my coworker keeps saying men only ask me for help because I’m hot by Alison Green on October 20, 2021 A reader writes: I work in hospitality, at a front desk where I spend all day interacting with guests. I am usually accompanied by one other coworker. I am a woman in my 20s; most of my coworkers are considerably older, but I have one coworker who is also in her 20s, “Amanda.” Every time […] Read the full article →
how do I talk to my anti-vaccine coworker? by Alison Green on October 19, 2021 A reader writes: I would love some advice on working with people who do not want to get a COVID vaccine. It seems so obvious to me that vaccination is the only way out of this dark age, and I’m really losing patience with one of my teammates who refuses to get the shot. Before […] Read the full article →
the boss who fired me got hired at my new job — and she’s joking about how bad my work was by Alison Green on October 13, 2021 A reader writes: About seven years ago, I worked for Company A. I met a lot of nice folks, and there is a lot of good to be said for the company. But the actual job function I was paid to do I hated, and it was in an industry I came to have a […] Read the full article →
my coworker complains all day long by Alison Green on October 5, 2021 A reader writes: I work in IT at a mid-sized company and my coworker, who I share an office with, does a lot of complaining. IT was understaffed at this company for a long time, and we have a huge backlog of projects, poor management, and little support from leadership. I’ve been here for nearly […] Read the full article →
my coworker keeps whispering sexually explicit things in the office bathroom by Alison Green on September 28, 2021 A reader writes: This happened to me a couple years ago now, but I still occasionally think back on it (and cringe) and still don’t really know what I should have done! I know I didn’t handle it well, or really at all, when it happened. This was my first real job after college and […] Read the full article →
a coworker prayed for my fiancé’s death so we didn’t invite her to our wedding … and now there is drama by Alison Green on September 28, 2021 A reader writes: My fiancé, “Ted,” has worked for 10 years on a small, very close-knit team, all of whom seem to get along exceptionally well. All the team members and spouses/partners socialize outside of work together as well, and we consider them all to be close friends. We thought they felt the same. A […] Read the full article →
my coworker won’t volunteer for any of our work by Alison Green on August 31, 2021 A reader writes: I work on a team of three – Fergus, me, and our manager, Lucinda. Fergus and I both have the same role. I have been with the company for about six years, and Fergus joined just before Covid hit and we all switched to working from home. We both mostly work on […] Read the full article →
my coworker cried and called me militant by Alison Green on August 26, 2021 A reader writes: I was wondering about your opinion on a strange situation I was in a few years ago that I don’t know how I should’ve handled. I had a coworker, Jane, who had just turned 50. I was in my mid 20’s and in my first professional setting in my chosen field. Jane […] Read the full article →
our new entry-level coworker thinks he’s our boss by Alison Green on August 18, 2021 A reader writes: We’ve recently added someone to our team who is a project manager. At my workplace, this is an entry-level position, usually filled by people just out of college. They manage the projects, setting deadlines and sharing client feedback. It’s not an unimportant position by any means, but it is sort of at […] Read the full article →
my awful former boss works at the new job I’m about to start by Alison Green on August 16, 2021 A reader writes: With your advice, I recently landed a new job in a pandemic-affected industry after a year of doing a bridge job after my old job was eliminated during the pandemic. My first job after grad school six and a half years ago was for an incredibly toxic unit of the largest, most-respected […] Read the full article →