weekend open thread rules The rules for weekend open threads: • Unlike every other post on the site, the weekend posts are no work, no school. • Comments should ask questions and/or seek to discuss ideas. Recommendations or updates on things you received advice about in the past are also fine. But please, no venting without a desire for advice and no “here’s an update on my life” personal-blog-style posts. • Be kind. Don’t jump to a negative interpretation of someone’s comment or situation; instead, assume good faith and good will on the part of others, including people whose opinions differ from your own. • Don’t nitpick people’s spelling, grammar, or word choices. • Share the airtime. Start a conversation or two! Join other conversations when you have something to add. But if you are posting five times as much as everyone else, you’re hijacking the space. Just like you (hopefully) wouldn’t monopolize the conversation at a dinner party, don’t hog the space here either. • The weekend open threads are for relatively light discussion and aren’t equipped to handle serious mental health concerns. If you need immediate mental health support in the U.S., please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, where you can reach a trained crisis worker 24/7: 1-800-273-8255. • Know that I do not read and approve every single comment. The volume is far too high. So if you see a comment that seems problematic, please don’t do this: “I can’t believe this comment is allowed! Why has Alison approved this?!” Instead, assume I haven’t seen it and feel free to flag it and I’ll take a look (if you include a link in your comment, it’ll go to moderation so I’ll see it). Comments that don’t follow these rules may be removed without warning.