advice about your coworkers

I don’t want to fist-bump my coworker multiple times a day

A reader writes: This seems so petty and insignificant in the grand scheme of things but it’s bugging me and I’m not sure how to handle it. Fergus is my peer and we have the same title and work in the same department. Broadly speaking, we’re supervisors in customer service. Part of our job involves […]

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my coworker writes a mean blog about me

A reader writes: I have a work colleague we’ll call J. We I sit next to each other and have been friendly the entire time we worked together. She has told me about things in her personal life and I’ve shared the same type of stuff with her. A couple days ago, J showed me […]

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my coworker is always dieting — do we have to accommodate her?

A reader writes: I have seen you suggest responses for accommodating coworkers with dietary restrictions due to health or religious needs, but what about coworkers who CHOOSE to go on diets? I have a coworker that has been willingly doing the Keto diet for the last year, and she still is insufferable about it. Anytime […]

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I joked about a coworker’s slowness — and he overheard

A reader writes: I am the first-level manager of a small group of about half a dozen people. I sometimes work with non-management-level staff outside my group, one of whom is an exceedingly capable, but highly idiosyncratic, person, “Karl.” He is very focused on any work that he does, and will go far above and […]

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my coworkers love talking about murder

A reader writes: I have a weird problem and I don’t know what to do. A group of my coworkers loves discussing murder. Like, they love it. True crime is their favorite form of entertainment. They spend long periods talking about the gruesome details of their “favorite” crimes. (Yes, they have referred to certain rapes, […]

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should I report coworkers for mean tweets about an intern if someone could get caught in the crossfire?

A reader writes: My workplace currently has an internship program in place. One of the universities that sends interns is a religious school — it has strict worthiness guidelines, tells students to report their fellow students who might be breaking rules, etc. Having attended it myself, I can understand how that atmosphere might set one […]

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our HR director might be a pathological liar

A reader writes: I’d really appreciate your advice and guidance with a big secret I’ve had to keep at work. I’m an assistant-level employee in a small, California-based publishing company. We have about 30 employees and our HR director, “Jane,” does double duty as the HR and finance director. As such, she manages all personnel […]

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