone got fired over this but (maybe surprisingly) it wasn’t me. My boss was the only other member of my […]

Remember the letter-writer who worked in an office where a lunchtime “thought experiment” had caused a cold war? Here’s the update. Thank you for answering my question. I want to update you, because even though it was difficult, after reflection I did see your point about previous disinclination toward Carrie before the thought experiment conversation. […]

Remember the letter-writer who didn’t like her super popular coworker and the coworker complained to their boss about it? Here’s the update. About a year ago, I wrote in about a coworker (Susan) who complained to the boss because I didn’t like her. I tried being nice, but it was obvious she saw right through […]

Remember the letter-writer whose coworker sent a classist, racist email company-wide after a janitor won their Christmas contest? The first update is here, and here’s the latest. I’ll start with the good news: my spouse passed the bar and has a job. We started receiving Health Insurance through his job, so I started seriously looking […]

Here are three updates from past letter-writers. 1. We had to share our “shadow sides” and “be more vulnerable” at a meeting After the uncomfortable offsite activity where we were asked to be vulnerable and share our “shadow sides,” I did end up giving feedback to our management team. I framed it as wanting our […]