my coworker had an affair with my wife by Alison Green on March 10, 2020 A reader writes: A few months ago, I found out my wife was having an affair with one of my teammates. I reported the incident to my boss, who then reported it to their boss. I was allowed to work from home for a week following the reporting to allow time for the teammate to […] Read the full article →
my coworkers won’t stop telling me about their ideas for my work by Alison Green on March 9, 2020 A reader writes: I’m a teen librarian. I work directly with kids in grades 6 through 12. This lends towards a fascination with my job. It’s sort of specialized, as far as library services go, as teens are a bit odd. My coworkers keep having ideas of how I can interact with the teens who […] Read the full article →
I’m sick of being the office therapist by Alison Green on March 5, 2020 A reader writes: I have brought a burden upon myself, and I know it’s completely my own doing. I’ve been in my current role for a year and a half. In that time, I’ve become the de facto compassionate listener and person who coworkers turn to when they want to confide in someone. Everyone comes […] Read the full article →
my coworker is blackmailing me not to take time off for my honeymoon by Alison Green on March 2, 2020 A reader writes: I work in an office where I’m the only person who can do 75% of my job, but there’s a second person who can do essential functions. We have a policy that only one of the two of us is allowed to request advance time off at a given time (so one […] Read the full article →
when is it OK to approach a colleague about a possible medical issue? by Alison Green on February 27, 2020 It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: I have a coworker — let’s call him Joe — who recently moved to our office from another office (same company) hundreds of miles away. He’s still very new to our city and doesn’t have a network outside of work. A few weeks ago, I […] Read the full article →
my coworker lied about having a terminal illness — and we donated money to her by Alison Green on February 24, 2020 A reader writes: A few years back, I had a coworker, “Jane,” who told everyone she was suffering from a terminal illness. She missed a lot of work, but HR and the managers were really kind to her in making sure they accommodated her needs (she was getting treatments and also experienced pain/fatigue from her […] Read the full article →
I had a secret relationship with a coworker and now I’m pregnant by Alison Green on February 18, 2020 A reader writes: A colleague and I have been in a secret relationship for a couple of months. We work in the same team. He is not my manager but is slightly senior to me in terms of the work we do. He doesn’t have influence over my work, but we do occasionally have to […] Read the full article →
my coworker makes mistakes that affect my work by Alison Green on February 17, 2020 A reader writes: I have a colleague who I depend on for data for a recurring project. Every time the update is due, I schedule check-in meetings weeks in advance and make it explicitly clear that I need X by [date] and Y by [date]. And every. single. time. my colleague slips the deadline, running […] Read the full article →
everyone at work is hanging out without me by Alison Green on February 12, 2020 Here is the second post in the collaboration I did with Jennifer Peepas from CaptainAwkward. Part one is here. 1. Everyone in the office is hanging out without me and it feels like high school I work in a very clique-y office where I am just not in the main clique. I have a coworker […] Read the full article →
can I talk about my boyfriend’s other girlfriend at work? by Alison Green on February 10, 2020 I met up with the wonderful Jennifer Peepas of Captain Awkward while she was in town and it was lovely! We decided to collaborate on answering a few questions together and crosspost them to both sites, and this is the first of two posts from that joint effort. 1. Can I talk about my boyfriend’s […] Read the full article →